STRESSPROOF Podcast

If you're currently struggling with making a decision this episode is for YOU! Oftentimes the underlying reason why we can't make a decision is because we fear WHO we will have to become and WHAT we will need to do in order to make this dream a reality; and what most of us end up doing is we delay our lives because of this fear.

Listen as I explain and dig deeper into why decision making is so hard and what we can do about it so that we can start living the life we KNOW DEEP DOWN we truly want to live.

Some key questions you can start asking yourself to help you come closer to decision making include:

What are you so scared of on the other side of this decision?

What will force you to do?

Who will it force you to become?

How will it force you to feel?

We'll also talk about what it means to take Emotional Responsibility for our lives and why taking Emotional Responsibility can unlock true confidence in every area of our lives.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[1:44]: VIP Coaching waitlist for July and beyond. Apply today at www.stressproofpodcast.com

[2:50]: Are you scared of success? The stress of what success might bring?

[4:20]: How we experience low level, chronic stress from needing to make several decisions in our lives

[5:55]: Delaying decision making for weeks, months, and years because of this ONE thing

[8:08]: When we doubt and delay decision making we are telling ourselves we are not confident in our own capabilities

[9:22]: Once we make a decision (or not) we must take Emotional Responsibility

[11:00]: How we repeat last year all over again

[11:55]: How we confuse ourselves once we make a decision and blame something or someone for how we feel (i.e., the company policies, the manager, the co-worker).

[12:46]: Our brains love to blame the new external circumstance

[14:00]: How not taking Emotional Responsibility leaves us in a passive aggressive state and leaves us repeating negative emotions even in new circumstances

[15:55]: Thinking as if you must make a decision work

[17:08]: Why thought work is the gateway to taking Emotional Responsibility

[19:07]: Questions to ask yourself to help you make a decision

[20:28]: Play to win, and don't play not to lose

Hey beautiful people, as you all know I bring guests on from various backgrounds so we can learn from other people's experience with stress and the journey it led them towards. Today's podcast features none other than Elizabeth Polito, a former Broadway performer turned Wholistic Healer and Higher Awareness Coach.

We didn't expect this to happen but there IS a theme for this podcast episode and it is around Elizabeth's connection to grief and loss. She mentions losing important people in her life several times in this episode and how the stress of this brought her to discover a new part of herself, which led her to a completely different career path and ultimately a new perspective in which she views life.

Learn how dance and movement has been a primary source of processing stress and other uncomfortable emotions as well as how energy practices have helped Elizabeth heal from loss.

BONUS: Elizabeth shares a special Yoga Nidra meditation practice at the end of this episode to help ease stress and anxiety.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

You can learn more about Elizabeth Polito at www.elizabethpolito.com

TIMESTAMPS:

[3:40]: Elizabeth's former career in dance and Broadway

[7:00]: How Elizabeth overcame objections and doubters on her dreams

[12:30]: Listening to your calling

[14:00]: Expressing emotion and energy through movement and dance

[15:41]: How can we feel more comfortable in our own skin and be truly vulnerable?

[20:00]: Vulnerability and other people's judgement

[22:45]: Tension headaches as Elizabeth's first physical sign of stress in grade school

[26:00]: Waking up - Losing control with a panic attack as a dancer and performer

[29:38]: Distracting from stress as an unconscious habit through eating, social media, drinking, etc.

[30:58]: How death led Elizabeth to a new career

[33:00]: Lifting the veil of the illusion and gaining clarity on a new life direction

[36:15]: How to make sense of death

[39:00]: Attaching our self worth to something outside of us

[40:49]: The power of our thoughts and the tapes we play in our head

[44:37]: Elizabeth's experience with helping her Mother in Law transition and Lou Gehrig's disease

[46:45]: Constantly searching for the opportunity as a mindset practice

[50:37]: Elizabeth's first experience with yoga as a healing practice

[57:44]: Yoga Nidra – Conscious Deep Relaxation / Yogic Sleep

[1:03:39]: How Elizabeth currently de-stresses through conscious breath work and movement

[1:09:48]: Our life is based on cycles and so should our de-stressing practices

[1:11:00]: What would Elizabeth say to stress?

[1:16:04]: Yoga Nidra Meditation

Why does reminiscing about the past make you feel worse and how can you re-create "the best" moments so that we are living our best years NOW? In this episode of STRESSPROOF we deconstruct the idea of "the best years of our life" as well as learn more about how our brains our wired when it comes to memory.

Is our memory accurate? Can we create memories? And how can we replace meaning on certain memories?

All of these questions are answered in this week's podcast so that you can leverage how memory works to create more meaningful life experiences.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[1:30]: Deconstructing "the best years of our life"

[2:10]: Why the past doesn't exist and how we change our past all the time

[4:00]: Humans tend to selectively focus on primary moments

[4:45]: Research study on memory fabrication

[7:11]: Our subconscious does not know the difference between reality and imagination

[8:08]: There is no correlation between confidence in memory vs. accuracy of memory

[9:45]: How we bring past pain into the present

[12:50]: How can we leverage our knowledge of how memory works to create exciting moments?

If you've EVER asked yourself, "What's WRONG with me?" then this episode is just for you. So many people blame themselves or believe there must be something wrong if we feel something negative, especially over a period of time that seems "unreasonable".

But what often happens is we begin to start a new cycle of suffering by feeling bad ABOUT feeling bad!

In this podcast, we will be discussing the law of polarity, why our brains are wired to seek negative emotions, what question to ask yourself to bust through the negative cycle, and how to ease into a negative emotion so you can start feeling better.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

Timestamps:

[1:11]: Two coaching spots left in June 2019! Apply at www.stressproofpodcast.com

[2:44]: The Yin and Yang of life and the Law of Polarity

[3:39]: The question everyone asks themselves, "what's wrong with me?". Why is this feeling still here? Why am I the only one that suffers this long?

[4:50]: Our brains are wired to seek and amplify negative experiences

[6:40]: What happens when we resist an emotion? Emotions as ticking time bombs

[7:55]: What causes us to feel even MORE sadness, anxiousness, stress, and overwhelm?

[10:08]: THE question to ask yourself when you DO feel uncomfortable emotions

[12:40]: Leaning into sadness and other uncomfortable emotions

Have you ever cried at work? Wonder why this happens and how you can stop it? This episode is a special Listener Q&A where I answer YOUR questions!

We'll discuss what it takes to maintain control of your emotions while at work, and whether or not it's possible to truly live a stress free life.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Want to apply this even further in your life? Apply for VIP Coaching today at www.stressproofpodcast.com. Spaces are limited!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[1:23]: Austin recommendations?

[2:24]: Fill out the contact form at www.stressproofpodcast.com/contact to get your questions answered in a future episode!

[3:01]: Listener Q&A on crying at work

[3:46]: How our work is a part of our identity

[4:26]: Addressing the root cause of heightened emotions

[5:40]: Potential hidden assumptions that may cause crying at work

[6:38]: Specific thoughts cause how we feel, subconscious or conscious

[7:20]: Download a visual example of Personalization and start thinking better thoughts at www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

[8:23]: How resistance perpetuates your current circumstance and keeps you stuck in Problem Oriented Thinking

[10:13]: How long does it take to identify an emotion?

[12:16]: "How do you live a stress free life as a stress management coach?"

[13:31]: The polarity of our life

[15:30]: Why "negative" is NOT bad

[17:00]: Recap of Middle School (coaching concept)

[18:08]: Executive Senior Leadership Team Presentation example

[20:10]: Stress as a natural part of our life

[21:21]: Using stress as ag guidance system

If you dread feedback this is a clear sign of Problem Oriented Thinking! Most people play defense when it comes to feedback during mid-year or end of year reviews. And this doesn't apply to just work! This same concept I'm about to share applies to your personal life, whether it's with close friends, family, or even your partner.

Listen to this episode to learn how to leverage FEEDBACK to fuel your life and start making your dreams a reality.

After listening to this episode you'll learn how to take back control of your life by looking at the RESULTS of your life to guide you toward the right feedback necessary to get what you want.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Want to apply this even further in your life? Apply for VIP Coaching today at www.stressproofpodcast.com. Spaces are limited!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to stressproofpodcast.com/p

Timestamps:

[01:17]: Ways to connect with yourself and your thoughts

[02:13]: We hear feedback constantly, even if we aren't aware of it

[03:23]: How our mindset affects the way we receive feedback

[04:40]: Understanding the feedback process to get the results you want

[06:00]: How to change your story

[07:25]: Why we focus on negative feedback vs. positive feedback

[08:30]: Finding the core message in feedback

[09:41]: How to objectively receive feedback by looking at the results in your life

[12:05]: The importance of playing at the causal level to get what you want in life

[13:19]: Announcement: free guide to understanding Personalization, and watch me coach the Personalization Model

Have you ever woken up just feeling… blah? Trust me, you aren't the only one! There's this low level, chronic way of living most of us tolerate because we don't know how to feel better. And in this episode of STRESSPROOF, I break down each step towards feeling better and how to transform any difficult emotion such as stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.

We talk about emotions such as shame, humiliation, and anger, and why we can never truly "get rid" of these emotions. We also discuss why TRANSFORMING these emotions is a key component to feeling better.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please tag me @susanchoiwellness and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Need coaching? Apply for VIP Coaching today at www.stressproofpodcast.com.

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by Stress Management for Peak Performance. A FREE mini training series for the listeners of this podcast where you will learn the fundamentals of what you need to do in order to truly handle stress. For instant access head on over to stressproofpodcast.com!

[00:50]: Thank you & featured reviews

[02:03]: Wanting to feel better

[04:05]: The Emotional Management System

[05:10]: Our primitive nature and need to protect ourselves from discomfort

[08:00]: Relating emotions to energy; transforming emotions

[09:20]: False positives from short-term solutions

[10:15] First step to dealing with an uncomfortable emotion

[12:00]: The practice of checking where emotions reside in the body

[15:36]: Core belief work; Assessing the reason why you feel the way you do

[16:43]: Playing into victim mentality vs. inquiring within

[18:10]: Putting the Emotional Management System practice into play

[19:15]: The underlying theme with victim mentality: Fear

[21:07]: VIP Coaching announcement & how to apply!

Most people give up on their next level of success, whether it's the promotion, the long desired partner, or the new number on the scale, because they don't understand and apply this key concept – Middle School.

In this episode I cover the fundamentals of why we desire to change, what happens when we are faced with fear, and how to apply this key concept in order to finally BREAKTHROUGH to the next level of your life.

Key examples used include promotions, weight loss, and a personal story of my own.

If you enjoyed this podcast, tag me @susanchoiwellness and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by Stress Management for Peak Performance. A FREE mini training series for the listeners of this podcast where you will learn the fundamentals of what you need to do in order to truly handle stress. For instant access head on over to stressproofpodcast.com!

[1:51]: Free training announcement and how to get it!

[2:17]: How to accept current pain in order to get what you want

[2:45]: What does next level look like for you?

[5:00]: Middle School – How to get what you want

[6:47]: How we perpetuate our current circumstance

[8:00]: Making Partner example

[9:51]: Weight loss example

[11:11]: Susan's personal example of going through Middle School

[13:32]: Why we don't have what we want right now

If your burnout, exhaustion, and the endless mind chatter stems from the need to keep it all together... you're not alone.

There's a reason why there are songs, parodies, and memes around "keeping up with the Joneses".

And by all means there is NOTHING wrong with what money provides us.

However, when we chase what money can get us first, that is when the burnout, exhaustion, and stress comes into play much more systemically.

In this bonus episode, I read to you an excerpt from my weekly newsletter, Weekend Wellness.

Weekend Wellness is delivered straight to your inbox first thing Friday morning before we dive into the weekend, because let's face it...

... sometimes the weekend is when we need the MOST motivation.

I share weekly words of wisdom, inspiration, and personal stories from my own life that I don't share anywhere else.

Head on over to www.stressproodpodcast.com to sign up! You don't want to miss this.

How do you keep from firing off the hasty email or snapping at someone you love? Stress and overwhelm can make it far too easy for anyone to do something they might otherwise regret, but NOT until you've had a chance to apply this one simple model that can change your life!

Learn how to apply this life changing model so that you can be more at peace faster than ever before, as well as learn how to get out of the perpetual problem oriented mindset and instead, learn how to think more strategically with Solution Oriented Thinking.

As always, this episode is filled with real life examples so that you can apply this to your very own situation.

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by Stress Management for Peak Performance. A FREE mini training series for the listeners of this podcast where you will learn the fundamentals of what you need to do in order to truly handle stress. For instant access head on over to stressproofpodcast.com!

Timestamps:

[5:00]: F vs. S (Fact vs. Story Model)

[6:12]: Client example from work

[7:42]: How you try to control the Universe and stress

[10:22]: Problem Oriented Thinking vs. Solution Oriented Thinking Model Explanation

[13:57]: How long will it take to automate Solution Oriented Thinking?

[15:00]: Confidence as a byproduct of Solution Oriented Thinking