Keisha Stubbs is an author, training coach, motivational speaker, and founder of the non-profit Tied Together, geared toward uplifting and providing basic needs for children and public speaking to inspire adults. Keisha teaches others that their miseries are building blocks for their greatness. Keisha took a lifestyle she couldn't afford for herself and her son to one she never imagined. Her life's purpose is to help people who have been dealt a bad hand and can't find their way out of a terrible situation. Keisha has been there. She's lost everything, Twice! She figured out how to use what she had available and increased her income by more than five times! She learned the hard way, so you don't have to. 

In this episode, Keisha teaches us how to leave our struggles behind. She inspires us to win daily, outwork our competition, and how we can be better than yesterday. 

Kerry Brett and Keisha Stubbs cover a lot of ground and talk about how dating and sales are similar. Topics include:

Why you should stay away from black-out circles and negative talk about dating.
Why you need to be upbeat and positive when you're online dating.
How your energy and attitude magnifies.
People can feel your energy when they swipe on you and text you.
People buy from who they like and date who they like.
People want to align with positive winners.
Do not make assumptions, and failure lies in making fixed opinions.
Type of car Men drive doesn't indicate their finances.
Lose stereotypes.
Why men are more complicated than we think.
Why, if you think you can or you think you can't, your right.
If you believe it, you can achieve it.
Why your online success is dependent on your attitude.

To find out more about Keisha Stubbs, you can visit her website www.keishavstubbs.com or follow on Facebook Keisha Stubbs or Instagram @keishavstubbs. You can purchase her book Close or be Closed on her website or Amazon.

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Today's guest is Yeukai Kajidori. He's a renowned podcaster and host of the Yeukai Business Show, which ranks in the top 3 percent of the most popular podcast shows globally. He's a podcasting mentor, CEO, outsourcing expert, and business growth, strategist. He's super successful and passionate about helping others. Like most high-performing entrepreneurs, their schedule leaves little time for dating. But this week, Yeukai will share how he's decided to change that! Oh yeah! He's taken the plunge full-on into the world of online dating. Yeukai discusses the importance of being yourself, text banter by audio, and Virtual Speed Dating.

Yeukai Kajidori is a podcast enthusiast who helps others create a profitable podcast super-fast and use your podcast as a tool to raise your credibility, visibility, and profitability. The Yeukai Business Show is rated #3 on UK iTunes in the business category section. He helps people get their message out there to do business on their terms. He's even interviewed over 300 successful business owners while building an Outsourcing Company. Yeukai, is also one of the moderators for Club Pod, the second largest club for podcasting in Clubhouse. 
He's fueled by faith, family, and the possibility of living life to the max.

Kerry Brett and Yeukai Kajidori, cover a lot of ground from Clubhouse to Dating. Apps. Topics include:
Is Clubhouse the new Tinder?
How Clubhouse like dating apps are growing  fast.
How new users are finding romantic connections on Clubhouse.
How people have connected on social media apps and Clubhouse is no different.
Rooms on Clubhouse dedicated to dating, love, and relationships.
Popular Clubhouse rooms such as Dating after the Pandemic and Shoot Your Shot.
How Matchmakers are using Clubhouse to share their expertise and promote their brands while building a community.
Frequent apps that create connections. You will succeed on those apps because people are desperate for connection.
Look for the circumstances that you want and if you can't find it? Make it!
Raise your hand, join a new dating site, put yourself out there; what do you have to lose?
Success is achieved and maintained by those who try and keep trying. 
If it's important to you, you will find a way, or you'll find an excuse.
How to improve your dating skills through Virtual Speed Dating.

To find out more about Yeukai Kajidori, you can follow on Instagram @yeukaik or visit his website's www.yeukaikajidori.com and www.yeukaimastermindcenter.

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Today's special guest is Vanessa Reiser. She's a survivor of narcissistic domestic abuse; she's also an ultramarathoner, life coach, clinical social worker, and therapist. In a little over a week, she will set out to run 285 miles across the entire state of New York in a wedding dress to raise awareness for domestic abuse. She plans to raise $200,000 for abuse centers in each of the counties she runs through. This force of nature will begin in Osweego, NY, on May 17th, and she'll complete the run on May 29th. The distance is the equivalent of running 11 marathons, which is basically running a marathon a day. Vanessa healed her past by running, and she'll carry all of the stories of the people she's healed, helped, and inspired across the finish line. Talk about filling BIG sneakers! Please support this superwoman by sharing her story or donating to her mission. You can donate at tellatherapist.org.

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Today’s guest is Gabi Conti, she’s an author, dating expert, writer, and comedian. Her book “Twenty Guys you Date in Your Twenties” chronicles countless bad dates from the guy who got away, the guy you always go back to, to the guy who texts "sup" at 2 AM. She’s a woman who’s dated them all, and it’s all in her funny field guide to modern dating. After a world-shattering breakup at 23, this comedian spent the rest of her twenties experiencing firsthand, heartache, and hilarity of swiping right into relationships. Now, in her 30’s she will share helpful insight she’s gathered from 19 exes, (yep, she interviewed them for her book) dating coaches, successful couples and therapists.  In this week's episode Gabi discusses all the different types of men she’s dated—that you’ve probably dated, too!

Gabi gained national attention with her article and video for Cosmopolitan “I went on 30 Dates in 3 Days”. The video was featured by Daily Mail, and she appeared on Access Hollywood, and Inside Edition to name a few. She is a contributing writer for Cosmopolitan. She currently hosts celebrity news for You Tube, Snap Chat and Samsung TV. Her podcast Am I Dating A Serial Killer will be launching soon. 

Kerry Brett and Gabi Conti cover a lot of ground. Topic include:

If you’re fully vaccinated, you need to be your own bachelor or bachelorette and get back out there.
If it didn’t work out the first time, it’s probably not going to work out the second time.
Every date isn’t a waste of time because you always learn something.
The more you date, the more confident you become.
People show you their true colors, so when people show you who you 
Don’t find validation by dates, be confident in yourself.
Why if you act like you are hot, guys will find that attractive.
Like Ikea, a relationship can last if it’s assembled properly.
Dating is emotional gambling, so don’t take it too seriously if things don’t work out.
If you’re not sure, ask someone else.
Why Happy Hour is the best first date option.
Why there is so much to learn from our failed relationships.
Gabi shares her tips from her book “The Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties.”

Followed Gabi on Instagram @itsgabiconti, and purchase “The Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties” anywhere you find books.
 

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Today's guest is Ingrid De La Mare – Kenny. Ingrid went from thriving in the fashion industry as a stylist on Sex in the City and styling shoots at Vogue to serving time in federal prison for selling jeans on eBay. This story is unbelievable seriously! After serving 15 months, she was exonerated. Ingrid is the mother of three, who got divorced then moved herself and her children from NYC to Monaco, where she started a new life and career. Ingrid developed the workout The Method, built the brand Gangster Chic, and wrote her Memoir "Fuck My Life." She started over dating at the age of 33, found love, and remarried years later. Ingrid is the epitome of a survivor and a gold medalist in reinvention. Today Ingrid shares her incredible story of how she, against all odds, used her adversities to succeed and propel herself fromshackles to living a charmed life in Monte Carlo.

 Ingrid was the girl who seemed to have it all and then lost it all. Raised by wealthy French parents, she married her first love, fresh out of college in Miami Beach. She followed her handsome Jewish husband to his native New York and quickly became the "It girl" of Fashion Week. Ingrid faced her share of challenges: the tragic loss of her father, an oppressive marriage, and her firstborn being diagnosed with Autism. 

Her story is about a mother's life-long fight, the sacrifices she made for her children and how she found a way back to them. Ingrid is a graduate of NYU Law School, the CEO of The Method, her own Pilates protocol that she developed and patented 348 unique movements, the founder of Gangster Chic lifestyle and host of the podcast Pardon My French. 

Kerry Brett and Ingrid De La Mare–Kenny cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
Don’t be a prisoner of anything, dating, your relationship or diet.
Why you should find freedom in your love story.
Why when you meet someone you shouldn’t fit into their mold.
Don’t dress for woman or for men, dress for yourself.
If people can’t accept your past move on.
Whatever setbacks you have in life don’t create a self -made prison around the past. Fostering thoughts around fear, shame or regret will only hold you back.
Own your story like Ingrid.
Big shifts happen when you change the little things, not the big things.

To find out more about The Method Founder and CEO, Ingrid De La Mare-Kenny or the Gangster Chic Lifestyle Brand go to www.thepilatemethod.com. Purchase her book Fuck My Life: The Memoir of a Chic Gangster on Amazon. Listen to her podcast Pardon My French on all platforms and follow on Instagram @ingriddelamarekenny

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Today's guest is Dr. Gary Lewandowski; he's a professor, relationship scientist, author, and speaker who's given over 120 conference presentations and written articles for over 150 media outlets. Over 2 million people have viewed his Ted Talk about breakups. His new book "Stronger Than You Think" opens readers' eyes so they can accurately and confidently view themselves when searching for a relationship they want. In this week's episode, we discuss blind spots that undermine your relationship and how to see past them so we don't have to learn the hard way! We talk about everything from the science of heartbreak to why learning scientific data leads to making better decisions. And why breakups don't have to leave you broken because you're stronger than you know! 

Dr. Gary Lewandowski has been featured as a relationship expert in hundreds of publications, including The New York Times, NPR, CNN, Time, Marie Claire, Men's Health, and Forbes, to name a few. He is also a professor and former Chair in the Department of Psychology at Monmouth University. Dr. Lewandowski's research, writing, and public speaking focus on romantic relationships, self, and identity. He recently published his first book, "Stronger Than You Think": The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship and How to See Past Them. He also co-created the APP StayGo, which tells you whether it's time to commit or quit. Using this app, you can make informed decisions about your love life while deciding faster to stay or go.  He has dedicated his life to helping people build resilience and find meaning in the face of adversity. 

Kerry Brett and Dr. Gary Lewandowski cover a lot of ground topics include:
Why experience isn't the same as expertise.
Top 10 blind spots and how to overcome them.
How to maintain your power in relationship.
Why a good relationship has equal power.
Why we put so much value on beauty and why it's not a good thing.
The easiest thing is to be drawn in by attractiveness and why you're swayed by this right away.
Attractiveness is not the winningest characteristic if you are looking for a healthy long-term relationship.
What the "halo effect" is and why everyone needs to know about this.
What is attractive equals good which most of the time is not true.
Most people look for people who are 25 percent better looking than them.
Why we all want to date out of our league.
If one person is really good-looking and the other person isn't, it leads to instability. 
Why being in a relationship cannot be great for our waistlines.
Includes a survey of people who were hotter in high school incurred more divorces.
What is the matching hypothesis?
Why opposites attract but eventually could attack, those opposite features lead to conflict.
Personality goes a long way.

To find out more about Dr. Lewandowski or to purchase "Stronger Than You Think" go to www.garylewandowski.com. Follow on Twitter @LewandowskiPhD or on Instagram @lewandowskiphd

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Today’s guest is writer, podcaster, and photographer Kat Harris, A thirty-something-year-old virgin and author of the upcoming book Sexless in the City. In her new book, Kat covers topics that people want answers to but are too afraid to ask. Kat and Kerry cover topics such as sex, singleness, and relationships. Kat share’s her wisdom, what she's learned dating in NYC for a decade, and how she’s discovered to live with sexual integrity in singleness. Kat's passion is giving others the tools they need to navigate today's dating culture with vision, clarity, and freedom. We discuss how to show up in dating, how we choose certain people to date and why we should have faith in God’s master plan for our love life! 

Kat Harris is the host of The Refined Collective Podcast and co-founder of the online publication The Refined Woman. Her first book Sexless in the City will hit bookstores this month on 4/20. She has also been a full-time photographer for the past 15 years with work featured in Vanity Fair, GQ, Forbes, People, US Weekly, and Glamour UK, to name A few. Kat coaches people worldwide in dating, relationships, and singleness and how to build a renewed healthy biblical sexual ethic rooted in truth and grace instead of the common shame and fear narratives somany experienced growing up in the evangelical culture. 

Dating can be frustrating and lonely, but there are strategies which can be helpful in your dating journey. Kat and Kerry talk about what's possible for today’s single. Topics include:
What photographing weddings taught us about love and marriage.
The importance of mindset and believing in finding love.
How do you approach dating? Do you have a good attitude or are you negative?
If you think dating during a pandemic is too hard then it will be a block.
The importance of identifying the core values you want in a partner.
How society and spiritual beliefs shape what we want in a person.
Why you should be clear and open about what you want. You can’t get what you don’t ask for.
What if we were as intentional in dating as we are in our careers?
How to navigate the highs and lows of dating.
Why you should play big online and every area of your life.
Why we should give up limiting beliefs that keep us playing small.
What if online could work?  Look  for evidence that is does work.
How to stay positive when things don’t work out the way  you planned or hoped.
Why you should give yourself permission to imagine.

To find out more about Kat Harris go to www.therefinedwoman.com, follow on Instagram @therefinedwoman or listen to her podcast The Refined Collective. Purchase her upcoming book Sexless in the City at www.sexlessinthecity.com

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Today's guest is Dara Kurtz; she's a writer, speaker, podcaster, and blogger of "Crazy Perfect Life" and shares her wisdom on life, loss, and love. She discusses why we should take a hard look at what's important in our lives. Dara's secret to having a happy life is living fully and loving deeply. Her mom's death held her back for a long time, and she wasn't able to make the most of her life or relationships because she didn't want to risk getting hurt again. Dara shows us the importance of opening our hearts, letting people in, and why we can't live life to our best ability if we worry about what might happen. Dara also encourages us to go for anything we want because what's the worst that can happen? 

 Dara Kurtz is a wife and mother, and at the age of 42 she was diagnosed with cancer. Going through chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery changed Dara's perspective; what she thought was important wasn't so important anymore. She decided to leave her 20-year career as a personal banker and financial advisor to focus on writing. Her blog, "Crazy Perfect Life," has over 200,000 followers. She is the author of three books, Crush Cancer, The Crush Cancer Workbook, and I Am My Mother's Daughter. When Dara was 28, she lost her mother to cancer. She recently wrote a book about the letters and lessons from both her mother and grandmothers, which includes tips that can help strengthen our relationships or help us move forward in our journey in finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Dara Kurtz cover a lot of ground, topics include;
Embrace that life isn't perfect and messy, and all you can do is the best you can.
Why we need to stop reviewing regrets.
How to keep the keys to your own happiness in your pocket.
Why you need to stop caring or worrying about how other people are going to react to us.
Why it's important to stop trying to be perfect and live a peaceful life.
Why you should challenge yourself, face your fears and ask yourself the worst that can happen?
If you don't push yourself and try different things, you can rob yourself of love and joy.
You develop more confidence by taking risks and bringing in new experiences.
We need to stop being stuck in pain and get back to the business of living.
Why you need to stop putting things off and star living for today.
Why we should make the of precious time with loved ones.
If we close our hearts, then we are cheating ourselves on some of the best positive experiences.
Count your blessings instead of your problems.
You can learn to recognize and replace negative stories and decide what you want to tell yourself to believe.
If you expect good things to happen, they usually do.
The world can be our playground if we let it.

For more information about Dara Kurtz you can find out more on www.crazyperfectlife.com  Follow on Facebook Crazy Perfect Life by Dara Kurtz and Instagram @crazyperflife. 

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In this episode, Shot@Love welcome's back Amy Nobile, the owner of Love, Amy a Dating Concierge service that helps you find love. Amy brings us up to speed with what's happening with love this spring. The dating landscape has dramatically changed, but the basic principles remain. Amy shares the keys to becoming successful online and why your most valuable asset is positive energy and an attitude of yes! She encourages us to stop playing small, get out there and find love regardless of what's happening in the world around us, at the same time, reminding us why optimism and hope are essential in our journey to love.

 Amy Nobile found love on Bumble and was so inspired she decided to share with others what worked for her and Love, Amy was born. She's different than most "Dating Coaches" because she takes a holistic, inside-out look at who you are, what makes you uniquely you, your core values, and who you truly want to attract. Amy is also a successful author who's published four books. She's been featured in the New York Times, Business Insider, and even the Today Show. Amy helps teach you how to become successful and ultimately find love.

Kerry Brett and Amy Nobile cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
How to be in the world now by overcoming social anxiety.
There are more than double the number of users now and why you should lever the edge.
The most significant predictor of success is having positive energy around finding love.
Why you need to have 100 percent certainty that you will find love on an app.
Think about the time we spent mindlessly scrolling through social media, yet why can't people find a few hours a day to spend on dating apps?.
Why you need to be fully invested and "all in" when using dating apps.
How to get to the point of feeling fully worthy of finding love.Why your blocks come out in the form of a million excuses.
It's not about perfection or filters. It's about being true to you.
Why worrying about the future or how things will work out is another block.
If you project out fear, you will only pull in a partner who is also fear-based.
Love is blooming, it's happening, and the time is now. So, go for it!

 For more information about Amy Nobile or Love, Amy go to www.loveamy.co or follow on Instagram @love.amy.nyc.

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Today's guest is Caitlin Arner, the owner of Zelda and Friends, a Dog concierge service that's perfect for you and your Dog's lifestyle. In this week's episode, we will discuss the many ways your Dog can boost your love life. Taking your Dog for a stroll increases your chances of meeting others. There is also a new trend in Al Fresco dining called "Yappy Hour." Did you know you could let your Dog play matchmaker by advertising yourself through your pet on sites such as datemypet.com, Leashes and Lovers, and Tindog, which is Tinder for dogs? Hook up for a play date at the dog park or meet up for coffee at a canine-friendly café. Dogs keep you in better shape, lift your mood, and are great at sniffing out suitors. How putting up a photograph of you and your Dog on a dating site will make you look more friendly, approachable, and attractive. Dating is a numbers game––walking your pup in the park or sitting on a pet-friendly patio gives you more chance encounters. We'll be talking about all things fur babies, puppy love, and how to get a jump on the dog days of summer.

After spending too many uninspired years in front of a computer, sitting at a desk, Caitlin had this "crazy" notion that maybe one day she could find a career that would make her happy, give her purpose, and be sustainable long-term. Until one day, a friend wanted to pay her to watch her two new three-month-old puppies. Caitlin had grown up with dogs, adopted her Dog, Zelda but never considered that this could be the absolute perfect path for her life to take. Caitlin had this special bond with dogs, respected them, loved them if they were humans, and believed every Dog deserved the best care. The kind she would want for her Dog, one where dogs are given personal attention in a way they would typically experience at home with their family. 

Caitlin and I will discuss the reasons why and how people are using dogs to fetch their soulmates. Topics include:

Dating with dogs.
How getting a dog can solidify a relationship.
The Pandemic dog purchase and dog trends during Covid.
How a connection in a relationship is built around raising a dog together.
How a dog can be a symbol of commitment.
How dogs keep you healthy, lower blood pressure, and reduce anxiety.
How dogs help combat loneliness and keep you company.
Why people stay in a relationship that isn't working for the Dog.
When should you introduce a dog into a new relationship?
Dogfishing is a new dating term and the practice of using a dog to attract someone.
How to avoid getting hooked in by a faux Fido.
Research has shown that women flock to men with dogs.
How people stereotype based on type of Dog the owner may have.
How we select people based on friendliness just like dogs do.
Your Dog is the best judge of character and can weed out unkind people who may not be best for you.

To find out more about Caitlin Arner and her Dog Concierge Service, go to
www.zeldaandfriends.com, or follow on Instagram @zeldanfriends.

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