Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

In this episode, I share with you the story of Moriah Wilson, a woman whose life was sadly cut short due to an awful situation in her love life. I share with you how I believe things could have been different if she was getting coached on healing her relationship with herself, which is what I coach my clients to be able to create for themselves. I also detail how other aspects of this work, and while they may not literally be live saving, they can figuratively save your life by completely changing your life for the better in very big ways.

As a woman who was dating in LA in her 30s, I can tell you that I was no stranger to people asking me why I was still single and I had my fair share of friends and loved ones asking why I wasn’t married yet. Recently a client came to the group coaching call after family members said some not-so-kind words about her still being single, and I know she’s not the only one experiencing this. Let’s talk about how you can handle these conversations and establish healthy boundaries with your loved ones. And also, let’s look at how your being single isn’t a problem. In this episode, I share with you what your work is if this sounds familiar, when your being single becomes a problem, and how you can move through this to find your person.

“I have a confession to make.” This is something a client recently said when she wanted to let me know that she had, in her words, “relapsed”. And let me tell you, this has happened to many many clients before. This was something I used to do, so I get it! You are used to the good feels of being around them, waking up in their arms, spending time with them. And being alone can feel really hard and scary, so all you want to do is reach out to them to get a hit of those good feels again. My loves, there is no judgement here. I just want to coach you on how you can move through these feels and create the result of finding your forever love.

I’m willing to bet that most of you have gone above and beyond for love, and sometimes, to your own detriment. Maybe you compromised on your core values, or you diminished yourself for someone else who ultimately, wasn’t worth it. I definitely have gone over and beyond in relationships, and with people who were not deserving. And at the same time, I am now in my ideal relationship with the man of my dreams, and there are decisions I have made and things I have done that I never thought I would have done. And yet, here I am, about to celebrate three years of being with the love of my life. In this episode, let’s examine your negotiables, your nonnegotiables, and your reasons why, so that you can be clear on them and be able to find your perfect love, too.

I’ve got to be honest with you - I have never really thought about the connection between dating and the menstrual cycle. That is why I am so excited to have Lisa de Jong back on the podcast! Previously, she was a guest in the episode Irish Love where she shared her journey of healing her heart and finding love. Now she’s back to give us the low down on trauma and the menstrual cycle, her personal journey with this work, and how it relates to our abilities to manage our emotions, which is critical in being able to heal our hearts and find love. This was a fascinating topic to learn more about, and I hope you enjoy this conversation.

When I say “F-boys” we all know the exact type of person I’m talking about. These are the guys who have Peter Pan syndrome. They never grow up, they play games, they don’t want a real relationship, and sometimes it can feel like they are the only men that you are attracting. And now you want to know how to stop attracting those dicks so you can begin to find your ideal person. I can tell you, even when you’re doing the work and it feels like you’re doing everything right, those F-boys are still going to show up. So in this episode, I share with you how I coach my clients who keep attracting those F-boys, and what your work is so that you don’t fall into a victim mentality and you stay focused on creating the result of finding Mr. Right.

Last week I did an episode called Writing Him Off Too Soon and this week we’re swinging to the other side and we’re looking at ways you may not be writing him off soon enough. If you have done the work to heal your heart and now you’re in the finding someone better stage, it is critical that you aren’t wasting time with someone who definitely isn’t your Mr. Right! Maybe you are really feeling the good feels and you’re letting some things slide, or maybe things are going a little too fast and you aren’t sure how to slow it down a bit. In this episode, I share with you 6 signs you should write him off so that you can find your person.

I love to see all of the wins and healing my clients are creating. They are doing amazing at healing their hearts, stepping into new relationships with themselves, and some are ready and are putting themselves out there in order to find someone better. And now I’m seeing that a few of my clients are so clear on what they will and will not tolerate that they are ready to jump ship over things that I believe are relatively small. Let’s take a look and how to pay attention to things you do or don’t like while also not writing him off too soon.

My loves! I have some big exciting news to share with you! My bestie, Jamie McKeowen, a badass holistic health coach and previous guest on this podcast, is back. And not only that, but she’s here to share with us her engagement story! You’ve heard Jamie on this podcast in previous episodes talk about her journey through healing her heart, finding her now-fiance Michael, and now she’s here to tell the big proposal story.

In our conversation, Lisa shares her journey through each step of my 5-step process, and the growth she has experienced along the way, both in her dating life and in other areas of her life as well. We also discuss what it’s like as Irish women of dealing with Irish Catholic guilt, dating as Irish women, and confronting that fear-based negative response that just comes naturally to us. She also talks about what it has been like finding love, and what makes this new relationship so different.