Superfreak

What’s the thing you hear most about at the beginning of the year? New years resolutions right?

As someone who is passionate about the topic of goal attainment, I’m telling you right now, don’t bother. If you’ve made new years goals and resolutions, I’m telling you today why you need to throw them out the window and what you should do instead.

Statistically speaking, only a tiny fraction of people actually reach their new years' goals. Most people plan according to their current reality and base what they think they can achieve on what they’ve done in the past. They think too small about what’s possible in one year, and not big enough about what can happen in 10.

We’re going about it all wrong!

So strap in, because in this episode, I’m out to ruin new years resolutions by letting you in on a superfreak secret. I share the 6 steps of a higher level framework that will help you plan without planning, be ambitious while remaining patient, and open to creating unexpected magic each and every day. 

The problem with new years resolutions is that they’re an outdated plan. You won't be the same person in one year, let alone in one week. Today I talk about why you need to get clear on your desire and give yourself permission to want what you want, and to be open for that desire to change. And don’t underestimate the power of visualisation - you need to feel that desire in your bones. 

Setbacks are inevitable - you should absolutely plan for those. And while you’re at it, begin to reframe the stories that create internal resistance. I talk about living as if your dreams were already a reality and tracking the little things you do because these contribute greatly to your overall strategy for success. 

The big rule is don’t stop. Keep doing what’s within your power every single day and let the rest go. And even though you set an intention, focus on here and now with flexibility and openness and allow the magic to happen. Be patient, not passive because so much can happen in a year. Check in with yourself weekly, daily, moment to moment and be the person you want to be today, in whatever way you can. 

LINKS:

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/

https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift

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My martial arts training taught me to take 24 hours to celebrate, commiserate and move on, no matter what happened. This is my final episode for the year, so I wanted to take this opportunity to do a little review, letting you in on the thoughts, feelings, challenges, and the highs and lows of my year. If one word could sum up 2022, it’s contraction. 

As much as I’m not a fan of new year’s resolutions, I love a good personal review and do this on a very regular basis. I talk about staying focused, not making speculative decisions based on what has or hasn’t happened and building on the momentum of the year by reviewing, learning, transcending and casting a vision forward.  

Sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. I talk about taking lessons from the past, including what worked and letting go of what didn’t, viewing circumstances from a higher perspective. We don’t know what the future brings, but remaining curious and open allows us to learn, and expand with every contraction. 

It’s the end of the calendar year so, take a breath. No matter what has happened for you this year, if it was a fabulous year filled with prosperity or if you’ve been in the trenches, it’s time to hit the refresh button. Celebrate, commiserate and move on.

I’ll be taking a short break over the holidays and back with a brand new episode in January 2023. No matter what 2022 uncovered for you, I hope you have a safe and happy holiday season and find enjoyment in the little things. I encourage you to take a little bit of a review as well, get honest, and start casting your vision forward. 

LINKS:

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/

https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift

Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

Have you ever felt like you know what you should be doing but you just don’t do it? 

Maybe you’ve made big goals that seem to fade away or you keep attracting the same circumstances into your life. These are all signs that there’s something happening on the subconscious level. 

The amazing thing is, it doesn’t have to take a giant amount of effort to push against your nature and make real change in your life. There is an easier way. 

In this episode, I’m talking about peeling back the layers and going directly to the source - our subconscious. I explain why success and failure aren’t conscious and how effortless change can come about when we align our subconscious with where we want to go. 

Our subconscious mind makes up the majority of what controls our thoughts, actions, decisions and results. So if you’re seeing negative patterns repeat themselves and you’re trying to address the problem in the conscious mind, you’re looking in the wrong place. 

I explore how the mind works to delete, distort and generalise information according to our filters and why everything flows effortlessly when you make changes on the subconscious level. What you believe about the world will create your future. I share some insights about the reticular activating system and the importance of looking at the patterns that are present in your life. 

The best investment of time and energy you can give yourself is to start looking at the source. The more you can change subconsciously, the more effortless it is to create what you really want moving forward. 

LINKS:

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

A topic that comes up a lot in my coaching circles is making our spaces more beautiful and organised, to flow with our lives and express our personalities. A lot of us carry the mental load of the home, even while working, raising kids and all the other life things. So today, I’m talking about running your home like a business and 4 steps to domestic adulting freedom. This has been an absolute game changer in my home

I believe that simplicity and luxury are two of the top values defined by a superfreak and that treating your home like a sanctuary makes every aspect of your life better. Luxury looks different for everyone - we all define it in different ways and I talk about this in today’s episode. So whether you live alone, with a family or you travel a bunch for work, being intentional about running your home will make every aspect of your life better. 

In this episode, I share some of the things I wish I knew before I started sharing housing with others. These are things you can apply as a solo home dweller as well, to create a life of luxury and simplicity, as defined by you. I talk about how to be intentional about running your home, thinking of it like a business, which allows you to both enjoy the beautiful mundane moments and deal with the unexpected things as they arise without feeling swamped. 

Whether you consider yourself a domestic goddess or you want to do things the lazy way (like me), I know that as a superfreak you’re going to greatly appreciate this episode. I share some prompts and resources to help you create flow in your home that will directly impact every aspect of your life. If you want to create more time, more freedom, more fun and more flow, this is absolutely the episode for you. 

LINKS:

Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive

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Down to Earth - https://amzn.to/3gtvyQb

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We don’t rise to the occasion, we sink to the level of our training. You might have heard this before, it can be said in many different ways.

We can rise to the occasion but I’m asking you not to. Why? Because, as you’ll learn from this episode, too much pressure for too long causes really big problems. Problems like burnout, exhaustion, anxiety, depression, diabetes, and heart disease. All kinds of problems! But there is one thing that can help and that is preparation.

So many people go all in - burn their bridges, quit their jobs and shut everything off. And when our safety net gets taken away gravity changes. Adrenaline and pressure increase. We make decisions from a place of panic and fear. It can impact us in ways we can’t really predict or understand.

I talk about how to avoid the pressure of the gravity change, and what to do if you’re already in that situation.

Importantly, I take you through how to reframe pressure You can use pressure as an ally and a tool for peak performance. I explain how to do that by frontloading pressure - intentionally and on purpose.

I share three ways of doing this:

1. Simulate the real thing
2. Think about the ways it could go wrong and simulate those
3. Seek out uncomfortable situations and experiences that will grow you as a human.

If something feels scary and exciting at the same time. If it terrifies you and it turns you on. Do it.

We don’t rise to the occasion. We can, but that’s unsustainable. We sink to the level of our training. That’s what superfreaks do. If you want to continue to improve your life, income, career, happiness and health sustainably, for the rest of your life, know this - intentional discomfort is the way to do it. Get to the training ground now.

LINKS:

Frontier Training - Clinton Swaine

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

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Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

I have a lot of conversations with my high performing clients about imposter syndrome and often these clients don’t even identify as being high performers because of this issue. So today I’m tackling the topic of imposter syndrome and, as usual, I’m doing it in a way that you might not expect. 

One way to look at imposter syndrome is that you just have an outdated idea of who you are. You’re still thinking about yourself as the way you were before and you need to update that picture of yourself. Shifting this mindset is important but there’s more to it than that. 

There’s so much talk in the online space about empowerment these days. But if you feel like an imposter when you’re with an intimidating person, you’re faced with a challenging circumstance or a confronting conversation, empowerment in itself won’t do anything. What you need is skill. 

In this episode, I talk about what happens when people try to replace skill with empowerment and why we need to focus on developing empowerment through finessing a skill. Empowerment without skill is just hope, and hope in itself won’t get you anywhere when you’re under pressure. 

True power is born out of skill plus empowerment. If you can combine the understanding that you might have an outdated idea of yourself with the willingness to be constantly upskilling, you will have leverage when it comes to high stake circumstances and rise to the top effortlessly. That’s how genuine empowerment is fortified. 

LINKS:

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

Register for my FREE 2 day live event Play Bigger Feel Better 



Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

I am just back from a delicious three-week trip to the United Kingdom, to see my gorgeous friend get married and a side trip adventure to Scotland. It was wonderful. My husband and I ate cream tea, drank whiskey in bars, explored castles and did long beautiful drives (as well as picked up some cool new sayings along the way).

I am someone who, probably much like you, finds a lot of meaning, new perspectives, inspiration, energy, flow and mindfulness through travel and adventure. Travel makes you rich in memory and experience. And because we’re getting to the end of the year, when things get a little bit frantic, this is your reminder to book yourself a holiday.

There are two reasons for this. First up - you need to front-load, that is, put the things you know you need to take care of yourself into your calendar before you start committing to everything else. Make your business and career work around your life, not life work around your business. Second, is the s-word - space (not sleep, though I’m guessing you might need that too).

Even better, guess what?! Taking holidays actually makes you money. I take you through the five reasons it actually gives back more than what you invest in it.

And if that doesn’t convince you, I have 16 signs that you need a holiday. I have a feeling many of you will tick almost all of these.

Rest is one of the greatest acts of rebellion and I take this very very seriously. It is a non-negotiable aspect of life in business. By the end of this episode, you will understand why.

LINKS:

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv

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International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery 

NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training

The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching

Superabundant:   https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant

Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift

Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis

In this episode, I encourage you to think about creating authentically - from your own inner desires, wants, values, time, energy and body. I use creating a coaching practice as an example but this can be applicable to anything.

I spent a lot of time in the early days of my coaching practice, doing things a certain way because that was how I thought they should be done. But what I have found more than anything, is that when I can tailor an experience for a client that suits me, it’s a hell yes for me and it’s a hell yes for my client.

If I had been paying attention to the rules, many of the containers and connections that I have created in my practice would never have happened.

The more you can create outside of the rules, while still keeping the parts that are important, the more likely you are to create something that is outstanding, long-lasting, memorable and something that people will treasure and truly value.

So I invite you to consider - what are the rules and are these actual rules? Is that how it needs to be?

Shaking up your belief system like this and letting go of the rules is how you will craft the thing you most crave.

LINKS:

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv

The Business of You: https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you

International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery 

NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training

The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching

Superabundant:   https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant

Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift

Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis

I don’t know who needs to hear this today but the things that are going on in your life right now, that are distracting you from achieving what you’re working towards? They are not distractions - they are diamonds. And they may just have the medicine you need.

The purpose of this episode is to help you see that every single thing that comes up along the road is part of the curriculum. If you can learn to be with life, alongside with achieving big things, you will create those big things sustainably and your life will be better off.

I used to make the mistake of setting a goal and putting the whole rest of my life on hold. I would ignore red flags, cast aside uncomfortable feelings, push my relationship to the side, all for the sake of being able to achieve my goal. Often I would achieve the goal, but I would be clawing myself over the finish line because I had pushed myself too hard and ignored other parts of my life.

If you can learn to be with life, alongside with achieving big things, you will create those big things sustainably and your life will be better off.

The invitation is to slow down, in order to speed up. Honour the fact that your whole life is happening, and it is certainly not a distraction, it is the curriculum.

LINKS:

The Fierce Salon. Shift the way you perceive, believe, receive and achieve — for good.

Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv

The Business of You: https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you

International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery 

NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training

The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching

Superabundant:   https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant

Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift

Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis

Today we are getting super freaky talking sex and Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). That’s right folks, it’s not reserved for formal coaching situations - NLP transcends everything we do.

If you’ve never heard of NLP before I take you through exactly what it is, specifically the neuro component, the linguistic part and the programming bit. NLP is a way of understanding how we perceive the world, how we take in information, how we mess with it in our minds and how we put it back out in the world in the form of our experience, results, decisions, behaviours, thoughts and beliefs.

I’m really excited to deliver this episode because I believe that NLP can be such a powerful way to enhance your experience of intimacy and connection in your relationship. Also - sex doesn’t have to be on the table for you to get something from this episode. You can apply these principles to a relationship with yourself as well.

We discuss values, understanding complex equivalences, attraction and deep love strategies and exploring and deepening shared goals. We also explore anchoring and how to utilise this in the three stages of sex - initiation, escalation and climax.

Sex and NLP are intricately linked, just like NLP is linked to absolutely everything! Whether sex is on the table or not, no matter who you are and what you’re going through, it is safe and wonderful for you to feel pleasure.

LINKS:

Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.

Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/

Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv

The Business of You: https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you

International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery 

NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training

The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching

Superabundant:    https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant

Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift

Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis