STRESSPROOF Podcast

For years, I journaled on the same four issues: weight, love, jobs, and friendships. Then I realized it wasn't about the specific problem, it was all of the TYPE OF THOUGHTS I was thinking that kept me in the problem with no resolution.

Journaling doesn't solve your problems, at least not the conventional method of how we've approached journaling thus far.

Sure, it helps us to feel momentary relief but does the problem ever go away?

Typically, the problem resurfaces wearing a new suit of clothes.

And that is because typical method of journaling only reinforces WHY it's a problem!

In this episode, I'm going to breakdown two ways in which you can begin to see the type of thoughts that are actually CREATING the problem and how you can begin to identify with a more Solution Oriented Mindset.

Let's solve our problems at a root causal level so that we can start living a more optimal life.

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Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a FREE training on Stress Management for Peak Performance! A 3 part video series for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn what it takes to truly handle stress with effortless ease. For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/opt-in

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[1:00]: Real words from a real client, ""Working with Susan has helped me take a break from my thoughts and discover an entirely knew way of looking at my stressors. After trying everything in the book to de-stress, Susan's approach gave me something tangible and progressively easier to apply in my life. After just one session with Susan I was able to put space in between my thoughts and create the kind of outcomes I wanted without wasting time trying to control my life and the lives of those around me. By applying the Personalization model to even the smallest things that were bothering me I was able understand the power I have to see the world in a way that lifts my life up instead of holding me back in anger."

[2:41]: Ready for your own breakthrough and take back control over your day? Then apply for VIP Coaching starting in November at www.stressproofpodcast.com/coaching

[3:29]: Why I stopped journaling years ago

[5:35]: How journaling reinforces the narrative of the "negative" situation

[8:37]: Instead of journaling, write out each thought you have on a single line; one thought, one line, so that you can physically SEE the type of thoughts that are looping in your mind over and over again

[10:00]: The two reasons why taking mental inventory of our thoughts is better than the typical journaling approach

[12:12]: Why learning how to think better thoughts is crucial to living a quality life

[12:55]: How to take mental inventory of the type of thoughts you have with this one simple practice

[13:42]: The intention behind both approaches is to notice what type of thoughts you have and observe them, not engage or judge, but to simply observe

[15:55]: The same mind that created the problem, does not hold the solution you seek

Perhaps you've moved past perfectionism but did you know that there are other levels of perfectionism that still might be holding you back?

I see this time and time again in high level performers who, intellectually, understands that perfection doesn't exist, and yet they still hold themselves to their own individual standard or expectation of how their life should look like. In other words, perfectionism.

In this episode I'm going to teach how any level of perfectionism is truly just a mental construct that we hold ourselves prisoners to, and how essentially we end up living a mediocre life.

Learn why it's critically important why we need to identify every level of perfectionism so that we can go about our business in discovering our true human potential.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a FREE training on Stress Management for Peak Performance! A 3 part video series for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn what it takes to truly handle stress with effortless ease. For instant access head on over to https://www.stressproofpodcast.com/opt-in

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[4:20]: What is Perfectionism? And the ONE concept you need to understand in order to breakthrough Perfectionism.

[5:55]: Perfectionism starts with a thought, our own thought and our thoughts about other people's thoughts

[7:05]: Other sneaky forms of Perfectionism: the refusal to accept any standard short of the individual's expectations

[9:45]: Perfectionism as actually a form of Mediocrity; we end up settling for good, for ordinary

[11:09]: On some level when we continue with our perfectionist ways, we are saying this is good enough, this is the best I can do

[11:35]: Why perfectionism is not the point and why human potential is where we should focus our attention on

[13:52]: Why it does not serve us to uphold ourselves to an idea of perfectionism, at ANY level

[15:05]: What if you believed what you truly wanted was out there? How would your life look different today?

Oftentimes when I work with people there will be a moment where they believe things should be different, that intellectually they understand they shouldn't feel a certain way and yet they feel so much pain, that something must be wrong with them because they still feel this way.

And here's the truth.

There is nothing wrong with you.

You are NOT broken.

You're simply a human being, experiencing a human being thing called LIFE.

We can either go through the hard moments with grace, or we can suffer along the way.

We can feel our emotions from a clean place, or we can muddy the experience with all the reasons why this shouldn't be happening or "rush" the process.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you.

You're learning what it means to be human...

... and discovering tools along the way to better handle the next moment.

Listen to this episode if you need a reminder of just how GOOD everything truly is.

How do you stay focused in moments of panic? Hoan Do sprained his ankle just before a filming of the American Ninja Warrior show, and yet, he made it to city finals. What was the internal dialogue, what goes on inside the mind of a competitor, author, and motivational speaker?

In this podcast, I take a moment to interview Hoan Do and ask him to share how he pushes through moments of stress, what intention and goal setting look like for him, as well as how Hoan found his passion to become an inspirational and motivational speaker for youth.

To learn more about Hoan Do you can find him at:

www.HoanDo.com

Instagram: @HoanDoDotCom

Facebook: @HoanDo

Twitter: @HoanDo

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by the ultimate training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

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[5:18]: More about Hoan Do: Hoan Do is an award winning inspirational speaker, author, city finalist in NBC's hit show, American Ninja Warrior, and founder of YouthSpeakingPro.com

[8:04]: The pivotal moment for Hoan that sparked his career as a motivational speaker

[9:52]: How Hoan cultivated grit & resilience through various life experiences

[12:30]: How a peg wall and social media led Hoan to compete on American Ninja Warrior

[14:00]: Hoan's injury 1 week before the filming and how he made it to city finals despite competing with a sprained ankle, negative self talk and limiting beliefs

[22:16]: Intention setting and what constraining for BEST looks like for Hoan; focusing on what you WANT vs. what you DON'T want

[26:00]: The importance of recognizing what you are willing to give up in order to reach your goal

[31:31]: Understanding your "Why" so that you can navigate the tough moments in life

Success Labels… we all have them but this ONE thing determines whether or not Success causes you stress or gives you momentum.

If you've ever been known for that special skill you have, or the one personality trait people admire over and over again… then listen to this podcast episode where we break down the difference between OWNING a Success Label vs. BEING SERVANT to a Success Label.

Your inherent worth will never be found in the Success Label itself, and the key to owning a Success Label is a process of auditing your thoughts and learning how to clean up your thinking instead.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by the ultimate training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

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[2:40]: Announcement: Private 1:1 Workshop experience with Susan Choi in Seattle for a limited time only! Spend the day with Susan and directly learn the signature RISE Program on Brain Management and Emotional Management, a complete system you can use in any situation. To apply, head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/contact to connect with Susan and discuss details.

[6:20]: What is a Success Label? How do we cause our own stress and pain when it comes to our own success?

[7:35]: What is YOUR Success Label? What are you naturally skilled at? Tag @susanchoiwellness on Instagram and let us know!

[8:32]: Example of sneaky thoughts at work around Success Labels during a Coaching call

[9:44]: When we attach or overidentify ourselves to a certain Success Label, what we are saying on a subconscious level is we are also NOT (insert emotion) without it

[11:05]: The stress of upholding and maintaining certain Success Labels is a direct result of confusing the Success Label with our thoughts

[12:02]: Why Success Labels do not automatically equal worth or respect, and what truly does

[14:00]: How Success Labels are similar to real life intimate relationships

Most stressed out people are living in Filtered Reality, a reality in which we created based on, yep, you guessed it, our filters, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. And when we live from this reality we create two problems.

First, we create even more evidence to our limiting beliefs when we live in this reality, and second, we are living from thoughts that do not create a QUALITY life that we would rather be living.

Listen to this episode and learn how we can instead learn to live in a Chosen Reality where we consciously decide what we'd rather believe by choosing our thoughts on purpose.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by the ultimate training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

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[1:30]: Shoutouts from you and clients

[4:20]: Going deeper into our mind and how we create unnecessary stress through Filtered Reality

[4:50]: Filtered Reality work example of client presentation

[6:28]: When we have not practiced recognizing our own thoughts happening BY us, when we haven't cultivated the muscle of recognizing personalization at work, that is when filtered reality sets in AS reality

[8:00]: Second example of Filtered Reality at work

[9:10]: Living in Filtered Reality generates two problems. First, we create even more evidence to our limiting beliefs, and second, we are living from thoughts that do not create a quality life had we been more conscious of what we wanted to THINK instead.

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[14:40]: Introducing Chosen Reality. A reality in which you have the power to choose how you want to personalize your life and choose the thoughts you think.

[16:55]: Which reality are YOU living in now and which reality will you decide to live in moving forward?

Why is it that one person can be annoyed and get back to their work, and another can't seem to stop sharing their story to anyone that will listen?

It's called Emotional Drama.

There are two ways we experience emotions – through the BODY and through the MIND.

One creates more drama and unnecessary stress, while the other simply allows the emotion to be a guidance system.

The good news is, once we cultivate enough self-awareness to tune into when we engage in Emotional Drama, we can take a step back to fully process emotion so that we don't take action on anything we may regret.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by the ultimate training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

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[0.53]: #LarchMadness and fall in the Pacific Northwest

[3:10]: Why is it that one person can experience emotions, and another experiences emotional drama?

[3:38]: Emotions are emotions experienced by the body; Emotional Drama is emotions as experienced by the mind

[5:30]: It's OK to feel your feelings. Emotions are a privilege to experience as a human being

[7:15]: Emotions are derived from an internal belief system

[8:16]: A good question to ask ourselves before taking action is, "Are we acting from a "clean" place?"

[10:05]: Our mind constantly seek to derive meaning from everything

[10:12]: Download the Personalization Guide at www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

[10:50]: When we can feel the feeling without meaning, we are able to drop the narrative

[13:30]: Emotions vs. Emotional Drama example with an argument between parent and child

[17:20]: When reacting from Emotional Drama there is a higher margin of error and regret

Dealing with overwhelm and managing expectations at a new job DOESN'T have to be hard. In fact, WE are the ones that make something so simple… complicated!

Listen in as I read questions from our listeners and give you my thoughts on what is actually happening in each situation, from managing a new job to managing a team at a startup.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by the ultimate training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

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[1:20]: Help others find Stressproof by submitting a review on iTunes!

[2:00]: Listener Q&A from Megan; How can I prevent overwhelm and manage expectations in my new company when I want to give a good first impression? How can I professionally say "no".

[3:50]: Three part answer to "preventing overwhelm". 1) Notice how your brain wants to go to the PAST.

[5:40]: The human brain thinks 95% of the same thoughts today as yesterday.

[6:30]: Second, when we want to "prevent" overwhelm from a job, it presupposes our overwhelm comes from the job, and not within ourselves.

[7:35]: Third, (concept) separating the overpowering from the thought or feeling.

[9:15]: Managing expectations is an ACTION, which means we get a choice in how we get to feel about managing expectations such as fear vs. determination.

[11:30]: How to "professionally" say no; professional is subjective.

[12:53]: Listener Q&A #2; How do I manage the growing stress of having to lead a team at a startup in a fast-paced environment and work with my boss.

[13:35]: Dissecting where stress is truly coming from in this situation.

[15:03]: Living as the Cause of your own life means we can generate the emotions we want to feel without relying on others.

[16:28]: Why we resist our reality.

[18:47]: 2 VIP Coaching spots available for September. Apply at www.stressproofpodcast.com

We're going to take a good look at what separates those that fast track their way to success and how these people are taking a completely different approach to their personal goals and successes.

Because if you ask any successful person whom you admire whether they've worked with a coach, the answer will likely be a resounding YES. In fact, several yesses.

If you're not seeing any wins, have remained stagnant in a certain area of your life, or ask yourself, "Why can't I figure this out?", then make sure you listen to this week's episode of Stressproof. This just may be the sign you were looking for!

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by the ultimate training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[0.40]: Why some people make IMMENSE progress in their lives and others don't

[1:47]: New program announcement coming in 2020 – Stress & Weight Loss

[3:27]: How do you know if you need to hire a coach? What is the catalyst for those that hired a coach?

[4:25]: How coaching has changed my life

[6:27]: It is human nature to desire something for our future and it is unique to each individual. The good news is that someone out there is one step ahead of you and can teach you how to get there faster

[7:37]: Sign #1 – You value your time

[8:38]: Tim Urban of Wait But Why – The Tail End

[12:18]: Sign #2 – You value your happiness

[15:01]: Sign #3 – You don't want to repeat last year

[16:49]: To be human is to have limitless potential, which means our desires our endless but we will never recognize certain desires if we simply repeat last year over and over again

[17:45]: The cost of stress

[18:42]: Every decision comes at a cost, even indecision

[20:23]: Sign #4 – You trust yourself to have your own back

[21:07]: Many people feel doubt and worry about whether or not they truly have it within them to make it work, even WITH the solution

[22:51]: Sign #5 – You're willing to overcome obstacles in order to remove yourself from your current pain

[23:58]: The irony of waiting until our current pain becomes unbearable is that it ends up costing more time, money, and energy to fix the problem

[26:36]: Personal example of discovering and trying to heal adrenal fatigue when it was too late

In this episode we're learning how to SIMPLIFY your life using this one concept of Constraining for the Gold Standard.

When you identify the Gold Standard in five crucial areas of your life (Physical, Emotional, Mental, Spiritual, and Financial), suddenly your time has somewhere to go; suddenly the time it takes to make a decision is nominal because the decisions is already made for you!

Discover how applying this one concept in each area of your life will help you achieve your goals faster without the unnecessary stress!

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by the ultimate training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[0.42]: Update from San Francisco & Costa Mesa and the importance of deep connections

[3:20]: STRESSPROOF is now a Top 100 Podcast on Apple Podcasts in Mental Health!

[5:20]: Recap of Achievement Addiction Episode #25

[6:50]: Understanding the concept of a Constraint and why we shy away from Constraints

[9:17]: In order for Constraints to work you must identify your most compelling desire, whether that's a more confident you, a more abundant you, a more thinner you, or a more athletic you. Can you imagine a more compelling future that would make your PRESENT more uncomfortable than the obstacles you would need to face in order to get to FUTURE you?

[11:58]: Additional examples of how a compelling desire presents itself in every day life

[13:00]: Constraining for the Gold Standard; a concept that helps apply every day constraints through a positive lens so that we can reach out goals faster with less stress

[16:03]: How Constraining for the Gold Standard simplifies your life and cuts down on every day decision making

[17:00]: Live exercise of identifying the Gold Standard in five crucial areas of our life: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual, and Financial

[18:50]: How this concept allows you to put yourself first 100% of the time