Shot At Love

In this episode, Shot@Love welcome's back Amy Nobile, the owner of Love, Amy a Dating Concierge service that helps you find love. Amy brings us up to speed with what's happening with love this spring. The dating landscape has dramatically changed, but the basic principles remain. Amy shares the keys to becoming successful online and why your most valuable asset is positive energy and an attitude of yes! She encourages us to stop playing small, get out there and find love regardless of what's happening in the world around us, at the same time, reminding us why optimism and hope are essential in our journey to love.

 Amy Nobile found love on Bumble and was so inspired she decided to share with others what worked for her and Love, Amy was born. She's different than most "Dating Coaches" because she takes a holistic, inside-out look at who you are, what makes you uniquely you, your core values, and who you truly want to attract. Amy is also a successful author who's published four books. She's been featured in the New York Times, Business Insider, and even the Today Show. Amy helps teach you how to become successful and ultimately find love.

Kerry Brett and Amy Nobile cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
How to be in the world now by overcoming social anxiety.
There are more than double the number of users now and why you should lever the edge.
The most significant predictor of success is having positive energy around finding love.
Why you need to have 100 percent certainty that you will find love on an app.
Think about the time we spent mindlessly scrolling through social media, yet why can't people find a few hours a day to spend on dating apps?.
Why you need to be fully invested and "all in" when using dating apps.
How to get to the point of feeling fully worthy of finding love.Why your blocks come out in the form of a million excuses.
It's not about perfection or filters. It's about being true to you.
Why worrying about the future or how things will work out is another block.
If you project out fear, you will only pull in a partner who is also fear-based.
Love is blooming, it's happening, and the time is now. So, go for it!

 For more information about Amy Nobile or Love, Amy go to www.loveamy.co or follow on Instagram @love.amy.nyc.

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Today's guest is Caitlin Arner, the owner of Zelda and Friends, a Dog concierge service that's perfect for you and your Dog's lifestyle. In this week's episode, we will discuss the many ways your Dog can boost your love life. Taking your Dog for a stroll increases your chances of meeting others. There is also a new trend in Al Fresco dining called "Yappy Hour." Did you know you could let your Dog play matchmaker by advertising yourself through your pet on sites such as datemypet.com, Leashes and Lovers, and Tindog, which is Tinder for dogs? Hook up for a play date at the dog park or meet up for coffee at a canine-friendly café. Dogs keep you in better shape, lift your mood, and are great at sniffing out suitors. How putting up a photograph of you and your Dog on a dating site will make you look more friendly, approachable, and attractive. Dating is a numbers game––walking your pup in the park or sitting on a pet-friendly patio gives you more chance encounters. We'll be talking about all things fur babies, puppy love, and how to get a jump on the dog days of summer.

After spending too many uninspired years in front of a computer, sitting at a desk, Caitlin had this "crazy" notion that maybe one day she could find a career that would make her happy, give her purpose, and be sustainable long-term. Until one day, a friend wanted to pay her to watch her two new three-month-old puppies. Caitlin had grown up with dogs, adopted her Dog, Zelda but never considered that this could be the absolute perfect path for her life to take. Caitlin had this special bond with dogs, respected them, loved them if they were humans, and believed every Dog deserved the best care. The kind she would want for her Dog, one where dogs are given personal attention in a way they would typically experience at home with their family. 

Caitlin and I will discuss the reasons why and how people are using dogs to fetch their soulmates. Topics include:

Dating with dogs.
How getting a dog can solidify a relationship.
The Pandemic dog purchase and dog trends during Covid.
How a connection in a relationship is built around raising a dog together.
How a dog can be a symbol of commitment.
How dogs keep you healthy, lower blood pressure, and reduce anxiety.
How dogs help combat loneliness and keep you company.
Why people stay in a relationship that isn't working for the Dog.
When should you introduce a dog into a new relationship?
Dogfishing is a new dating term and the practice of using a dog to attract someone.
How to avoid getting hooked in by a faux Fido.
Research has shown that women flock to men with dogs.
How people stereotype based on type of Dog the owner may have.
How we select people based on friendliness just like dogs do.
Your Dog is the best judge of character and can weed out unkind people who may not be best for you.

To find out more about Caitlin Arner and her Dog Concierge Service, go to
www.zeldaandfriends.com, or follow on Instagram @zeldanfriends.

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Today's guest is Melissa Gould, whose husband tragically died unexpectedly at the age of 50. To help navigate the painful grieving process, she wrote the new best-selling Widow…ish! Melissa has inspired others across the country to heal and manage heartache through speaking engagements and writing, such as the NY Times essay "My Husband Died and All I Got Was This Sweatshirt." Melissa is also an acclaimed screenwriter for shows such as Beverly Hills 90210, Party of Five, Lizzie McGuire, and Bill Nye the Science Guy. She has also written several movies for NBC and the Disney Channel. Melissa inspires sharing her personal story of resilience, loss, and finding love again.

Melissa Gould shared her incredible story of unimaginable loss when she lost her husband from MS and the West Nile Virus. Early on, Melissa realized she did not fit the idea of widowhood. She didn't look like a widow (she was too young) or act like a widow (she had found love again), but she felt like a widow, which is how she came up with the title Widow..ish! In her inspiring memoir, Melissa took this traumatic experience of losing her husband and, in one month, became Amazon's Editor's pick in the category of the best biographies and memoirs. Melissa is an LA-based award-winning screenwriter, and her essay's on grief can be found in the New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, AARP, Buzzfeed, and The Huffington Post, to name a few. She's appeared in front of the camera on shows such as Rachel Ray, Access Hollywood, and KTLA's Morning Show. Melissa's latest essay, "On the Stars Who Helped Her Journey Through Grief," recently appeared in the Hollywood Reporter and was just interviewed for Gabby Reece's podcast. 

Kerry Brett and Melissa Gould cover a lot of ground topics include:
Moving forward in your 40's.
Navigating the grief process and falling in love.
How unconventional relationships could be perfect for you.
The importance of choosing easy.
How you can find love even in a crisis or at your lowest point.
The power of sharing your story.
The importance of not overthinking.
Sometimes a fling can turn into a thing.
Surround yourself with supportive people who want you to be happy, whatever your happiness looks like.
God laughs at your plans, surrender, and have faith that in the end, you'll be alright.

 For more information on Melissa Gould, go to www.widowish.com or follow Instagram @melissagould_author. Melissa's Memoir Widow...ish is currently an Amazon Editor's Best Pick in Biographies & Memoirs and #1 Amazon Kindle Best Seller.

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This week's guest is Zibby Owens, who's superhuman and such an inspiration! At age 40, she found herself crying in the shower, divorced with four kids until her life started over when she found love with Kyle Owens, a former tennis pro and film producer, then later married him on a tennis court. During those years, her therapist gave Zibby the advice to read a book when she felt lonely when her kids were with their Dad. Zibby not only took that advice but created the podcast Mom's Don't Have Time to Read Books, one of the top literary podcasts in the world, and in 3 years, interviewed 600 authors. This month she published, Mom's Don't Have Time Too, A Quarantine Anthology, a moving collection of excellent essays. Zibby shows us that we do have time to do anything we want, especially finding love. 

 Zibby Owens is the creator of the award-winning podcast Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books. Zibby, named "NYC's" Most Powerful Book-influencer" by Vulture. Oprah Winfrey's O Magazine named her one of the top literary podcasts twice! During the quarantine, Zibby hosted two Instagram Live Author talk shows, launched an online magazine with essays called We Found Time, and started Zibby's virtual book club. Zibby has recommended books for the Washington Post, Good Morning America, and Real Simple. She has also contributed to Parents, Marie Claire, Redbook, and New York Times online. She's appeared on CBS This morning, Good Morning America, the BBD, ABC-7 Eyewitness News, Good Day LA, Good Day DC, Good Day Dallas. She has two children's books coming out in 2022, plus a second anthology coming out in November 2021 called Mom's Also Don't Have Time To. Zibby recently launched an Instagram community and podcast called Moms Don't Have Time to Lose Weight. She's a graduate of Yale University and Harvard Business School.

Kerry Brett and Zibby Owen's cover a lot of ground, and topics include:

How picking up a book will immediately get you out of your head.
Some days you need to go minute by minute.
How stories unite, us make us feel more connected and less lonely.
Falling in love at 40.
If you feel lost, you can find the real you again.
How having someone who supports you can change your life.
There is no downside to trying something new.
You can find time for anything you want.
You can find time to read and also spending time on dating apps.
Take action, and one thing leads to another.

To find out more about Zibby Owens, go to www.zibbyowens.com on Instagram @zibbyowens, @momsdonthavetimetoreadbooks, @momsdonthavetimetowrite. Listen to her two excellent podcasts, Moms Don't Have Time to Read, and Moms Don't Have Time to Lose Weight. Purchase her new book Moms Don't Have Time To A Quarantine Anthology, original essays by 60 plus authors from her podcast.

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Today's episode "It's ok, not to be ok” was inspired by Hashtag No Filter's Julie Lauren's recent podcast "If you're going through hell, keep going." We have all experienced low points or even rock bottom. What I've learned while navigating challenging times is "the only way out is through". But what do you do when the emotional piece takes over, and you can't pull yourself up off the floor? In this week's episode, Julie will share her strategies around false narratives, how to avoid tail spinning, and the importance of gaining perspective. Julie will also share dating advice and helpful tips she's learned during these difficult months.

 Julie Lauren is an author, podcaster, writer, and digital strategist. After graduating college in 2008 with a degree in fashion and retail merchandising, Julie immediately jumped into the fashion industry. From 'Intermix' to 'Oscar de la Renta' and then to Petra Nemcova's lifestyle brand. In 2011 she started a lifestyle blog, called initially 'from prosecco to plaid,' and began freelance writing. In 2015 Julie published her first book "Oops!" an insider's guide to dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s. In 2018 she started the podcast "Hashtag No Filter," full of real, raw, funny conversations. 

Today we are going to talk about overcoming setbacks, starting over, and everything in between. Kerry Brett and Julie Lauren cover a lot of ground, topics include:
How to navigate false narratives.
How to stop yourself from tail spinning out of control with negative thoughts.
The importance of taking ownership and accountability.
How to pause instead of being reactive.
The power and strength that comes from being non-reactive.
How to choose to turn the page and move away from feeling down.
The power of being consistent in online dating.
How to avoid people who are just looking for the next best thing.
How to be selective and hold your value.
How to stop dreaming and start getting serious.
How to avoid the dopamine hit when someone matches you.
How to be less emotional and more professional while dating online.
How to run these dating apps like a business so the lows won't destroy your day or how you feel about yourself.
When the emotional side takes over, remember this isn't you and do what you can to have the perspective you once had.
Hold onto your friends tightly, call a friend to put you in your place, and remind you of your worth.
Take your hands off the steering wheel, let go of controlling everyone outcome and let life happen the way it's supposed to happen.
Never get too high on the highs or too low on the lows, and never go off a dating app because a relationship didn't work out. Just keep going!

 To find out more about Julie Lauren, go to www.julielauren.com, or follow Instagram @byjulielauren. Listen to her podcast Hashtag No Filter on all platforms you find podcasts or purchase her book "Oops!", an insider's guide to dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s on Amazon.

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Today's guest is Jordan Harbinger. He's an American Podcaster, Radio Personality, and sought-after speaker. He has the top 10 podcasts in the world, and in 2018, won the award for best of Apple Podcast. He's a relationship expert who has 11 million monthly downloads. Talk about the real deal! The movie Hitch, with Will Smith, was based on his life story. But why I'm such a fan of Jordan is because I can hear his heart on his podcast. When he speaks, you can tell he genuinely cares about others. He believes in giving without gain. If you're looking to build relationships or find a relationship, then this episode is for you.

Jordan Harbinger is a former Wall Street lawyer who learned how to effectively network and build relationships to survive in a competitive industry. Jordan gave up law to do something that he loved podcasting. He started a podcast back in 2006 called "The ART of the Charm," which was pre-online dating when no one even knew what podcasting was. Years and millions of downloads later, he now uses these skills to interview guests on his podcast, the Jordan Harbinger Show, giving listeners insight into becoming a better version of themselves. Forbes named Jordan one of the 50 Best Relationship Builders worldwide. Jordan believes your network is your net worth.

Not only is Jordan super nice, but he's also insanely interesting. He speaks five languages and has been kidnapped twice on two different continents. Jordan even gave tours in North Korea for fun. His relationship and interpersonal relationship skills are so sharp, he's one of the best interviewers globally. Today Jordan will share everything he knows about networking and relationships.

Kerry Brett and Jordan Harbinger cover a lot of ground topics include:
If you act, more confident people will change the way they treat you.
The importance of revision and review. Work on skills your not good at as well as the ones you are good at.
You can act into a newly confident person.
Give without gain, be a giver.
The secret of success is to give without the attachment of getting something in return.
It’s important to figure out the types of things a person is interested in professionally or personally, find a common ground.
How adding value with make a huge difference in connecting with others.
If you are heartbroken, knocked down or need to rebuild or start over don’t skip a beat, do everything you can to get back on your feet. Action ends suffering.
Build a network before you need it.
Never act like anyone owes you a thing. If you act entitled, you will get written off as a “taker”.
Don’t get discouraged. Sometimes you’ll swing and miss but you can always try again later.

If you would like to find out more about Jordan Harbinger, you can listen to his podcast the Jordan Harbinger Show or go to www.jordanharbinger.comand download his free 6 minute networking course.

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This week's episode is "Where Do We Go from Here?" with September 11th Survivor and Photographer Mike Casey. It's January 2021, and it's been a LONG month. Many people are just trying to get by and live their lives the best they can. And many have been forced to rebuild their lives. Today's guest is an expert at starting over.

In the Summer of 2001, Mike Casey had just landed a top position at the largest advertising firm in New England. And TJX Companies had newly created a position for his beautiful young wife, Neilie.  On September 11th, Neilie was on American Airlines Flight 11 when it was flown into the North Tower of the World Trade Center. Mike's life as he knew it…was over. On September 12th, he had no choice but to continue on and take care of their 7-month old baby girl, Riley. Mike explains how he dealt with the loss, picked up the pieces to create a new life, and how he found love again.

For the Casey’s, life was better than good. Together, they were on top of the world. Both had great new jobs.  They had a beautiful baby, little Riley.  A new home. They were happy. When Mike found himself at the center of 911, whether he knew it or not, he found a way to navigate this epic tragedy, an event that would change his life forever. He had to rethink life for his daughter and him. In the days following 911, Mike Casey was determined not to be a victim of that day. And instead, he proudly calls himself a survivor. 

And yes, Mike did find love again.  In 2005, he married WBZ-TV Channel 4 news anchor Lisa Hughes in her home state of Idaho. Lisa adopted Riley.  And, ten years later after 911, Lisa and Mike adopted a newborn baby boy they named Dylan. Mike also changed careers leaving the advertising world for photography. Almost twenty years ago, his life was in shambles, but I can safely say, he in fact did not let 911 define him. 

Kerry Brett and Mike Casey cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
When faced with tragedy or loss rely on three things; faith, family and friends.
Find yourself a great therapist and peel back that onion.
The importance of good-byes.
When overcoming something major lose deadlines or timelines.
The importance of moving forward rather than moving on.
Why having zero expectations helps when dating.
Take things, an hour at a time, 30 minutes at a time, or better yet live moment to moment and do the best you can to stay in the present. 
Keep leaning on people. Let people in, that is the key, learn to let others in.
Give yourself permission to grieve, be afraid, make mistakes. There is no handbook, for surviving a pandemic. We are all trying to figure it out. Allow yourself some grace.
When you lose hope or are filled with despair. Remember you’ve got your whole life ahead of you.
After, this pandemic, our lives will never be the same, but you will be happy again. 

For more information on Mike Casey, you can find him at www.caseyphotography.net or follow on Instagram @caseyphoto101.

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Do you fear joining a dating site or fear online dating in general? Then this episode is for you! Get ready to face your fears head-on and stop limiting your potential. Today's guest is Diana Morris, she's a clarity coach, and she's going to help us remove blocks while showing us how to become fearless in finding love. When we come back, Diana will discuss why it's our responsibility to recognize the fear and do it anyway because the possibility of what could go right outweighs what could go wrong.

Diana was a high performer who excelled at her job but found herself in a situation of no fault of her own. The College that Diana worked for did some unforeseen restructuring, and the result was she was laid off. She knew it was her responsibility to create the life she wanted to live. Since that moment of truth––she started two businesses, wrote and published numerous books, became a Clarity Coach––while traveling the world as a keynote speaker. 

Diana is a genius!  She can help people who feel stuck better than anyone I know. Many of us have experienced the loss of a job or a relationship during this Pandemic. Life felt out of our control for many reasons in 2020, but this is a New Year with new goals. We will discuss why many people feel terrified or even paralyzed when deciding to join online dating. I will share a recent coaching call with Diana and discuss how I face fears myself.

Diana and I cover a lot of ground and topics include:

Fear isn't real; it's an illusion.
It is our responsibility to show up so the universe can guide that right person towards you.
If you want to change your life dramatically, it requires you to get uncomfortable by doing something you've never done before.
Look at what is possible, what will go right instead of looking at what can go wrong.
You are already more ready than you give yourself credit for.
Sometimes people get so caught up in EVERYTHING working they forget they just need something to work.
Remember that you're not looking for 100 percent yes, your just looking for one yes that might start an exciting and beautiful chapter.
Congratulate yourself on progress and wins.

Diana helps others navigate through transitions, pinpoint what they want in their lives, and show them how they can get it. To find out more about Diana Morris, she can be found on www.dianaramorris.com or on Instagram @dianaramorris.

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Looking for love in 2021? This episode is for you. Today’s guest is well-known astrologer and psychic healer Jill Jardine, who will be sharing her love forecast for the New Year. She will discuss what the new year will bring romantically while pinpointing months that are best to jump online. Did you know the first Sunday of the new year kicks off peak online dating season? It’s go time and time to rock and roll. This year will be action packed, and Jill will share why we should look forward to the summer of love. 2021 is the year for daters, not haters, and a great year to manifest a new love interest.

Jill Jardine has a Master’s in psychology; she’s a professional Astrologer, Psychic Healer, and Yogi. She’s hosts the Cosmic Scene Radio show on WATD 95.9 FM and just reached over 10,000 downloads with her new hit podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. If something needs to change, but you’re unsure what to do or when to do it? A reading with Jill will result in you having at least one clear directive toward a more positive and focused future. When I was in transition and dating, I solely relied on Jill’s wisdom and guidance. This episode will get you excited to date in 2021.

Kerry Brett and Jill Jardine cover a lot of ground on this episode, topics include; 
2021 is an excellent year to connect on dating sites, and later in the year, it will be great time to connect in person.
2021 will be a very social year despite the pandemic.
Relationships can happen instantly this year.
The apps will be on fire in February, especially around the new moon on February 11th.
Get clear on how you want life to look, relationships, and otherwise.
Cast the widest net, don’t be closed off, and open yourself up to multiple dating ups.
February will be a fun fest. People will be ready to bust loose, and they will be more willing to take risks.
The spring equinox is a great time to start something new because it will have staying power.
The summer of 2021 will be a lovefest.
There will be more socialization online, and making connections will be enhanced this year.

To find out more about Jill, head to jilljardineastrology.com, listen to her podcast The Cosmic with Jill Jardine, or tune in to her radio show Cosmic Scene on Sundays at 11 AM on WATD 95.9 FM.

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Today's guest is Christine Handy, the best-selling author of Walk Beside Me. She's a mother, model, cancer survivor, and motivational speaker. At the age of 40, she was in the fight of her life. You find out the true character of a person in a crisis. Christine will share valuable insights gained through her difficult journey, what she's learned about herself in 2020, and how to set ourselves up for success in the New Year. Christine didn't let the pain of the past paralyze her. Instead, she used it to propel herself into the future. She will discuss what it takes to push through hard times to brave the world of online dating.

Christine Handy is an accomplished model for brands like Guess, JCREW, Target, and Pepsi, to name a few. In 2012, Christine was married with two children living in Dallas. She had a picture-perfect life. Christine had a routine surgery that left her arm nearly destroyed, then was diagnosed with cancer. She survived 28 rounds of chemo and 21 surgeries. Christine went from planning her suicide to becoming a National Best-Selling author of the book "Walk Beside Me," which is in the process of becoming a movie. Today she devotes her life to helping others. She's a humanitarian; Harvard recently named her a Global Ambassador. She's also a spokesperson for cancer and an expert on CBS, NBC, Fox, and BuzzFeed. Christine is a champion for others and a survivor through and through. This episode with leave you beyond inspired.

Kerry Brett and Christine Handy cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
Your value isn't on the external; beauty is on the inside.
How to handle trauma after horrible things happen.
The importance of aligning yourself with good people.
Reaching out and connecting with others supports our emotional well being.
How to shift your perspective from loneliness to courage.
How to choose faith over fear.
The importance of showing up for yourself.
The importance of being hopeful and optimistic in the New Year.
Surround yourself with good people. People who want to help you move forward. Anything is possible if you have the right people around you.
Step by step, walk into your future. Walking is action, just like swiping and action creates reaction.
Check your ego at the door when dating; if you don't, your dating journey will be more complicated than it needs to be.
Look at dating as a game, and don't take it so seriously.

 For more information on Christine Handy, you find her at www.christinehandy.com. Instagram @christinehandy1.

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