Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

For some people, it just looks like life comes easy to them. Maybe they are successful in their career, or they have a great social life, or maybe they have an amazing loving family. This is something a client brought to me recently after watching the Netflix documentary about Harry and Meghan. If you haven’t watched it yet, at one point, Meghan shares that she decided to take time off, travel in Europe, and not worry about dating at all. She just wanted to be free and detached. But lo and behold, a literal prince was dropped in her lap when she was set up with Harry by a mutual friend, and the rest is history. So my client came to me and asked me “Why does she have love, and I don’t?”

Picture this. You have healed your heart, done the work, and you’re out there swiping and dating, ready again to find your person. You hit it off with someone and you start talking to them, maybe you’ve been out on a date or two, and then your brain starts to freak out. Am I liking them too much? Is this too fast? Am I following the same patterns and making the same decisions I did in the past which lead to heartbreak? My love, these thoughts will still come up even when you’re doing the work. Let’s take a look at what it means when you like someone new, some ways you can check yourself, and how you can show up differently.

This episode is inspired by a current client as I help her to get out of a relationship with someone who checks off all the boxes of being a covert narcissist. Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be toxic, but because they keep drawing you in, it can feel impossible to leave. If you are dating a narcissist, this episode is for you. Or, if you dated a covert narcissist in the past and are struggling with the fallout and the heartbreak, this is for you. Let’s look at the signs of covert narcissism, what it looks like to date someone with this personality disorder, and talk about why you deserve better, and how to get there.

Either being in an affair or victim of one is really not all that uncommon and I'm surprised it's taken me this many episodes to talk about it! This episode was inspired by someone who reached out to me on Instagram who said she was happy to hear that this is a judgement-free zone, because she was the other woman and was looking to get coached. Now, I want to be clear that there are some extreme circumstances where I would say that it's ok to be in an affair. But in this episode, we're talking about relationships where you want an exclusive and monogamous relationship, and yet, you are the other woman. You are spending time and energy with someone who is committed to someone else, and yet, this is not the kind of relationship you truly want.

Not only have we reached the holidays, but this time of year also means that it is cuffing season. In case you haven’t heard this term before, it refers to a period of time from October to February when people seek out short-term relationships to help get through these colder months. Since it’s colder, people are less motivated to get out there and find their person, and for many, they seek the comfort of a relationship, even if it’s just something they see as short-term.

Are you on the edge of your seat to find out my #1 most important dating tip? Here it is. I’ve refined all my coaching and guidelines down to one thing, my number 1 most important dating tip. If you’ve listened to this podcast or have worked with me before, you know that I have created a 5-step process for finding someone better. I also have rules and guidelines I create for my clients so that I can help them see their own blindspots and be able to heal their hearts and find their person. So here it is, my number 1 dating tip, my loves: be a human.

Calling all love addicts! Maybe you are having a really hard time letting go of that Mr. Unavailable, or maybe you jump from one relationship to the next chasing the infatuation and the highs and lows. This episode is for you. I’m excited to bring back a client and guest instructor in my group coaching program, Katie Johnston. Katie and I have definitely been through it before with having an addiction to love and Mr. Wrong, and we have a lot to share with you about how to identify if you’re a love addict and what you can do about it.

This episode is inspired by a client who is facing a situation where she can’t just fully cut contact with her ex. She has to see him and be around him, and in a recent group coaching call, she shared that she is ready to put her foot down with him and really end things, but she doesn’t want him to think she’s a bitch. I’ve heard this from many clients when they are ready to show up for themselves and what they truly deserve. So in this episode, let’s take a look at what it looks like to stand up for yourself, and why I want you to be the baddest bitch you need to be so that you can get to where you want to go.

If you are a client of mine, a course student, or have listened to this podcast, you are doing “the work” of healing your heart and falling in love with you, and maybe you are even in the process of finding your person. This work is so powerful and can lead to amazing results and I wholeheartedly believe in it and what I do to help women create these results. So what if you find out that your ex has also been doing the work? And not only that, but now he’s with someone new. How are you supposed to handle these feelings that come up around him being this new upleveled version of himself that is with someone else? That’s exactly what we get into in this episode, and I share with you how you can reflect on your own healing and focus on continuing to heal your heart and your relationship with you, so that you can become the best version of you that finds her person.

Are you worried that your next date or maybe even your dating past has jinxed your love life? This happened with a client of mine who shows up regularly in the group program with vulnerability and ready to do the work. However, she’s noticed that she feels resistant to the dating apps and is worried that she may have jinxed herself. Let me tell you, with my dating past, if I hadn’t put in the work and healed my heart, I definitely could have believed that I was a bit cursed with all of the doozies I met and dated. But you know what? At the end of the day, I was committed to showing up and to the result that I would find my person, and I have. In this episode, I share with you what you can learn from your past, how you can protect your energy, and stay committed to finding your person.