STRESSPROOF Podcast

There's a reason why we feel stressed out when it comes to certain relationships, and it's called - the Manual.

Believe it or not you have what's called a Manual for how you expect certain people in your life to behave.

If you've ever felt frustrated when someone at work doesn't speak to you with respect, is always late with their work, or perhaps you get upset when your partner doesn't put away the dishes or takes out the garbage by a certain time - whether you know it or not, you have a Manual for this person and this Manual is causing you unnecessary stress and suffering.

Learn more about the Manual and the four common mistakes most stressed out sensitive high performers are making that is creating MORE stress instead of releasing it.

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In This Episode You'll Hear:

• The cause of almost every relationship stress we experience.
• Why manuals are often unrealistic demands for other people.
• The four most common mistakes people make when it comes to the manual.
• How we use the manual against our own self and create distrust.
• Why it's impossible to control how other people behave.
• Questions to ask yourself so that you can release this self-made manual.
• And much more!

Ready to cut your stress in half so that you can shine at work like you know you're capable of and get BACK to enjoying your life with the people you love? Well then make sure you join the email list at www.stressproofpodcast.com/email ! The official Stressproof Program will be released soon! Learn how to release stress 10X FASTER so you don't have to waste any more precious time trying to feel better. Learn how to feel better once and for all.

Email doesn't cause your stress; if you think about it, email just sits in a virtual cloud and yet why do we let something such as email, bother us to the point where we can't have a perfectly normal day without wondering, "I wonder what's happened this time?".

The problem AND the answer is inside our brain.

We've conditioned our brain to respond with stress - even before we've touched our phone to see WHO or WHAT the email is about.

Crazy isn't it?

The good news, you can decondition your brain just as fast as you've trained it to respond with stress, and I break it all down for you inside this episode.

You don't want to miss it!

Listen now and share this important topic with someone you love!

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I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Haven't left a review yet? All you have to do is go to www.stressproofpodcast.com/review , and thanks for your support of this show!

In this episode you'll hear:

• Why email is not the problem and believing you have to control it is causing you more stress.
• How most of your reactions are learned stress responses from past events.
• The reality of your unnecessary stress.
• Why stress is not a required response.
• How our brain has associated more pain than pleasure to email over time.
• Exercises to decondition your brain from learned stress responses.
• Why you are NOT your stress
• And a whole lot more!

Ready to cut your stress in half so that you can shine at work like you know you're capable of and get BACK to enjoying your life with the people you love? Well then make sure you join the email list at www.stressproofpodcast.com/email ! The official Stressproof Program will be released soon! Learn cutting edge tools to finally stop stress in its tracks so you don't have to waste any more precious time trying to feel better. Learn how to feel better once and for all.

You'd think with having more time and LESS physical obligations, LESS people to worry about, and LESS places to go, that naturally your stress would slightly follow suit and decrease as well.

Unfortunately, that hasn't been the case for many people around the world and that is because our brains never stop working and LOVES to solve problems.

And just because there's less to do, doesn't mean there's less for your brain to focus on.

In fact, have you noticed that even the smallest things have gotten the best of you?

Things that may not have otherwise bothered you PRE-pandemic?

OR, have you been noticing old, not-so-good habits coming back to life?

Habits such as biting your nails, snacking, or drinking too much wine?

Don't worry, there's a reason why this is happening and I talk about it this week on the podcast.

Introducing Pandemic Sensitivity.

It's when our brains start to find problems in even the slightest things that we might have overlooked when our life was "normal", hence the sensitivity.

And until we train our brains to create the awareness of Pandemic Sensitivity happening in real time, we'll continue to be stressed and create negative results in our lives instead of healing ourselves once and for all.

Listen now and share this important topic with someone you love!

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I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Haven't left a review yet? All you have to do is go to www.stressproofpodcast.com/review, and thanks for your support of this show!

In this episode you'll hear:

(1:20): Why our brains don't rest even when we have more time.

(4:46): What IS Pandemic Sensitivity and are you experiencing it right now?

(6:14): Examples of what you might be sensitive to during this time.

(8:18): Deciding between seeing Pandemic Sensitivity as TRUTH or an opportunity to heal yourself.

(9:23): The three reasons why certain fragilities have been dormant and are being amplified during the pandemic.

(10:35): Prompts to help you identify your internal fragilities.

(13:49): Prompts to help pause the momentum of negative thinking.

Do you ever tense up when you see notifications, bolded emails, or unanswered phone calls? And because you feel this way do you ever wonder to yourself, "What the heck is wrong with me?".

In this week's episode I'm sharing why it's so important to recognize when we have thoughts, feelings, and reactions that are simply based on circuitry, instead of making our reaction MEAN something negative about who we are or that something has gone terribly wrong.

When we live in malfunction vs. recognizing circuitry we start adding unnecessary stress in our lives that ultimately result in dysfunction.

Stop the unnecessary stress, listen now.

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I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

TIMESTAMPS:

(3:17): Do you ever wonder, "What's wrong with me?".

(4:25): Examples of scenarios where we might wonder, "What the heck is wrong with me?".

(6:36): How our thoughts, feelings, and reactions can turn into mental and physical malfunction and dysfunction.

(8:34): Introducing circuitry.

(10:40): Thoughts to think re-train your brain for circuitry and not malfunction.

(12:45): How living in malfunction distorts our experience and creates undesirable results.

(15:03): What would your life look like without the thought, "What's wrong with me?".

Unlike physical pain, so many high performers have a much higher tolerability to mental pain. With mental pain, no one can see it, detect it, and unfortunately so many of us discount our very own stress, anxiety, and worries which only leads to even MORE mental pain.

Listen to this week's episode as I share exactly why mental pain is tolerable, how to know if you're in mental pain that is preventing you from next level success, as well as identifying the intangible and tangible costs of mental pain on your career and personal life so that you can finally move past this repeating pattern of stressful living.

LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS:

I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

TIMESTAMPS:

(3:55): What mental pain looks like.

(4:36): Why we have a higher tolerability for mental pain vs. physical pain.

(6:55): Tolerating mental pain.

(10:35): Stress and the badge of honor.

(12:00): The intangible and tangible cost of mental pain.

(13:18): How to identify mental pain in your life.

(16:13): Why the pandemic is providing the perfect condition to stop temporary relief of mental pain.

(20:45): If you find yourself repeating last year all over again and you're afraid next year might be the same as this year, I invite you to apply for VIP Coaching and learn more at www.stressproofpodcast.com/coaching . Limited spots available.

Listen in as I share my take on your questions around how to feel confident, meeting work expectations, how to tackle the fear of failure, and more!

Some of the common themes I notice in many high performers is that it's far too easy to change the circumstance or take more action in order to feel better because… well, we can! As a high performer it's easy to do the work, even if it means taking more time to do so.

However, what you'll learn inside this episode is that just because you do the work, doesn't mean you'll feel better. In fact, I'm going to show you why managing your brain and doing thought work is the ultimate key to lasting success.

Listen now and share this with someone you love.

LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS:

I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

TIMESTAMPS:

(1:41): Q1: How can I stop worrying about what everyone thinks about me and to stop talking to myself in a negative manner? How can I bring the confidence I have as a mom (I am an amazing mom when it comes to my kids) but at work I am a doormat. Thank you in advance.

(5:43): Q2: How can I not be triggered while talking to someone in a conversation?

(8:17): Q3: I get really stressed about not having a certain body type, especially when I don't work out on that day. To be honest, I don't feel confident in my own body… What should I do?

(11:43): Q4: I am not sure whether my work is up to my manager's standard because he rarely says positive and negative statements about my work. So then, I get anxious about whether I'm good enough...

(13:31): Q5: I am scared of not being successful in life so I work extremely hard toward my goal. But I also feel stressed if I haven't reached the goals I set for myself. What do I do?

(16:10): Q6: I am mostly stressed about the uncertain future. I have lost my job recently and feel like there's no hope in my life. How can I find hope when I am really depressed?

What do YOU do when you feel angry? Is it an emotion you feel often or rarely?

For many people that I work with, anger isn't a baseline emotion that my clients feel on a daily basis unlike worry and stress.

So what happens when suddenly you feel anger like never before?

How do you manage your thoughts and emotions that almost leave you feeling out of control, vulnerable, and completely unlike the old you?

If you don't often feel angry and don't know what to do with yourself when you DO feel anger, then this episode is for you.

I'm sharing the three things you need to consider when dealing with feelings of anger, and to be honest... any feeling that leaves you feeling so uncomfortable because you're simply not used to feeling it.

You don't want to miss this.

Listen now and share this important topic with someone you love!

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I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

TIMESTAMPS:

(1:57): Does anger feel foreign to you? If not, which emotion feels foreign or uncontrollable to you?

(3:04): Individual tolerance levels for anger and other emotions that make us uncomfortable - even happiness.

(5:45): What creates the natural ebb and flow of emotions that we feel in our body?

(7:01): Why deleting people from our lives and running away from the problem doesn't remove our anger.

(7:57): How to handle the ebb and flow of anger; Step 1: allow anger to be present in the body instead of intellectualizing the experience with your mind.

(10:45): Step 2: suspend all judgement toward your thoughts and emotions.

(14:20): Step 3: understanding your capability to feel anything.

(17:09): Why it's so easy to believe our thoughts as facts instead of seeing them as optional.

(18:55): Anger as neutral.

What if you could turn a bad day into a day of hope? What if you could change the entire trajectory of the week by using one single word?

So many people are stuck in unnecessary stress and suffering without even realizing they are the CAUSE of their own misery. Most people are reliving the past with the very words they are using, but this doesn't have to be you.

By using this one powerful word I share in this episode, you can open a gateway of opportunities and start building your FUTURE this very moment and leave your past behind you for good.

Listen to this podcast, change your life, and make sure you share this with someone you love.

LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS:

I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

TIMESTAMPS:

(2:15): One of the biggest mistakes many people make that is keeping them stuck reliving the past.

(3:32): The dangers of being past focused vs. future focused.

(6:42): Fundamental truths between science, mindfulness, spirituality, and thought work.

(9:40): The quickest way out of problem based statements.

(11:47): How to use this one powerful word using "They're going to say no" as an example.

(14:22): Why your future isn't dependent on what happened in the past.

Are you unknowingly draining your mental and emotional energy throughout the day without even realizing it?

Ever feel constantly scattered, unproductive, and unfocused throughout the day? Do you ever wonder to yourself, "Why am I so tired?" or "Why don't I have enough energy at the end of the day to do the things I WANT to do?".

So many high performers THINK they are focused on the task at hand, when really their current energy is scattered because they are operating from worry or fear from the PAST or the FUTURE.

In this episode I'm sharing one of the fastest ways to call back your energy so that you can focus on exactly what's in front of you. Whether it's work, your partner, or your children, why not be there for them with 100% of who you really are?

Listen now.

LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS:

I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

TIMESTAMPS:

(1:31): How the weather, holidays, or "big" moments in our lives break up our default emotional state and why we don't need to rely on these things to feel more peace, control, and groundedness in our lives.

(5:10): Are you aware of your daily energy limits and the quality of your energy?

(6:36): The many ways we can think about energy and how we will approach it during this podcast.

(7:35): Why most people don't think in terms of energy first and why this causes more stress.

(9:57): What would life be like, if we trained ourself to focus our energy on containing it within our own self, and then choosing to DIRECT it in ways that are intentional and focused?

(11:23): Live Exercise: Calling Back Your Energy

(16:00): The experience of YOU is always here right now.

(19:02): Multitasking with split energy vs. operating with 100% complete energy.

Today I'm sharing the four pivotal lessons from burnout that I learned and still see today, time and time again, with almost every client.

Listen to this episode as I share exactly how to stop thinking about other people's judgments about you and your life, how to not be afraid of alignment, knowing the difference between giving up and letting go, and understanding the throughline of managing your brain and your energetic state.

Burnout or not, you don't want to miss this episode!

LATEST ANNOUNCEMENTS:

I've created a new FREE training for the listeners of this podcast that reveals why a smart person like you is still struggling with stress, and the 3 THINGS YOU NEED RIGHT NOW to prevent stress before it even begins! For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/intro

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

TIMESTAMPS:

(0:48): What I wish I had known during burnout and adrenal fatigue.

(2:48): The gifts of burnout.

(3:37): The first pivotal lesson from burnout - how to stop caring about what other people think.

(7:40): Where is your energy? The reason why it's so hard to tap into our future self.

(10:23): The second pivotal lesson - learning the skill of asking "What do I REALLY want?" for consistent alignment.

(17:01): The third pivotal lesson - knowing the difference between giving up and letting go.

(21:08): The fourth pivotal lesson - understanding the throughline of doing thought work and managing your emotions.