If you've ever avoided talking about something that clearly needs talking about you will be failing to address the "elephant in the room" and we're determined not to in this episode.

Martin tells us where the phrase comes from and what an epigram is.

We hear about some Tibetan monks who got high on something other than their own inner peace, and we wonder what on earth Frank Zappa was thinking of when he named his kids.

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What factors contribute to feeling disrespected, overlooked, and undervalued? 

This week we're looking at how we become marginalised and the part we can play in our own invisibility.

After 147 episodes Martin picks up on the snooker connection and tells us about Bill Werbeniuk and his astonishing capacity for drinking lager.

We also remember with great fondness the habit we had in the 70s and 80s for making mix tapes, a joy essentially lost on the streaming generation.

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This week we're talking about why we hold grudges for so long, why it isn't good for us,  and what it takes to let go of them.

Rod Stewart kicks a football into a fan's face, someone wants to marry an alien, and we discuss things we loaned out but never got back.

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This week we're talking about how to differentiate between good and bad habits, and how to start or stop them when you want or need to.

Martin experiences some software issues, we discover we both bore people to sleep, discuss at what point you have too much breakfast cereal, and find that neither of us has ever hugged a musician.

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This week we're talking about where that negative self-talk comes from and how to successfully tune out and stop listening to it.

Martin is celebrating his 11th sobriety anniversary and he has a tale about a ghostly marriage. 

We share contrasting memories of Bonfire Night and there's more than you'd expect related to the saxophone.

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This week we're talking about the benefits of being alone with your own thoughts and how we can make fewer mistakes and accelerate our personal growth by taking a proper look at ourselves, even when it's uncomfortable.

Shrek shows up in a curry, I get sand in my sandwiches, we agree on the must-have items at a funeral, and there are tips for making better lists.

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This week we're talking about why we relentlessly deprioritise our own needs in favour of other people's, where such destructive behaviour comes from, and what we can do to change it.

I am thankful for shelter from the rain, Martin visits a trippy art exhibition, and neither of us likes Chris De Burgh.

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This week we're talking about why we find it hard to be assertive and how we can learn to get better at it.

My virtual beret-wearing prompts a chat about scouting, you can learn how long it would take to get to the sun in a jumbo jet and what you could do while you travel, and Martin reveals his children's favourite of his lies.

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This week we're talking about the reasons we lie and how it can become a bit of a destructive habit.

I need to know some more about clouds, Martin needs to talk about Nigel, and he gets a bit annoyed about another special day for celebrating beer.

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This week we're talking about the frustration it can cause when we crave to be understood but other people seem unable or unwilling to do so. It's a problem acutely felt by recovering addicts so we try and throw some light on the subject in our usual ham-fisted way.

There's also chat about farmer's markets,  Oktoberfest, foreign accent syndrome, and old-fashioned sweet shops.

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