Sometimes In Life

What I Learned:

1 ⇢ The Creater talks to us and places things in our chest (knwollage and comfort) even if we arn;t prophets ourselves.

وَأَوْحَيْنَا إِلَىٰ أُمِّ مُوسَىٰ أَنْ أَرْضِعِيهِ ۖ فَإِذَا خِفْتِ عَلَيْهِ فَأَلْقِيهِ فِي الْيَمِّ وَلَا تَخَافِي وَلَا تَحْزَنِي ۖ إِنَّا رَادُّوهُ إِلَيْكِ وَجَاعِلُوهُ مِنَ الْمُرْسَلِينَ

سورة القصص | 7

2 ⇢ The Creater just gives us enough heads up to strengthen our hearts and give us comfort to move forward and take the steps we need to take.

3 ⇢ Soemtimes it's a blessing and out of mercy that when he does place information in our hearts that he doesnt show us everyhting, coz if he did we would ahve failed and fought amongst each other.

إِذْ يُرِيكَهُمُ اللَّهُ فِي مَنَامِكَ قَلِيلا وَلَوْ أَرَاكَهُمْ كَثِيرًا لَفَشِلْتُمْ وَلَتَنَازَعْتُمْ فِي الأَمْرِ وَلَكِنَّ اللَّهَ سَلَّمَ إِنَّهُ عَلِيمٌ بِذَاتِ الصُّدُورِ (43)

سورة الأنفال

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A Good Heart

Album: Unconditional

Artist: Marc Enfroy

فَسَتُبْصِرُ وَيُبْصِرُونَ (5) بِأَييِّكُمُ الْمَفْتُونُ (6) إِنَّ رَبَّكَ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَن ضَلَّ عَن سَبِيلِهِ وَهُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِالْمُهْتَدِينَ (7)

سورة القلم من ٥ الى ٧

What I Learned:

⇢ It's hard to see things clearly when our ego is involved.

⇢ If you ever find yourself in life confused whether what you're doing is right or wrong then ask God "اللهم بصرني"/ God, please give me the ability to see.. and you will suddenly know.

⇢ Asking God for the ability to see takes courage (coz you're letting those ego walls down), and it also takes trust in him. Hold on to that.

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Talk soon,

Noorah

Sound Credits:


A Good Heart

Album: Unconditional

Artist: Marc Enfroy

“If I only knew why then I could heal. I could move on… “

"I need closer before I can move on"

Seems logical, right?

Todays Ayas:

يَاأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اسْتَجِيبُوا لِلَّهِ وَلِلرَّسُولِ إِذَا دَعَاكُمْ لِمَا يُحْيِيكُمْ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ يَحُولُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْءِ وَقَلْبِهِ وَأَنَّهُ إِلَيْهِ تُحْشَرُونَ(24)

سورة الأنفال

وَإِذْ قَالَ إِبْرَاهِيمُ رَبِّ أَرِنِي كَيْفَ تُحْيِي الْمَوْتَىٰ ۖ قَالَ أَوَلَمْ تُؤْمِن ۖ قَالَ بَلَىٰ وَلَٰكِن لِّيَطْمَئِنَّ قَلْبِي ۖ

سورة البقررة 260

⇢ What I learned:

When life happens and things don’t make sense, we have three choices. We can either:

1- Let go of how we think things “should” have been. Surrendering to The Creator and accepting (الإستسلام) while taking responsibility for our efforts and make the most out of the hands we were dealt with.

2- Stay suck in the loop of trying SO HARD to make the thing fit in the way we think they “should be" or how they are "supposed to go"

3- But there's also a third way that not everyone talks about... Where we get stuck the hole in between and it sounds like this "I will surrender and except but first I need to understand why."

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Sound Credits:


A Good Heart

Album: Unconditional

Artist: Marc Enfroy

"I keep praying and God doesn't seem to be listening to me"

"Why is God giving me the opposite of my prayers?"

In my search for understanding, one of the strongest lessons I learned are:

⇢ the same events that we think would leave us feeling like we lost something important-something that we thought belonged to us was taken away-are the same events that bring those things to us.

⇢ The method might be in a different to get it (the shape it comes in or the path we go through) But it is what we wished, need and asked for.

وَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰ أَن تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

سورة البقرة اية 216

One other thing, we won't necessarily understand it all... Or it might take time...

الإيمان بالغيب

Believing in the unseen is part of the religion the challenge. IF we all see what it is all the time it's not anymore believing in the unseen?

Our job is to ask and seek, God replies:

1⇢ the way He sees best (How)

فَلَمَّا تَرَاءَى الْجَمْعَانِ قَالَ أَصْحَابُ مُوسَىٰ إِنَّا لَمُدْرَكُونَ (61

[ الشعراء : 61]

2⇢the time He sees best (When)

حَتَّى يَقُولَ الرَّسُولُ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَعَهُ مَتَى نَصْرُ اللَّهِ

سورة البقرة اية 216

They didn't know when Gods help would come, or when they would die or when people would believe them or when the day of Judgment would be

Whatever shape and path and whenever it comes with.

The real question is.. do we trust God?

More tomorrow about dealing with not knowing- or when we find ourselves asking the question Why... why is this happening or if I only knew why I could move on.

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Sound Credits:


A Good Heart

Album: Unconditional

Artist: Marc Enfroy

Today I want to take to you something that is very dear to my heart.

Not too long ago, I was faced with a choice that truly scared me to the point of wanting to disappear. In my heart, I know what the right choice was but I was terrified.. because if I did that.. if I did I would have to go through a lot of pain and heartache.. and I didn't want that.

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That's when I remember coming across this aya.

A message from Allah loud and clear.

يَاأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اسْتَجِيبُوا لِلَّهِ وَلِلرَّسُولِ إِذَا دَعَاكُمْ لِمَا يُحْيِيكُمْ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ يَحُولُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْءِ وَقَلْبِهِ وَأَنَّهُ إِلَيْهِ تُحْشَرُونَ(24) ﴾. ( سورة الأنفال).

⇢ What I Learned:

It's amazing how the things that we think would break us (and even if they did in the beginning) are the exact same things that Allah promises will give us life. And He always keeps His promise.

Talk to Him. Tell him how you feel and what you're afraid of. Ask Him for what you need. Have a conversation with Him.

والحمدلله الذي جعل التشكي اليه عبادة

Quran is basically God talking to us and Prayer is us talking to him, and you can't get to know someone and have a relationship with him unless you take to them and spend time with them.

Coaching Question:

• Is there an area in your life where you feel like Allah has been guiding and calling you to a path that might seem daunting and scary?

• What would it take for you to believe that the path has a life beyond what you and I can understand and see and that his promise is true but we might not be able to see it until we chose to take it?

More resources:

www.noorahkareem.com

Talk soon,

Noorah

Here's what I learned:

There is a healthy and unhealthy way of "surrendering" الإستسلام

Are you surrendering as in "I don't care anymore!/ I give up!", or is it "I surrender to The Creator all my issues and trust his way and still willing to do my part"?

I feel like true surrendering was one of the biggest lessons I had to learn over and over again in my life. With every stage of life a new way of trusting him. And maybe that will always be a lesson you and I will have to continue learning and cleaning our hearts with.

Another thing in life I learned is that sometimes in life, God tests us with two kinds of tests:

1- to see if we will go against the odds and make something happen/change.

2- To see if we will accept his decree? (Our job is to do the effort and the results are on God). Getting sick, lost of someone, or in situations where we did everything we were supposed to do we got a divorce, lost a job, ask for forgiveness but others couldn't forgive us or we didn't marry the person we wanted, etc. whatever it is.. that He closed the door.

⇢ Our job in life is to find out what situation is which?

استخارة

Is basically asking God which path to take.. asking him to open and close the right doors and make our hearts in peace with it.

Questions for self-reflection:

• Are you accepting God's decree?

• What do you need to accept right now?

More resources:

• Man's Search for Meaning, a book by Viktor Frankl

• Take the Emotional Intelligence assessment: https://www.noorahkareem.com/assessment

• Or email me at [email protected]

قَالَ رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَهَبْ لِي مُلْكًا لَّا يَنبَغِي لِأَحَدٍ مِّن بَعْدِي ۖ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ الْوَهَّابُ (35) فَسَخَّرْنَا لَهُ الرِّيحَ تَجْرِي بِأَمْرِهِ رُخَاءً حَيْثُ أَصَابَ (36) وَالشَّيَاطِينَ كُلَّ بَنَّاءٍ وَغَوَّاصٍ (37) وَآخَرِينَ مُقَرَّنِينَ فِي الْأَصْفَادِ (38) هَٰذَا عَطَاؤُنَا فَامْنُنْ أَوْ أَمْسِكْ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ

More Resources:

• Prophet Sulaiman's Prayer - Nouman Ali Khan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnvzL7VlIqA

• The Book "Start With Why" by Simon Sinek

• www.noorahkareem.com

بَلِ الْإِنسَانُ عَلَىٰ نَفْسِهِ بَصِيرَةٌ (14) وَلَوْ أَلْقَىٰ مَعَاذِيرَهُ (15)

القيامة Al-Qiyaama

"No doubt about it human being is in full view of himself, even if they give excuses"

Some excuses:

"They make me angry, it's their fault. That's why I scream yell and say mean things."

"I had really bad parents."

"I'm a hopeless case."

"God won't except me anyway. I made too many mistakes"

"I grew up poor what was I suppose to do."

Three things:

1- Human beings have been given choices

2-With choice comes responsibility.

3- There are consequences: in this world, we can give our excuses and possibly even get away with it. But in the next world, God will ask us.

When we are blind we don’t have a choice in thing. But when we become aware, we suddenly have choices. We have a vision of who we want to be and where we would like to go.

Two questions to leave you with:

• What are you pretending not to see? and what would happen if you did?

• Fill in the blank: did I try my best today to _______ ??

Sound Credits:


A Good Heart

Album: Unconditional

Artist: Marc Enfroy

More at www.noorahkareem.com

⇢ "I'm just an angry person."

⇢ "You know I get angry fast, it's your fault for triggering me."

⇢ "I'm a hopeless case"

Is there truth to these statements?

Today's Ayas:

إِنَّ الْإِنْسَانَ خُلِقَ هَلُوعاً * إِذَا مَسَّهُ الشَّرُّ جَزُوعاً * وَإِذَا مَسَّهُ الْخَيْرُ مَنُوعاً * إِلَّا الْمُصَلِّينَ* الَّذِينَ هُمْ عَلَى صَلَاتِهِمْ دَائِمُونَ

قُلْ كُلٌّ يَعْمَلُ عَلَىٰ شَاكِلَتِهِ فَرَبُّكُمْ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنْ هُوَ أَهْدَىٰ سَبِيلًا

Yes, human beings have been created in a reactionary way. Yes, we are born with that tendency and yes, we all have different challenges. What comes easily to you may not come easily to me and what comes naturally to you might take a lot of effort from me and my strengths may be your weaknesses.

And that's okay.

I believe we are put here to figure ourselves out and then work accordingly.

Even on an emotional level, we all have different strengths and challenges and it's important to know what they are and then work with them. We are born with certain things that come "easy" and "hard" to us but we still have "choices".

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Sound Credits:


A Good Heart

Album: Unconditional

Artist: Marc Enfroy

Where does anger come from and what is it trying to tell us?

What does The Quran say about them and where does he place them in our physical form?

What I learned from my work in therapy and working closely with clients, is that when anger shows up it’s always there for a reason. And we usually go to anger when we are uncomfortable or maybe just not ready to deal with sadness or fear.

Anger directs emotions outward, and it also enables us to feel like we are in control in these situations, and we like being in control.

It's normal that most of us hate dealing with uncomfortable emotions such as sadness, anxiety, and fear, so we tent to avoid. One of the ways we avoid them is by anger. Anger is useful and even a healthy emotion when understood how to use it, how much of it to use, when, where and with whom but most importantly to understand why it is there.

Anger always has a reason for showing up and is an indication that there is a deeper issue. Maybe a value that has been threatened. Anger is a call to action. We must understand why it's there, what it's trying to tell us and what emotions are hiding behind it.

The reason I say sadness or fear, is because usually when we feel like:

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1 ⇨ we lost something (in the past = sadness)

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or we feel like:

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2 ⇨ something bad might happen in the future (future = fear)

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And we aren’t yet ready to deal with it we choose anger because it makes us feel in control.

Personally, I haven't decided if there is a third reason (غيره على دين الله anger when someone Goes against God's religion) but for today we will talk about the first two reasons.

I want to share with you two different ways Allah uses very similar ayas.. one dealing with fear and the other anger...

1-

ثُمَّ أَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ سَكِينَتَهُ عَلَى رَسُولِهِ وَعَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ

He sent tranquility and peace onto their hearts of the believers

It's felt on the heart.. on our skin.. fear of the future..

In this situation, the prophet and companions were feeling fear and needed tranquility on their hearts.

2-

هُوَ الَّذِي أَنْزَلَ السَّكِينَةَ فِي قُلُوبِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ لِيَزْدَادُوا إِيمَانًا مَعَ إِيمَانِهِمْ

He sent it into the hearts of the believers. In this situation, the companions were feeling anger and needed tranquility in their hearts.

Coz anger is placed inside of the hearts.

Here is a little tip: The next time you, or someone you know, is experiencing anger asking questions like "what are you afraid of?" or "are you sad?", when asked genuinely with a safe space to explore the underlining emotions, might help you move and the people you love past the anger in it's and deal with the real emotion and need behind it.

More resources:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ab9SFslS9bo

The Quran's Remedy for Sadness by Nouman Ali Khan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3zy5EdKR3g

Sound Credits:


A Good Heart

Album: Unconditional

Artist: Marc Enfroy