Silent Grief Podcast

The elephant in the room is that we are not the same after losing a child. NOTHING is the same, nor will it ever be. But there is a point in which we equalize a little bit and we find a place in life when we can breathe again. We call this the "new normal." It's a sort of baseline that we are familiar with. 

So what is your "new normal?" Maybe it's simply the ability to function day-to-day. Maybe it's feeling physically fit again. Maybe it's taking up crocheting or fishing again. Whatever it is, we can get there. 

If you want to learn more about finding your new normal, see my book, Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope: https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

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Do you ever wonder why you family seems to fall apart after the loss of a child? It turns out that you are not alone. When communication breaks down, so can the family. Grief is messy. We all grieve differently, and that can lead to a lot of confusion and hurt feelings within a family. Husbands and wives grieve differntly, and this can lend itself to miscommunication and hurt feelings. 

In this episode, we talk about ways families can communicate better so they can work through their grief together. 

If you want to learn more about what is happening to your family, see my book, Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope: https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

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The hardest part about grief is reaching the moment of KNOWING that it is real. For some of us, getting to the point where we know that our child is no longer coming home can take a long time. There is a very clear connection that has to happen between what our heart knows and what our brain denies. 

But once we walk through the hardes part of grief, something begins to slowly change. The days begin to get a little bit brighter, color starts to come back into our grey lives, and we begin to live again. Grief is hard. There is no way around that. But we can walk this journey together. Join us as we walk through this journey with you. 

If you want to learn more about walking through the hardest part, see my book, Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope: https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

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When grief feels overwhelming, we feel like we just can't go on doing the things that still need done. The reality is that we need to go on. Ideally, someone will come alongside you and say, "You don't need to do this right now because I've got your back." 

However, many of us don't have a prince charming to come into our lives and do our laundry, cook our meals, and do homework with our kids or grandkids. In this episode, we share ways that we can move forward with our grief, even when it is crippling. 

If you want to learn more about moving forward when life feels very hard, see chapter 4 of my book, Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope: https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

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Even years after losing a child, life spins out of control. You feel alone. You might be angry. Empty. Tired. Like there's no relief in sight. Inevitably, we ask ourselves, "Am I going crazy?" 

I've asked myself this same question a hundred times. There were days when I felt like people were staring at me as if I were an alien with three heads. The reality is that you're not crazy. . . you just happend to go through an unimaginable, life-changing tragedy. 

In this episode, we talk about what these days might look like to you and how you might just be a lot more normal than you think! 

If you want to learn more about just how normal you are, see chapter 3 of my book, Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope: https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

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We all are desperate for the pain and hurt to go away after losing a child. For the longest time we feel "numb," barely able to get by. We desperately want to know when we will turn the corner and start feeling more normal again. 

What we leaned is that there is no specific time frame. Each of us is different. We think differently, process giref differently, and our child was wildly unique. Grief takes time, plain and simple. In this episode, we talk about gentle ways we can process through our grief on our own time frame. 

If you want to learn more about navagating YOUR time frame, see chapter 2 of my book, Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope: https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

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When we lose a child, we often fall into "the foggy abyss," the place where our mind is in a constant fog and emotions are all over the place. I believe this serves to protect our minds, even though it can be unsettling. How long does it last? That depends. 

We can slip in and out of the fog over the course of years, but that's not all bad news. Once we learn to recognize it, we can navagate and manage our grief better. 

If you want to learn more about navagating the foggy abyss, see chapter 1 of my book, Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope: https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

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Grief is never a linear path, but when the loss of a child is met with the absence of a spouse—whether through death or divorce—the mental and emotional strain on the remaining parent can feel insurmountable. Jimmy and Clara break down the unique "trauma triggers" that accompany these major life changes and offer a roadmap for those feeling the heavy pull of isolation.Inside the Episode:

• The Complexity of Compounded Loss: Understanding how the loss of a spouse dramatically increases the difficulty of navigating child loss.
• The Weight of the "Remaining Parent": Discussing the mental health strain, emotional overload, and the financial pressures that often follow.
• Identifying the Triggers: How major life changes spark complex grieving processes and where depression and loneliness often take root.
• The Support System Checklist: A guide to the five essential pillars for staying grounded:
  1. Professional help from therapists.
  2. Leaning on friends.
  3. Navigating social agencies.
  4. Finding solace in books and shared stories.
  5. The Most Important Factor: Practicing self-care to remain grounded.

Key Takeaway:"Seek help! Don’t delay, and above all, don’t try to do it alone."


Clara's book, Child Loss: The Hearbreak and the Hope: 
https://amzn.to/49E3tP6

Jimmy's book, Tithing Your Time, Treasure, and Talent: 
https://www.amazon.com/Tithing-Your-Time-Treasure-Talent/dp/B0GKYJM3C2

Grief doesn't just happen to individuals; it happens to relationships. On today's Silent Grief, we uncover why so many marriages and family ties fail in the wake of tragedy. Discover how your pain impacts those around you and learn the "7-7-7 Rule"—a powerful strategy for reconnecting with your partner through dates, getaways, and romantic holidays. Don't let grief isolate you; learn how to safeguard your marriage this week.

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There are many lies that we repeat to ourselves when we are suffering with survivor's guilt: "If I had done somehting different my child would still be alive. . . I should have been more present. . . If only I would have called more my child would still be here. . ." and on they go. 

The reality is that, in most cases, there is very little that we could have done to prevent our child from leaving this earth. Life is unfair, but it's unfair to most of us. The good news is that we can start repainting a brighter picture in our lives. Sure, grief will always be present, but we can start focusing on the positive things in life rather than beating ourselves up for a past that we cannot change. 

Find us on Facebook:
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