Novelist Chuck Palahniuk wrote, “What we call chaos is just patterns we haven’t recognized. What we call random is just patterns we can’t decipher.”

Do ever notice your walls suddenly go up without knowing what triggers it? You could be anywhere at any time, but you feel differently all of a sudden. It’s mostly the same crappy, dissonant feelings that you think were caused by something outside of you. But then, to add to the party, you start thinking about everything that is wrong with your life. How you’re alone or how you hate your job/relationship—anything you can attach the unpleasant feelings to. Perhaps you’ve felt this way your entire life, believing people are either born to attract or not attract what they want. You feel powerless.

It’s not true. You’re creating your life circumstances through recurring autopilot patterns. These patterns are so insidious that they run in the background, dictating your actions without you knowing it. The good news is they are learned… so they can be unlearned. You DO have control. Look deeper at your avoidance patterns so you can start owning your life instead of feeling like it’s created by default. Whether you’ve been ignoring your feelings daily from the time you wake up or just in situations where you fear loss (those times when you put on your people-pleasing face), please listen to this show. It will help you identify the patterns that keep you stuck in a loop of creating self-fulfilling prophecies. You have the power. Step one: recognize your avoidance patterns. Step two: break them.