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  • Information Overload and the Single Woman: When Self-Help Stops Helping | EP. 119
    We are consuming more than ever. More content, more frameworks, more steps, more systems. And a lot of it is genuinely useful — but at some point the volume of it stops helping you and starts working against you. Especially when you're a single woman who is already trying really hard.In this episode, Lauren breaks down what's actually happening when self-improvement content starts to feel like a project that never ends — and why so much of the content marketed to you as healing and empowerment still has a man buried at the finish line. Plus, what it looks like to start trusting what's already inside you instead of looking for the next thing to consume.If you've ever felt behind despite doing all the right things, this one is for you.

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    21 min
  • Putting Yourself First: Codependency, Conditioning, and Learning to Make Yourself the Priority | EP.118
    Putting yourself first sounds simple until you actually try to do it. If you've ever said yes when you meant no, shrunk your own needs down before anyone even asked you to, or felt a wave of guilt the second you did something for yourself — this episode is for you. Lauren breaks down why so many women struggle to make themselves the priority in their own lives, and why it has nothing to do with being weak or not knowing better. From the way we're conditioned from childhood to center everyone else, to codependency patterns that hide behind generosity, to the attachment wounds that make self-advocacy feel like a threat — this episode names what's actually underneath the pattern so you can start seeing it clearly.

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    18 min
  • Why You Keep Spiraling Over Men And How the Empowerment Dynamic Finally Stops It | EP. 117
    You've been spiraling and you know it — the overanalyzing, the waiting, the feeling like you have zero control over how your own life feels. This episode hands you the framework that changed everything for me and for so many of my clients. We're talking about the Drama Triangle, why you're probably living inside it right now, and the Empowerment Dynamic — the tool that actually gets you out. This is the episode I wish someone had handed me years ago.

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    22 min
  • Why a Secure Man Won't Be Threatened By You Being a Man Hater | EP: 116
    If you've been holding back from fully doing this work, this episode is for you. Today Lauren is getting into why a capable, secure man is not going to be threatened by you being a self-proclaimed man hater, where male insecurity actually comes from and why it has nothing to do with you, and why the version of you that keeps shrinking herself is not landing the relationship you actually want. Because the goal was never really a relationship. The goal is you, fully yourself, living a life that feels whole whether or not anyone shows up to share it. And if someone does? He's lucky to be let in.

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    21 min
  • Your Relationship Just Ended. Here's Exactly What to Do. | EP. 115
    Something Lauren keeps noticing: when women go through a breakup, they find themselves again. They go back to the things they'd stopped doing — the hobby, the book, the version of themselves that got a little buried somewhere in the relationship. This episode is a guide for anyone who's newly out of something, mid-way back to themselves, or reflecting on how they've come back before and wondering if there's a little more work to do. Four steps, in order. What to come back to, what to build, what to protect, and what to remember so you don't lose it the same way twice.

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    26 min
  • Single in Your 30s and 40s: What It Really Takes to Stop Spiraling and Come Home to Yourself | EP: 114
    In this episode Lauren gets real about what the work actually looks like — not the highlight reel version, not the "I healed and now everything is great" version, but the real thing. She walks you through the specific areas she works on with her clients every single day: breaking the fantasy of who you want someone to be, building self worth through values work, inner child work and what it actually means to reparent yourself, pleasure as a form of self knowledge, and releasing the shame that lives in your sxuality and your body. She also shares something that happened recently that stopped her in her tracks — a reminder that nobody gets to the other side alone. Not her clients. Not her. Not you. If you have ever felt like you understand yourself but still can't seem to feel different, this episode is for you.

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    31 min
  • Decentering Men Q&A: Your Biggest Questions, Answered | EP. 113
    You've been asking Lauren questions about decentering men — how to talk about it, what actually changed first, whether your relationships survive it — and today she's answering them. If you're on the fence about decentering men or you're already doing the work and want to go deeper, this is a must-listen. These are the questions women are actually sitting with, and Lauren's not holding back on the answers.

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    18 min
  • Now That You've Decentered Men, Whimsy The F*ck Out Of Your Life | EP. 112
    You've been doing the work. Decentering men, healing, growing, showing up for yourself. But when's the last time your life actually felt magical? In this episode we're talking about whimsy — what it actually is, why your space matters more than you think, and how to stop living inside your Pinterest board and start building the life that's already on it. Lauren gets into why being away from her own space cracked something open, why choosing delight right now is not frivolous, and how romancing yourself is what decentering men actually looks like in practice. Plus how to whimsy out your life without spending a ton of money — because Facebook Marketplace and thrift stores exist and we are using them. If you have been waiting for the right apartment, the right moment, the right version of your life to start making it feel like yours — this is your permission slip.

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    25 min
  • Dating a Woman Who Has Decentered Men: A Man's Perspective | EP. 111
    What does it actually look like to date a woman who is decentering men? My boyfriend Joey joins me to answer that — from his side. He's confident, he's not threatened, and he has some honest opinions about what being a good partner actually means (spoiler: it's not doing the dishes). If you've ever wondered whether decentering men and being in a relationship can coexist, this one's for you.

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    1 hr 15 min

About Single (not spiraling)

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Welcome to Single Not Spiraling with Lauren—the podcast for women who are done waiting, done performing, and done pretending they’re not whole on their own.

This is your space for honest…