In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with psychotherapist, radio host and author, Kelli Miller. Kelli grew up as a bit of a control freak, believing working harder was the way to make things happen. This manifested as an eating disorder and a life plan: she wanted a boy and a girl 2.5 years apart. You probably know where this is headed… things didn’t quite go according to plan. An emergency c-section with her first son led to a series of events that challenged her illusion of control. After multiple surgeries to remove scar tissue, Kelli learned she was infertile and unable to carry another baby. Surrogacy became her beacon of hope, but that wasn’t without its own obstacles. Health scares with the surrogate where the baby’s viability was unknown for weeks sent Kelli into a tail spin, leaving her completely powerless. Fortunately things turned around and she had another baby boy, but the lessons in letting go weren’t over. Both of her sons have ADHD.

Today Kelli looks back and wouldn’t change any part of her story because she believes that’s what built her strength and emotional resiliency—knowing she could handle her darkest moments and come back from it. That perspective led to writing a book about ADHD and how it can be seen as a gift. Now she helps individuals, couples and groups with various issues including ADHD, autism and addiction. More about Kelli and her practice can be found at www.kellimillertherapy.com.