Today's guest is Kait Warman, and she's the author of the book "Thank You for Rejecting Me.” Rejection is one of the hardest things we deal with when dating. In fact, 99.9 percent of us feel defined by our rejections. Kait's journey with setbacks and heartbreak wasn't wasted; it’s made her who she is today. Kait's experiences inspired her to write a book to help women navigate the painful throes of rejection. Kait believes rejection can hurt us - but doesn't need to derail us, destroy our self-esteem, or impact our feelings about ourselves. Kait is willing to go there and talk about how she's been rejected in many painful ways but encourages us and proves that rejection can build our strength. It can also clarify our life purpose so we can call in a more secure love for ourselves. Kait discusses how you can easily be freed from rejection and realize it is part of life, but it doesn’t have to run or affect our future. 

Kait Warman is an author, inspirational speaker, relationship coach, online educator, and host of The Heart of Dating podcast. Kait's mission is to empower others to have the courage to own their story, walk-in victory, discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. Kait is passionate about relationships and has hope that the dating scene can be transformed because let's face it, the struggle is real. She has an extensive dating background, has actively worked to seek hope, growth and a deeper sense of self love. She loves walking along side those on the same journey while showing others that dating can be amazing!

Kerry Brett and Kait Warman cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How Kait realized there wasn’t a lot of information around dating in the Christian culture, so four years ago, she started her podcast The Heart of Dating.
How derailing it can be to hand your power over to someone else.
How to take back your power at your lowest moment.
You have a choice in your pain and suffering and can take control of your healing.
Rejection is protection and redirection plus an opportunity to focus on your self-worth.
Rejection is an opportunity to pivot.
Why you should grab a notebook and write down the truths about you so you don’t believe the lies that someone else tells you about yourself.
Why the right relationship will humble you and make you want to do better, the wrong relationship will have you constantly questioning yourself, feeling anxious, and walking on eggshells.
Why one of the most attractive things is when someone is sure they want to be with you!
Why you should be with someone who is interested in being with you without you trying to convince them to be.
Rejections can keep us small and scared, or they can become things we grow through, learn from, and one day claim as a victory.

To find out more about Kait Warman go to www.heartofdating.com or follow on Instagram @kaitness or @heartofdating.

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Today, we have the MOST special guest—this woman is my HERO, and her books changed my life. Her name is Natalie Lue; she's a podcaster, speaker, artist, and writer of well-known books such as Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, a book that means so much to me I can basically recite it. Like so many women, Natalie had a litany of problems that included bad boundaries, toxic relationships, and a penchant for emotionally unavailable men. Until everything changed in 2005, when a crippling disease and the breakup from a barely-there guy triggered an awakening, igniting the desire to fight back. She wrote down her experiences and documented her journey, which led to self-publishing five best-selling books and creating Baggage Reclaim, including online courses, over 16,000 blog entries, and a podcast that has helped millions of women become "reclaimers" in over 140 countries. Through it all, her mission remains the same: if she can help even one person avoid what she went through and support others who have struggled with abandonment, rejection, trauma, people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feeling "not good enough," she's making the world a better place.
 
Natalie Lue is a thought leader in relationships. Her no-nonsense, compassionate, and humorous take has garnered a following in over 140 countries, and she's been featured in The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC, to name a few. She's the author of Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The No Contact Rule, The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship and Love, Care, Trust & Respect, which has sold 140K+ copies, and her podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, has over 2 million downloads. Harper Horizon is publishing her next book, The Joy of Saying No, in October 2022. Aside from her self-help blog, Baggage Reclaim, she is also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog Bambino Goodies. She's based in London with her husband, two daughters, and crazy cockerpoo. She left advertising to become a full-time blogger for the past 13.5 years. She's the former relationship columnist for In The Moment Magazine and has spoken worldwide at numerous conferences. Her current work centers around people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity. 

Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue cover a lot of ground. In my opinion, Natalie is a brilliant writer who channeled this epic book and had the unique and perfect skill set to put it all together. If you struggle to date or think something is wrong with you, unworthy or not good enough, this episode will be a game-changer. Topics include:

Why Natalie has a knack for calling a spade a spade, tune into why she's always 100 percent right when it comes to problems within relationships.
You're not crazy or losing your mind, why it's crazy-making dealing with a "Mr. Unavailable".
Why Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the the gift that keeps on giving.
Why Natalie's books speak to the collective pain women, go through.
Why women are socialized and conditioned to get the short end of the stick when it comes to toxic relationships.
Why this is not the "Last Chance Saloon" and why we should never settle!
What a relationship looks like with a "Mr. Unavailable", spoiler alert it's not pretty and never ends well. EVER!
Why "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" was survival for me because society doesn't talk about these things or these types of men who cause all this distribution, havoc, and pain.
The definition of "Future Faking" – when someone fakes a future to get what they want in the present.
What "Fast Forwarding" is and why things start intense and moments later end up in smokes.
Why "Mr. Unavailable's" use "blowing hot or cold" to manage down expectations and control the narrative.

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Today’s guest is Lori Mendelsohn; she’s a matchmaker, dating coach, and owner of Smart, Funny Singe, a service that helps divorced, widowed, and singles in their pursuit of finding love. What’s unique about this Milwaukee matchmaker is that Lori uses her intuition to vet possible prospects and is an expert at writing the perfect Bio that helps you get noticed and stand out above the rest. She carefully curates and crafts together words that read so perfectly that the other person can imagine themselves in a relationship with you and believes he’s the person you’re writing about. In this week’s episode, Lori discusses the importance of first impressions and why you should pay attention to body language. She also explains how she creates an exclusive story where the man of your dreams can imagine sharing their life with you.

In 2016, Lori Mendelsohn’s life changed when her husband broke the kitchen sink with his bare hands. Never in her life did she imagine that she would find herself navigating out of an unhealthy relationship or her marriage ending at the age of 61. This day became a turning point in her life, and from that moment on, she decided to walk the path of healing not only her broken heart while helping others who were going through a similar situation.  Lori also realized she could use her intuitive and empathic to help others. Going through a divorce, then entering the dating arena, she understood that being “out of the market” for 13 years, things had changed and changed in a big way. Now Lori coaches others in their mid-life to find themselves first, and in turn, find a partner of substance based on today’s needs and wants. She can help you write a dating profile that stops suitors in their tracks and on the road to finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Lori Mendelsohn cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How she learned to date in her 60’’s, and how she learned to avoid scammers, and players. Why pain and experience are the most excellent teacher.
You should write your Bio as if you are writing a story while explaining this is who I am, this is what I love doing, and I’d love to see you being a part of that because men want to be included.
Why you should add humor into the Bio.
The do’s and don’ts of what to put in a Bio.
Why the leading photograph is so important and why it needs to be a killer shot.
Why you should lead with something that is unique or special about you when writing your Bio.
Why Lori encourages you to open your radius to a nationwide search. If you are interested in relocating for a job, then finding love shouldn’t be any different.
Why you should have a phone conversation or virtual chat before going on a date because it could save you a lot of time and the emotional investment.
Why you shouldn’t be focused on the outcome when dating and go into it without any expectations.
People often hide who they are and put on this fake persona. The secret to dating is being authentic and showing up as your authentic self, not your representative.
Why you need to drop the end game and don’t be attached to outcomes. Not every relationship is supposed to work. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not supposed to. Brush it off and say to yourself. NEXT!

To find out more about Lori Mendelsohn, go to her website www.SmartFunnySingle.com, on Instagram @smartfunnysingle or follow and ring Lori’s bell on Clubhouse, she’s located under her name Lori Mendelsohn. Follow her clubs, The Single Connection and Single Over 50.

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Today's guest is Carla Romo, and she's the author of the book Contagious Love, Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good, A book for women going through heartbreak. Carla is a firm believer in, failing to succeed, and in this episode, Carla shares how she held herself back from living her best life and was afraid of healthy relationships. How over and over she picked the wrong guys, then things would become toxic, yet she missed the lesson. Until one day, it all changed, and she realized she was exactly where she was supposed to be. We'll discuss why self-love is the foundation of successful relationships and how to ditch codependency, feeling bad about yourself while believing and investing in yourself. 

Carla Romo is an author and certified dating & relationship coach. She's the co-host of the podcast The Love Fix with Sherry Gaba. Carla is a nationwide speaker and leads workshops that inspire self-love regardless of your relationship status. Carla has been featured on BRAVO, also in Cosmopolitan, Lifetime, and the Knot. Melissa Hobley, the Global CMO at Ok Cupid, sings her praise and said her book Contagious Love, is relatable, inspiring, and the perfect guide to self-love and self-worth. 

Kerry Brett and Carlo Romo cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

What's the definition of a codependent relationship?
How do you know if you are codependent? What are the signs?
How to build successful intimate relationships?
How to communicate like a boss?
How to spot the red flags in relationships?
How to create relationship boundaries?
How to cultivate contagious self-love?
Carla’s advice for women who are afraid to leave a relationship that’s not working for them.
How to recognize your self-worth.
How to stop using the past to predict your future.
How to quit second-guessing your gut, your gut is your inner knowing in guide.
Carla’s golden rule for cultivating self-love.
Why boundaries will keep you afloat when you're not getting what you want in a relationship?
How to find the courage to be a confident warrior.
Carla’s advice for avoiding making mistakes online.

To find out more about Carla Romo, you can follow on Instagram @iamcarlaromo, or go to her website at www.iamcarlaromo.com. You can purchase her book Contagious Love on her website or on Amazon.

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Today's guest is Erin Washington, she's Lifestyle blogger, podcaster, and the author of the book Squats and Margaritas, a journey to finding balance - where she shares her story of how she overcame an eating disorder, and after struggling for two decades, two kids later, play dates, and happy hours she finally has the best body of her life. Erin's mission is to offer tips and support for women who feel alone in their struggle, working out, and not seeing results. 90 percent of women aren't happy with the way they look, and having negative feelings about your weight is one of the main reasons people hold themselves back from dating. Erin, shares her advice around getting in shape and feeling good about yourself so you can take the dating world by storm with confidence. 

Erin Washington is a wellness blogger from Northern Virginia. She's a former college athlete who struggled with weight and body image for 20 years. Erin promotes a balanced lifestyle of "Squats and Margaritas" and offers tips and motivation to women who are doing the work and are frustrated by the results.

She was a high school stand-out and went on to play at the collegiate level. After graduating from college, she moved to Washington, DC to work for the Washington Redskins where she met her husband, a former linebacker. In addition to raising a family and staying fit, Erin has contributed to Scary Mommy, Chowhound, and Northern Virginia Style and Living. 

Kerry Brett and Erin Washington cover a lot of ground. Topics they discuss include:

Body image, and worthiness.
How the loss of identity lead to an eating disorder.
How working out compulsively seven days a week didn't work.
Lifting weights, not cardio, is the secret to maintaining the weight you desire.
Why you should get off the cardio machines and lift. 
Weight and dating. 
Why not feeling good about your weight is one of the biggest blocks in online dating.
Advice for the person who thinks they need to lose weight to find love.
Why you don't need to be in the best shape of your life to date.
Advice for someone who's lost confidence in themselves.
Why getting in shape can make you feel better about yourself and motivated to join online dating. 
Erin's tips around fitness.
Erin's advice around finding balance.
If you feel good about yourself, it will shine through. If you don't feel that great about yourself, fake it and know what's inside matters the most. 
When you are dating, pick an outfit that you feel good in flattering and feels most like you. 
Weight affects how we feel about ourselves and if someone thinks we are attractive and wants to date us. 
Don't talk about your weight on a date. It may be a big deal to you but not at all to your date. It's not about fitting into your skinny jeans. It's about finding a person who's a good fit. 

To find out more about Erin Washington, you can go to www.squatsandmargaritas.com, follow on Instagram @squatsandmargaritas, order her book Squats and Margaritas on Amazon or listen to her podcast Squats and Margaritas on all platforms podcasts are found.

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Today's guest is astrologer and psychic healer Jill Jardine, and she'll discuss why love is in the air because Cuffing Season is about to take full effect. Say goodbye to casual summer flings because people are looking to get locked down. From September to March, singles hunt for a romantic partner, looking for someone to weather the colder months. The fall season is an incredible time to take things to the next level. Cuffing Season is a time when singles are more inclined to settle down intoa serious relationship. Just because the temperature turns doesn’t mean things can't heat up. Jill lets us know what in our love forecast for the Fall of 2021. 

Jill Jardine is an astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a former radio personality on95.9 WATD and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. She's a Reverend in Sanskrit Mantra, and chanting mantras shifts outcomes and proves to be an invaluable tool. For over 30 years, Jill’s helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves wile guiding them with important decisions. It’s no secret that people turn to Astrology in the age of uncertainty and often people look to the stars, as cosmic compass when dating. In today's episode, Jill will bring us up to speed so we can get a clear picture of what will be happening astrologically this fall.

Labor Day is behind us, and it’s that time of year Cuffing Season: for those of you who don’t know what Cuffing Season means? Cuffing Season is a term used to describe the desire to be tied or cuffed during the colder months. 

Cuffing Season is psychological, biological, and scientific. It goes back to the cavemen days and Darwin's theory of survival of the fittest. Data shows that more babies are born in the summer months, meaning those babies were conceived during the colder months. When the darker days settle in, people are more inclined to binge-watch Netflix and stay home, which means the time to get out there is fall for sure. 

Match’s CEO recently stated on CNBC that this fall would be the biggest "cuffing season" in history due toCOVIDlockdowns and vaccines. Match expects online dating to explode, so now is the time to refresh, rebrand yourselfonline and get back out there.

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Today’s guest is Sherry Gaba, and she’s the author of the book “Love Smacked How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love.” Sherry is also a Psychotherapist, Counselor and Life Coach. She was the go-to expert on a series of VH1 show’s such as VH1 Celebrity Rehab, Sober House as well as Celebrity Rehab and Sex Addiction. Sherry shares her experience around relationship addicts and why people who are hopelessly romantic and love being in a relationship continually move from one relationship to another always on the rebound never giving themselves time to heal or learn how to be independent. You’ll learnhow to steer clear of bad relationship choices,how to break unhealthy relationships patterns while living fabulously on your own or with a partner. 

Sherry Gaba helps people cope with codependency, love addiction, toxic relationships, and mental health issues. As a leading expert on addiction and recovery, Sherry’s TV appearances include:  CNN, Inside Edition, the Robert Irvine Show, Access Live, E! News, among others. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s World, the LA Times, the New York Post, and Psychology Today to name a few. She has also been a guest on many SiriusXM radio shows and now hosts her own podcast, The Love Fix. Sherry is also the contributing writer to the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Tough Times Tough People.

Kerry Brett and Sherry Gaba cover a lot of ground, topics include:
Why it’s important to dismantle and unpack the shame around failed relationships.
What empty void in your life causes you to jump from one relationship to another and how to fix those unhealthy patterns.
Why do co-dependent love addicts match up with narcissists?
Why it’s so important to be discerning.
Why the universe always brings you what you need to know.
Why having self-esteem is so important and helps you navigate out of unhealthy relationships faster. When you have self-esteem, you don’t put up with unhealthy situations.
Why do love addicts feel so alone and nothingness. If you’re alone and lonely how to address those feelings. You have you; get connected to you first.
The power in being present, people spend most of their time complaining or worrying which doesn't serve you.

To find out more about Sherry Gaba you can follow her on Instagram @codependantlycurious, or listen to her podcast The Love Fix where all podcasts are found. Free Ebook Narcissistic Partners and Love Addiction  https://relationship-quizzes.com/narcissistic-partners-quiz/

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Today's guest is Kevin McLemore, and he's a podcast host, fitness trainer, and the author of the new book Dating with a Full Deck. In this week's episode, Kevin shares his relationship experience, lessons he's learned through marriage, divorce, and dating, and why you need to be honest with yourself before bringing others into your life. Kevin will discuss why we need to take responsibility for our actions because we have choices and chances in life. It's what you make of those opportunities that matter. We talk about how dreams become realities when you align perfectly behind them, how to become the hero of your journey to love and why you need to come into dating with a full deck. 

Kevin McLemore is a strength and endurance is coach, track and field coach, marketing specialist, trainer to Ironman athletes, and three Squash World Champions. He's also a television spokesperson. Through the power of story, Kevin is an inspirational speaker encouraging others to reach personal growth. He wants to help continue to improve other people's lives, like his mentor, the famed motivational speaker Les Brown. He's a social activist, Founder of RMK Productions 10 United Podcast Network, co-hosting podcasts such as Talking "Wit" Kevin and Son, Story Time and Wine, and One Queen Two Kings. He's previously published three books, Letters to Elvis, Sprinkles the True Spirit of Christmas and The Indispensable Game of X's and O's, How I learned Everything I'd Ever Need To Know About by Playing High School Football.

Today Shot@Love dive's into Dating with a Full Deck, a book that provides a tangible set of tools, that if applied to your interactions, will lead to the kind of conversations that will allow you to figure out if someone is compatible or not. This book also comes with a deck of cards that act as a conversation started that will leave you laughing and learning an awful lot about the other person setting you up for success when dating. 

Kerry Brett and Kevin McLemore cover a lot of ground topics include:

We have choices and chances in life, and it's what we do with those opportunities matters.
When dating, approach conversations authentically and genuinely.
Why do most people screw up on the first date?
Don't complicate your life by trying to be someone that you're not.
Why it's so important just to be yourself when dating.
Don't go looking for a person that will become your loan officer, bodyguard, babysitter, trophy, chef, or maid. If that's your aim, you'll only be left feeling empty in the end.
Develop what's inside, develop your character, and everything will fall into place.
Life gives you two choices, stay down or get up.
Be honest with yourself before you bring someone else into your life. The truth will set you free.
Do not wish for what you're not willing to work for.

To find out more about Kevin McLemore, go to www.rmkproductions.net. Follow Kevin McLemore on Clubhouse, Instagram @pkmclemore. Listen to his podcasts Talking Wit Kevin and Son, Story and Wine, and One Queen Two Kings.

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Today's guest is Bri Ellison, and she's the author of the book The Love Addict. Love addiction and heartbreak profoundly changed Bri's life when the future she envisioned for herself got destroyed when the love of her life blindsided her and abruptly left. Bri's idea of love continued to get derailed after many failed relationships. The thought of finding love consumed every moment, which eventually caused a pattern of addiction. Bri felt compelled to share her truth by writing about love addiction and how to overcome it. In this episode, Bri shares her story about finding love, kicking behaviors of heartbreak, ending the cycle of failed relationships, and how to find the love that's intended for you. 

Bri Ellison's book The Love Addict is an introspective handbook designed to help women identify and find the love they desire and deserve. If you're someone who creates or ends complicated relationships that have left you feeling like a different person, This book is for you! Bri's story reveals how she became tired of her life, knowing that had to change. She could continue attracting everything that wasn't good for her, or she could scratch everything she knew about herself and love. Bri pressed the reset button on her ideologies around love. Bri shares how she kicked her love addiction and lost her destructive behaviors around love and relationships while gaining transformational tools that dramatically changed her life, leading her to find love and helping women all over the world.

Kerry Brett and Bri Ellison cover a lot of ground topics include:
What can be learned about love from hitting rock bottom?
What exactly is a love addict? 
How does someone become a love addict, and how to unlearn these patterns?
Losing your sense of identity within a relationship.
What does counterfeit love look like?
Why do love addicts go on a journey to find true love, believing it's the only thing to cure her despair. 
Advice for people who are pulling in the wrong person.
Solutions for heal your patterns around relationships.
Common mistakes women make pulling in unavailable men.
Why should you get comfortable with the uncomfortable or the unfamiliar when dating?
Why, once you stopped chasing love that you can find it.

The Love Addict can be purchased on Amazon, and to find out more information about Bri Ellison, you can follow on Instagram @the_love_labb or follow on Clubhouse at Bri Ellison.

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Today's guest is Dolores Gatnik. Dolores is truly an inspiration who has the right idea about dating and living life to the fullest! Dolores had a career for 23 years, but her legacy is her family. She's the mother of 4 children and the grandmother of 4. Dolores met Ron Gatnik when she was 19 years old, and they wed two years later. They remained happily married for 55 years until he passed away. While grieving the loss of her husband, she's adjusted to living alone during a pandemic and is currently battling cancer. Dolores's motto is life is short, and you must live every moment. She's dating on Match.Com but isn't looking to replace the love of her life, simply looking to find a fun companion, and is open to the next chapter of happiness. Her attitude is everything and proof that life comes full circle. I went to my high school prom with her son 30 years ago and recently photographed her headshot for her online dating profile. When we come back, we'll laugh our way through her hilarious and hopeful journey of finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Dolores Gatnik cover a lot of ground. Topics include: 
Why does being a perennial optimist works in your favor?
Dating with the right attitude is the key to success.
The importance of reframing rejection.
Don't be afraid to let your personality shine.
If you have a big personality, people can handle it or not, and if they can't, they aren't your person.
One and done dates.
Why you should suggest fun and out of the box dates.
Why you should always be fun and fabulous!
Why is age just a number?
Dolores Gatnik’s advice is for someone who feels they missed the boat or are too old to find love?
Why you need to have a strong bio.
The importance of hiring a professional for your leading photograph.
The two things you are in total control of in. your life, your attitude, and your effort.
Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Why no one ever made a difference by being like everyone else.
You'll never be too much for someone who can't get enough of you.

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