This week Lauren is just talking. No theme, no structure — she's sharing what's been on her mind lately: being tired of centering men in the conversation, and why increasing your pleasure as a single woman actually matters.

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You have started decentering men but something feels off. Weird. Like you are going against everything you were taught and even your own body is like — what are we doing. In this episode Lauren Samantha gets into exactly why decentering men feels so unnatural — and it has nothing to do with you being broken. We are talking patriarchy, misogyny, shame, capitalism, and what it actually looks like to start building a life that does not center men. If you are a single woman in your 30s and doing this work and wondering why it feels so hard — this one is for you.

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You understood everything we talked about in part one. And then you opened the apps and lost yourself in whether he texted back. That is exactly what this episode is about.We are getting into what decentering romance actually looks like when you are actively dating. The patterns you keep repeating even when you know better. The difference between wanting love from wholeness and wanting love to feel whole. And the question nobody told you to ask — not does he like me, but do you actually like him.Part two of a two part series. Go back and listen to part one first if you haven't.

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If you've been doing the work of decentering men but feel like something isn't clicking, this is the episode you need. Because the first step to decentering men is decentering romance — and most of us have never even questioned the story we were sold about what our lives are supposed to look like.In this episode we're getting into where the conditioning actually started, how fairy tales, rom-coms, and even our mothers shaped us into women who were taught to wait to be found instead of building a life. We're talking about the male gaze we internalized without knowing it, what we've been outsourcing to the idea of a relationship, and what it actually looks like to stop waiting and start living.This is not about giving up on love. This is about reclaiming your life.Single (Not Spiraling) is the podcast for women who are decentering men — one honest conversation at a time.

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What if your burnout isn't a personal failure — it's a system doing exactly what it was designed to do? In this episode, Lauren unpacks how patriarchy and capitalism condition women to over-function, under-rest, and tie their worth to productivity. She explores what a matriarchal value system would actually look like — not female domination, but a world where care, community, and emotional intelligence are treated as foundations, not afterthoughts.

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In your 30s, something shifts. You’ve done the therapy. You’ve built the self-worth. You’ve stopped settling for emotionally unavailable men. And now you find yourself in a strange in-between — loving your independence but still craving real partnership. In this episode, I’m talking about the tension of wanting love without losing yourself. The nervous system ease of being single. The fear of slipping back into old patterns. The grief that can come when something good disrupts the identity you built around doing life alone. And the cultural shift that’s made dating feel smaller, not because love isn’t real, but because your standards are higher. If you’ve ever felt stuck between protecting your peace and opening your heart, this conversation is for you.

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In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, we’re talking about self-trust, standards, and what it actually means to stop settling for mediocre love. Decentering men isn’t about rejecting partnership — it’s about building enough internal safety that you’re no longer making decisions from anxiety, desperation, or fear of being alone. Self-trust is confidence, intuition, and believing your own thoughts, needs, and wants without immediately outsourcing them. It’s the steady feeling that even if a decision changes your life, you’ll be okay. We unpack how self-trust sharpens discernment in dating, how anxiety gets confused with intuition, and why raising your standards has less to do with attracting a man and more to do with not abandoning yourself. If you’re learning how to trust yourself, hold your standards, and choose partnership from alignment instead of panic, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

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We talk a lot about “self-validation,” but no one really explains what that means in real life. This episode breaks down internal vs external validation, why relying on other people to confirm your feelings is so tempting, and how to start trusting your own reactions without over-explaining or second-guessing yourself. If you constantly ask, “Am I overreacting?” or need someone else to agree before you feel okay, this one’s for you.

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You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You understand the concepts.
So why does it still feel hard to move? In this episode, we talk about the space between knowing and living — why consuming self-help can quietly turn into avoidance, how burnout and world chaos make action feel impossible, and what it actually looks like to start implementing the work in real life. This is about grounding, hope, community, and choosing to live with intention instead of staying stuck in insight mode.

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In this episode of Single (Not Spiraling), we talk about the moment you realize the things you once accepted in dating no longer feel okay. From inconsistency and emotional unavailability to over-explaining, self-abandonment, and confusing anxiety for chemistry, this episode explores what it actually looks like to stop normalizing behavior that keeps you disconnected from yourself. If you’re navigating dating, healing from codependency, decentering men, or learning to trust your body and boundaries again, this conversation is an invitation to notice what you’ve outgrown — and to honor the self-trust it took to get here.

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