Snug and Shady

Happy Halloweeeeeen! We bring you a special spooky episode -- emotional vampires! These are the "people that act like everything is a CRISIS!" The people who suck you dry of your energy, your emotions, your will to be compassionate. Do you have these people in your life? Have you ever been one?! (We fully admit to being energy vampires from time to time... yikes!) It's hard to see it in yourself. It's even harder to enforce boundaries on these people in your life! Tune in to this goofy but helpful episode. Tell us what you think!

"Choosing the easy road doesn't lead to growth, it leads to mediocrity. It's not about avoiding the struggle, it's about developing the ability to thrive in it." Justin Su'a

What does it mean to build an exceptional life life? What does a purposeful and fulfilled life look like to you? If you believed that anything was possible, what does your dream life look like? Join the discussion!

In this episode, Calvin and Cynthia discuss the issues surrounding social media. What are the pros and cons? Is it all bad? Is it all good? How does it impact your mental health, and your life, and your long term goals? So many of us spend vast amounts of time with a screen in front of our face. What does that do to our mental health? if "consumption kills creativity," what is this doing to our lives? Join the discussion this week!

This week we discuss the book "What Happened to You?" by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah. This book explores human behavior thru the lens of seeking to understand the present by shedding light on the past. As Shakespeare once wrote, "What's past is prologue." So much of human behavior can be understood and dealt with once we approach interactions with compassion for past events. We cover stories from the book that stayed with us, discuss how some current behaviors reflect past cultural norms, and how that impacts us in our daily life. Join the discussion now!

What do you do when you only have a minute to pull it together? Five minutes? 30 Minutes? A whole day? Some of us experience moments where we only have a minute to get back on top of our mental health, while others might get a bit more room to recalibrate. This week, we discuss our own practices for wellness and how we stay on top of our therapy when the going gets tough. Tune in now! And let us know what you do when you're short on time!

Join us this week for another special guest - Melissa! An instant friend of Calvin's, they connected on a hilarious and wonderful level during a service trip! Melissa brings great insight into licensed professional therapy, the need for everyone to go to therapy, and how deeply we are affected by the systems in our lives. There is brokenness in our systems, and when we see it, we have the tools to fix it - forgiveness, boundaries, and intention.

"There is relief in knowing what you can't control." - Melissa

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Another very special guest episode on the Snug and Shady show! Cynthia's friend, Michael, joins the show today to discuss the role of leadership in the business world, and how connecting with people in positive ways drives better outcomes. We also discuss confirmation bias and self deception, and what a seductive path that is. Rationalizing and turning a blind eye to our own behavior makes any recovery more challenging.

The white lies we tell ourselves is like a pot of boiling water! You jump in when it's cold and little by little, the white lies turn the heat up. The key is to not start and catch yourself when you start!

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Gather 'round kids, this week we are talking about Attachment Theory!

What make relationships fall apart? So many of get involved with someone, only to tell our friends when it ends, "oh, that was such a toxic relationship!" What drives connection in relationships and then ultimately leads to its demise?

Attachment theory may be to blame. Due to the way some people were raised, people can be either secure, anxious, or avoidant attachers. The Anxious ones get classified as clingy and needy, often needing more emotionally than their partner can provide. The Avoidants are the ones who cut ties when it gets too real, ghost, and are afraid of love. Secure attachers are the gold standard - which we can all learn to become!

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Listen to Cynthia have a panic moment over swear words :)

And join the discussion - part 2! - with Brittany as we continue the discussion on trauma and the ACE score. Adverse Childhood Experiences is a test you can use to see how likely certain trauma behaviors are for you in your own life. Because trauma affects your genetics and biology, it can also make you more susceptible to illness. We discuss further the impact this has on your whole life, and why compassion and empathy are so important for everyone to give.

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Another very special guest joins us today - Calvin's friend Brittany! Calvin and Brittany discuss all things trauma, especially childhood trauma and how it plays out in adulthood. So many of us don't realize how unmet childhood needs (especially emotional needs) affects our adult relationships.

Trauma literally changes your biology! Trauma is like it's own entity, and is stored in your body. It needs to be released some way - physical therapy, talk therapy, sound therapy, energy healing, pick a lane and heal that trauma! Trauma turns you into a fight, flight, freeze or fawn mentality. It keeps you trapped in that thought pattern, and constantly scanning for danger or rejection.

Brittany discusses the impact of this mindset and problem, and how important it is to overcome and heal it. Overcome intergenerational trauma and heal your family! Listen now!