What would you tell the younger version of yourself?

If I had the chance, I would talk to the younger version of myself about bullying. My earliest memories of being bullied occurred when I was 6 years old. It destroyed my self-confidence, my self-worth, and I started to think it was just a part of my life.

This was despite the fact I was scared of going to school almost every day thinking " Who will be bullying me today".

I got bullied for the majority of my life. However, once I started doing a few things, I have since overcome this obstacle and became stronger from it. Now I want to share that with you!

I did a speech on this topic in 2020 and it got me to round 3 of the Toastmaster's contest. I finished in the Top 3.

Nonetheless, the message in that speech is worth sharing beyond Toastmasters. I wouldn't be doing the right thing if I didn't.

That's because I know me or you or someone we know has been bullied one time or another and there is hope. Anyone can be bullied. But Bullying doesn't have to define us!

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Are You Actually Successful and Happy?

What is your definition of happiness and success?

In this episode, I talk about how real happiness and success come from the inside.
The internal stuff such as relationships, physical health, mental health, & ability to deal with emotions.

The external stuff such as money, cars, big houses, jewelry is great and all. But you will struggle to find true, continuous happiness and success if you only rely on the external.

As you listen to this episode, ask yourself.

What do I define as happiness and success?

Is it internal or external stuff?

Will the stuff result in success and happiness in the long run?

What can I do to be more happy and successful?

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You cannot get rid of sadness or anger!

We are humans. We are going to experience emotions no matter what.

It would not be realistic to think you will never experience sadness or anger. It may even result in suppression which causes stress and drains your energy.

At the end of the day, it is a natural human function to feel these emotions.

In this podcast, I talk about how to reduce the sadness and anger you experience.

The key thing to do this is to increase your awareness of when these emotions occur. I talk about how to raise your awareness.

The goal is not to get rid of the emotions. But to experience them less frequently and stop them from occurring when they are not required.

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Don’t let a learning disability hold you back!

In this podcast, I talk about my experience with being in a learning disability class.

I always was ashamed of it and hid from it because it made me feel less worthy.

I never questioned if I had a learning disability and just accepted it. For that reason, I did not even try in school and thought I was stupid. It was like a self-fulling prophecy.

Had I actually tried, I don’t even know if I would need to be in those classes.

Nonetheless, I have reflected on that experience and want to share my insight with you.

Now I have realized that a learning disability or disadvantage does not have to get in the way of the life you want to have.

In doing this I no longer feel ashamed, my confidence is not impacted nor do I feel unworthy. I feel appreciative and love the person I am.

Do not let a disability or disadvantage define you or make you feel ashamed!

In this episode, I talk about how I did all that.

Imagine talking about issues without blame!

Do you even win if you blame others?

When you blame others, they will feel embarrassed, called out, and feel like the bad guy. If they end up apologizing to you, they may begin to resent you shortly after.

Is that all worth it?

What if you could find the balance where the person acknowledges their wrongdoing but without anyone feeling blamed?

Listen to this podcast now and I share how you can achieve this powerful conversation with the other person. It involves focusing not on blame but on contribution. I will explain what that is and how to evaluate each situation.

This approach will allow you and the other person to have more ownership and acknowledgment of the wrongdoing without blaming, embarrassing, or having to “win” the discussion.

Once you do that, you will be able to open up more in your relationships, be more accepting, and understand each other’s boundaries.

What is resentment costing you?

How is being resentful helping you?

Is it draining your energy?

Is it making you angry?

Is it making you sad?

Sometimes when we feel resentment it involves making a person “pay” because they have wronged us.
This could come in the form of ignoring/avoiding them, having surface-level conversations, or blowing up on them easily.

When we use this “pay” mindset, the only person we are making pay is ourselves.

We make things worse because we cause ourselves extra stress, anger, pain, and worry.

In this podcast I talk about how you can deal with resentment so:

1.You do not condone the other’s behavior and actions

2.You do not have to make them “pay” & most importantly make yourself “pay”

3.You can start the process of moving on from the resentment

Listen to the episode now if you do not want resentment to make things worse for you!

Has someone helped you through a tough situation?

Don’t forget this!

Once we have gone through something tough, it’s natural to forget the depth of the situation. Life goes on, we get busy and it seems like a distant memory that does not evoke any emotions.

As a result, we also forget how someone has helped us through it.

In this podcast, I talk about a conversation I had with my mom. She reminded me of a particular financial difficulty situation we faced when I was 12 years old.

I had totally forgotten that had even happened to us because it seems so far away.

This conversation reminded me that no matter where you are today or how good things are, do not forget the people who helped you out during the tough times.

Show them appreciation in any way you can! Pay it forward. Help someone else out!

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Will your circumstances or decisions define you?

We can go through so many tough situations in life. Sometimes these situations break us or they unleash the potential in us.

Sometimes the situations happen as a result of an external source or sometimes internal.

However, despite the situation, despite how difficult, we always have the power to make the decision of what we want to do in that situation.

In this podcast, I share three personal life examples. The three situations are growing up in a single-parent household, being bullied, and being told I would not amount to much.

All three were external (the situations were chosen for me).

Despite the tough situations, I made key, positive decisions to better my life.

In this podcast, I will share exactly what I did so you can apply it to any life situation you have gone through before or are currently going through.

Make key decisions so the circumstances do not shape your life!!

Are you a multitasker like me?

Do try to squeeze in work anytime you can?

Thanks to becoming more self-aware of reflection & energy usage I have started to notice multitasking is not always effective.

Sometimes when you try completing one thing at a time, you will complete the task faster, be more focused, and be more energized.

I have been multitasking for a long time but this new way can allow you to be more creative, reflective, focused, and effective.

In this podcast, I talk about a couple of examples of where multitasking can work and others where it will drain you, be less effective, and take a longer time to complete your set task.

I will also give you a tip on how you can become more focused before working on a task!

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Do you feel happy and successful in your environments?

With a new year, now is the time to evaluate your environments.

These environments include:

•Your relationship with your partner
•Workplace
•Family
•Friends
•Mentors

In this podcast, I will go over each of these environments. I will talk about how you can make these environments more positive and more supportive to help you succeed and be happier.

In terms of what success and happiness are, I will not define that for you. That is something you should and need to do.

But I will discuss the key thing you need to do to establish what happiness and success will look like for you.

This is very important before you evaluate your current environments.

Kick-off 2021 right with positive environments that bring out the best in you!