StillPoint Logic Podcast

You were told to stop needing it, be strong & self-sufficient, but every day you fall short of that standard because it was never a real one.

Needing validation is human, Sartre wrote that we exist differently when we are being seen. The question here is what happens when the recognition doesn't come, and what story you tell about the absence.

In this episode we look at what validation actually is, why it got such a bad reputation, and what the thought-rule underneath the need is protecting. We also talk about the other side of it, whether you are giving to the people around you what you are waiting to receive.

This is about knowing what to do when the need is real but validation does not come.

Enjoy,

Hila

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What if procrastination is not the problem everyone says it is?

I think the guilt about procrastinating is the real problem. The delay, in many cases, is something else entirely.

Procrastination is part of your thinking process. A way of letting your feelings catch up to your intentions, collecting information, finding the readiness to act with more confidence. The problem starts when the delay flips into overthinking, and the loop stops giving you anything new.

In this episode I explore the difference between a delay that is still working and one that has become a way of avoiding the moment of finding out. We walk through the thought-rules underneath procrastination, the positive intention behind them, and how to know when it is time to step off the bleachers and onto the field.

If you have ever asked yourself "what is wrong with me, why can't I just start", this episode is for you.

What we cover: why procrastination gets a bad reputation it does not always deserve, the difference between healthy delay and overthinking, the thought-rule that keeps you stuck in the loop, and one practical question that tells you when the data collection is done.

Enjoy,

Hila

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Why does conflict feel so personal, even when it is not really about you?

In this episode we reflect on what is happening when you are in a conflict, why the discomfort you feel is not coming from the other person but from the thought-rule running underneath it, and what to do with that once you see it.

We also look at the three things that start most conflicts between people, needing help and not knowing how to ask, someone who made a mistake and cannot own it, and someone who feels left out. Recognizing which one you are in changes how you respond.

This will not teach you how to rhetorically win an argument, but it will give you another perspective.

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Enjoy,

Hila

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You built an intelligent plan, defined the KPIs, a good tactic to measure success, delivered everything on time, and yet the client was still disappointed.

This episode is about the gap between what the numbers say and what people actually feel. I work in project management and this is something I deal with constantly, because human perception is different from excel sheets.

I look at 3 psychological mechanisms that humans are influenced by, where you are expected to deliver results and need to keep them in mind. Loss aversion, the peak-end rule, and expectation anchoring.

This one is for professionals, but the gap it describes exists everywhere.

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Enjoy,

Hila

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Have you ever felt fine when you were supposed to feel devastated? Or flat when you were supposed to feel joy?

This episode is not about emotional numbness, it is about the mismatch between the feeling you actually have and the feeling you believe you are supposed to have, and the story you tell yourself about what that absence means.

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As always, send my your thought through the website: https://www.stillpointlogic.com/contactus

Enjoy,

Hila

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Why can't we let go of thought patterns even when we know they are making things harder?

Because shedding isn't a decision. It isn't a practice or a ritual. It happens when carrying something finally becomes more uncomfortable than letting it go.

In this Season 1 finale we explore another point of view about how thought patterns shed including one of the most normalized ones: "I'm just a stressed person." Stress is not a personality, it is a signal. There is a logical way to start reading it differently.

This episode is about the question most people never ask: what tension am I still holding that I decided to call normal?"

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Enjoy,

Hila

Have you ever told yourself to calm down and felt worse instead?

In this episode I share a personal moment when my body stopped before I did. When everything looked fine on the outside and something inside had already shut down.

This is an episode about the gap between what we show and what we feel, the signals our body sends that we push past until we can't anymore.

About why telling yourself to calm down does not work.

If you have ever kept going past the point where you should have stopped, this one is for you.

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Enjoy,

Hila

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Why do we keep following rules we never consciously chose?

Most of the logic we live by is just the way things are, as common sense. Common sense doesn't ask to be examined until the day you find yourself somewhere you never intended to be.

This episode explores the thinking patterns and beliefs we follow without a doubt, and what happens when we finally stop to ask: does this still fit who I am now?

Inspired by The Strange Library by Haruki Murakami. A short, strange book worth reading before or after this episode.

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Enjoy,

Hila

Your body is not overreacting, it's sending intelligence. Are you listening?

In this episode we explore why your emotional reactions have a logic underneath them; a hidden rule your nervous system is following, often faster than your conscious mind can catch up.

We look at where those rules come from, why telling yourself to calm down never works, and how understanding what your body is protecting changes everything.

This isn't about controlling your reactions. It's about learning to read them.

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Enjoy,

Hila

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Routines are supposed to support us. But somewhere along the way, they can turn into proof. Proof that we're disciplined, stable, functioning. When they break, even a little, it stops feeling like a scheduling issue and starts feeling like a character one.

In this episode, we look at what's actually happening when a missed alarm or a derailed workday feels heavier than it should. We explore the perfectionism and the rules underneath those moments; the "musts" and "shoulds" that turn ordinary interruptions into anxiety and self-criticism, and what it might look like to build a morning routine that bends instead of breaks you.

This one isn't about optimizing your routines, it's about understanding the tension between structure and freedom. Finding something in between, that doesn't require you to be perfect to feel okay, without burning out trying to keep up.

As always, come connect on the website: ⁠www.stillpointlogic.com⁠

Enjoy,

Hila