Sideways

This week, we're discussing how much we struggle to know who we are, especially through difficult periods of our lives and how who you were yesterday is almost certainly different from who you are today.

I Google my name to see who the internet thinks I am,  there is a tale about a furious cow, Martin's late father falls into a river and he (Martin) gets himself a new set of wheels

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This week we're talking about ways to rethink our negative thoughts and I make the lofty claim that there is no negative thought that cannot be reframed positively.

I reveal my difficulty with irritating sounds, Martin has some more tales about animals, we disagree about waking up to the sound of a legendary guitarist, and we ponder the possibility that Martin might be distantly related to Tommy Cooper.

It's the usual guff with an odd nugget of wisdom. (I used to work in marketing, can you tell?)

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This week we're talking about why we find it hard to face the end of things, even when they have been destructive and painful.  

We discuss too, the space between endings and new beginnings which can be incredibly uncomfortable yet super helpful if we can learn to navigate it properly.

I bemoan street parties, Martin praises leftovers, and we wonder about what he might have forgotten about during his years in the madness of addiction and whether it could have included driving over the mayor's lawn.

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This week we're discussing what makes us feel the need to tell other people what they ought to do,  why it never works and what we might be better off trying instead.

There's all the usual tomfoolery too, including the joy of a charity shop, why Martin enjoys a hog roast, and we each choose a musician for very unsavoury purposes.

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This week we’re discussing why people place themselves in the position of victim when all it does is render them incapable of taking action to change the situation they are so frustrated with.

Martin reflects on how pub opening hours might have been a godsend, we make up stories about people while one listener takes it further and judges quiz contestants on the basis of the way they play the game.

I plant some seeds, we talk picnic food, and I warn Martin about the dangers of growing squash.

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This week we’re talking about how giving up one addiction can lead you straight into the arms of another one if you aren’t on your guard, and we explore the way that some people have their own ideas about what constitutes a dependency and whether some behaviours or substances can be exempt. (Spoiler alert: They can't)

There’s also a bag of snakes, the dangers of virtual sports, cheating at the opticians, and a look into the extensive love life of Jerry Lee Lewis.

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This week we’re talking about the damage we do to ourselves and other people when we allow our mistaken conscious and unconscious beliefs to dictate the way we think and behave.

We also cover, the Easter bunny, sweary parrots, Martin’s hatred of Genesis (the band not the book of the Bible), the liturgical calendar, and why Malteasers can sometimes be painful.

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This week Martin takes use through some keys ways in which its possible to identify addiction distinct from other mental health difficulties.

We manage to move through that with some brevity leaving us plenty of time to discuss buying too much of something, dropping your phone into water, getting confused in McDonalds, drinking alcohol at breakfast, ferrets, and Gwyneth Paltrow.

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This week we're debunking some of the common misconceptions around sobriety that keep people from putting down their drink and drugs.

Martin has some startling information about birds' anatomy and our gratitude list entries are unusually serious and heartfelt.

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This week we're looking at some of the reasons people give for relapse and discuss ways in which such self-destructive action can be avoided.

We reminisce about amusing news headlines, hear about a spiteful octopus, and the time that Martin went "Zorbing".

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