Small Girl, Big Talk

Okay… so this is a heavy one. Like, really, really heavy. If you've watched Off Campus on Prime Video, you know that Hannah's storyline as a sexual assault survivor hit different for a lot of us — but for me, it hit different different, because it's my story too.

This episode is me finally telling it. All of it. The parts I've never said out loud in public, the parts I only just told my husband Kevin, and the parts that took me 12 years and a Forever 21 plastic bag full of old clothes to be ready to share.

A heads up that this is also the final episode of Small Girl Big Talk. I talk about why toward the end (PS: it has nothing to do with this story and everything to do with adulting 🥲)

Trigger warning: this episode talks openly about sexual assault, consent, depression, and PTSD.

Please take care of yourself first. If you need to pause, skip around, or sit this one out completely, that's okay. I made the chapters below so you can navigate it on your terms.

A few things you'll hear in this one:

• why Off Campus felt like watching my own university years back at me
• the moment I didn't know I'd been assaulted until I read a poster on a bathroom door
• what actually happened when I went to my university's Sexual Assault Centre (and why I'm still grateful for it)
• the wild plot twist involving my birthday, my assault, and meeting my husband
• the dress and the skirt I kept for over a decade… and what I'm finally doing with them
• why I'm wrapping up this podcast, and how to stay in touch with me after this

If you're new here — hi, I'm Wendy. this is probably not the first impression I would've picked for you, but I hope you stick around for the other, lighter sides of me too.

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If this episode brought something up for you, please don't sit in it alone. Reach out to someone you trust, or a professional, or a helpline in your country. You’re not alone in this.

Chapters below 👇

0:00 Intro Why I'm Obsessed With Off Campus

1:16 Heads Up: This Is the Final Episode + Trigger Warning

3:33 Why This Story, Why Now

7:34 Sitting Down to Tell the Story

9:40 The First Incident

11:18 The Second Incident — My 21st Birthday

12:15 Realizing It Was Rape

16:25 Off Campus Parallels — Hannah's Story Mirrored Mine

18:11 Why the Sexual Assault Centre Helped (Even Though It Hurt)

22:19 More Off Campus Moments That Hit Home

24:09 Thank You Elle Kennedy and all the Cast and Crew

26:07 The Dress & Skirt — What I'm Going to Do With Them

27:38 Why I'm Ending Small Girl, Big Talk

31:16 The Hopeful Ending — Meeting Kevin, Healing, Marriage

33:20 How to Keep in Touch

34:18 Thank You + Reflecting on the Show's Seasons

36:36 Showing the Dress & Skirt

#OffCampus #SexualAssaultSurvivor #SmallGirlBigTalk

What does it actually take to leave a comfortable life behind and build something from scratch?

In this episode, I sat down with my friend Genevia, the founder of Wonkie Ice Cream in Penang, for a conversation that was packed with SO MUCH wisdom 🤯

On the surface, it's a story about a girl who quit her engineering job in Singapore to sell ice cream; but when we really dived deep into the real journey… We talked about how it’s all about learning to trust yourself, dealing with imposter syndrome, figuring out who you are when you step outside the identity you've always known, and building something that actually feels like you.

We got into:

— why feeling miserable in a "good" job is information worth listening to— how she went from home deliveries during MCO to running a full storefront— why imposter syndrome is actually a signal (not a stop sign)— what pitching to investors taught her about the rational vs. emotional mind— the "lazy entrepreneur" approach to systems and delegation— and the one question she asks herself every time fear shows up

This one's for anyone who's been sitting on a dream and waiting for the right moment.

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About Genevia:

Genevia is the founder of Wonkie Ice Cream, an ex-engineer who traded formulas for flavours and sees ice cream as a blank canvas for curiosity, creativity, and connection. Through Wonkie, she’s building a world that inspires people to explore life with more playfulness and courage, one unexpected scoop at a time.

🍦 Genevia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneviachin/

🍨 Wonkie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wonkieicecream

TIMESTAMP:

0:00 intro – meet Genevia & Wonkie Ice Cream

1:27 how we met in 2019 - the start of Genevia’s entrepreneurship journey

2:36 her corporate life in Singapore & why she was miserable

5:03 the phone call to her mom that changed everything

6:11 why she never even thought about finding another job

7:05 following joy as a compass before she even quit

8:47 does running a business kill the passion?

10:28 delegate what doesn't spark joy

11:21 the moments she almost broke down

12:29 burnout, mindfulness & her morning routine

15:08 the identity shift: corporate girl to business owner

15:54 imposter syndrome is a signal, not a stop sign

19:42 why she chooses action over overthinking

20:45 pitching to investors & opening the storefront

23:12 selling the dream vs. knowing your numbers

24:39 when people question your vision, don't take it personally

26:41 finding the right mentor for where you are

28:46 feminine energy in business – inside out

31:34 the lazy entrepreneur's guide to SOPs

34:02 releasing the guilt of stepping back from your own business

36:13 what's next for Genevia

39:89 advice for anyone with a dream: what's the worst that could happen?

41:16 closing thoughts – make the unknown known

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In this episode, i sat down in my living room with my friends, Nicole from Canada and Rae from Singapore, for an honest conversation about our shared journey as creators and entrepreneurs.

We talked about manifestation (in a practical, non-fluffy way), what it really takes to step into a version of yourself you haven't fully become yet, and why so many of us are waiting for permission that was never ours to ask for in the first place.

if you've ever felt like you're not ready, not qualified, not enough yet to go after what you actually want — this one's for you.

We got into:

• why showing all of yourself online attracts better people than niching down ever will
• what manifestation actually looks like when you strip away the aesthetics
• Nicole's journey from shy introvert to confident creator (and what actually shifted)
• why your confidence matters more than your credentials
• how to use your voice even when you're scaredand why becoming her starts way before you feel ready

If you've been in a season of reinvention, trying to build confidence, use your voice more boldly, or step into your next-level self — I think this conversation will really resonate with you.

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About Rae:

Rae has been shifting the energy of rooms since she was 15 — as an emcee, speaker, and coach. Her career proves that "too young, too short, too inexperienced" are just stereotypes that don't have to limit you. Rae doesn't just teach you how to speak, she guides purpose-driven leaders to align their inner and outer voice to create a presence that's impossible to ignore.

📍 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raematrix/

🎙️ Podcast: https://tinyurl.com/oyvpod

🎓 Free Training: https://www.raefung.com/instant-access-webinar

About Nicole:

Nicole is a YouTuber, coach, and entrepreneur on a mission to help 9-5ers build a side hustle and dream life beyond their jobs. She integrates Buddhist philosophy and ancient health and wellness practices into her work and everyday life.▶️ YouTube: www.youtube.com/@itsnicolesyk

📍 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsnicolesyk

🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/that-confident-creator/id1674637666

Timestamps:

0:00:00 intro – meeting friends from the internet & authentic connections

0:02:33 why putting yourself online attracts aligned people

0:05:15 why authenticity matters more in the age of AI

0:06:30 building genuine community through shared values

0:07:20 manifestation, spirituality & attracting your people

0:12:50 how to write/speak authentically and attract alignment

0:14:45 balancing creativity, intuition & business strategy

0:16:00 the artist trap: why beautiful content doesn't always convert

0:17:15 why failure is necessary for identity shifts

0:18:11 how manifestation actually works beyond positive thinking

0:18:36 visualizing your future identity clearly - Rae's vision

0:23:10 Nicole's journey from shy introvert to confident creator

0:25:10 it's okay to pivot - Wendy's change in vision

0:28:41 small courageous steps build self-confidence

0:33:58 anything worth creating has risks - the sacrifices along the way

0:41:54 dealing with parent's objection in an unconventional path

0:48:13 fear and anxiety in the early stages of entrepreneurship

0:51:55 your dreams are delusions if you're not practical with money and strategy

0:55:21 thoughts and beliefs that guided Nicole's identity shifts

0:58:52 our human tendency to focus on negative thoughts

1:00:45 say yes first, figure it out later mindset

1:03:14 main character energy and lucky girl syndrome

1:04:04 an easy way to approach surrendering

1:06:50 using your voice even when you're scared

1:10:35 final reflections & where to find Rae + Nicole

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There’s something I haven’t openly talked about for a long time — why I resisted calling myself a coach.

In this episode, I’m sharing the honest behind-the-scenes of what the last few months have looked like as I’ve been rebuilding my identity, my work, and my direction in this season of life. Identity shifts aren’t clean or linear, especially in our 30s when career, finances, and relationships all feel intertwined.

I talk about doing the work before feeling ready, the resistance I felt stepping into this next version of myself, and the realiSations that changed how I see growth, consistency, and aligned action.

If you’re in a phase where you know something is changing — but you can’t fully name it yet — this conversation might feel very familiar.

Toward the end, I also share the 4 pillars behind my identity shift coaching work and who it’s really for.

If you’ve been quietly feeling the nudge to rebuild, realign, or step into something bigger… this episode is for you.

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Timestamp:

0:00 intro — why i resisted calling myself a coach

0:46 identity shifts are always a work in progress

2:43 rebuilding life and identity in your 30s

3:45 this season’s focus: career, finances & relationships

4:40 the biggest questions during an identity shift (who am i becoming & how do i make money?)

5:41 what happened after i quit my job

7:19 doing the work before you feel ready

7:46 honest reflection after 4 months of showing up consistently

8:43 when consistency keeps you stuck in the wrong direction

10:23 how growth compounds when you stay committed

11:15 aligned action vs forced productivity

12:08 why i resisted calling myself a coach

15:50 what finally changed for me

17:45 are you hiding from your next level?

19:10 the 4 pillars behind my identity shift coaching framework

23:01 invitation to work with me

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If the advice to “just start” actually worked… we all would’ve done something by now, right?

In this episode, we’re talking about why so many women in their 30s and 40s feel stuck, and why it’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or scared.

We talk about the different types of stuck-ness and why change feels heavier when you’re older compared to your 20s. I also share about the 4 pillars that helped me move forward, and why I believe it’ll help you move forward too.

If you’ve been feeling behind, overwhelmed, or frustrated with yourself, you have to watch this now.

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TIMESTAMP:

0:00 intro – you’re not lazy or scared, you’re just stuck

0:58 the three types of feeling stuck

1:05 “i don’t know what i want”

1:49 “i know what i want but i can’t move”

2:39 “i want too many things at once”

4:10 changing in your 20s vs your 30s

5:01 why the stakes feel higher now

6:21 invisible responsibilities women carry

7:30 the evidence you’ve collected that says you’re not enough

8:27 4 pillars to break out of feeling stuck

9:40 mind: shifting mindset & building mental resilience

10:40 body: nervous system safety before action

11:32 systems: small sustainable steps that actually work

13:06 community: why you can’t do this alone

14:11 reflection homework for next week

16:20 outro + working together

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• Imposter Syndrome Stopping You from Achieving Your Goals | It's Not Mindset—It’s Your Nervous System - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6dZd61OuVLwsKG7ldeKdcp?si=7a11e013d7a64cfd
• Declutter Your Life: Reset Your Space, Mind, and Goals - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2iZFhIRpzwdM8649mk1Sgw?si=a96a4a4bb17b4738
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Lately, I’ve been thinking about how the desire to grow, change, or dream bigger somehow gets heavier as we get older — especially in our 30s. The expectations, the timelines, the pressure to “have it all figured out”… it can make you feel selfish or unrealistic for wanting something different at this age.

In this episode, we talk about why life doesn’t move in a straight line, how everyone’s timeline looks different, and why it’s actually okay to want more no matter where you’re at right now. I share real-life reflections, the fear of taking risks, and what it means to choose yourself without guilt.

Consider this episode your permission slip to want more in life, and to put your own needs first 🧡

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TIMESTAMP:

0:00 intro – when did wanting more start feeling wrong

1:23 why wanting more gets harder as we get older

1:32 expectations of life in your 30s

2:53 appreciating life but feeling pressure to achieve

4:39 life isn’t linear (and that’s okay)

5:17 real life examples of different timelines

7:31 it’s never too late to change direction

8:37 playing it safe vs taking the risk

9:06 feeling selfish for choosing yourself

11:27 seasons of giving vs receiving

12:35 it’s okay to want more in life

14:05 dreaming big but responsibly

15:35 your permission slip to want more

17:16 outro

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• Imposter Syndrome Stopping You from Achieving Your Goals | It's Not Mindset—It’s Your Nervous System -

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6dZd61OuVLwsKG7ldeKdcp?si=7a11e013d7a64cfd

• Declutter Your Life: Reset Your Space, Mind, and Goals - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2iZFhIRpzwdM8649mk1Sgw?si=a96a4a4bb17b4738

• Your Comfort Zone Is Quietly Stealing Your Life - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3acxsda6ddvygx89eAyIbp?si=6bac058822694c42

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Hello friends! The past couple weeks had been awful for me health-wise, but I’m glad to be back just to catch up with you!

In this short, casual chat, I’m easing back into connecting with you and sharing what this slower season of life has been teaching me.

We talk about why there’s never a perfect time to show up, how I’m learning to embrace low energy days (specifically around my menstrual cycle), and why slow progress is still real progress. I share some personal life updates, how I’m finding myself again lately, and even the little things like decluttering and fresh flowers that really reminded me of the fragility of life.

Most importantly, this episode is a reminder that you don’t have to feel ready, motivated, or perfect to start showing up for yourself. Sometimes growth looks like moving slowly, resting intentionally, and doing things imperfectly anyway. 🌼

Book a 1-on-1 Call with me now: https://coaching.wendyvaz.com/

TIMESTAMP:

0:00 — intro: easing back into showing up

0:42 — there’s never a perfect time to start

1:23 — low energy days & active rest (menstrual phase chat)

2:55 — slow is smooth, smooth is fast (trusting the process)

3:27 — podcast updates for this new season

4:55 — finding myself again lately

6:13 — decluttering for a fresh start

7:14 — why fresh flowers make me feel grounded

8:32 — the real message: show up even when you don’t feel like it

9:49 — embracing low energy as an extrovert

10:37 — outro

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• Your Comfort Zone Is Quietly Stealing Your Life - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3acxsda6ddvygx89eAyIbp?si=6bac058822694c42

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If you’ve been feeling stuck, unqualified, or like you’re “not ready yet,” this episode is for you. I’ve been coaching and talking about imposter syndrome a lot lately—not just the classic mindset stuff, but how deeply it’s connected to your nervous system, your sense of safety, and the way you trust yourself.

Most of us try to fix imposter syndrome by learning more, improving more, or looking outward for validation… but the real work starts inside your body. In this episode, I’m breaking down how self-doubt shows up in your nervous system, why your brain keeps looping insecurity, and how you can slowly rebuild that inner trust again.

I also share practical tools like somatic slowing-down practices, journaling prompts, and what helped me personally as an entrepreneur who didn’t feel “ready” or “qualified” for most of the things I do today.

We’ll talk about:

• Why imposter syndrome is a nervous system issue, not just a mindset issue
• How to calm your body so you can make decisions from clarity
• What self-trust actually looks like in real life
• A few honest updates about my podcast, my business, and why I’m not doing weekly episodes anymore

If you’re someone who’s always doubting yourself, waiting to feel “ready,” or struggling to own your work… I hope this episode helps you take one step closer to trusting your voice.

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• imposter syndrome: how to stop feeling like a fraud and be confident - https://open.spotify.com/episode/0j7m71XIuJsShFPwsmufjL?si=da70215e162948d4

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Are comedians really just depressed people hiding behind humour? I sat down with Malaysian comedian Kuah Jenhan to talk about the real side of comedy: dealing with grief, performing days after losing his dad, and why death is actually hilarious.

This conversation went deeper than expected. We talked about his 20-year journey in Malaysian standup, how social media is changing comedy, and his show about his late father that he rewrote after almost a decade.

If you've ever wondered what comedians are really like off stage, or why the funniest people seem to carry the heaviest stories - this one's for you.

🎭 ABOUT KUAH JENHAN:Kuah Jenhan is a Malaysian stand-up comedian with nearly 20 years in the scene. He's known for his narrative-driven comedy style, sharp storytelling, and his ability to make heavy topics like death genuinely entertaining. Recently grew his social media following from 5K to 18.6K in 1.5 years.

📍 Catch his show "Like This, Like Dad":

• Penang: November 8, 2025
• KL: November 14-15, 2025
• London: November 27, 2025

🎟️ Get tickets: http://kuahjenhan.com/tickets📱 Follow Jenhan: https://www.instagram.com/kuahjenhan/

📌 TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 - intro

1:00 - meet Kuah Jenhan: 20 years in Malaysian comedy

4:10 - social media changed comedy forever (crowd work era)

6:38 - “That Show” with Ming Yue

9:20 - are comedians actually depressed?

11:11 - comedians and mental health: breaking the stereotype

13:10 - writing a show about his late father (15 years later)

15:40 - rewriting "Like This, Like Dad" after a 9-year gap

20:07 - why death is actually funny (mourners and crematoriums)

22:36 - Wendy thought she'd die in her 20s (living with no plan)

25:06 - what "Like This, Like Dad" is really about

25:57 - how has death and grieving changed Jenhan’s view about life

29:41 - Jenhan’s thought process in crafting "Like This, Like Dad"

31:38 - performing days after his dad passed away

33:33 - comedy as a form of art

35:01 - the struggle with social media as a comedian

36:34 - going from 5K to 18.6K followers in 1.5 years

40:20 - social media as a new art form to master

46:28 - personality on stage and off stage

47:45 - upcoming shows: Penang, KL, London

49:23 - final message: go watch live comedy shows in Malaysia

🎙️ ABOUT SMALL GIRL BIG TALK:Small Girl, Big Talk is where real conversations meet personal growth. Hosted by Wendy Vaz, this podcast explores the highs and lows of adulthood—from overcoming imposter syndrome to balancing relationships, self-care, and big life changes like weddings and entrepreneurship. Through solo reflections and guest interviews, Wendy offers heartfelt insights and practical advice to help you thrive.

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Sitting in my empty apartment before moving, thinking about all the change this year brought. Some I planned (getting married, quitting my job), some I didn't (moving to a new home). Here's what I'm learning about trusting the process when life doesn't go according to plan.Everything changed this year, and I'm finally ready to talk about it.This video is a real, unfiltered conversation about navigating major life transitions in your late 20s and early 30s. If you're going through your own season of change - whether it's a career shift, relationship transition, or just feeling like everything is happening all at once - this one's for you.🌼 TIMESTAMP0:00 - why I'm sitting in an empty room talking about change0:39 - last day in my old home (empty apartment tour)1:21 - expected vs unexpected change (and why both matter)3:05 - sitting with discomfort when life feels uncertain4:15 - lucky girl syndrome and trusting the universe5:01 - being proactive vs reactive in seasons of change5:41 - if you ask for growth, don't cry when it arrives6:22 - learning to let go and ask for help7:14 - what it means to be a "true villager"8:05 - marriage taught me: you don't have to do everything alone8:39 - why I'm glowing through all this change10:00 - come along on this new chapter with meFOLLOW ME FOR MORE:🌻 My Newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Wendy's Instagram - https://instagram.com/wendyvazzy💛 Wendy's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@wendyvazzy🧡 SGBT Instagram - @smallgirlbigtalkFor Sponsorship and Collaboration: [email protected]#personalgrowth #lifetransitions #movingvlog #mindfulness #manifestation #ChangeIsGood #SelfDevelopment #20s #30s #RealTalk