Shit We Don't Tell Mom

Kristy and Angie discuss the pervasive anti-black racism in society and in the Asian-diaspora community. We throw away our original episode 4 plans to talk about and sit with a heavy subject that brings us a lot of discomfort.

Highlights: 

• Outdated stereotypes about the black community and in our own community 
• Reading lyrics from Akala, a British rapper, journalist, author, activist and poet 
• Going to Vancouver's downtown eastside to retrieve a phone 

Takeaway: 

• Violence is not the root of racism, it's a symptom of a system that needs to change 
• We may not eradicate racism in our lifetime but we can accept that we are all racist and confront our own implicit biases as a step in the right direction 
• Talk through your discomfort around difficult subjects with friends and family members to grow together 

Resources: 

• What I Said When My White Friend Asked for My Black Opinion on White Privilege (Article)
• Letters For Black Lives (Website)

Let Kristy & Angie what cringy and uncomfortable conversation topics you would like to listen to! 

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Angie shares a traumatic event that happened to her shortly after beginning her new life in Canada with her parents. We discuss how the coping mechanisms we develop as children to repress trauma can develop into toxic behaviours later in life. Content warning: suicide.

Highlights: 

• Reliance on alcohol to numb emotional pain
• Kristy can do math 
• When young Angie decided to walk into traffic 
• The loneliness of emigrating to a new country

Takeaway: 

• Try more than one counsellor or therapist  
• Our learned behaviours from a young age can turn problematic in adulthood, and  therapists can help us understand and manage these behaviours 
• Allow self-compassion and allow yourself to grieve the loss of a former life or routine 

Let Kristy & Angie what cringy and uncomfortable conversation topics you would like to listen to! 

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Kristy shares the detailed story of when she was institutionalized and put in the psych ward in a Children's Hospital at age 12. We explore how well-meaning adults can significantly change the course of someone's childhood and how the approach to mental health care has changed since 2002. Content warning: violence.

Highlights: 

• Defining "Emotional Baggage"  
• Being bullied and being the bully  
• Acting out from childhood emotional neglect  

Takeaway: 

• Everyone has a vulnerable story 
• Making assumptions serves no one. You never know what is beyond the surface level 
• Talking out loud about your traumatic experiences helps you process it for yourself 

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In this episode, we get to know Kristy and Angie on a personal level about who they are and why they decided to share their personal stories with the internet. We touch briefly on what it was like growing up in East Vancouver, their favourite memory of each other, and their experiences so far in their own mental health journey.

Highlights: 

• Monkey prostitution (you read that right)  
• What makes Kristy & Angie cringe 
• When Kristy gave herself an English name 
• How to sit 
• Parenting your parents 
• What does it mean to be selfish 

Takeaways: 

• Talking about uncomfortable shit gives us permission to untaboo it 
• Costumes: shit you don't want to talk about internally but pretend it's okay externally 

Resources:
(There may be affiliate links. We may make a small commission at no cost to you) 

• How to Sit by Thich Nhat Hanh (Book)
• The Hidden Powering of F***ing Up by The Try Guys (Book)

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