Show Up with Sarah

As a solopreneur, I know it is easy to become so fixated on your goals and vision that you lose track of maintaining other healthful habits. One being, connecting with others in a non-work capacity.

This episode discusses loneliness, the various forms it presents as, and how we are our best selves when we allow slowing down for human touch and support.

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What William Spencer does is impressive and quite literally one-of-a-kind. Who he is though, is the real story. Sit and listen as William dives into the foundation of his passion, the journey he takes within himself and his form of art every single day, and how he endeavors to show up to prove impossible is simply what hasn't been done yet. Stuntman, actor, filmmaker, and skateboard professional known for making Spiderman look as incredible as he is drawn and bringing a new world of depth to skateboarding, William is a Thrasher Magazine name and the athleticism behind some of the most incredible scenes you've seen without knowing who performed them. William leaves you with the simple question: are you pushing yourself to discover your best, especially when it resides behind fear of failure?

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Sarah is releasing a new series called "90 and 90" which is based on the pillars of self-love, letting go, vision, and boundaries. The goal is to constantly grow and improve herself and her clients. Today’s discussion is about how to maintain a level of self-awareness by always being honest with yourself and others. Despite how we may feel about certain things, it is important to recognize that our level of self-awareness is different than that of most people and is not pretentious. Sarah encourages others to set boundaries for themselves and live a good life. 

[00:01 - 04:28] Opening Segment

• The new series “90 and 90”
• based on the five pillars of self-love, letting go, vision and boundaries, and brutal honesty
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• Having a to-do list, and then breaking it down into four quadrants
• Moving from quadrant to quadrant

[10:26 - 23:38] Relationship with Money Can Affect Your Success

• Giving back to the community and friends
• Clients often have a problem with money because of their beliefs about money
• Letting go of a lifelong held belief
• Pushing a client when they want to pull back is important
• Mental health and physical health can both improve when you are consistent with your workouts or exercises
• There's no excuse for cheap meals

[23:39 - 28:48] Leveling Up: Becoming Consistent in Your Standards

• Showing up by having a no workday
• Boundaries must be set from the beginning in order to be effectively implemented
• Asking for help when struggling
• The importance of being firm with oneself

[28:49 - 29:50] SarahHP: Facing Self Sabotage, I Become Healthy

• A sneak peek of Sarah’s upcoming two-week program on self-sabotage

Quotes:

"When we are inconsistent, we are not showing up for ourselves." - Sarah Hipps

"What would your physical health look like? What would your body look like? What would your choices of food look like if you are dedicating an hour every single day to moving your body and challenging it? What was your opinion of yourself? How would that change over 90 days?" - Sarah Hipps

"When you start to build boundaries and you start to set them, you will not implement them the first time. You won't implement them the second time. And you may not implement them fully the 18th time." - Sarah Hipps

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Jenn Roubal is an entrepreneur who believes that it is important to maintain a positive attitude and to not get too caught up in the negative aspects of being successful. As a professional wedding planner, Jenn talks about how it is important to maintain a good composure even when things are going bad and to not give up. Jenn shares the challenges that she has faced, and teaches us how to overcome those in order to achieve success. Let’s jump right in and learn about self-care and how to focus on your own happiness!

[00:01 - 18:05] Opening Segment

• I introduce Jenn to the show
• Jenn's wedding planning tips for intersex nonbinary folks
• Being a wedding planner after working in the entertainment industry
• The most complicated thing of wedding planning: Decisions
• How to better desire to show up for yourself

[17:44 - 45:12] Forgiveness and Avoiding Self-Sabotage

• Jenn’s brother’s addiction and its implications
• Forgiveness
• Understanding addiction and its mental health effects
• An addict’s struggle for honesty
• Alcoholism and Sex Addiction

[45:13 - 53:00] What Is a Good Friend?

• Sarah talks about accepting that not everyone is going to be there for her
• The difficulty of being a good friend
• You have a good and an evil side inside of you
• Generosity 
• Selfishness, anger, resentment, and regret

[53:01 - 60:09] Wedding Planning and Relationships

• Wedding planning is a process that changes over time
• Depression and its implications in relationships
• Dealing with unresponsive friends

[60:10 - 81:11] Closing Segment

• Final words
• Connect with Jen!
• See links below

Quotes:

 "I try to invest into myself as much as I invest into others and my couples. I meditate every morning, and I used to do it here and there, but I made myself meditate to have a peace of mind."

You can connect with Jenn through Instagram and Facebook, or you can visit www.annaraeevents.com.

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Sabrina Skiles is a cancer survivor who started a blog in order to help others who are going through similar experiences. She discusses how she feels alone and lost after her diagnosis, and how she wants to help others regain their sense of self-care. Sabrina shares her story in order to revitalize the conversation around cancer care. The goal of this conversation is for the speaker to learn how to better serve themselves so that they can better care for others.

[00:04 - 02:39] Opening Segment

• I welcome Sabrina to the show
• Sense of isolation after being diagnosed with breast cancer

• Helping others lead a life without self-sabotage

• Learning how to do a self breast exam 

• Sabrina shares how cancer can be a “calm-before-the-storm” experience

[13:33 - 17:24] Mental and Emotional Effects of Cancer

• Cancer can be a traumatic experience emotionally
• Vulnerability as a key to build stronger relationships

• The importance of having open conversations with friends and family about cancer

[29:31 - 33:17] Emotional Support After Being Diagnosed

• The importance of mental health professionals after diagnosis
• Sabrina shares her experiences going through chemotherapy and radiation therapy
• Utilizing social media to spread awareness on cancer
• Having a community of people who support each other
• The importance of honesty when it comes to sharing your struggles
• Embracing both sides of vanity/mental health coin
•  there is no one-size-fits-all approach to managing mental health

[56:13 - 63:39] Closing Segment

• Honesty in expressing your feelings

• Sabrina emphasizes the importance of self-care

• Meditation
• Reflection
• Journaling
• Final words
• See links below to connect with Jenn!

Quotes:

"If you have breasts, you have a risk of getting breast cancer." - Sabrina Skiles

"It's like you're sitting in your life so calmly, and then somebody just comes and shakes it for you, and then you have no idea what's going to happen with all these things in the air." - Sabrina Skiles

"It's okay to mourn what your life would have been if those things didn't take place." - Sabrina Skiles

"Sometimes God gives us a mountain just so other people can see that it can be carried or crossed." - Sarah Hipps

"Sometimes we don't need words. We just need somebody to say, yeah, this sucks. Yeah, it sucks. What do you need from me? What can I do to help you get through this?" - Sabrina Skiles

You can connect with Jenn through Instagram and Twitter, or you can visit https://www.annaraeevents.com/.

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

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Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

In this episode, I will discuss how self-sabotage can be a way to avoid feelings of fear or insecurity. I will offer advice on how to overcome rationalization, which is a knee-jerk response to avoid these feelings. I will also share how we have three voices inside of us and that our head usually just gives logical reasons for things on either side, but our heart is usually the one keeping us where we are. If we want to work on overcoming self sabotage, we need to set boundaries and figure out who we want to become and then build processes in place to help us get there.

[00:04 - 01:51] Opening Segment

• Rationalizing wrong decisions
• Attempting to justify inappropriate behaviors

[03:29 - 05:48] Rationalization

• Slow down and question your decisions
• Ask yourself if you are moving forward or staying where you are
• Strip the emotions; listen to the true logic of things
• Allow yourself to truly hear yourself

• Rationalization is avoiding “better” by naming it “hard”

• Becoming aware of your potential and never meeting it

[08:30 - 10:09] Closing Segment

• Overcome self-sabotage and achieve your goals
• Final words

Quotes:

"You have to keep running to outrun the beasts, but you're also trying to figure out what will happen once you get to the cliff. As you get closer, you see that there are pillars set up to allow you to cross the Canyon. You're deathly scared of heights, and the idea of having to jump from pillar to pillar is something you can't fathom doing. What other options do you have?" - Sarah Hipps

"At some point you have to become more stricter with yourself. Set boundaries, figure out who you want to become and then put processes in place to build towards it." - Sarah Hipps

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So what does it feel like to cry? And how do we relate to crying in our culture or within our family or friends? It's really about opening up and being vulnerable and learning about ourselves. In today’s episode, I welcome Cyrus Henry to share with us how he is promoting vulnerability and openness towards emotions in a world of toxic masculinity. In this episode, we talk about why it's important for men to learn how to cry, and how this process of self-discovery can open up a pathway for them to connect with their emotions, their spiritual essence, and their physicality. We also discuss the importance of taking on a more supportive role in our relationships with others, and how alcohol and violence can be symptomatic of underlying shame or fear.

[00:04 - 09:24] Opening Segment

• Helping men learn about themselves and develop their own individual dreams
• Cyrus talks about the Haka dance and its significance
• Connection between men and masculinity
• They need safe ways to express their anger in a healthy way

[09:25 - 21:06] Growing Up In Today’s Society

• Cyrus talks about some of his childhood experiences
• Men and women’s need to be aware of their masculine and feminine qualities
• Creating psychological safety for themselves and their partners

[21:07 - 24:39] Breaking Gender-Specific Roles

• We talk about how being the provider is not always a man’s job
• The effects of having a female provider

[27:52 - 36:25]

• Men need to be held accountable for their actions 
• They also need a safe space to work on their issues
• Men can benefit from working on anger and releasing it safely.
• Men need to be educated about their emotions
• Cyrus’ retreat program
• Using emotional release techniques to help men and women connect more effectively

[36:25 - 37:33] Closing Segment

• Final words
• See links below to know more about Cyrus!

Quotes:

"It's a bit of both people designing a deeper awareness of their masculine qualities and how to access and soften into the feminine qualities." - Cyrus Henry

"When I work with men, it's kind of like…bringing awareness to emotions and naming emotions." - Cyrus Henry

You can connect with Henry by visiting https://www.tamataane.com, or you can follow him through his socials:

Instagram

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Our society could sometimes be oversimplified and narrow-minded when it comes to certain traditions. We are taught that hitting your child is always because of their love, no matter what. But this isn't always ideal or necessary. 

In today's episode, I'll be sharing the impact of culture on how we communicate. Negative ideas, and how not questioning them can lead to problems down the line.

There's a reason why we're defending something and it doesn't always have to do with our comfort level. It's important to ask ourselves why we're doing this and if there's a better answer than just "It's fine for me." There are valid reasons for why we do such things, but the real question is, isn't there another way that won't result in physical and psychological consequences?

[00:04 - 07:05] Opening Segment

• Defending things in our lives that don't need defending
• Physical discipline in children
• Hazing: does the benefits outweigh the consequences?

[07:06 - 19:06] Weighing the Benefits vs. the Risks

• Hazing as a way to build bonds, but could be humiliating and dangerous
• Hitting as a sign of love amongst parents
• What is worth defending?
• How narrow-mindedness prevents us from being better

[19:07 - 28:11] Rational and Emotional

• Rational self - knows what is best for the situation
• Emotional self - defends what is perceived as necessary
• The importance of being honest with yourself
• Recognizing being defensive

[28:12 - 29:49] Closing Segment

• Final words
• Watch out for future episodes

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Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Quotes:

"When we defend things, our thoughts, our beliefs, our ideals, our actions should legitimately be questioned. And if we don't have real answers for them, then you're just defending something that you just don't have to." - Sarah Hipps

"There are plenty of things that I have lived through that I don't think anybody should have to live through. And our narrow sidedness of not recognizing if there are different paths to the same thing, even if it makes us uncomfortable, it needs to be explored." - Sarah Hipps

Welcome to another episode of the Show Up with Sarah Podcast! 

Ned W. Schaut has a mission to redefine fatherhood. He is a husband to one beauty, a father to five fun kiddos, and a friend to many. He is an Author, Podcast Host, and small business owner. He lives in Kona, Hawaii and can be found outside exploring new things with his family. Ned has found his greatest opportunity to leave a mark on this earth by embracing his role and opportunity as a father. He wants to help other fathers make that same discovery to enjoy their adventure of fatherhood and be proud of the legacy they will leave future generations. He believes every father who embraces their role intentionally will change the world for generations to come. 

In 2019 he wrote a book called Rebel & Create: A Compass for the Craft of Fatherhood. Following the release of his book he launched the Fatherhood Field Notes podcast. In this podcast he uncovers real, authentic, and messy stories from everyday life creating an opportunity for men on the adventure of fatherhood to learn from each other's wins and losses. From the momentum of his book he created the Fatherhood Legacy Journal which is a daily journal to engage fathers. This project was successfully funded through a Kickstarter Campaign, the journals were printed and shipped for January 2020. He embraces this global mantra daily: Rebel against the view that our actions as fathers have little impact, together we will Create lives engaged in mastering the craft of fatherhood…this will Redefine Fatherhood.

 Let’s dive in! 

[00:01 - 10:27] Opening Segment 

• When your surname is a natural pun
• Why Ned wants to talk about Fatherhood
• • Surviving journey as a father of 5
  • Ned’s desires came true as a father
• The answer to why dads do not step into their role

[10:28 - 20:20] An extra layer of soft space for fathers

• Being vulnerable and showing up for youths
• • Men must balance their vulnerability and strength
  • Be curious with men’s group 
• Ned showing up as himself
• Ways they can fathers invite themselves in
• • Men need to be needed 
  • Dudes feel alone - more than all of us know

 [20:21 - 33:53] A constant surrender

• Some men get angry when called to attention
• • Let the dads fulfill their role
  • There’s zero destination for most people
• What Ned is up to right now
• • Men, realize who you really are
  • Please wait for Ned’s children’s books
  • A long, good marriage is possible

 [33:54 - 39:21] Closing Segment

• What masculinity means for Ned 
• • Ned is compassionate
• How Ned wants to show up for others and himself
• Final words
• Watch out for the upcoming episodes

Connect with Ned:

Visit his website www.rebelandcreate.com

Tedx Talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1L3cr-W8BGo&t=1s

Follow his Instagram and shoot him an email at [email protected]

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Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Tweetable Quotes:

“I have a great dad. He was always there for me.” - Ned W. Schaut

“I’ve always been a good dad, but in 2015 when this 36,000 sq. ft. building just fell apart, my identity was taken away. With that and through a lot of self reflection and lots of long walks on the beach, I realized that those desires that I have as a man, I want to be respected, valued, needed, loved, and know that I’m leaving a mark on this Earth.” - Ned W. Schaut

“The mom needs to give the dad some space to try to take advice and not do it her way every time. Let it happen and let them figure it out.” - Ned W. Schaut

Welcome to another episode of the Show Up with Sarah Podcast! 

Today, we'll listen to a coach's honest and vulnerable approach to enlighten and encourage coaches who might have been discouraged by life's blows. Here's a bit about Jordan:

Jordan Pendleton is passionate about helping purpose-driven Financial Advisors create authentic, sustainable, soul-fulfilling success! Through her podcast, online courses, and coaching programs, Jordan guides others to uncover their authentic message and tell their story to attract their people and make the income AND impact they truly desire. Her passion and drive stem from her own pain of working around the clock to build a successful financial planning business in her 20s - only to find herself feeling empty and that her success was only surface level. Jordan knew there was more to life and more to business than she was experiencing. She has spent the last 5+ years discovering the keys to creating a solid foundation for true success, impact, and income - and is determined to help others take ownership of their lives and do the same!

 Let’s dive in! 

[00:01 - 11:16] Opening Segment 

• Jordan is a financial advisor and a coach to millenials
• • When Jordan fell apart - the money coach fell into debt
  • The other facets of money
• Jordan talks about her experience with debt
• • Her spending habits and struggle with realism
  • Your coping mechanisms tell about your underlying beliefs

[11:17 - 22:06] When you really can’t keep up with everyone

• How Jordan works with clients 
• • Don’t compare, collaborate
  • Make them believe that they are enough
• When people shame you for coaching others
• • It’s okay to slowly grow

• “Your faith is not enough”

• Do you have the capacity to go forward?

 [22:07 - 32:57] the biggest things every coach desires for their clients

• Your desire and definition of success improves as you grow
• Yep, the problem really isn’t the problem
• • Don’t lose sight of what matters
• Jordan’s tips to those trying to figure out additional source of income
• • Your business is not your purpose

[32:58 - 37:28] Reaching fulfillment and happiness

• Misconceptions with success and striving
• Jordan’s pillar of encouragement to her clients in the financial industry
• • Know your giftings

 [37:29 - 44:18] Closing Segment

• How Jordan desires to better show up for others and for herself
• Watch out for the upcoming episodes
• Final words

Connect with Jordan and get a hold of her courses!

Instagram: @jordanypendleton

Podcast: Lead on Purpose 

Email: [email protected]

Work with me and find me at www.sarahhipps.com or connect with me through my social media: 

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Tune in next week for more thoughts, ideas and guests that can help you lead a life without self sabotage and with more power!

Tweetable Quotes:

“Financial advising is a lifelong career if you’re gonna build and be serious about it.” - Jordan Pendleton

“For me, credit cards became a thing I used to keep up, even with coaching, hiring people even if I can’t afford it. In order to be good enough, I have to do X, Y, and Z and that’s a lot of my internal story. I have to strive to be good and if I’m not, I will be perceived as a failure.” - Jordan Pendleton

“I think I always have to remind myself that I’m comparing my inner world to their outer world. You can’t compare what you’re going through to their instagram profile and whatever they are posting.” - Jordan Pendleton