Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You

By Cathy ChenParenting Kids & Family

Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You episodes

June 01, 2022Meredith’s Bone to Pick
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk about the lack of transparency in the college admissions process. What is the ethical responsibility of colleges? How could colleges make the admissions process more student-centered? Cathy and Meredith tackle these questions and more on this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[01:20] Making the college process more opaque
[05:33] Colleges should just own it
[06:32] College admissions is crazy
[08:29] Are admissions processes student-centered?
[12:00] How privilege plays a part
[17:14] What is the ethical responsibility of colleges?
[22:25] Why not give families information they need to make good decisions?
[27:15] Ultimately, it’s about young people
[38:24] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
39 min
May 25, 2022The Rumor Mill
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss how rumors and gossip around the college process are not only counterproductive, but potentially harmful. They stress the importance of having a healthy skepticism and questioning the accuracy and helpfulness of the information you’re sharing with your fellow parents.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[01:44] Don't listen to your friends
[04:30] The rumor mill
[11:03] Why is gossip bad?
[16:30] Question the helpfulness of the information you’re sharing
[18:28] Comparison is the thief of joy
[20:39] Myth Busting
[23:51] Having difficult conversations
[30:50] Healthy skepticism
[35:17] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
36 min
May 18, 2022Positive Psychology
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk about positive psychology. What it is, how it can be used to promote well being in your life and the lives of your children. They also discuss the importance of community, attuning to your character strengths, figuring out what your values are and finding yourself in a state of flow.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[03:34] What is Positive Psychology?
[13:38] Things we can do to promote well being
[19:25] Looking for awe
[20:10] The importance of community
[27:26] Helping your child attune to their individual character strengths
[30:02] What are my values?
[31:23] Finding your flow
[40:18] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
UPenn Positive Psychology Center
Flourish by Martin Seligman
Foundations of Positive Psychology on Coursera
Adam Grant Ted Talk on Languishing
Personal Values Tool
Character Strengths Survey
41 min
May 11, 2022Let’s Talk About Sex, Babyyyy…
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk with Justine Fonte, intersectional health educator, who holds a Masters in Education and Public Health from Columbia University. They get into some real-talk about what parents may not know (or want to know) about adolescent sexual behavior, how to talk to your child about sex, and when to start having those conversations.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[01:02] Introducing special guest, Justine Fonte
[04:45] What you might not know (or want to)
[08:43] Normalize talking about sex with your child
[14:00] How to talk about pornography
[20:15] Will I encourage sexual behavior if I talk about it with my child?
[23:03] Don’t be afraid to be human
[27:03] The conversation didn’t go as planned
[30:48] Safety, Affirmation and Joy
[34:04] Healthy exploration vs. risky behavior
[40:41] In Conclusion
[43:15] Foodie recs from Justine
[47:00] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
Justine Fonte
Justine’s IG
Your Friendly Ghostwriter
48 min
May 04, 2022Parenting Mistakes
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss some common parenting missteps, the impact they have on our children and how we can avoid making those same mistakes.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[01:09] Parenting pitfalls
[02:45] Culture of comparison
[12:39] Impulse to fix
[13:53] Resist the temptation to gossip
[23:53] Stop minimizing/maximizing
[29:43] Progress not perfection
[34:57] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
The Four Agreements
Turning Red
36 min
April 27, 2022Structure
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss structure and schedules as it relates to our child’s lives. What does good structure vs. poor structure look like? How much structure in your child’s life is too much? Cathy and Meredith answer these questions and more in this episode.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[01:03] Over-scheduled vs. under-structured
[02:35] What is your parenting style?
[04:45] What does good structure look like?
[11:32] Stay consistent
[14:30] It’s okay to re-evaluate the structure
[24:00] What does poor structure look like?
[34:08] Strive for a balanced structure
[37:10] Additional tips
[40:30] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
Personal Values Tool
42 min
April 20, 2022Mental Health Red Flags
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith interview Cristina Perez, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Clinical Instructor of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Keck School of Medicine of USC. They discuss mental health red flags, how to approach mental health concerns with your teen, when and how you can intervene, and support resources that parents can be aware of and discuss with their teens. There is so much packed into this episode, you don’t want to miss it!

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[01:54] Introducing Cristina
[08:55] Red flags - indicators that something’s up
[16:25] Approach with curiosity
[18:24] Overcoming resistance
[26:36] When and how do you intervene?
[30:55] Perfectionism
[39:00] Resources to be aware of
[47:37] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
49 min
April 13, 2022I’ve Got a Bone to Pick
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith talk about the culture around college admissions in addition to the independent college counseling scene and what to watch out for.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[01:03] If it seems too good to be true, it probably is
[8:49] To thine own self be true
[10:55] Culture around college admissions
[23:23] Why might you need an independent college counselor?
[32:00] Predatory advertising - what to steer clear of!
[36:15] What to look for in an independent college counselor
39:43] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
41 min
April 06, 2022Listomania, Part 2
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith get into the mechanics of building a college list. They breakdown what a reach, target and likely are, as well as covering some of the do’s and don’ts to keep in mind when building a college list.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[00:55] College list mechanics
[02:17] Timing for building a list
[04:44] How many schools should I apply to?
[07:50] Strive for balance
[16:47] Be wary of applying to too many selective schools
[18:43] Reach, Target, Likely: Breaking it down
[24:27] Do’s and Don’ts
[31:10] Sweet tooth
[34:45] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
36 min
March 30, 2022Hearing Back from Colleges
In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy and Meredith discuss college admissions decisions and how to navigate that process with your teen. They talk about strategies for how to support your teen during the process and how to keep things in perspective.

TIMESTAMPS
[00:00] Intro
[00:50] College admissions decisions
[02:03] Receiving new well
[07:24] How to be supportive during this process
[11:36] How to move past tough decisions
[14:47] Keeping things in perspective
[17:33] Being thoughtful about the college selection process
[24:00] Don’t have too many cooks in the kitchen
[26:39] Pros and cons list
[30:00] What would be a thoughtful way to celebrate?
[33:45] Practical things to consider
[49:02] Outro

LINKS
Herrera Educational Consulting
Village Coaches
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You website
Where You Go is Not Who You’ll Be
50 min

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Shit Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You brings you candid conversations with experts in psychology, education, and college admissions — so you can better understand your teen and help them…