Shot At Love

Today's guest is Krista Simpson Anderson. She is the widow of Michael Simpson, a Green Beret and special forces soldier who was killed in Afghanistan and was left with two young boys. She rebuilt her life remarried an active-duty Green Beret Gus Anderson, and co-founded the Unquiet Professional, an organization that provides empowering opportunities for surviving families and veterans. Krista's philosophy is to "Arm Yourselves and be Brave", educate others to thrive, not just survive. In this week's episode, we will talk about loss, new beginnings, and what it takes to start over, creating a new chapter with a greater purpose. 

Krista Anderson is a wife, mother, and runs the non-profit The Unquiet Professional. Still, she also serves as the Gold Star Liaison, a board member for the Green Beret Foundation, the Military Spouse Ambassador of Army Emergency Relief, and many other boards. In 2018, the Armed Forces Insurance named her Military Spouse of the Year ––and in 2019, the Green Beret Foundation honored her as "Keeper of the Brave." 

Kerry Brett and Krista Simpson Anderson cover a lot of ground topics included:

How faith is something, you have to hold onto when you have nothing left.
How to have a military mindset when moving forward from any challenging time.
How you can heal yourself by helping others.
The importance of knowing you are not alone when you deal with a time of struggle.
You can overcome hard, challenging times and can be stronger than you ever thought possible.
Things that are happening to you sometimes is for your greater good.
It is better to love and loss than to never love again.
Love feels different each time trust it.
Give yourself moments of grace when dealing with difficulty. It's not easy to move forward.
Allow your new relationship to encourage and nurture your grief and your joy.
Remember to take every moment and opportunity to honor someone we have loved and lost.

So much of Krista's work is honoring her late husband, Michael Simpson, and I took a moment to celebrate my favorite cousin Sean McCarthy who died on October 2nd 2019, one year ago the day we taped this interview.

 Suppose you would like more information about Krista Simpson Anderson. In that case, you can find her on Facebook Krista S. Anderson, 2018 Armed Forces Insurance of the Year, on Instagram @kristasimpsonanderson, or the Non-Profit's website www.theunquietproffesional.org.

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Today's guest is Michelle Cully; she is the CEO of Xpressman, a trucking and courier company she created all by herself. There is a side to this successful entrepreneur that you don't know. Michelle found herself in a six-year abusive relationship, and despite all of that, she ended up engaged to him, then out of the blue, he ended it. She was left jobless, heartbroken with no money–So she decided to start her own company. Every day she would dress to nines and go with an empty briefcase into her parent's laundry room to create a multimillion-dollar business. Michelle even published a book about her life –titled High Heels in the Laundry Room. I'd say Michelle has come a long way. Her inspirational story of how she rose to the top, found love again is unconventional but beyond inspirational.

At age 23, Michelle Cully was nearly destroyed from an abusive relationship, and all she had was a high school degree. She not only has a doctorate from New England College, but she also gave the commencement speech in 2019. If Michelle could turn her life around from a place of being tattered and torn to having this amazing life and business, then you can too, and today she's going to inspire and uplift us all. Because if she can do it, anyone can do it.

Kerry Brett and Michelle Cully cover a lot of ground and talk about a lot of challenging subjects. Topics include:

How to overcome being afraid to tell your story because of the fear of being judged.
Hitting rock bottom and how to pull yourself back up.
How to overcome fear which is our worst enemy and can really hold you back.
You have one life, and one chance to make it better because no one is going to do it for you.
How to reframe your belief system when you have zero self-worth.
How to eat rejection with a fork.
Overcoming the stigma of getting divorced.
Perfection doesn’t exist, if we wait to be perfect than we’ll be waiting forever.
Embrace your journey to make yourself happy.
How it's power to standi in your truth.
How to build back our confidence.
Finding the strength to get back out there.
What you wear matters, why it's important to dress for success.
If you keep waiting, you’ll be waiting forever. No one is going to come to you. How to free yourself of negative thoughts and self-doubt.
Rejection is good for you and it makes you stronger.
The what if’s that will kill your dreams.

 You can purchase High Heels in the Laundry Room on Amazon.

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Today's episode is about Love and the art of letting go, or as this week's guest Jill Sherer Murray, would say, "Let Go For It" to find that Big Wild Love, which is the title of her new book. The subtitle of Big Wild Love is The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go, which was inspired by a Ted Talk about ending a 12-year relationship. It's all about getting unstuck, self-love, and finding the strength to go for it! Jill is passionate, funny, understanding, and has made a huge impact on almost 3 million people.

Jill Sherer Murray. Jill is a TEDx Speaker, Author, Blogger, and Founder of Let Go For It®, a lifestyle brand dedicated to helping individuals ¬–Let Go for a better life. She's also a journalist, and a life coach who provides women with a roadmap, the tools we need to find ourselves and Love successfully. Jill's new fabulous book Big Wild Love is an Empowering Guide, and I'm obsessed with this book and binged on audible in one day. This book is truly life-changing, and I wish I had this book when I struggled to overcome my heartbreak. If you feel stuck in any way, run, don't walk, and buy this book!

Kerry Brett and Jill Sherer Murray uncover a lot of ground topics discussed in this episode include:
How to overcome the fear of the unknown.
Life is a process of growth, bad choices, and trying different things.
Making peace with your mistakes and having forgiveness for yourself.
The power of journaling. Writing things down so we can see more clearly and deeply into ourselves to figure out how to get what you want.
How to face your truth, as hard as that may be. Be authentic and standing in your truth is brave, courageous, and powerful.
If you are feeling afraid, remember you always have yourself.
Let go of taking things personally.
You always have choices and second chances, and it's never too late in life to make good of all of it.

Jill Sherer Murray can be found on her website www.letgoforit.com, follow on Instagram @letgoforit or Jill Sherer Murray on Facebook. Purchase her new book Big Wild Love because it's fabulous!

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Today we have two special guests Kiran Akal and John Flemming, formally known as the Chai Rum Guys–they spend their time traveling the world from India to Ireland with Akal Chai Rum inspiring us one sip at a time! They have the most interesting, unlikely, and unconventional story, and it all began one night on a date in Miami. They are here to encourage us to chase our dreams, live richer lives, find love and like anything they do–today’s episode is a great adventure.

Kiran and John, met in Miami on Match.Com and never dreamt that they would quit their jobs and start a Rum company. They share stories of traveling the world joining forces with The Rolls Royce Owners Club, hosting the Crystal Ball at the Nantucket Whaling Museum, importing Rum into West Indies at One Ocean Club in Barcelona or bringing their spirits to the land of shamrocks and leprechauns, the Republic of Ireland. They are the most unlikely pair and couldn’t come from a more diverse background. John and Kiran share why diversity and differences are their strengths. We discuss what it takes to have a successful relationship. The key is finding that person who highlights your best qualities, encourages you to chase your dreams and gives you the wings to do it. 

Kerry Brett, John Flemming and Kiran Akal cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

Find someone who brings out the best in you.
What truly makes a successful life.
Your career path truly has a big impact in your relationship.
You only have one life so choose your path wisely.
Walk away from people who put you down and surround yourself with people who build you up and encourage you.
Go for what’s going to make you happy.
Embrace your flaws, in fact highlight your flaws.
Sometimes when things seem unlikely when they join together they make sense.

Follow Chai Rum on Instagram @chairumglobal. Chai Rum is available in 44 US states and also in the Republic of Ireland. Order some today on www.chairum.com

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Today's guest is Candy O’Terry; she's an award-winning broadcaster and Boston's beloved radio voice. Not only does Candy have over 30 years of radio experience, but she's also a communications expert and has a new podcast, The Speaker Coach. Coach Candy is a master at grabbing people's attention, and she shares her strategies on this episode. Did you know you only get 5 seconds to make a great first impression! It's not what you say, but how you say it. Candy teaches us how to express ourselves and to improve our communication skills so we can become more successful at dating.

Kerry Brett and Candy O’Terry cover a lot of ground in this episode. Topics include:

How to learn the art of storytelling.
How do you set yourself apart?
How do you grab someone’s attention in today’s fast-paced world?
How do you become memorable in someone else’s mind?
Having good communication skills matter, and they set you apart.
How to revamp your voicemail. Do you sound like someone you want to call back?
Lose filler words because they undermine your credibility.
Learning the power of the pause is very useful and puts you in a place of power.
Humor sells.
There is power in silence.
Use fewer words to get your point across.
What you say last matters, so you need to make the ending count.
How to make people interested in what you have to say.
You only have 5 seconds to make a first impression.How to connect on a zoom call because you are one step removed.
The art of using your voice to show true engagement.
Lighting and positioning of the camera with improve your zoom dates.
You only get one chance to make a first impression.
What you have to say matters, but how you say it matters more.
You can hear a smile or disinterest through the phone or zoom call.
Your voice is a tool, and this episode teaches you how to use it.
How to prepare for a date to appear more confident.
How to make that lasting connection.

For more information about Candy O'Terry you can find out more on candyoterry.com

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Today's guest is Alyssa Dver, and she's a confidence crusader; she's even given a popular Ted Talk about her expertise in confidence. Alyssa is a leading coach on confidence, and in this week's episode, she teaches us how to become our best confident self because every decision we make in life or love is the direct impact of our confidence!

Alyssa is the author of 7 best selling books and the podcast's co-host, "In Confidence: Face Your Workplace." She is the founder and CEO of the American Confidence Institute and the ERG Leadership Alliance that directly impacts workplace diversity. She teaches classes at both Penn and MIT and is a sought-out expert by media and authors. She coaches many executives and is the advisor to several startups, and today she is going to advise how to be our confident best!

Kerry Brett and Alyssa Dver cover a lot of ground in this episode. Topics include;

What it takes to live a confident life.
Confidence is a result, not a requirement.
How to feel comfortable in your own skin.
What does confidence look like or doesn't
Confidence is a choice, so choose wisely.
How to recognize confident imposters.
How to remain confident if you accidently say the wrong thing.
How to manage these three feelings––failure, regret, rejection.
How to have compassion for yourself if you make a mistake.
Confidence is the sexist thing you can wear.
People are automatically attracted to confidence and most attracted to confidence.
Put the focus on the person you are on the dating. Make someone else matter.
How to impact others and appear confident on a date.
We lose our confidence at age 16, and we don't get it back until you are 60, why it's important to have confidence today.
When the rug is pulled out, and you have lots of setbacks and how it affects your confidence.
How to combat feelings of lack of confidence.
How to conquer the fear of dating by using helpful strategies.

You can find more information about Alyssa Dver on her website www.americanconfidenceinstitue.com or purchase her book "Confidence is a Choice".

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In today's episode, Shot@Love welcomes back Amy Nobile, the owner of Love, Amy, a Dating Concierge service that helps you find love. Amy Nobile and Kerry Brett discuss how the pandemic has changed the dating scene while encouraging you to continue to date–even if it's virtually. Not only does Amy teach us how to adapt to these challenging times, but how to crush it in this new normal world of dating. 

Amy found love on Bumble, and she decided to share what worked for her and Love, Amy was born. Amy is also a successful author who's published four books. She has been featured in The New York Times, The Business Insider, and even the Today Show. 

Amy Nobile and Kerry Brett cover a lot of ground and topics include:

How the pandemic has changed online dating.
How to date virtually.
People are willing to take a risk to find love.
People have a tremendous drive to be really honest about they want.
Typical first date conversations have changed.
Initial banter has changed to deeper conversations.
Increased feelings around hope.
People are willing to push themselves out of their comfort zone and join online dating because this is where people are.
The evolution of online dating in just the past months has been unbelievable, while online membership has increased dramatically.
How to get comfortable and put your best foot forward on zoom dates.
The same set of rules apply to virtual dates.
Everything is harder during the pandemic, causing added complications in the world of online dating ––how to keep positive on your dating journey.
The COVID test in the new STD test.
People are more reflective, connecting on a deeper level.
People are taking their time in an old fashion way.
Even though this is a stressful time, there are many beautiful silver linings.
Just keep going! This is a time for reinvention and rebirth.

For more information about Amy Nobile check out her website www.loveamy.co, Love, Amy is a full service Dating Conceirge that marries the technology of modern-day dating with a holistic view of human-to-human energy and connection.

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Today's discussion addresses the struggles singles are facing during this pandemic. Is COVID wearing you down? Well, you aren't alone! Things are harder now, and dating can have its challenges. Today's guest is Dr. Ann Doggett, and she offers advice and tips to stay healthy, and emotionally strong.

Dr. Ann helps sick people get well and healthy people stay healthy. We all are looking for alternative ways to stay healthy and feel our best during this national health crisis. Dr. Ann has helped countless patients across the country with her holistic advice and chiropractor care. 

Kerry Brett and Dr. Ann Doggett cover a lot of ground and topics include:

How to look and feel your best during hard times.
The degree of difficulty in accepting this new normal.
Advice on staying balanced.
How to manage fear and anxiety in uncertain times.
How to put our best foot forward with supplements that improve our health.
Fear is our powerful alley.
How to find your inner confidence while dating.
Tips for managing depression.
Tools and supplements to help insomnia.
Advice for losing the Quarantine 15 if you've gained weight during COVID-19.

Book mentioned is The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker.

Dr. Ann Doggett's wellness clinic is Whole Body Solutions at 605 Hancock Street, in Quincy MA.
Dr. Ann can be reached at www.wholebodysolutions.org or by calling (617) 328-6300.

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Today’s guest is Chef Silvia Bianco. She’s a highly regarded chef and the former owner of Biscotti, a much-loved Italian restaurant in Connecticut. Silvia currently gives cooking classes to America’s top companies, and before COVID-19 was the resident chef at William Sonoma. Silvia has cooked on numerous cooking shows, including The Today Show on NBC. She’s also the author the Simply Sauté. Throughout her cooking career, she witnessed that anyone can cook once they gain confidence, and the same applies to dating. Silvia also mastered controlling the chaos in the kitchen and is sharing how to manage the chaotic world of online dating. 

This episode includes advice for starting over as well as helpful information for online daters. Kerry Brett and Silva Bianco cover a lot of ground on this episode. Topics include: 

How to overcome challenging times, and when things end or dismantle, it’s for your greater good.
What experiencing loss and being a single mother taught Silvia.
How to pick up the pieces.
How to positively move forward.
How to have acceptance and learn non-attachment.
Material possessions don’t define you.
Lessons learned from the struggle.
Lessons learned from a place of love.
How to trust in an unconscious realm of possibility.
Age is just a number, how Silvia successfully dates online at the age of 67.
The importance of a detailed and specific bio.
How to hold your value in your bio.
How to call the shots online.
How to be open to finding love during a pandemic.

If you would like more information about Silvia Bianco’s private cooking classes or catering services, you can reach her at chefsilvia.com, on Twitter Chef Silvia, and Facebook Chef Silvia. Simply Sauté can be purchased on Amazon.

Feel free to DM me with questions or comments on Instagram @kerry_brett follow @shotatlovepodcast.

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When your world is rocked with a betrayal that involved your husband, dating sites, and your close friend, you have two choices: to become bitter or better. Today's guest Victoria Weston didn't let what happened her define her. Not only did she take this life-defining moment to become fabulous––she used this opportunity to help show other's the way. When one woman succeeds, we all succeed. Today's episode is an inspiring one, and Victoria motivates us to live our best life. 

Victoria is a modern-day "Samantha" from "Sex in The City" and lives life on her terms. Victoria ended up moving to Boston to start over after leaving her husband, but she didn't allow a devastating heartbreak to define her. She used that time to work on herself, empower others, and couldn't be happier. Victoria is currently developing a website and writing a tell-all book called "Victoria's Other Secrets." 

Tinder ended Victoria's marriage yet brought her back to life. Tinder gave Victoria her confidence back and opened up a whole new world.

Kerry Brett and Victoria Weston cover a lot of ground in this episode. Topics include:
Video dates abroad.
Tinder Passport.
Life after divorce.
How to know what's best for you?
Digging deep and learning what makes you happy.
Action creates a reaction, take action to help yourself.
You don't have to have romantic love to have love in your life.
How you feel about yourself sets the stage. Focus on loving yourself, and the rest will follow.
How to overcome the stigma of being divorced?
When one woman succeeds, we all succeed.
What does it mean to be in the sacred sisterhood of women?
When choosing images for your online profile, pick one photograph living your best life, or participating in an activity you love. This photograph will portray you in a good light, and your authentic self will shine through.

To find more information about Victoria Weston, you can follow her on Instagram @victoriasothersecrets.

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