This week, Vic and Hamish dive headfirst into one of the most common and dangerously convincing excuses in the drinking world:

“I’m not alcoholic enough to stop.”

It’s the idea that if you haven’t hit rock bottom, you haven’t earned your sober stripes. That unless you’re swigging whiskey at 10am or shouting at a toaster in a wine-stained dressing gown, your drinking “isn’t that bad.”

In this episode, Vic and Hame finally get to be the experts—sharing their own experiences of going sober before things totally fell apart. They explore why people cling to this excuse, the outdated stereotype of what an “alcoholic” looks like, and how the stigma, denial, fear of change, and cultural acceptance of booze all play a part in keeping people stuck.

There’s also some fascinating research, a bit of self-deprecating truth telling, and yes—a shame-prevention schemes, and an Australian slang battle that proves even ChatGPT might be an alcoholic.

By the end of this one, you’ll be asking:

– Do I really have to wait until everything breaks to make a change?

– What if I just skip the crash and start feeling better now?

Packed with laughs, science, stories, and serious wake-up calls, this is the episode for anyone who’s ever said:

“I’m not that bad.”

🎧 Show Notes

💛 Resources & Links

📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays

A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.

👉 Buy the book here

🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes

👉 www.soberawkward.com

🫖 Join The Cuppa Community

Our private, supportive online space for sober folk

👉 www.cuppa.community

📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide

Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.

👉 The Sober Awkward Guide

📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:

Instagram: @soberawkward

TikTok: @soberawkward

Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women

🚨 Helplines & Support

🇦🇺 Australia

– Alcohol & Drug Foundation (ADF) – 1300 85 85 84

– Lifeline – 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support)

– Hello Sunday Morning / Daybreak App – hellosundaymorning.org

🇬🇧 UK

– Drinkline (NHS) – 0300 123 1110

– Alcoholics Anonymous UK – www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk

🇺🇸 USA

– SAMHSA National Helpline – 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

– AA USA – www.aa.org

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🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!

Every Thursday, we’re serving up a little slice of Sober Awkward history – a short, powerful clip from one of our most-loved past episodes.

Why? Because sometimes, the right words hit differently the second time around. Whether you’re new here or a long-time listener, these throwback moments are here to keep you company, remind you you’re not alone, and offer that little nudge of insight or encouragement just when you need it.

Think of it as a midweek check-in. Something bite-sized to walk with, laugh at, or quietly reflect on. And if the clip hits home? You can go back and listen to the full episode anytime – just follow the link in the show notes.

We know one episode a week isn’t always enough – so here’s your extra helping of honesty, humour, and a bit of awkwardness to get you through the week.

🎧 Listen to the full episode here → https://open.spotify.com/episode/6M5Q1EFGww6FBCmtkXCJfR?si=2eb734cabf18429b

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Have you ever been conned? Or are we being conned all the time… and it’s only after a few years of sobriety that the fog lifts and the truth comes into focus?

In this episode, we’re taking on the big guns — yep, we’re questioning everything. From government booze taxes and sneaky advertising tactics to ingrained drinking culture and societal pressure. Is alcohol just one big con sold to us from birth? And if so… is sobriety actually a quiet rebellion?

Yes - we are taking the blame of the end user today and pointing our fingers at the people in charge of selling us all a massive lie. It’s deep, it’s awkward, and of course, in the most Sober Awkward way, not as serious as it was supposed to be. Somewhere between thigh gaps and Vic’s imaginary OnlyFans page, things take a very weird turn. All we’re going to say is: sandpaper. You’ll have to listen to find out.

Tune in as we dig into the system that told us we needed a drink — and why choosing not to might just be the most rebellious thing you’ll ever do.

Show Notes

Vic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...

Buy Here on Audible and Ebook

and please give a review at www.goodreads.com

JOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!

https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291

www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.

@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy

@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotify

If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -

[email protected]

Sign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com

#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

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🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!

Every Thursday, we’re serving up a little slice of Sober Awkward history – a short, powerful clip from one of our most-loved past episodes.

Why? Because sometimes, the right words hit differently the second time around. Whether you’re new here or a long-time listener, these throwback moments are here to keep you company, remind you you’re not alone, and offer that little nudge of insight or encouragement just when you need it.

Think of it as a midweek check-in. Something bite-sized to walk with, laugh at, or quietly reflect on. And if the clip hits home? You can go back and listen to the full episode anytime – just follow the link in the show notes.

We know one episode a week isn’t always enough – so here’s your extra helping of honesty, humour, and a bit of awkwardness to get you through the week.

🎧 Listen to the full episode here → https://open.spotify.com/episode/6M5Q1EFGww6FBCmtkXCJfR?si=2eb734cabf18429b

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Sobriety Capital – Gathering Your Tools for the Road Ahead

This week on Sober Awkward, we’re diving into a big, juicy topic: Sobriety Capital. What is it, why does it matter, and how do you build it?

Sobriety capital is all about what you put in place to create a long, strong, and sustainable sober life. It’s the combination of your living situation, finances, emotional support, inner resources, and practical tools—the foundations that help you weather the wobbles and keep moving forward.

We’re thrilled to welcome the amazing Jean McCarthy, who pops in to explain what sobriety capital is and why it’s a game-changer when you’re ditching the drink.

Vic and Hamish then unpack what they had in place (spoiler: not a lot), what they wished they’d had, and what they slowly added to their sober toolkits over time. There’s also a surprising amount of chat about ducks, geese, and other random bird-related metaphors.

It’s a longer episode, but if you’re wondering how to prepare yourself for sober success, this one’s a must. Grab a cuppa, fluff your feathers, and get ready to build your sobriety nest. 🦆💛

Show Notes

To find out more about Jean McCarthy go to https://unpickledblog.com

And find her podcast The Bubble Hour wherever you find your podcasts or via the link below.

https://open.spotify.com/show/4lfVy2RxM9oighai9YcebX?si=651fefdb7b8d49e1

Vic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...

Buy Here on Audible and Ebook

and please give a review at www.goodreads.com

JOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!

https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291

www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.

@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy

@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotify

If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -

[email protected]

Sign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com

#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

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🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!

Every Thursday, we’re serving up a little slice of Sober Awkward history – a short, powerful clip from one of our most-loved past episodes.

Why? Because sometimes, the right words hit differently the second time around. Whether you’re new here or a long-time listener, these throwback moments are here to keep you company, remind you you’re not alone, and offer that little nudge of insight or encouragement just when you need it.

Think of it as a midweek check-in. Something bite-sized to walk with, laugh at, or quietly reflect on. And if the clip hits home? You can go back and listen to the full episode anytime – just follow the link in the show notes.

We know one episode a week isn’t always enough – so here’s your extra helping of honesty, humour, and a bit of awkwardness to get you through the week.

🎧 Listen to the full episode here →https://open.spotify.com/episode/0dFNuQHGTZxRnW7AlQAADX?si=0d25b00ff44f4fd3

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This week, Hame’s been thinking about death.

(Not in a “quick, someone check on him” kind of way — more in a “what does it all mean?” kind of way.)

One of the biggest reasons people shy away from sobriety is that niggling fear of missing out. But what exactly are we so afraid of missing? The dance floors? The chaos? The… hangovers?

In this episode, we’re asking a deeper question — is it possible that sobriety actually helps us get more out of life, not less?

We take inspiration from Bronnie Ware, a former palliative care nurse who captured the most common regrets of the dying in her powerful book. It got us thinking: when we get to the end, what really matters? And how does alcohol — or the lack of it — fit into the picture?

Turns out, there might be more to YOLO than bottomless brunches and vodka Red Bulls. This episode is part existential musing, part life pep talk… with the usual awkward laughs and emotional detours along the way.

Come for the mortality crisis, stay for the realisation that sober life might just be the fullest life of all.

Show Notes

Sign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com

Vic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...

https://a.co/d/3HBqf8T

JOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!

https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291

www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.

@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy

@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotify

If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!

Every Thursday, we’re serving up a little slice of Sober Awkward history – a short, powerful clip from one of our most-loved past episodes.

Why? Because sometimes, the right words hit differently the second time around. Whether you’re new here or a long-time listener, these throwback moments are here to keep you company, remind you you’re not alone, and offer that little nudge of insight or encouragement just when you need it.

Think of it as a midweek check-in. Something bite-sized to walk with, laugh at, or quietly reflect on. And if the clip hits home? You can go back and listen to the full episode anytime – just follow the link in the show notes.

We know one episode a week isn’t always enough – so here’s your extra helping of honesty, humour, and a bit of awkwardness to get you through the week.

🎧 Listen to the full episode here → https://open.spotify.com/episode/0dFNuQHGTZxRnW7AlQAADX?si=bcab6715657d4c4d

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This week, Hamish sits down with the incredible Davinia Taylor—former Hollyoaks actress turned sober hero and health warrior. In this eye-opening conversation, Davinia shares her journey from alcohol-fuelled chaos to reclaiming her health through sobriety and metabolic science.

She opens up about battling postnatal depression, understanding dopamine-driven alcohol-seeking behaviours, and why peri-menopause can make quitting booze even trickier. Davinia also reveals the power of tracking your cycle, advocating for your own health, and why you should demand more from your doctor—especially when it comes to blood tests and hormonal balance.

Plus, we explore how technology is revolutionising women’s health, from wearable trackers to apps that decode hormonal shifts, helping women understand their bodies like never before.

And here’s something you might not have considered—could a little bit of testosterone be the missing piece for women’s health? Davinia unpacks why this often-overlooked hormone can be a game-changer for energy, confidence, and overall well-being.

If you’re feeling sober but stuck in a flat mood, struggling with motivation, or just not feeling quite right, this episode has the answers. It might not be your willpower or mindset—it could all be down to your gut.

In this insightful episode Davinia explains how what you eat, how you move, and the way you support your metabolic health can be the key to rewiring your brain for long-term happiness and balance.

It’s an episode packed with science, sass, and serious inspiration—don’t miss it!

Show Notes

Davinia's Instagram is @daviniataylor

Find out more about her company Will Powders at will powders.com

www.soberawkward.com

Vic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...

https://a.co/d/3HBqf8T

JOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!

https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291

www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.

@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy

@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotify

If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -

[email protected]

Sign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com

#SoberAwkward

#SoberStory

#SobrietyJourney

#InspiringSobriety

#SoberAt57

#AlcoholFreeLiving

#TraumaHealing

#SoberDating

#SoberCurious

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#SoberFreedom

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🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!

Every Thursday, we’re serving up a little slice of Sober Awkward history – a short, powerful clip from one of our most-loved past episodes.

Why? Because sometimes, the right words hit differently the second time around. Whether you’re new here or a long-time listener, these throwback moments are here to keep you company, remind you you’re not alone, and offer that little nudge of insight or encouragement just when you need it.

Think of it as a midweek check-in. Something bite-sized to walk with, laugh at, or quietly reflect on. And if the clip hits home? You can go back and listen to the full episode anytime – just follow the link in the show notes.

We know one episode a week isn’t always enough – so here’s your extra helping of honesty, humour, and a bit of awkwardness to get you through the week.

🎧 Listen to the full episode here →

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4JLlluSHhOszqYeASiCBcR?si=2f37f5020b624263

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