Secure attachment is a buzz word in the relationship coaching world, but how do we create it? Why do some relationships fizzle out while others last a lifetime? 

In the latest episode of the SSLP Podcast, I interview transformational relationship mentor Dr. Gary Salyer. For the last decade, Dr. Salyer has helped singles and couples release old pain and learn the skills to create secure love. He explains that it's about learning how to slow down and attune to each other emotionally, not just jump into problem-solving before you feel like you're on the same team. 

In our in-depth interview, Gary shares:

What are the feelings that any couple must make sure they experience with each other to make their love last?

What builds or destroys trust?

What is the importance of noticing the 'six second moments' in a relationship?

Why feelings need to be addressed before issues can be solved

What does it mean to be a safe haven for each other?

What's a “we-omiter” and why is that important if you want your love last?

Here's Gary's Free Gift: What if you could ask some of the world’s leading experts how to find lasting love? Dr. Gary Salyer, author of Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve - shares the teachings of the best of the best including his own groundbreaking work - to help you find the love you deserve. These four to five-minute videos will introduce you to ways to find a relationship and keep it.  And, if you are already coupled, you will learn ways to fall in love all over again with your partner.  Please go to https://garysalyer.com/loveguide to sign up for this life changing video series.

Gary also has an online course and a book. Here are the links for that:

Open For Love: An online course that helps you release the pain of the past and create healthy love: https://garysalyer.com/openforlove2024/

Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships: Gary's ground-breaking book: https://amzn.to/3SyIW5m

More about Gary:

Dr. Gary Salyer is a transformational relationship mentor.  For the last decade, Dr. Salyer has been in private practice offering singles and couples heart-centered transformation so they can re-write the rules for love in their brains and create a love that lasts.  Dr. Gary is a featured expert on various celebrity TV and radio shows and is the author of the ground-breaking book, Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve.

If you're doing everything you know to do to attract love and still feeling unsatisfied, you might have blind spots that are unknowingly pushing away the love you want. In this eye-opening episode I interview Mayan Tran and Angus Scott, who are both a real-life couple and relationship experts/coaches that specialize in helping people remove these blind spots and attract fulfilling love.

In our interview, we explore the 3 areas where you might be sending out vibes that keep potential partners at a distance. We'll look at how these hidden signals can mess with your chances of finding true love. By the end of our chat, you'll feel uplifted, hopeful, and ready to make positive changes. Learn how to transform your energy and become a magnet for the right partner. Tune in to discover how to attract the love you deserve!

You can join Mayan and Angus's upcoming challenge here: https://www.angusandmayan.com/makespacechallenge?am_id=valerieg

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Mayan and Angus believe in Love... and helping people find it and thrive in it! While they use multiple modalities such as Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis, Mental and Emotional Release, and have expertise in Dr. Gottman's relationship research, Masculine/Feminine Dynamics and Attachment Styles, they start their work as experts in finding the Energetic Leaks that most people are unaware of, that are keeping them from the love they want. Their clients walk away being energetically cleared, having let go of their past traumatic experiences and limiting beliefs about love, with a clear vision of what they want in a relationship, and the confidence to attract healthy, fulfilling relationships with partners who have the qualities they are looking for.

Mayan and Angus use a number of modalities to  help people find love  and thrive in it And they start their work as experts in finding the Energetic Leaks that most people are unaware of, that are keeping them from the love they want. Their clients walk away being energetically cleared, having let go of their past traumatic experiences and limiting beliefs about love, with a clear vision of what they want in a relationship, and the confidence to attract healthy, fulfilling relationships with partners who have the qualities they are looking for.

If you’re feeling burnt out, taken advantage of, or if your relationship isn’t working for you, boundaries and overcoming people pleasing tendencies might be the first place to look. 

Saying "yes" can become a habit and an act of selflessness, but if the other person isn’t doing the same for you, it leads to burnout, resentment, and losing yourself. 

In my latest interview with Trauma-Informed Life Coach Diana Mikas, she likens boundaries to a bridge that upholds your self-worth without compromising connections. A bridge that ensures your space is respected, valued, and harmonious. She invites us to cultivate a culture where saying "no" becomes an affirmation of freedom while each "yes" is a deliberate choice toward fulfillment and authenticity. 

In our interview, we cover: 

Why is it important to create boundaries and how do you know you need them? 

What are examples of healthy boundaries vs. unhealthy ones?

How do you know when your boundaries have been crossed?

How can you create boundaries with the narcissists in your life?

Why are boundaries so important in romantic relationships?

What are some tips to create great boundaries in your romantic relationship?

Enjoy your copy of Diana’s new book – Good Boundaries: A Practical Guide for Setting Healthy Limits, With A Narcissist, With Your Family, With Your Friends and At Work

https://www.howtodoselove.com/goodboundariesgift163221

More about Diana: 

DIANA MIKAS is on a mission to change how we do love. For the better part of a decade, she has worked with women around the world to regain their emotional and energetic equilibrium and the love of their lives again. 

Her approach is holistic and multi-faceted as she brings in the wisdom of over 30 years of personal work, including her disciplines as an Identity Development Facilitator, Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki Master-level practitioner, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, and several years of Life Coaching practice. Diana has been featured on various publications, podcasts and summits is the Author of the Self Love Mastery Series on Amazon and is host of the Higher Love podcast found on Apple podcasts, Spotify or your favorite platform. For more resources visit www.dianamikas.com.

Intuition is a widely-misunderstood phenomenon. Many people have had the experience of "knowing" something is about to happen without knowing how they know. Few people have been able to reliably count on their intuition to attract the things they want, like a true soul connection. I know I struggled to tell the difference between intuition and fear when I first started to access my own intuition.

Mary Jo Cranmore is an intuitive healer who also struggled to hear her intuition before she learned how to heal her heart and reprogram the blocks that were preventing her to hear her own intuition; now she helps others access their intuition and attract what they desire and deserve. She has integrated many disciplines together into a coherent method of understanding deep-rooted patterns and truths that light up each seeker’s path forward.

I recently interviewed Mary Jo for The Soul-Shaking Love Podcast about how to use intuition to attract your Soulmate. If you're in a relationship, this method also allows you to deepen your soul connection and partnership.

Here's what we cover in our in-depth interview:

What is intuition and why is it important in order to attract your soulmate and/or soul connection with the person you're with?

How to uncover the programming that blocks your intuition. How do you know that something is your intuition rather than just unprocessed fear? 

What are examples of someone accessing and using their intuition effectively? What's the concept of a Soulful Connection to people who haven't yet experienced that yet? 

How do you use your intuition to attract your Soulmate and/or deepen your Soul Connection? 

What's self love vs. self care in order to access intuition?

You can access more of Mary Jo's tools on her newsletter. You can sign up for it at soulfulrevolutiontv.com

She also has her own YouTube Channel with many more videos: https://www.youtube.com/@MaryJoCranmore

More about Mary Jo Cranmore:

Mary Jo Cranmore is an intuitive healer for more than 25 years who helps people understand and achieve their mission in this life. She has integrated many disciplines together into a coherent method of understanding deep-rooted patterns and truths that light up each seeker’s path forward. Her own journey of trial and error became a roadmap to success, once she pieced together her life purpose and awakened her heart. As a result of her inner work, she left behind a series of dead end corporate jobs, narcissistic partners and difficult murkiness around her own adoption as an infant and stepped into her true, heart-opened self, and she loves helping others access their intuition to both own their power and attract their soulmate. 

Do you keep attracting the same type of person or situationship again and again, only to wonder, "Why do others have it so easy?" That's the question that Holistic Dating Coaches Orna and Matthew Walters have solved in their own lives after years of struggle; and now they shorten that learning curve for others.

In our interview, they share their personal pilgrimages to one another to create a true soul partnership, and the development of their Soulmating System. Listen in to discover how Your Love Imprint® has been keeping you stuck. Through the brain science of attraction, Orna and Matthew explain why people unconsciously create the same issue in their love lives over and over again. Their book GETTING IT RIGHT THIS TIME: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Lasting Love, published through a division of Penguin Random House, is due out January 14, 2025.

In our interview, we cover:

1. Why do some people find love easily and some people struggle to have lasting love? 

2. What is the key to attraction? 

3. What about those really intense connections we feel with people – Is that an example of a soul connection? 

4. What is the process of creating love? 

5. What results can people expect from going through this process? 

You can get Orna and Matthew's free gift, "The 7 Steps to Soulmating" here: https://www.loveonpurpose.com/7stepstosoulmating/

More about Orna and Matthew:

Orna and Matthew Walters are world-renowned Holistic Dating Coaches. They have been featured guest experts on Bravo’s THE MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER  and Creators of The Walters’ Processes that have helped thousands of singles around the globe transform their blocks to love so they can bring in a beloved life partner. Orna and Matthew are authors of the forthcoming book, GETTING IT RIGHT THIS TIME: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Lasting Love due out in January 2025 They are dedicated to spreading the message that having love is an inside job, and that it’s never too late to nd the love of your life.

Dating is now harder than ever before. With more personal and professional success, the expectations of a partner in a relationship have changed. How do we cut through the games and find real love?

In the latest episode of The Soul-Shaking Love Podcast, I interview Glenn Sandifer, who spent 20 years in the corporate world before he discovered that the skills that create success in the business world tend to be incompatible with lasting love.

After going through a challenging divorce and now enjoying a thriving marriage, Glenn developed the TMG Book Series, which helps singles dig deeper than their original expectations and discover what they actually desire from a long-term partnership, how to tell if the other person truly wants what you want, and how to do the inner/outer work to create both professional and relationship success.

In our interview, we cover:

-What are the common archetypes that exist in the dating world, of all genders, so we can recognize if people are playing games or whether they're ready for true partnership?

-What is the inner and outer work necessary to achieve both business and relationship success?

-What is Glenn's definition of real Love vs. something else?

He also discusses his books, the TMG Book Series Parts 1 and 2, and what results one can expect to achieve through reading them and doing the exercises to navigate the complexities of modern dating while balancing professional aspirations..

You can learn more about Glenn and the TMG Book Series here: https://www.tmgbookseries.com/

More about Glenn Sandifer:

 A true strategist and executive leader, Glenn has served in various capacities allowing profitability to lead the way. Over nearly 20 years, he has learned that there are consistent themes regarding professional development and success, that conflict with 1 successful relationships. Glenn speaks to the busy professional that is enjoying success but failing in the relationship department. 

As a young woman with a feminine energy, I struggled growing up in a world dominated by masculine energy, trying to understand why I couldn't hear my intuition or know what I desired. I was raised to follow my rational mind and make logical decisions, but I didn't know what I wanted in the first place.

When I first met Elizabeth DiAlto in a training over a decade ago, I was immediately inspired by her bold, sensuous teachings about how women can move beyond the limits and stories of our minds and into our bodies to connect with the intuition and wisdom within. She moved with poise, grace, and a freedom that she called 'untamed:' the 'Wild Soul' Essence as it moves through us and as us.

Known for her nuanced, inclusive, and humor-infused approach to spirituality and the healing arts, Elizabeth DiAlto is an Embodiment Specialist and a Spiritual Futurist.

I recently interviewed Elizabeth for the Soul-Shaking-Love Podcast and in this interview, you'll discover:

What is embodiment? 

Why is it important to get out of our heads and into our bodies when we're wanting better, deeper, and more meaningful intimacy (of any kind)? 

What role do courageous conversations play in all of this? 

Why does this improve relationships? 

You can get Elizabeth's free gifts here:

AM + PM Embodiment Rituals - https://untameyourself.com/rituals

Wild Self Meditation: 

https://untameyourself.com/meditation

More about Elizabeth:

Known for her nuanced, inclusive, and humor-infused approach to spirituality and the healing arts, Elizabeth DiAlto is an Embodiment Specialist and a Spiritual Futurist.

In 2013 she founded the School of Sacred Embodiment, where she's developed a range of healing and liberatory frameworks and modalities that blend together movement, energy work, and mystical wisdom. Her specialty is helping people live through what she calls the highest part of all of us - our Wild Soul. 

A native New Yorker with Boricua and mixed-European roots, Elizabeth now calls Miami home, is an avid salsa dancer, and has a laugh that has been described as “a sound bath of sunshine and joy.”

In the latest episode of the Soul-Shaking Love podcast, I interview transformational coach and wellness expert Jennifer Joy Jimenez about how she helps her clients feel confident.

Jennifer draws from a myriad of disciplines and has created many practices, including her Brave Thinking Tools and her TRANSCENDANCE™ movement practice. She discusses numerous strategies to boost confidence that may be unfamiliar to you!

In our interview, we cover:

She also offers two free gifts during our interview, providing you with a comprehensive toolkit to help you feel your best. Here they are:

Confidence Kit Link - https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/health-wellbeing/resources/vhw/mag/confidence-kit

Transcendence Live Virtual Class gift - www.BTI.com/Dance coupon code = freeclass 

More about Jennifer Joy Jimenez:

Jennifer Joy Jimenez is the Co Founder of Brave Thinking Institute, and the Founder & Director of the multi million dollar Health & Well-Being Division. She also serves as Expert Faculty & Trainer in the Coaching Certification Division of Brave Thinking Institute, the premier training center for transformational coaching.

For over two decades Jennifer has helped difference makers become more confident, healthy, and joyful so they feel fully empowered to make the difference they are here to make! Her innovative coaching programs & retreats blend proven health & wellbeing science, mind-body movement, and transformational spiritual principles. She’s been featured in publications like Self, Shape, Oxygen, LA Yoga Magazine, Woman’s World, and on TV programs including Fox Business, NBC News and more. In addition, she’s shared the stage with thought leaders such as Marianne Williamson, Maya Angelou, Byron Katie, Bob Proctor, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra and others.

She's the creator of the highly acclaimed transformative movement modality TranscenDance™️, helping people of all ages and backgrounds worldwide to move stuck energy, dance their dreams into reality, and truly thrive in their body temple!

On the latest episode of the Soul-Shaking Love podcast, I interview Dr. Susan Heitler about whether all couples have conflicts. Indeed, all couples do have differences that lead to conflict. As John Gottman's research shows, all couples have unsolvable issues; the difference between happy couples and unhappy couples is how you fight, not whether you do. Couples whose love grows closer over time know how to create win/win solutions that leave them feeling like a team so that when they do compromise, it meets their deeper needs and both people feel closer.

Dr. Susan Heitler is a Clinical Psychologist who has been helping couples create these win/win solutions for over 50 years. Her methods are simple and effective, and I interviewed her about how she does it.

In our interview, she reveals:

-What causes fights?

In the latest interview of the Soul-Shaking Love Podcast, I enterview Relationship Expert Emma Viglucci, LMFT and coach, about whether you can change your partner or not. ;) Most of us have at least one thing that we want to change about someone close to us. Whether we want more affection, more responsiveness, or more punctuality; if we're really honest, we would change something if we could.

Most relationship experts say that you can only change yourself, not the other person. In general, this is true but in this interview, we explore what we can do to influence others. It's true that the shift needs to happen inside of us first in order to inspire another. And once we make those shifts, the other person is usually inspired to change in surprising ways!

In this interview, we cover:

-In what ways can you change others and in what ways can't you change them?

-How do we get stuck in a rut trying to change others and what can we do instead?

-What are the necessary inner shifts we can make in order to influence others?

-What are tools and strategies we can use to make those shifts so we feel inspired and can inspire others to be their best selves and to grow in positive ways?

You can get Emma's free gift at: https://metrorelationship.com/ It's a successful relationship mini course, accessed through a 3-part email sequence for ease of integration. It helps partners break the impasse, easily get on the same page, increase their connection and expand their love, and create a strong and inspiring partnership.

Here's the link to my first interview with Emma: Stop the Fighting, Stop the Drama™: Embracing a Successful Relationship Mindset™: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/podcast/emma/

More about Emma Viglucci, LMFT and Coach:

Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for over 20 years. She is the Founder and Director of MetroRelationship.com, (active link above), a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected and thriving in their relationships. Her practice is based in New York City and she works both in person and virtually to help both singles and couples to attract and create the relationships that they desire.