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In this episode, we get to highlight two common core fears: "Do I matter to you?" and "Will I ever be enough for you?"
Brooke's heart was breaking when she felt Spencer wouldn't create protected space for just the two of them. She was feeling worthless and alone, but feared that sharing this pain with Spencer over and over again would only make things worse. She tried to hold her pain alone and it almost killed her.
Spencer was angry, ashamed, and scared when his best effort resulted in a hurting and suicidal wife. Suddenly his world is upside down: actively showing love to his wife seems to have no effect, things that used to be positive are suddenly negative.
Things turned around for Brooke and Spencer as they looked honestly at their pain, took ownership of their impact on each other, and stepped courageously toward seeing each other's heart in the middle of the mess.