Silver Divorce Podcast

*Please share this podcast with friends, follow, and leave a comment or question.* When divorce knocks on your door, the financial aspects can leave you bewildered. You are not sure what the smart money moves are or how to make wise decisions. Listen as Andrew Hatherley, a certified divorce financial analyst shares how he helps people make wise money moves. Andrew discusses:

• How a certified divorce financial analyst can help you assess your financial standing in order to craft a fair and equitable divorce settlement.

• The important considerations in deciding when to file for divorce.

• Important considerations when deciding whether to sell or keep the house, including tax implications.

• How Social Security works in late life divorces.

• Considerations before agreeing to take a distribution or give up a 401(k) or IRA.

• The most overlooked tax implications in divorce mediation.

• Top three things to take care of from a financial standpoint after the divorce.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Andrew Hatherley is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst  and founder of Wiser Divorce Solutions, which works with people before and during divorce,  and Transcend Retirement, which helps people with financial planning after divorce. He is also host of the Gray Divorce Podcast. Andrew may be found at www.wiserdivorcesolutions.com or at [email protected]. 

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey.

This podcast provides information and education and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or attorney.

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This week, we are doing something different. A podcast swap featuring My Morning Cup with Mike Costa. Mike interviews leaders around the region as they discuss careers and life. I sat down with Mike to talk about my meandering career and how the Silver Divorce Podcast came to be. I hope you enjoy this departure from our norm.

My Morning Cup is released on Mondays. If you like what you hear, head over to https://mymorningcup.podbean.com/

for interviews with the top movers and shakers in the Tennessee region.

Stay tuned next week as we feature Andrew Hatherley, a certified divorce financial analyst.

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The Silver Divorce Podcast is proudly sponsored by the Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com and MedicareMisty www.medicaremisty.com.

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*Please share this podcast with friends, follow, and leave a comment or question.* There is no doubt that a contentious or high-conflict divorce tests your sanity. It is especially painful when an affair partner is involved.In this bonus episode, I will share ways you can break free of the pain and begin to heal your broken heart. You can break the bond of constant communications to give you the space and time to heal.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after my 34-year marriage ended in divorce. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. This podcast provides information and education and is not intended as professional therapist or legal advice.

*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* Many women struggle with self-doubt and overthinking, especially after major life transitions like divorce. Mind shifting can help you identify the root cause of your inner critic while regaining confidence and clarity. In this episode, transformational coach Kelly McCooeye shares how to clear the emotional and mental clutter as an important stepping stone to rebuilding your life.

Kelly discusses:

• What is mind shifting and how to recognize the old patterns that keep you from moving forward.

• How to identify your inner critic and recognize when and how the opinions of yourself formed. 

• How to feel, name, and identify the emotion and be better connected with your pain so you may begin to process and heal.

• How to put that inner critic in its place, break free from the cycle and take action in your life with confidence.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Kelly McCooeye is a transformational coach who helps ambitious women break free from self-doubt, overthinking, and emotional blocks so they can move forward with confidence and clarity. After going through a divorce at 47, she rebuilt her life from the inside out—deconstructing her faith, navigating the emotional weight of starting over, rediscovering her identity, and creating a thriving business that empowers other women to do the same. Kelly blends intuitive coaching with powerful tools, including Mind Shifting, to help clients clear mental and emotional clutter, reconnect with their inner wisdom, and take bold, aligned action. You can find her at www.therewiredlife.com

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey.

This podcast provides education and is not intended as therapist or legal advice.

*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* Navigating a blended family after divorce can be exceptionally challenging, especially if emotions are raw or one spouse has moved on to a new partner. Perhaps you are the second wife wondering how to maneuver through a new family dynamic. Listen as Judy Herman shares strategies for guiding  your family through rough waters. 

The divorce rate for second marriages including children from a previous marriage is 66%, largely due to the stress of combining families. It is important to be aware of the issues going into the marriage, and how to anticipate each individual’s needs and emotions.

Judy discusses:

• Psychological effects of a blended family on the kids, even if they are adults.

• Unrealistic expectations of a blended family.

• How to support your children and be open, whether teens or adults, when dealing with your own anger and grief.

• How you, as the new wife, can support the kids blending into a new family.

• What is considered a normal adjustment period.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Judy K. Herman (Speaker, Retreat Facilitator, and Psychotherapist) is the leading expert in navigating the complexities of relationships with clarity and authenticity. She is the author of two impactful books, "Beyond Messy Relationships" and "Relationships with Purpose" and she hosts the empowering podcast "Better Relationships, Better Life." She may be found on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ and https://www.judycounselor.com/silver-divorce/

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey.

This podcast provides education and is not intended as therapist or legal advice.

*Please comment and share* If you want to succeed in dating, marriage, and friendship, OR are divorced and want to know why, listen in as Matthew Fray, author of This is how your marriage ends: A hopeful approach to saving relationships, shares how our seemingly innocent behaviors we do with no thought destroys love and trust.

Matthew discusses how generally perceived innocent or benign acts in a relationship can erode and destroy trust over time. A relationship absent trust does not feel safe. More importantly, losing trust does not have to be caused by a major event. He relates the story of his marriage ending because of dishes left in the sink.

Matthew shares the invalidating triple threat in relationships: We contradict our spouse’s intellectual experiences; we contradict their emotional experience; and we defend our character and justify our actions based on what we knew at the time. Therefore, we imply that we will repeat the behaviors.

Matthew encourages us to begin to see people through their perspective. For those already divorced, he helps to understand what went wrong and how to avoid a similar problem in future relationships.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook/Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Matthew Fray is a relationship coach, blogger, and author of This is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships. His website iswww.matthewfray.com.

About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA, is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. She talks with expert guests who can help people navigate the traumatic divorce journey.

This podcast provides education and is not intended as therapist or legal advice.

*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* The truth about post separation abuse is it does not always leave bruises we can see. What is post-separation abuse? It is abuse that continues after you have physically separated from your spouse. It does not have to mean physical violence. When couples separate, abuse can take many forms and extracts an emotional toll on the entire family. Abuse can include: financial, intimidation, legal, and isolation.

In this bonus episode, I will share ways you can protect yourself from post-separation abuse.

*If someone you know is considering self-harm, you may reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after my 34-year marriage ended in divorce. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. This podcast provides education and is not intended as therapists’ or legal advice.

*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* If you are divorcing and have adult children, you might be surprised to learn that they also experience grief and loss. Your divorce can shake their foundation. Listen in as Linda Hershman, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, shares the significant impact on the adult children of divorcing parents and steps you should take to ease the transition.

Linda relates that adult children suffer an ambiguous loss, yet society expects them to “suck it up” and get over it. She shares concrete rules for managing adult children during divorce. Her number one rule is that you should always love your children more than you hate your ex. That means not giving the adult children the gory details, resisting the urge to trash talk your ex, and learning to be independent and not looking to your children as substitutes for your ex.

Facing a parents’ divorce can be very emotionally challenging, especially if it comes at a time when the adult children are raising their own families and may have small children, or they were out of the house and did not see conflicts in the marriage. Linda shares actionable tips on how to break the news, discuss when the other parent is lying, and how to navigate when an affair partner is involved.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Linda Hershman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has been in practice for 30 years. She wrote, "Gray Divorce: Everything You Need to Know About Later-Life Breakups" when she noticed how many of her clients over age 50 were divorcing or divorce questioning and needed solutions for the unique emotional, parenting, legal, and financial issues of later-life divorce. Find Linda here: https://lindahershman.com  https://www.facebook.com/lhershmanlmft/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-hershman-69826518/@graydivorcebook

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided by divorce after decades of marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.

*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* Did you know that women are the first to file in nearly 80% of divorce cases? These women are not walking away lightly. They believe they have done everything possible to save the marriage before throwing in the towel. Many, many times their husbands are blindsided. Listen in as Tim Wade, a relationship coach for men, shares the work he does to diffuse the divorce bomb when she wants out.

After being blindsided by the divorce bomb and a “Walkaway Wife” in 2015, Tim Wade turned his deepest wound into a powerful message of transformation that he has shared with thousands of men worldwide.

Tim shares that women, on average, plan their escapes for two years. Some red flags for men to pay attention to include: a detachment, she stops trying to make the marriage work. She stops nagging. She stops arguing and goes about her life without including the husband in activities. She waits for “D” day.

Tim gives husbands tips on how to react when hit with the divorce bomb. Don’t become simpering fools. Don’t expect a quick fix. Take time to figure out who you are, what you want from the marriage, and what type of life you want to create. Be kind, pay attention, and talk to her. The prize is in creating the life you both want. It is possible, with personal transformation, to reclaim a happy and satisfying marriage.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Tim Wade is founder of Tim Wade Coaching and LionHearted Living. Tim believes men have the power to pull their marriage back from the brink through the power of personal transformation and has created a unique online course for men, “Defuse the Divorce Bomb.” Find him at www.timwadecoaching.com and www.howtodefusethedivorcebomb.com

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided by divorce that ended a 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey.

This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.

*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* Are you and your spouse at the brink of divorce? Is  your marriage teetering on the edge and you are not sure if you should file for divorce? Listen in as Demetrius and Emily Russell share how their marriage was at the precipice of a cliff and they found a way back to a married life they love to live together.

Demetrius and Emily Russell have been married 27 years. Twelve years into their marriage, they entered a rocky time and Emily knew she was unhappy enough to want a divorce. Emily, by nature, was an independent woman who came into the marriage with her own identity. She had a career as a Registered Nurse and became a Business Project Senior Analyst with a major corporation. Over time, she found that her identity was lost in the marriage and she no longer knew who she was. This was not how she wanted to live her life. Demetrius was blindsided when Emily gathered the courage to share her unhappiness. The couple separated in the home, and discussed divorce.

After a period of months separated, Demetrius and Emily came to the hard truth that they wanted to fight for their marriage. They share their inspiring story of the steps they took to regain the foundation of friendship they had when they first met and the resolve to save their relationship. Demetrius and Emily also discuss the secret sauce to getting out of the rut of living as roommates and building a strong foundation for a lasting marriage.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: [email protected]

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty www.medicaremisty.com

About your guests: Demetrius Q. Russell, MBA is a Director of Human Resources for S&P Air Control and a professional development coach. Emily Russell, MS, RN, is a Business Project Senior Advisor for Cigna Healthcare.

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after an unfortunate turn of events in my 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.