STRESSPROOF Podcast

If you always feel this void after every achievement and you wonder to yourself, "what's wrong with me?", listen to this week's episode and discover whether or not you have Achievement Addiction.

Achievement Addiction is stealth due to the fact that the symptoms can only be felt on the inside: the constant low grade anxiety of not having enough, the stress of looking at others to ensure you are "right on track", and never feeling acknowledged or valued for what you've achieved thus far.

I cover four key questions you can ask yourself to start identifying your core motivating factors and what you can do to switch from an extrinsic motivation to an intrinsic motivation for longevity and happiness.

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TIMESTAMPS:

[0:40]: Special shoutout to listener, Heather! If you love this podcast, please subscribe, share, and leave a review!

[2:25]: Story about Michael who has Achievement Addiction. Can you relate to his story?

[5:40]: What is Achievement Addiction?

[6:12]: Classic symptoms of Achievement Addiction: Your sense of achievement once reaching your goal is short lived, you minimize your achievements to yourself and others and say it's really no big deal, you never feel at rest and often feel restless, (and more…)

[8:41]: Journal on these four questions to identify your core subconscious beliefs around Achievement Addiction

[10:50]: Had it really been about the house, the career, or the relationship, we would have stopped this behavior around Achievement Addiction a long time ago. It's time to understand what is really driving this behavior

[11:35]: The true definition of Achievement and why we need to re-focus our attention on the process vs. the outcome

[12:20]: Over emphasis on rewarding and valuing the OUTCOME vs. the PROCESS and how this is causing our unhappiness when reaching achievement

[13:06]: Thich Nhat Hanh, Global Spiritual Leader & Peace Activist, How To Eat example

[14:20]: Achievement is not a bad thing, but you must have vision

[15:00]: Why extrinsic motivation does not work with Achievement

Why is it that we feel a pit in our stomach when something GOOD happens in our life? Or where do the barrage of negative thoughts suddenly come from when we win an award at work, or when our Director acknowledges our efforts, or when we finally reach a sense of stability in our life?

Two words: Upper Limit.

When we do not recognize our Upper Limit, most people engage in self sabotaging behavior which often looks like binging, overdrinking, overworking, or retreating back to thinking negative thoughts about our life.

Learn why processing an emotion such as happiness is crucial to moving past your Upper Limit and why leaning into these types of situations will create room for more rewarding experiences, joy, and the motivation to go after those desirable challenges that get you incredible results in your life.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[0:42]: It's ok not to feel ok

[1:39]: Intellectually we wouldn't sabotage our own happiness, but we operate from a subconscious level 95% of the time

[2:20]: Many of us understand sabatoging behavior when it is expected such as anxiety, depression, or overwhelm

[3:46]: Have you ever received good news and suddenly felt a pit in your stomach?

[5:12]: When we don't know how to process happiness (yes, even the positive emotions), that is when we self sabotage ourselves

[6:00]: Every single one of us have an Upper Limit; it is our baseline level of comfort and happiness and can be difficult to move beyond our normal levels

[7:30]: What can we do when everything is going well? When we're on top of the world at work? How can we stop ourselves from grabbing the chips and negative thoughts that suddenly pop up?

[9:02]: Describing the QUALITY of our emotions invite us to step into our body and process emotion

[10:26]: Are you the type of person that automatically thinks negative thoughts when something good happens in your life? How to deal with those negative thoughts.

[11:26]: How and why judging your thoughts creates validity and takes on a life of it's own

[13:00]: Happiness needs it's own moment, just like grief, stress, and other "negative" emotions

If you find yourself bored (often) and wonder to yourself whether or not you're truly leading a meaningful life, then this episode is for YOU. Most people literally try to fill the void once boredom hits; this may look like finding something to eat, ordering the extra drink, or incessantly scrolling Instagram.

But what is boredom really saying? What are you making boredom mean? Is boredom a bad thing?

Find out the answers to all of this and discover how we can use boredom to discover the TRUTH of our lives so that we can lead a meaningful life full of connection, joy, and peace.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[0.40]: Recurring nightmares, college vs. real life, & imposter syndrome

[3:05]: Sign up for a complimentary Strategy Session for a limited time! Fall spots now available.

[3:58]: What is your automatic behavior to boredom?

[4:55]: Boredom is an emotional state. All feelings are a result of a specific thought you are having.

[6:18]: Ask yourself this very important question to understand what boredom means to you, especially if your typical behavior is to automatically fill the void with food, drink, or external stimulation.

[8:43]: Boredom is a stealth emotion that doesn't get as much air time but when unnoticed, creates bigger problems in our lives.

[9:25]: Boredom and neural pathways.

[10:25]: How can we be with boredom in a productive way that actually SERVES you?

[12.22]: Do not let boredom take you away from the TRUTH of your life; plus examples of what that might look like.

If you've ever said, "SEE!" whenever you find evidence of why you're right or to prove a point you just made… then you have to listen to this week's podcast.

Find out whether or not the evidence you are seeing is actually a form of self sabotage.

Your brain, particularly the Reticular Activating System, will always seek to find and serve evidence based on your deeply seeded beliefs and how you present the problem at hand.

In this case, the QUALITY of how you present the question or problem statement does not matter, but it should if you want QUALITY answers and evidence to help direct your life toward the results you ultimately desire.

Once you listen to this podcast, you will understand the importance of framing questions and problems so that you can start seeing what you actually want to see.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[0:40]: Vacation update from the Big Island! Trail tips: Waipio Valley & Pololu Valley

[3:48]: Why is it when you think about something you see it EVERYWHERE? I.e., shopping for a car and suddenly you see it everywhere

[4:49]: Introducing the Reticular Activating System, the ultimate filtration system

[5:44]: Our brains are like a 7 year old… with a puzzle. It's always working to solve a problem; which problem are you giving your brain to solve?

[6:38]: Annoying co-workers and demanding bosses… is it true? Or is it your brain?

[7:45]: How can we ensure we are being served evidence that would ultimately lead us to the result of our life we ultimately desire?

[9:52]: 5 Regrets of the Dying

[10:30]: Your brain is working for you all the time; whether it is a problem or your deeply rooted beliefs

[12:40]: Priming your brain for the day with intentions

[13:01]: Examples of questions to pose for your brain

By popular request, I am sharing how I REALLY recovered from adrenal fatigue and severe burnout. No, it wasn't a magic pill or an auspicious guru…. It was simply a question I asked myself that changed my entire life and how I started to truly live.

If you're suffering from burnout or adrenal fatigue, you don't want to miss this podcast! Get clarity on how your focus of resolving this problem is actually draining you of your finite energy, time, and resources. Learn instead how to find peace and joy in every moment which will help kick start your mental health journey.

*Disclaimer: All information, content, and material of this podcast is for informational purposes only and are not intended to serve as a substitute for the consultation, diagnosis, and/or medical treatment of a qualified physician or healthcare provider.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[1:11]: Why it took me years to recover from burnout and adrenal fatigue (treating the effects vs. cause)

[2:07]: The day when I asked myself the question that would change my life

[3:58]: How I had been applying the Personalization model to feeling and thinking better. Grab your free PDF guide at www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

[6:45]: Why we can't outsmart our system to feeling better and why your identity is the starting point

[8:25]: The average human thinks 60,000 thoughts a day and we repeat 95% of those thoughts daily

[9:47]: We start the process of shifting our identity with self awareness first

[11:15]: Peace is available at any moment

Today I have the greatest honor of introducing one of my greatest teachers and the biggest lesson I learned.

If you easily get angry, or someone at work particularly bothers you, or perhaps you're tired of constantly solving a new problem in your life, then you don't want to miss this episode!

Learn why embracing your problems as your new "edge" is pivotal to your own growth and transformation. It will completely change how you think about problems forever!

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

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[2:38]: My greatest teacher is always pointing out how **I** am the problem and never reality

[3:09]: What we SEE is the problem is a directly reflection of something internal (thoughts & beliefs)

[5:10]: How an angry moment stopped time and allowed me to learn one of the biggest lessons of my life

[6:15]: The reason why we are mad at someone or something is because we don't see it as neutral

[7:20]: Victim mentality mindset – living as if life is happening TO us

[8:15]: Hard things will continue to happen until it becomes easy, until you have transformed

[10:00]: Who or what in your life has become a negative pattern for you?

[11:11]: Each time we transform we come up against our new EDGE. Edges are GOOD.

If you've ever avoided relationships, career progression, or deepening certain life experiences because you are too afraid to feel certain emotions, then this episode is for you. In this podcast we break down what it means to feel Emotionally Breakable and learn specifically what it takes to overcome this fear.

Once we understand it is a process of transforming emotions as well as thinking specific thoughts, you will be able to build an emotionally resilient reservoir you can tap into at any time.

Suddenly, the overwhelming grip you felt toward certain life experiences will loosen it's hold and you will be met, instead, with an unlimited source of personal power and freedom to run toward your ultimate desires.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[1:01]: What does it mean to feel Emotionally Breakable?

[2:17]: Explaining the Fragile Glass Vase; when you're too afraid to feel something and begin to avoid certain life experiences

[4:48]: Why you're not alone and why this is a normal experience

[5:45]: The main reason why we feel emotionally breakable is because you think and feel as if you can't handle a specific emotion(s)

[6:48]: Learning Brain Management and Emotional Management gives you the opportunity to engage with life FULLY

[7:15]: Examples of situations we avoid (social events, intimate relationships, career opportunities, etc.)

[9:24]: Step One: Understanding the process of an emotion; transforming emotions to discharge

[11:33]: Make sure you listen to "How To Feel Better" on Stressproof for more on emotions

[13:24]: Step Two: Brain Management; First step is to understand all of your thoughts that lead you up to the event (i.e., life experience); Second step is to understand and manage all of your thoughts about the emotions you are experiencing

[14:15]: When your thoughts don't change you will never take different action

[15:19]: Sample thoughts of the thoughts you need to think in order to step into relationships

[16:18]: Exercise to help you understand your thoughts

[17:19]: How to manage all of your thoughts ABOUT the difficult emotion

When we feel duty or obligation to someone or something in our life, oftentimes that comes from a different energy state of "HAVING" to do something versus owning the fact that we have created this circumstance in our life.

We dismiss the fact that we can choose differently, if we so choose, and this new concept in today's podcast is going to help you to stop living from a place of victim mentality, but rather start creating your life again from a place of personal power.

Learn how Redeciding can act as a catalyst for true personal freedom, joy, and ultimate peace in your life.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[1:26]: Get more control and power over your day by implementing this new concept of Redeciding

[2:15]: Take time to think of specific examples in your day where things or people seem like an obligation so you can apply this them throughout this podcast

[2:39]: Our thoughts are recycled repeatedly which dictate the smallest actions we take throughout the day

[3:35]: Many people live their life from a HAVE to or that life is happening TO you which keeps us in a stuck state

[5:10]: How we live from an "old" yes and maintain homeostatis

[6:20]: Redeciding forces us to face the truth of our life and ask ourselves, "why am I NOT choosing differently?"

[8:10]: How redeciding gives us greater peace and joy (relationship example)

[9:28]: Difficult family member example and how redeciding can help relieve unnecessary stress and suffering

[10:45]: How consciously redeciding removes the obligation or duty of having to be in certain relationships or circumstances

[11:40]: Redeciding does not mean life gets easier, but it means you are now creating and owning your life experience

The actual words we use can keep our brain STUCK in a problem! And in this podcast we're breaking down the concept of Nominalization (how we turn a process into a definitive STATE).

When we continue use words that keep problems "broad", we don't allow ourselves to see the solution because the problem is now fixed in our minds.

It becomes a fact of our life.

It just IS.

And this is how we get stuck in Problem Oriented Thinking vs. training our brain to be more Solution Oriented.

Learn how we can break down language and ask better questions so that we fine tune our self-awareness and prevent unnecessary stress and suffering in our every day lives.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[0:46]: I revisited the past and was met with JOY. Here's how

[2:46]: July is booked! Now accepting coaching applications for mid-August. Head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com to apply today!

[4:36]: How we explain our problems as static and firm leaving no room for Solution Oriented Thinking

[5:23]: Nominalization – when we turn verbs into nouns

[6:28]: "I'm stressed out" as an example of how we create this problem STATE vs. a process to be solved

[8:08]: Focusing on the STATE of the problem is merely addressing the band aid

[9:24]: "My relationships at work are preventing me from doing a good job at work" example

[10:50]: Finding common definitions of words from different interpretations we place (i.e., love)

[12:30]: How using "broad" language keeps our brain stuck

[13:39]: We are ALWAYS in a "state", so what can we do about it?

Annoying co-workers, partners, or even family members can be a significant stressor in our lives. But what if I told you that the REAL reason why specific people annoy us is because of a very specific word we are using in our thoughts that are causing unnecessary stress and suffering?

That word is: SHOULD.

Should presupposes that something or someone is not "right". And in this episode we're going to deconstruct what that truly means and why "should" is a dangerous word that needs to be put under a microscope in order for us to start feeling better right away.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please screenshot this podcast on your device and tag me @susanchoiwellness on Instagram stories and let me know what your key takeaways are from this episode!

Oh! And this podcast is brought to you by a new training on PERSONALIZATION. A FREE guide for the listeners of this podcast so you can learn to think better thoughts in any situation without the stress. For instant access head on over to www.stressproofpodcast.com/p

TIMESTAMPS:

[3:10]: Do you ever get angry annoyed?

[4:13]: The type of thoughts that trigger annoyance.

[5:20]: Educating and mentoring from a clean place of love and respect

[5:50]: The one word that causes us unnecessary stress – "should"

[6:50]: How the world defines "should"

[8:05]: The problem with probability is that it allows us to latch ON to this IDEAL version of how we want someone or something to be.

[8:39]: "Should" argues against our reality

[9:15]: What makes us believe we can control how people behave, act, feel, or say?

[10:03]: Our pain is caused by our THOUGHT of how a situation or person should be different

[10:21]: Specific work "should" examples

[12:08]: The moment I accepted I am not in control

[12:33]: To think and put pressure on ourselves that we must control the outcome makes us feel worse

[13:39]: Exercise: notice the "should" statements that arise the next time you get annoyed. Be specific with the specific thought you had