Show Up with Sarah

Welcome to another episode of the Show Up with Sarah Podcast! 

Today’s episode is for those of you who watch Love is Blind. The coach in me really wants to discuss regression that is present in one of the characters of the show. If you don’t know Love is Blind, can you fall in love with a person whom you haven’t seen yet? As controversial as that plot is, we will talk about regression as a defense mechanism that is destructive for a person.

Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 08:59] Opening Segment 

• Listen to this excerpt of the show I was watching
  • If you know, you know
  • The idea of Love is Blind
  • The bad guy meets a girl 

• Where things went downhill

• but – today’s not just ALL about Love is blind
• • Let’s look at the example we just saw in that

[09:00 - 22:27] How Shake responded to his pain

• A person of color in this country can feel inadequate
• • Where the pain came from for this guy
• Meeting someone who receives you from where you are
• • She created a soft space for this person
  • When the girl said no
• Regressing happens more with men
• • Men are more selective with who they want to marry
  • What is regression?

[22:28 - 32:53] Self-sabotage 

• Survival tactics for a healthy and an unhealthy person
• • Shake was on a high-alert
  • His reaction is a place of survival
• If I were to be Shake’s coach
• • Let’s get to the root
• Stop it when it gets destructive to you

[32:54 - 34:11] Closing Segment

• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Final words

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

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Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Tweetable Quotes:

“Can real, true love be based on not seeing them? Not of looks?” - Sarah Hipps

“She rejected him, and he did what so many people do: he, a 1000% regressed back to the form of him that cannot get hurt.’” - Sarah Hipps

“Women are more prepared for heartache, and men just aren’t. - Sarah Hipps

Steven Knight is the owner and creator of The Knight Show LLC. a podcast and production company he established while serving on active duty in the US Coast Guard in 2015. Raised in southern Maryland, Steven has always been a proponent of personal development and self inquiry hosting guests from across the globe covering a wide array of topics including the political rights, history, and future of indigenous people in Alaska and the pacific island of West Papua as they fight for social and environmental justice. Men’s mental & emotional health and the effects of single parenthood. 

Music & culture and the importance of sex positivity in our society. All the while centering this narrative from the perspective of an omnipresent timeline. His perspective having served in the military for almost 2 decades traveling the world throughout Asia and the Pacific, Central America, South America and the Caribbean lends to his global perspective on humanity, community, and self determination with his often heard motto “Create Yourself.” The Knight Show exists to hold space for conversations that show the divine in all of us and elevate our society through collaboration.

Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 27:18] Opening Segment 

• Steven shares about his evolution as a person
• • His family’s military and Christian background
  • When Steven stopped practicing “Christianity”
• The defining moment for Steven
• • Inquisitive attitude, searching for knowledge
• Dealing with “but you’re black, right?”
• Throw ideas in the garbage
• Trying to find a black identity
• • A lighter skin is a privilege
  • How Steven takes care of his mental health
  • Racists do not come from low-level class of people

[27:19 - 48:42] Let’s talk about Race and Mental Health

• People of color’s journey
• • Black people’s suffering is specified
  • Asians have experienced racism more because of the pandemic
  • Black is not a bad word
• Understanding the difference between “it is what it is” and what’s not normal
• • Black trauma is monetized in this country
  • An unhealthy anxiety
  • Depression is a “white” problem
• Steven’s conversation with men about mental health

[48:43 - 01:09:45] Soft Spaces for Men

• Key things to do to achieve this space
• • Men can cry too
• What being soft looks like for Steven
• Show Up for other men

[01:09:46 - 01:13:54] Closing Segment

• How Steven desires to better show up for himself and for others
• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Final words

Connect with Steven:

Shoot him an email at [email protected]

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

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• Facebook
• YouTube
• Linktree

Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Tweetable Quotes:

“It’s one thing to be protected psychologically, physically, and spiritually by your parents, it’s another thing to take what you know or what you’ve been programmed with and take on to the world.” - Steven Knight

“There’s so many things we need to divorce ourselves from that’s not our culture.’” - Steven Knight

“We have to rationalize our level of anxiety or paranoia or rage or fear.” - Sarah Hipps

Our amazing guest for today is Troy Blyden who is a Professional Athlete, content creator, and a clothing designer. Let’s learn about the beauty of imperfect confidence. Shall we?

Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 10:18] Opening Segment 

• How Troy became a General at HarlemGlobeTrotters
• Some things Troy could have done differently
• What made Troy get the message out to people
• • Imperfection is not bad 
  • Creating something more than meaningful

[10:19 - 22:48] Reason behind Troy’s Passion

• The active ways Troy show’s up for other people
• • Giving back is a fulfillment
  • Spreading positivity and leading by example
• No one is really paying attention to you!
• • You do you
• How Troy reaches the youth
• • It’s selfish not to share. Speak out!
  • Figure life out as you grow
  • One person who receives a positive message is enough
• Kids needs to be felt understood
• • What affects a child’s confidence and growth

[22:49 - 36:18] Showing Up as a Grown (and experienced) Adult

• Troy is a work in progress
• • Not afraid to be himself
  • Your voice has a meaning
• What is the impact Troy wants to be known for after he dies
• (im)perfect’s futures
• • The message of the brand
• How Troy got to where he is today
• A realization about being honest with yourself

[36:19 - 48:03] Where is Troy headed now

• Struggling to get to where he needs to be
• Living in the moment
• Give yourself grace to move forward
• A lack of confidence and the answer to the problem
• A powerful moment

[48:04 - 53:27] Closing Segment

• How Troy desires to better show up for himself
• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Subscribe to the podcast and follow me through the links below
• Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“When you’re young, when you have less responsibilities, when you’re a kid, it’s like you wanna double down on these passions and really pursue them because it can just blossom into what they call a job, and it won’t feel like work.” - Troy Blyden

“Social media is always such an experiment.” - Sarah Hipps

“I haven’t figured it all out. I’m just living this human experience with everybody else.’” - Troy Blyden

“If you focus on everybody’s perception of you, you’re not going to get anything done.’” - Troy Blyden

Connect with Troy’s personal social media

Instagram: (@troyblyden) https://instagram.com/troyblyden?utm_medium=copy_link

YouTube: (Troy Blyden) https://youtube.com/c/TroyBlyden

TikTok: @troyblyden) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdjb5J4x/

Twitter: (@TBlyden)

Clothing: https://troyblyden.com/

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Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

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• YouTube
• Linktree

Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Nadiya came to Show Up with Sarah to discuss some specific pain points, and what we came away with were some realizations about how she prioritizes herself and where she finds her worth. Listen along to find out how both Sarah and Nadiya showed up for this conversation and open session.

Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 16:20] Opening Segment 

• What’s our Open Opportunity Session all about
• Nadiya’s mental health diagnosis
• A history of trauma
• • Nadiya wants to figure out how to move past these traumas
  • Helping others is Nadiya’s mission
• What keeps Nadiya from moving past these traumas
• A burden to others
• • Showing up for people but they won’t do the same
  • When did it start feeling burdensome
• Correcting the misconception

[16:21 - 34:46] A child dealing with adult things

• Mourning about something properly
• A pattern with Nadiya’s romantic relationships
• • Not meeting their fathers
  • An emotional disconnect
• Do you cry for yourself?
• Hiding what the truth is from everyone
• • There’s no a lightswitch we can click quickly
• Are your friends tired of the stories you tell?
• • Some immediate things
  • Don’t hold into survival mode too long

[34:47 - 46:00] Living beyond the trauma, loving yourself

• Don’t victim shame yourself!
• • It’s not your fault
• Finding a secure, great love
• • Why are you looking for that love?
  • Why are you still in the survival phase?
• Knowing the big questions
• • Not always knowing the answers

[46:01 - 55:45] Closing Segment

• Sarah reminds Nadiya of the things she need to think about
• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Subscribe to the podcast and follow me through the links below
• Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“There's a difference between liking and loving yourself. I cannot like myself today even though I love myself.” - Sarah Hipps 

“If you feel that I’m a burden, you’re not my person.” - Sarah Hipps

“A healthy person doesn’t watch a friend go through things and immediately say, ‘nothing I’m going through is valid now.’ A healthy person goes, ‘wow, I’m happy for them, my life is still valid, and they are just experiencing some big things.’” - Sarah Hipps

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

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Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Welcome to another episode of the Show Up with Sarah Podcast! Today’s amazing guest is Julius Johnson.

Born and raised in Denver, CO, Julius has countless crazy opinions about society. Julius enjoys having high level conversations with people of all walks of life. When he's not at his day job, he is putting all his controversial takes on his new podcast, Toxic Tangents, where he loves discussing everything from pop culture to relationships.

Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 21:18] Opening Segment 

• Welcome to the episode!
• I introduce today’s guest to the show, Julius
• What made Julius do the show
• Who is Julius
• Body positivity and other marketing schemes
• Losing weight and intrinsic motivation 
• Careless about others opinion
• Opposite sex attraction and showing up for someone

[21:19 - 47:49] Men are persons first

• Men and mental health 
• • Julius was given DWAI
• Soft space without safe spaces
• When was the last time Julius cried
• Avoiding to show vulnerability
• Black community and masculinity
• Privileges regardless of race and gender
• Prejudice and Racism
• Ways women can show up for men
• Listen, show, communicate
• Affectionate gesture that makes Julius let down his guard
• Showing up for other men more
• Discovering and keeping a high-level conversation group

[47:50 - 50:35] Closing Segment

• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Subscribe to the podcast and follow me through the links below
• Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“There’s a correlation between BMI. Overweight BMI or Obese BMI with health complications.” - Julius Johnson

“That’s why men keep from showing certain emotions; it's because we have people relying on us, you know. Like, we gotta hold it down.” - Julius Johnson

“Actions speak louder than words. You can say that all you want, but obviously we’re not gonna listen to that until you show it.” - Julius Johnson

connect with Julius:

[email protected]

Instagram: @ToxicTangentsPod

www.ToxicTangents.com

Checkout his podcast on all major platforms

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

• Instagram
• Facebook
• YouTube
• Linktree

Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power! 

Welcome to another episode of the Show Up with Sarah Podcast!

Today’s guest is my friend, Nicolette Bernardes. This episode is the Part 2 of “Creating a Safe Container for People to be Honest” episode that aired last week. Here’s a bit about Nicolette:

Nicolette Bernardes is many things; wild woman on a journey; truth seeker + speaker, artist, writer, emotional body healing guide to name a few. She creates and holds space— inviting us to explore what our own authentic Truth is, and empowering a reconnection to that truth. She is the human behind Soul Filled Space LLC, a container for exploration, healing and growth to take place as well as the voice and creator of Relentlessly Authentic Radio— a podcast created with the intention to bring humanity back into the forefront, through talking about all human things…

Over the last decade, she has coached others through, as well as embarked on her own deep physical, emotional, and spiritual healing journey. Her purpose in this life is to experience the full depths and spectrum of humanity, allowing herself to feel it personally and through witnessing those around her. In turn, she is able to guide others’ on their unique journey home to their authentic self, empowering and inspiring them to take ownership of their emotions and healing journey; helping them to recognize that they have the power to transform their lives from within and teaching them how to access this power.

Her current client work includes 1:1 Release + Reconnect integrated healing sessions and Sacred Wheel Journeys, utilizing the practice of Experiential Astrology. She is also creator and facilitator of Soul Filled Space retreats and workshops [coming 2022]

Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 00:37] Opening Segment 

• Welcome to the episode!
• We continue our conversation with Nicolette

[00:38 - 39:33] A Healing, Safe Space with Nicolette

• Lovingly hold the part of yourself
• Birth is traumatic
• Sensitivity is a challenge and a superpower
• We have a fluid Energy
• True and authentic reaction
• Men have had a lot of trauma under women too
• How has Nicolette evolved from who she was before?
• Don’t shame others for their experiences
• I and Nicolette share our personal experiences of assault
• Truth is not comfortable

[39:34 - 46:05] Closing Segment

• How Nicolette wants to better show up for herself and others
• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Subscribe to the podcast and follow me through the links below
• Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“The reason that birth is so traumatic is because we come out from this nice little, cozy, warm, dark space in the womb out into this cluster of this world.” - Nicolette Bernardes

“We are not designed to sit still, we are designed to move.” - Nicolette Bernardes

“If this was relaxation I have never experienced relaxation before.” - Nicolette Bernardes

connect with her:

www.nicolettebernardes.com

@relentlesslyauthentic https://www.instagram.com/relentlesslyauthentic/

@soulfilledspace https://www.instagram.com/soulfilledspace/

Checkout her podcast on all major platforms

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

• Instagram
• Facebook
• YouTube
• Linktree

Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Welcome to another episode of the Show Up with Sarah Podcast!

Today’s guest is my friend, Nicolette Bernardes. 

Nicolette Bernardes is many things; wild woman on a journey; truth seeker + speaker, artist, writer, emotional body healing guide to name a few. She creates and holds space— inviting us to explore what our own authentic Truth is, and empowering a reconnection to that truth. She is the human behind Soul Filled Space LLC, a container for exploration, healing and growth to take place as well as the voice and creator of Relentlessly Authentic Radio— a podcast created with the intention to bring humanity back into the forefront, through talking about all human things…

Over the last decade, she has coached others through, as well as embarked on her own deep physical, emotional, and spiritual healing journey. Her purpose in this life is to experience the full depths and spectrum of humanity, allowing herself to feel it personally and through witnessing those around her. In turn, she is able to guide others’ on their unique journey home to their authentic self, empowering and inspiring them to take ownership of their emotions and healing journey; helping them to recognize that they have the power to transform their lives from within and teaching them how to access this power.

Her current client work includes 1:1 Release + Reconnect integrated healing sessions and Sacred Wheel Journeys, utilizing the practice of Experiential Astrology. She is also creator and facilitator of Soul Filled Space retreats and workshops [coming 2022]

Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 07:08] Opening Segment 

• Welcome to the episode!
• I introduce our topic for the episode 
• I introduce the guest for today’s show
• I reminisce life with Nicholette

[07:09 - 33:48] Safe and Comfortable Spaces for You

• What Nicholette does in life
• Geeking about the astrological stuff
• What serves a purpose for you at this moment?
• Safe Spaces vs. Soft Spaces
• Not only “hear”, but “here”
• Being aware of your vulnerability
• It always starts with yourself
• Emotional expressions as manipulation
• Recognizing and Accepting who you are

[33:49 - 34:23] Closing Segment

• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Subscribe to the podcast and follow me through the links below
• Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“I create and hold space.” - Nicolette Bernardes

“What are the spaces you can share more of your inner self?” - Nicolette Bernardes

 “We all have the [twelve] signs within us. It’s like a blueprint essentially of our psyche’s.” - Nicolette Bernardes

connect with her:

www.nicolettebernardes.com

@relentlesslyauthentic https://www.instagram.com/relentlesslyauthentic/

@soulfilledspace https://www.instagram.com/soulfilledspace/

Checkout her podcast on all major platforms

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

• Instagram
• Facebook
• YouTube
• Linktree

Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Welcome to another episode of the Show Up with Sarah Podcast! Today will be a solo episode.

I want to read to you an excerpt from my upcoming book "Get Out of Your Own Way: A Guide To Showing Up Better." If you have that level of freshness to the things about to happen to you this year, don’t waste that. Make sure that you look at the present too, and let yourself breathe from shielding yourself all the time.

Let’s dive in! 

[00:01 - 01:57] Opening Segment 

• Welcome to the episode!
• I introduce our topic for the episode 
• We’re all on to a fresh start this new year
• Let’s start this year with full understanding of ourselves

[01:58 - 08:49] The First Reading

• Traumatic events and coping with it
• Saying enough to rejection
• Self-sabotage and your second self
• Creating a new reality for ourselves
• Our myopic view eats us
• Choose to take off that label
• I am very proud of you!
• What sight and vision does

[08:50 - 10:55] Closing Segment

• You needed to protect the vulnerable you
• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Subscribe to the podcast and follow me through the links below
• Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“We all have that second self that begins as a small voice of reluctance, and turns into an overpowering voice of fear and absolute self-doubt.” - Sarah Hipps

“The reality is the part of ourselves that lives to protect us from pain and disappointment was created by ourselves.” - Sarah Hipps

 “Multiple realities exist outside of the one we’ve chosen to own as ours.” - Sarah Hipps

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

• Instagram
• Facebook
• YouTube
• Linktree

Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!