Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

When a teen gets defiant or starts with the back talk, most of us push harder. More rules, louder voice, fewer explanations. And the harder we push, the further they pull away or shut down completely. José Rolón, known as NYC Gay Dad, raised his son and twin daughters as a single dad for ten years. He's the first LGBTQ dad on the cover of Parents Latina and co-host of the Love Take Two podcast, and he shares how he stays strict and fair without the yelling.

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The Parenting Teens Academy

The challenges we cover in this episode aren't happening in just one house. It's the exact thing we're talking about inside the Parenting Teens Academy, right now.

The Academy is a membership where you get direct answers from Dr. Cam when something blows up in real time, plus a step-by-step plan to adapt your parenting approach to work with your teen's brain, not against it. The best part, you have the comfort knowing you're not doing this alone anymore. The Parenting Teens Academy is full of supportive parents cheering each other on. Parents inside go from walking on eggshells to actually enjoying their teen again.

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Why Your Teen Won't Talk to You. And How to Change That Starting Today.

“I’m only trying to help, but every question makes my teen go quieter.”

When your teen won't talk, what looks like defiance may be a sign that they do not feel heard. The harder we push, fix, or force connection, the further they often pull away or shut down. Rachel Martin, Chief Operating Officer of the Born This Way Foundation, co-founded by Lady Gaga and her mother, Cynthia Bissett Germanotta, shares what teens need to feel safe opening up.

Why your teen actually shuts down when you try to help.

The one thing missing when their packed schedule still feels lonely.

What to do instead of forcing connection when screen time spikes.

The real reason mental health talks can weaken or rebuild trust.

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The challenges we cover in this episode aren't happening in just one house. It's the exact thing we're talking about inside the Parenting Teens Academy, right now.

The Academy is a membership where you get direct answers from Dr. Cam when something blows up in real time, plus a step-by-step plan to adapt your parenting approach to work with your teen's brain, not against it. The best part, you have the comfort knowing you're not doing this alone anymore. The Parenting Teens Academy is full of supportive parents cheering each other on. Parents inside go from walking on eggshells to actually enjoying their teen again. 

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Parents of teenagers face an impossible tension: how to stay close while giving their teens the freedom they desperately need. In this episode, child and adolescent psychotherapist Zara Kadir reveals that the biggest misconception about teens isn't that they don't like their parents—it's that they resent having an agenda forced onto every interaction.

Understanding the Teen Brain: How to Build Skills Without Punishment | Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Have you ever blamed your teen's eye rolls, impulsive decisions, or emotional reactions on their "underdeveloped brain"? While the teen brain continues developing into the mid-20s, that doesn't mean teens aren't capable of making good decisions. In fact, adolescence is one of the most important times for them to practice those skills.

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with psychotherapist and bestselling author Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, co-author of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline, to explore what brain science can teach us about raising teens. Together, they discuss why punishment can cause teens to hide their mistakes instead of learning from them, how parents can give teens safe opportunities to practice decision-making, and why connection is the foundation for discipline, trust, and independence. If you want to understand what's really happening inside your teen's brain and respond in ways that actually help them grow, this episode offers practical, science-backed strategies.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

What teen brain development really means for decision-making, empathy, impulse control, and responsibility

Why punishment and fear can cause teens to hide mistakes instead of learning from them

How to give your teen safe opportunities to practice decision-making and build independence

Why connection and secure attachment create the foundation for trust, discipline, and better behavior

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The Whole-Brain Child by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Dan Siegel

No-Drama Discipline by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Dan Siegel

The Power of Showing Up by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Dan Siegel

The Way of Play by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent

The Four S's of Secure Attachment: Safe, Seen, Soothed, Secure

Dr. Cam's Free Masterclass: The Connection Reset

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EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Teen Brain Science and Parenting

01:10 Parenting Teens with Understanding and Empathy

02:43 The Impact of Brain Development on Teen Behavior

04:09 Misconceptions About Brain Maturity and Responsibility

08:48 The Role of the Prefrontal Cortex in Teens

11:59 Repetition and Practice in Developing Skills

16:22 Supporting Teens Through Scaffolding and Support

22:45 Handling Mistakes and Repair as Learning

32:48 Building Trust and Secure Attachment

44:55 The Importance of Relationship Over Rules

ABOUT THE SHOW

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you're struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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Parents often wait for a crisis before genuinely checking in with their teenagers, missing critical opportunities for connection and understanding. Dr. R.J. Ledet, a triple board-certified psychiatrist and Navy veteran, emphasizes that effective parenting requires pausing reactive responses and allowing wisdom to catch up with impulse. The core challenge isn't teen behavior—it's parental perspective. Teens develop through distinct developmental stages, each requiring specific emotional scaffolding; skipping these stages creates deficits that compound during adolescence when identity formation is critical.

Stop Overparenting: What Your Teen Actually Needs to Thrive | John Fogle

Are you constantly worrying about your teen's grades, screen time, choices, or attitude? It's easy to get caught up in the small stuff when you're trying to set your teen up for success. But some of the things parents work hardest to control may actually get in the way of the skills teens need most.

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with parenting researcher, data analyst, and author John Fogle to explore what really matters when raising teens. Together, they discuss why overprotecting teens can increase anxiety, how age-appropriate independence builds resilience, and why a strong parent-teen relationship is more protective than constant rules and monitoring. If you're exhausted from trying to keep your teen on the "right" path, this episode will help you step back from fear-based parenting and focus on raising a capable, confident adult who knows they can always come to you when things go wrong.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

Why focusing too much on grades, screens, and minor behavior can distract from what your teen actually needs

How overprotecting and controlling teens can unintentionally increase anxiety and reduce resilience

Why age-appropriate freedom, risk, and mistakes are essential for developing confidence and problem-solving skills

How to become the parent your teen trusts enough to call when they're in trouble

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Punishment Free Parenting by John Fogle

Whole Parent Membership Platform: myparentlab.com

Whole Parent Academy: wholeparentacademy.com

Whole Parent Podcast

The Danish Way of Parenting by Jessica Joelle Alexander

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EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: Rethinking Parenting Priorities

00:27 Meet John Fogle: Parenting Researcher and Author

01:20 Why We Overfocus on Small Stuff

02:20 The Role of Grades in Teen Anxiety

03:09 Success and Happiness Beyond Academic Achievements

04:04 The Myth of Boundaries and Rules

05:03 What Really Matters in Teen Development

05:59 Parents' Goals for Their Kids at Different Ages

06:29 Parenting for the Long Term

07:29 The Value of Diverse Experiences

09:14 The Power of Relationships and Communication

11:28 Parenting Beyond Control: The Ecosystem of Support

13:54 The Impact of Societal Changes on Teen Mental Health

16:44 Historical Lessons: The Great Leap Forward and Sparrows

18:34 The Cost of Overprotection and Control

20:47 Building Trust and Resilience in Teens

23:31 The Reality of Teen Screen Use and Digital Skills

26:57 The Decline of Autonomy and Its Effects

29:36 The Power of Parental Relationship and Support

33:26 Teen Behavior: Normal Developmental Challenges

36:27 The Importance of Community and Support Networks

38:15 Parenting as a Long-Term Investment

40:10 Simple, Effective Parenting Strategies

42:49 Listening to Teens and Building Trust

44:58 The Value of Risk and Resilience

48:49 Real-Life Examples of Risk and Growth

50:31 Final Words of Wisdom for Parents

ABOUT THE SHOW

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you're struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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Rethinking Teen Phone Use: Why Regulation Matters More Than Restriction | Dr. Roseann Capana Hodge

Are you constantly battling your teen over their phone? With concerns about screen time, social media, and teen mental health everywhere, it can feel like taking the phone away is the only way to protect them. But what if the phone isn't actually the root of the problem?

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with school psychologist, therapist, nervous system regulation expert, and author Dr. Roseann Capana Hodge to rethink the way parents approach teen phone use. Together, they explore why teens often turn to their devices to escape uncomfortable emotions, why simply restricting screen time doesn't teach healthy coping skills, and how parents can use co-regulation, clear boundaries, and connection to help teens develop emotional resilience. If phone use has become a constant source of conflict in your home, this episode offers a different approach that focuses on what's driving the behavior—not just the screen itself.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

Why your teen's phone use may be a symptom of stress and emotional dysregulation rather than the real problem

How your own emotional regulation can influence the way your teen responds to boundaries and conflict

Why connection and clear boundaries can be more effective than surveillance and constant phone restrictions

Practical ways to help your teen develop healthier coping skills instead of relying on screens to escape uncomfortable emotions

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The Dysregulated Kid: A Practical Playbook by Dr. Roseann Capana Hodge

Regulation First Parenting

The CALMS System

The Love Pause

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Website: DrRoseann.com

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ABOUT THE SHOW

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you're struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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Do you ever feel like your teen knows exactly how to push your buttons? It's easy to focus on changing your teen's behavior, but what if the biggest shift starts with you? Many parents unknowingly carry emotional wounds from their own childhood that shape how they respond to conflict, criticism, and connection with their teens.

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with licensed therapist, attachment expert, and bestselling author Eli Harwood to explore how healing your own emotional baggage can transform your relationship with your teen. Together, they discuss the impact of generational trauma, why secure attachment doesn't require perfect parenting, and how balancing emotional warmth with healthy boundaries helps teens grow into confident, independent adults. If you're ready to break unhealthy family patterns and build a stronger connection with your teen, this episode offers compassionate, research-backed guidance.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

How unresolved emotional wounds can affect the way you parent your teen

Why secure attachment comes from balancing emotional support with healthy boundaries

How to stop repeating generational patterns and build a stronger parent-teen relationship

Why repairing mistakes—not being a perfect parent—is what helps teens feel safe and connected

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RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Security Attached: Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood

How to Deal with Your Sht So Your Kids Don't Have To* by Eli Harwood

Attachment Nerd Secure Parent Program

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Eli Harwood

Website: attachmentnerd.com

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EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Understanding Attachment and Parenting

02:58 The Importance of Dealing with Our Own Issues

06:05 Navigating Shame and Acceptance in Parenting

08:58 The Role of Emotional Needs in Parent-Child Relationships

12:00 Feedback and Communication Between Parents and Teens

14:59 Defensiveness and Its Impact on Relationships

17:57 Building Trust and Connection with Teens

22:09 Navigating Parenting Responses

24:37 The Importance of Structure and Nurture

26:56 Building Trust and Connection with Teens

29:12 Understanding Adolescent Development

32:22 Embracing the Messiness of Adolescence

34:51 The Role of Community in Parenting

37:12 Finding Support and Healing

39:11 The Power of Connection and Attachment

ABOUT THE SHOW

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you're struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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Rebuild Trust with Your Teen: How to Stop Overparenting and Strengthen Your Relationship | JoAnn Crohn

Do conversations with your teen often turn into arguments, silence, or frustration? Many parents try to help by giving advice, solving problems, or closely managing their teen's life—but those well-intentioned efforts can actually push teens away.

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with certified parent coach, bestselling author, and host of the No Guilt Mom podcast JoAnn Crohn to discuss how parents can rebuild trust, improve communication, and create stronger relationships with their teens. Together, they explore why overparenting is often driven by fear, how curiosity creates deeper connection than control, and why your own happiness as a parent plays a bigger role than you might think. If you're ready to stop the power struggles and create a relationship where your teen actually wants to come to you, this episode is full of practical strategies and eye-opening insights.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

How overparenting and anxiety can unintentionally push your teen away

Why curiosity is more powerful than lectures when building trust with your teen

How to validate your teen's emotions without trying to fix every problem

Simple ways to encourage independence while strengthening your parent-teen relationship

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The Best Mom Is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn

No Guilt Mom Podcast

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Website: https://www.noguiltmom.com

Instagram: @NoGuiltMom

Podcast: No Guilt Mom

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell

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Instagram: @DrCamCaswell

TikTok: @the.teen.translator

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EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Understanding the Parent-Teen Dynamic

02:54 The Importance of Parental Happiness

06:00 Navigating Parental Pressure and Expectations

08:52 The Impact of Overparenting

12:00 Managing Emotions and Validation

15:01 The Role of Social Media in Teen Life

22:48 Understanding Bullying and Social Media Dynamics

24:30 The Role of Parents in Digital Safety

26:39 The Need for Connection in a Digital Age

29:57 Building Trust and Communication with Teens

32:43 Observing vs. Instructing: The Parenting Balance

36:38 Encouraging Autonomy and Curiosity in Teens

41:49 Navigating Relationships and Misunderstandings

ABOUT THE SHOW

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you're struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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Parenting Anxious Teens: How to Build Confidence Instead of Fear | Dana Colthart

Does your teen avoid challenges, shut down under pressure, or constantly seek reassurance? It can be hard to know whether they're simply nervous or struggling with anxiety—and many of the ways parents naturally try to help can actually make anxiety worse.

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with licensed clinical social worker Dana Colthart, who specializes in treating OCD, anxiety, panic disorders, and eating disorders, to discuss practical strategies for supporting anxious teens. Together, they explain why avoidance strengthens anxiety, how parents can validate their teen's fears without reinforcing them, and what it really takes to build resilience and confidence. If you're tired of watching your teen struggle and wondering how to help without making things worse, this episode offers expert guidance and actionable tools.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

How to recognize when your teen's anxiety has become avoidance—and why that matters

Why reassurance and accommodation often make teen anxiety worse instead of better

How to validate your teen's fears while helping them build confidence through discomfort

Simple parenting strategies that support resilience without increasing anxiety

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RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Cognitive Diffusion

Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dana Colthart

Website: https://www.danacolthart.com

Practice: Clear Light Therapy New Jersey

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell

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Instagram: @DrCamCaswell

TikTok: @the.teen.translator

YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

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EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Understanding Teen Anxiety and Avoidance

02:54 The Role of Diagnosis in Treatment

05:42 Identifying and Addressing Avoidance Behaviors

08:36 Mistakes Parents Make in Supporting Anxious Teens

11:20 The Importance of Communication and Support

14:18 Navigating Self-Defeating Thoughts

17:02 The Power of Diffusion Techniques

20:02 Building Patience and Understanding

22:46 Managing Urgency and Expectations

25:32 Creating a Safe Space for Recovery

28:30 The Role of Parental Support in Treatment

31:23 Final Thoughts and Resources

ABOUT THE SHOW

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you're struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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