Snug and Shady

Happy New Year! Who is feelin 2022? To kick off the new year, we wanted to talk to you about regrets, remorse, and resolutions! We discuss the impact of regret, what causes it, how it holds you back, and how to overcome having any. Regret is like trying to move forward with your head looking back - you'll get all turned around and never end up where you actually wanted to go. So tune in this week and let us know what you think! No Ragrets!! ;)

What was your tipping point, when you decided to run towards healing?

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can cry it away or eat it away, or starve it away, or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It’s just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and runa s far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own desire to heal.” - Cheryl Strayed

VULNERABILITY is the name of the game in today's episode! What is "disclosure reciprocity"? It's that grade-school-playground game of "I’ll tell you my secret if you tell me yours!" It leads to temporal coupling which means you’re on the same wavelength! This comes from sharing personal stories. This takes courage, to share struggles, open up, and build trust, empathy, intimacy, and relationships. Tune in to catch the discussion!

"Homeostasis is the ability that your body has to return to normal after an accident. Wounds heal, blood resumes flowing, illness passes. Self-regulation can be seen as a form of resilience, since it’s the emotional ability to return to equilibrium after a disruption. For individuals growing up under chronic stress or pervasive trauma, their ‘normal equilibrium’ is different from the average. They tend towards more disorganization and lack of emotional stability. It takes tremendous effort - psychologically and physiologically - to manage their lack of stability. In other words, their capacity for self-regulation is inhibited. We can presume this in turn decreases their resilience." ---Kathy Kain

Raise your hand if you've ever had a knock out verbal spar and won!....in your head??? This episode is all about those times when you live out a scene in your head to your satisfaction. You say the perfect comeback, imagine the perfect tableau, and get to change the narrative of reality. Why are these daydreams so seductive to our psyche? Are they damaging? How can we learn from these practices? Tune in to a brand new episode of Snug and Shady!

We've all had those toxic tales of love and woe... but what about those relationships that just... fizzle? Not everything or everyone is a toxic villian in your life, and sometimes it's harder to let go of someone who doesn't present as an obvious antagonist. This week, we discuss those Non-Toxic Love tales!

The holidays are upon us, friends! Some of us have difficult family dynamics to navigate, some of us are spending the holidays alone, and some of us are crankin up the Hallmark Christmas Movie dial! This episode is for everyone who's got family to manage and boundaries to enforce. Welcome to all our new listeners! What is your favorite holiday tradition? Email us at [email protected] !

A very special Patreon episode is airing for your today! We are much more goofy, uncensored, and shady on the Patreon episodes! So get ready for a wild ride! This episode is from our series about bad roommates and all the drama they drag us through. Have you had a bad roommate experience? Email us and tell the tale! SnugAndShady @gmail.com

Are you a people pleaser? Is it a facet of your life to do what makes others happy? Do you put others before yourself... to an unhealthy amount? We discuss the line between people pleasing and compassion, empathy, and boundaries. It's good to be a helpful person! But you cannot give from an empty well.

People pleasing started as parent pleasing!

Toxic Positivity! You've heard about it, you probably know a little something about it.... but what's wrong with being positive?? Isn't that a sign of good mental health to look for the bright side? Tune in this week and learn about this grey area of mental health and social media. Learn about why it takes a level of self awareness to acknowledge sad times, but keep moving forward. And thank you for 50 episodes!!