Sideways

This week, we're talking about what we expect from ourselves and others, and how that can sometimes make life much harder and more disappointing than we'd like it to be.

We discuss the importance of recognising that not everyone sees the world the way that we do and that few people in our lives are mind-readers.

We also cover the topic of taking down Christmas decorations too early, Star Trek, and jogging to the works of Charles Dickens.

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This week we're talking about how we make judgements about people long before we have enough information to form an accurate opinion.

Martin comes clean about misleading me in the last episode, we identify Hollywood A-lister Julia Roberts as someone familiar with wild and unsubstantiated evaluation, and conclude that it's always best to steer clear of a leopard, especially if it's been drinking.

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This week we're talking about the things that cause most of us stress at Christmas but might pose particular problems for anyone in recovery.

Martin struggles to get into the festive spirit and reveals some startling gaps in his knowledge when it comes to Christmas movies, although he does find some seasonal mirth in a gift once given to me by my great uncle.

His gratitude for a particular feature of wrapping paper is hilarious though not particularly surprising.

Thanks for listening to us all year. We hope you have a splendid Christmas and a healthy, peaceful New Year.

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This week we're talking about messing things up and the way we respond when we inevitably do it.

There's a lot of talk about seasonal fruit, the appearance of the Messiah in a satsuma, goalkeeping trouble caused by an orange segment, and my own DIY disaster involving a bathroom carpet.

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This week we’re talking about the genius ways in which addicts can source their drugs of choice, hide them up from prying eyes, and generally give the impression that everything is fine when it patently isn’t.

We also discuss how, if put to positive use, this imagination, tenacity, and creativity can turn lives around in the most remarkable ways.

Martin discovers a kindred spirit in a much loved Christmas film, reminds me of being fat-shamed at my own wedding, and I get grumpy about advent calendars.

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This week we're talking about the dangers of attending the work Christmas party, especially for those in recovery.

We consider some of the strategies you might want to adopt if refusing to attend isn't an option.

We also have a disagreement over the gratitude lists and discuss a remarkable brush with celebrity.

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This week we're talking about the tyranny of perfectionism, how some people wear it proudly like a badge of honour, and how it is really nothing of the sort.

There are a few helpful tips if you're interested in getting your perfectionism under control.

We also cover haircuts, disappointing holiday hotels,  and the strange things people force themselves to enjoy when they'd really rather not.

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This week we're discussing the reasons why we often find it hard to ask for help even when we desperately need it.

We talk about how we're not the only one's who lose out when we suffer in silence too.

In an unusually serious episode we still find time to cover a collection of chips,  the quality of tea in hotels, farmers markets, and middle class apples.

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This week we're talking about "the green-eyed monster" itself.

We discuss the difference between jealousy and envy, which I still get confused about.

We look at the different types of jealousy and the ways in which they might indicate either a deeper emotional disturbance or what they say about you rather than the person towards whom you feel jealous.

If that weren't enough we talk about Martin's lunch,  walking the dogs, and still find time to celebrate Martin's tenth year of sobriety.

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This week we're talking about what we need to do in order to rebuild others' trust in us when we have done something that has hurt or disappointed them.

We talk about a guy who took ignoring calls from an unrecognised number to a new level, debate what we’d put into room 101, and wonder whether a celebrity tribute act can be the cause of alcoholism.

Mispronunciation, getting caught short, and gluing yourself to things also get a mention.

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