Solid-ish

Thank you so much for a fun couple of years! We are not sure what the future holds, but no matter what, we wish your marriage the very best.

Ever wondered if your spouse is a narcissist? You are not alone! In this episode, Scott and Betsy explain why there's a good reason so many people feel this way. They also share five powerful steps you can take toward relationship healing and repair.

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It seems obvious that higher levels of self-compassion would have a good impact on your relationship, but research says it might not be so clear-cut. In this episode, Scott and Betsy dig into a couple of studies that focus on the impact of self-compassion, as well as conscientiousness, on relationships.

For further information, check out the studies Scott and Betsy are referencing:

Neff, K. & Beretvas, N. (2012), The Role of Self-Compassion in Romantic Relationships; Self and Identity

- Link: https://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/publications/Neff.Beretvas.pdf

Baker, L. & McNulty, J. (2011) Self-Compassion and Relationship Maintenance: the moderating roles of conscientiousness and gender; J Pers Soc Psychol.

- Link: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3082631/

In this episode, Scott and Betsy give a quick review of the "Cycle" from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and explore why couples who are able to exit the cycle successfully also seem to be able to describe their cycle in only a few words.

Thanks for listening and sharing! Be sure to comment if you have any questions or want us to address a specific topic within marriage.

In this episode, we interview Scott Courey, a marriage therapist specializing in marriage betrayal recovery. Scott shares wonderful insights about the traumatic nature of betrayal and outlines the "5 Stories" a couple must go through to fully recover from such a devastating blow to the marriage bond.

If you want to check out more from Scott Courey, be sure to check out his website: http://www.couplesrecovering.com

Learn the essential ingredients your kids (and maybe your spouse) need to learn to better regulate their emotions. Scott and Betsy give the EFT perspective on and article put out by the Gottman Institute: An Age-By-Age Guide to Helping Kids Manage Emotions (https://www.gottman.com/blog/age-age-guide-helping-kids-manage-emotions).

Resources from this episode:

www.jessplusthemess.com

www.thelucasproject.org

www.caregiverdoc.com

Jess and Ryan Ronne both lost their spouses to brain cancer, found each other, and now live a challenging and meaningful life with their 8 children, one of which is profoundly disabled. In this episode, Scott and Betsy talk with Jess about the reality of their life and their marriage. Jess shares powerful stories and important insights about how to maintain a healthy family and marriage in the middle of significant struggle.

In this episode, Scott and Betsy get real about the struggles they are having in their marriage right now. They share about the cycle that's keeping them disconnected and describe what they are doing (and what's working) to re-ignite hope for the future.

Scott and Betsy are joined by Sherrie Sin from Straight Line Design to talk about a big marriage stressor...home renovations! Sherrie shares stories of married couples doing that process well, doing it poorly, and shares some tips on how to make your own home renovations go as smoothly as possible.

Scott and Betsy talk with Alex Overbeek, a financial advisor at Provisio Retirement Partners, about his experiences and advice around marriage and money. Alex explains common areas money can cause trouble in the relationship and gives some important tips on how to avoid those pitfalls. You can check Provisio out at: https://www.provisioretirement.com