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We know the right thing to do but we don't do it!

When you get knocked down, get back up!

When you have conflict, talk it out!

When you fail, learn from it!

When you feel down, be grateful!

These are great ways to handle tough situations.

However, if you move on too fast, you will miss the true experience of that tough situation.

Instead, just sit with the situation and feel how you feel especially if it’s negative (yes negative!).

So why experience the toughness of the situation?

Why experience the pain?

Why experience the negative emotions?

Listen now to discover why!

Has your confidence suddenly dropped in a tough situation?

For example, think of talking to your parents about something tough such as a career change, standing up for yourself, or choosing a partner.

You approach the conversation, and suddenly you feel like a kid talking to your parents.

As a result, you are not able to get your point across. You also fail to make the change you wanted that would have lead you to happiness, fulfillment, and alignment with the real you.

In this episode, I talk about how to be more aware of your confidence going into the situation. I also talk about how to avoid being in the kid mode when it matters most.

The more confident you are, the easier it will be to make crucial, hard decisions.

Listen to it now!

31 quick life lessons!

Last Friday was my 31st birthday.

I have reflected on what I have learned to this point.

In this podcast, I cover 31 quick life lessons.

I would love to hear what some of your life lessons are. Also are there any of mine you disagree with?

Listen now!

Why is saying no so hard?

In the brown community, it's very rare and unpopular for us to say no.

No to a hangout, no to helping someone out, no to a vacation, or overall no to certain family members.

If we say no we are seen as selfish. We feel others will reject us and disown us.

We feel they will not love us anymore.

It’s easy for me to say the way to say no is just saying that two-letter word.

What you need is driving forces that make it easier to stick by this no.

Listen to this episode now to discover them!

You don’t have to feel obligated to say no! Listen now!

Do you actually want to go through with it?

In the brown community, it’s very common to receive a lot of opinions.

Opinions from our parents, siblings, aunt, uncles, or grandparents.

While it’s good for the most part, it can also have its limitations.

When you receive too many opinions, welcomed or not, it clouds your judgment.

As a result, we end up making choices only because they are popular.

We end up making them because we feel if we don’t, we will be rejected.

💪Let’s break this! Let’s start focusing on what you want!

In this episode, I talk about how to identify what YOU truly want. I also talk about how to deal with the resistance and judgment you may receive.

When you do this, you can:

✅ Live life on your own terms

✅ Do something based on your interests, passion, and purpose

✅ Feel more happier and fulfilled!

Listen to the episode now!

Are you going to let one thing ruin the whole day?

Something happens. Someone cuts you off in traffic. Someone says something bad about you. You don't get the job or close the business deal.

Things happen. But sometimes we let things occupy our day longer than they need to be.

This is commonly done because we do not actually evaluate what has happened or realize it has automatically put us in an angry, sad, or negative state.

In this episode, I talk about how to slow down and evaluate the situation.

✅If you do this, you will increase your awareness of the situation and compare it to the bigger picture.

✅When you do that, the situation will not have much importance or an impact on you and your day.

✅At that point, it's easier to let go of the situation and learn from it!

Listen to the episode now to increase your awareness to prevent situations from ruining your whole day!

I talk about common situational responses within the brown community.

The examples I cover are :

1. Getting made fun of
2. Wanting to pursue a career change
3. Stressful situations
4. Assumptions
5. Getting asked to hang out
6. Fighting with a partner
7. Dealing with emotions

I talk about how to change our automatic responses so we do not need to experience the negative effects.

The negative effects include resentment, anger, sadness, lack of fulfillment and damage to self-confidence and self-worth.

Assumptions are so common in the brown community.

They cause so much unnecessary damage in our relationships.

They certainly used to for me. Here is a common example I often experienced.

They don't return your call or are not there for you.

Based on that you feel they no longer care about you. Sometimes it's true unfortunately, but most of the time it's probably not.

We never know what is going on in someone else's life.

You may think they tell you everything, but they may have their reasons to hold back. Could be nothing to do with you.

When we make an assumptions based on an action or lack thereof we end up getting upset, resentful and hurt.

We fail to look at the full picture and just sit on our assumption.

This causes damage to the relationship that could have been easily prevented. More importantly, it causes emotional damage to ourselves.

Making an assumption is natural and sometimes automatic. You also have may have a legit reason to make an assumption based on past behavior.

But until we get the full picture, we will not only continue to damage our relationships but ourselves as well.

What if instead of jumping to an assumption, you could get the full picture?

In this episode I talk about how to get a better picture of what is going on with the person and the situation.

Getting the full picture, it not always easy and can be nerve racking but overtime you can develop this skill and turn it into a habit.

Don’t sit on the assumption! Get the full picture! In this episode, I talk about how you can better get the full picture.

Once you do this, you're relationships will be more fulfilling and you will understand people intentions more cleary.

Don't let your most important relationships get damaged!

Have you held yourself back from crying?

In the Brown Community, crying is considering weak.

Also, when we see others cry, we are taught to hug them, tell them not to cry and that everything will be okay.

Crying is like any other emotion. Either you can express it or supress it.

If it is suppressed, it has so many negative side effects.

For example, resentment, pain, anger, sadness and inability to control our emotions.

Crying is not common I know. I still struggle to do it more often.

But it has so many benefits.

YOU will not carry suppressed pain, anger, sadness and resentment.

YOU will be better able to handle your emotions.

YOUR emotional capacity will be stronger in difficult and stressful situations.

You do not need to cry everytime you are down. But if you find yourself holding it and feel it in your throat, let it out.

If not in front of a loved one, do it alone.

Let it out and don't let it become supressed. Also if others cry around you, let them cry it out!

Don't let your belief of crying is weak damage your emotional state and relationships.

Don't feel embarrassed or guilty because it's a human emotion!

I'm still working on this. Let's work together on this so we no longer have to suffer from suppressing this emotion.

There is not a one size fits all when having tough conversations with family members.

Telling a cousin versus a grandparent how you feel will be totally different.

One will probably be harder than the other.

Just because it's hard, does not mean it's not possible.

You can establish and communicate your standards and boundaries to any family member no matter what their belief or thinking is.

In this podcast I will provide a few tips on how to ensure you communicate your message across.

The message could be telling someone if they upset, hurt or angered you.

It could also include telling them you no longer wanted to be treated a certain way as well as setting boundaries and standards going forward.

You cannot just use one approach for tough conversations. It won't be easy, but it can be made possible!

IF you are willing to have these tough conversations, most of your relationships will be more fulfilling and you will be more respected and appreciated.

If you fail to have these conversations, it will create more stress, resentment, bitterness and pain. You may also struggle to find peace.

Listen to this episode now if you are ready to have tough conversations with any family member!