October 06, 2025

"Surplus Men" Explained

1 hour 37 minutes

What happens when a society has more men than women who want to partner with them? In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign unpack the concept of “surplus men” — those left out of relationships, social life, and purpose. They explore how this imbalance impacts dating, marriage, politics, and even global stability. From radicalization to authoritarianism, the hosts reveal why surplus men pose one of the most overlooked social challenges of our time.

But first, in Tea Time, they cover Alex Jones and Nick Fuentes being banned from YouTube (again), a shocking mass catcalling event in Spain, Suffolk County’s “Top 10 Deadbeat Dads” list, and a listener comment on why women stay in relationships with men. Later, they break down a Reddit case study of a husband controlling his wife through finances.

🎧 This episode digs into the ripple effects of male loneliness, societal unrest, and why women’s independence is changing the dating landscape worldwide.

🎙️ Topics Discussed:

The global rise of “surplus men” and why it matters

Male loneliness, violence, and radicalization

How skewed sex ratios shape politics and stability

Why marriage has historically “pacified” men

Finding purpose outside relationships with women

Financial control and power dynamics in modern marriages

✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:

Alex Jones and Nick Fuentes Taken Off YouTube Again

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/us-politics/alex-jones-nick-fuentes-youtube-ban-covid-b2833859.html

Spanish Students Stage Mass Catcalling Event

https://www.stuff.co.nz/world/300709146/spanish-students-stage-mass-expletiveridden-catcalling-event

Top 10 Deadbeat Dads in Suffolk County

https://www.yahoo.com/news/10-worst-deadbeat-dads-suffolk-234139974.html

A Surplus Of Men, A Deficit Of Peace

https://kar.kent.ac.uk/11430/1/surplus_men_IS_article.pdf

Women Continue To Outpace Men In College Enrollment and Graduation

https://www.forbes.com/sites/michaeltnietzel/2024/08/07/women-continue-to-outpace-men-in-college-enrollment-and-graduation/

📚 This Week’s Recommendation:

Everything Is Tuberculosis by John Green

https://www.amazon.com/Everything-Tuberculosis-Persistence-Deadliest-Infection/dp/0525556575

Lisa’s blog on Surplus Men:

https://www.patreon.com/posts/reading-tea-blog-140381730

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🕰️ Episode Chapters

00:00 Welcome and Tea Time!

04:05 Alex Jones & Nick Fuentes Banned From YouTube Again

07:40 Mass Catcalling Event in Spain

14:55 Top 10 Deadbeat Dads

18:35 Can You Decenter Men While In A Relationship?

28:15 Surplus Men: Understanding the Crisis

39:02 The Reality of Surplus Men

49:48 Political Implications of Surplus Males

58:10 Why Are There Surplus Men?

01:06:15 Evolution and Identity Crisis in Men

01:11:12 How To Not Be A Surplus Man

01:18:17 This You? Husband Withholds Finances

01:35:24 Poll Results: Why Women Lose Themselves In Relationships

🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.

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