Surviving to Thriving

Stephanie has a long standing history with Business Acquisitions and developing Startups. Her work experience is strongly tied to Executive Level Management, Human Resources, Bookkeeping and Office Management. She firmly believes in hiring individuals that are moldable and will be with an organization long term. She is very passionate about philanthropy and hopes to use GFI as a platform to change her community.

On this episode:

• Stephanie shares about growing up with abusive parents and a father who struggled with addiction.
• Hear how Stephanie always felt unloveable or unwanted and how that influenced her relationships.
• Discover common red flags that can warn you about potentially toxic relationships.
• Stephanie explains how her husband isolated her from friends and family, concealing his abusive tendencies.
• Find out how the military turned a blind eye to Stephanie’s abuse.
• Heather and Stephanie discuss the viral video that led to a CPS investigation.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “If somebody cares about you, they will work through the problem with you.”
• “Step away from the situation to find clarity.”
• “Be your best friend first.”

Stephanie Narita

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• https://www.instagram.com/annielovestodance/

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

Haley Helveston is a Sexuality and Empowerment Coach for women to empower themselves. She empowers them through self love, mindset & sexuality. Her mission is for all women to have the sex life and life of their dreams. You are so worthy of a sex life & life that excites you!

On this episode:

• Find out the correlation between quantum physics and sex.
• The importance of changing the story in your head.
• Haley charts her journey to becoming a sex coach.
• Learn how sexual trauma can affect future intimate relationships.
• Heather and Haley discuss the shame often associated with conversations about sexuality.
• Discover how to rebuild your ability to discuss sex with others.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “The worst thing about sexual problems is that people don’t talk about it.” - Haley Helveston
• “Sex is so much more than technique, it’s everything working up to it.” - Haley Helveston

Haley Helveston:

• https://linktr.ee/haley.helveston

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

About Florida DeVaul-Dudley:

I am a victim of child sexual abuse and domestic violence (intimate partner violence). I personally now know the harsh reality of what it means to be a victim. I felt vulnerable that this thing had happened to me and I didn’t want it to show through to anyone. I didn’t want pity; I didn’t want them to think I was lesser. I tried once to ask for help and my voice was silenced at the age of seven and from that moment, I showed a strong exterior.

I started to experience PTSD, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, flashbacks, nightmares, and insomnia, and relied on unhealthy coping mechanisms. These experiences of the assaults impacted my ability to trust others, especially in the context of romantic and intimate relationships. I used to be a very trusting person, but that was taken away from me.

I survived both sexual assaults and domestic violence, through my resilience I harnessed my inner strength to help me bounce back from the trauma I endured. I am no longer a victim surviving, but I am thriving.

​It is my desire to help victims and survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence heal their minds, bodies, and spirits and reclaim their lives. In creating programs for victims and survivors, I know personally from experience that everyone heals differently. I choose a holistic approach that encompasses emotional, spiritual, physical and mental aspect of health and well being.

It is also my heartfelt desire to assist others to use their voice by refusing to be silent about the hidden trauma, suppressed memories and traumatic experiences they have endured. It all starts with a voice. Some have been silent so long; they do not believe or even know that they do indeed have a voice. The voice that was once silenced now speaks freely and openly from the deepest pain and hurt to healing, finding freedom and hope and peace.

Shining Light in Darkness is a beacon of hope for victims, survivors, and their loved ones. I persevered and overcame the evil that tried to engulf me. I hope I can inspire someone to take hold of their life, use their voice, and live their best life to the fullest not just by living but, by thriving. Through God’s grace and mercy, I can truthfully say there is happiness and joy on the other side of the trauma.  I am eternally grateful for a loving and supportive husband, children, parents, and those that have helped me through my journey.

On this episode, Florida discusses:

• Processing childhood sexual abuse
• The difficulty of reaching out to adults for help.
• How a traumatic car accident brought back the memories of child abuse.
• The origins of her non-profit.
• The struggle of keeping faith in the face of trauma.
• Healing and becoming whole.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “Believe the victim."

Florida DeVaul-Dudley:

• https://www.shininglightindarkness.org/our-founders
• https://www.facebook.com/shininglightindarkness/
• https://www.instagram.com/shiningndarkness/
• https://www.linkedin.com/company/27170102/admin/
• https://twitter.com/a_shininglight

Sponsor:

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Heather is joined by survivor Jesse Giunta Rafeh.

Jesse is on a mission is to provide people with an opportunity to be the best version of themselves.

On this episode, Jesse discusses:

• The pressure to be an overachiever.
• Dealing with loss.
• Being misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder. 
•  Finding a therapist that could genuinely help.
• Taking an interest in studying psychology.
• How to find a healthy relationship after trauma

Tweetable Quotes:

• “The mind isn’t actually designed to make us happy.”
• “Date yourself first.”
• “The last of human freedoms is ones ability to choose ones attitude in any set of circumstances.” - Viktor Frankl

Jesse Giunta Rafeh:

jesse-giunta-rafeh.com

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

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Heather is joined by survivor Tiffany Aab for part 2 of a powerful interview.

On this episode, Tiffany discusses:

• The difficulty of dealing with loss.
• Getting the opportunity to be involved with Tough Mudder.
• How to create an escape plan.
• How to establish healthy boundaries
• The struggles of dating after leaving a domestic violence situation.

Tiffany Aab:

https://www.instagram.com/its_a_tiff_thing/

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

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Heather is joined by survivor Tiffany Aab for part 1 of a powerful interview.

On this episode, Tiffany discusses:

• Growing up with a blended family in Moreno Valley.
• Her complicated relationship with her mother.
• Joining the military.
• Her time overseas as an air crewman.
• Moving to Abu Dhabi as a teacher.
• Meeting her husband and allowing him to move in within a few short weeks.
• The warning signs she wished she had noticed earlier.
• The struggle of reporting abuse in a culture where women are not valued.
• Bringing her husband to the U.S.
• The moment she decided to be done.

Tiffany Aab:

https://www.instagram.com/its_a_tiff_thing/

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

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Heather is joined Tori Gordon.

Tori started her career in Legal Services and Technology selling and training a global sales and consulting team on sales methodology, strategy, performance management and sales enablement. She spent six years climbing the corporate ladder before she realized that her passion and purpose is to empower others to find their path, healing their past, and create their future.

Tori is here to guide and facilitate her client's transformational development as they learn radical self-acceptance, embrace new standards for living, and uncover their own inner power.

On this Episode:

• Tori shares about her sister's shocking diagnosis and the trauma of losing her.
• Hear how Tori compartmentalized her life in an unhealthy way.
• Tori opens up about how other family was taken by sudden illness and how she dealt with.
• Learn the thought process that guides what decisions Tori makes and what career paths she takes.
• Find out how Tori quit her job and found empowerment through it.

Tweetable Quotes:

• “I am more than my body."
• "My time and my energy are my most valuable resources."
• "Money and blessings are all around, if I see them."
• "We all have the miracle of choice every single-time.

Resources:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tori-gordon-10996794/

https://www.torigordon.com/

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

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On this solo episode, Heather explains the characteristics of an abusive relationship and the warning signs you can look for to identify them.

Characteristics of an Abuse:

• An abuser is going to try to control anything and everything.
• An abuser will try to convince you that you never do anything right.
• An abuser will exhibit extreme jealousy.
• An abuser will alienate you from your family.
• There will be a cycle of apologies and repeat actions.
• An abuser will play the victim.
• An abuser controls the finances – often putting you on a closely monitored allowance.
• An abuser will typically constantly bother you about where you are or who you are with.
• An abuser will often physically restrain you during arguments.
• Sometimes, an abuser will force you to use drugs/alcohol.

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

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Heather is joined by domestic violence survivor, Sierra Green. Sierra is a certified nursing assistant, has her associates in liberal studies and graduated with honors in 2017. She is a military wife, a dog mom, and a human mom-to-be. Sierra is also a domestic violence advocate.

On this Episode:

• Sierra shares about growing up with an emotionally and physically abusive father.
• Hear the harrowing stories of the way her father manipulated situations and the struggle to keep him behind bars.
• Heather and Sierra discuss how talking about trauma can help with the healing process.
• Learn how the "5 second rule" has had a positive impact on Sierra's life.

Key Takeaways:

• “The moment you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will stop you. 5 4 3 2 1 Go!” — Mel Robbins
• “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style” ― Maya Angelou

Resources:

[email protected]

https://www.facebook.com/sierranicholegreen

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

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Riana Milne, MA is a Global Cert. Life, Dating & Relationship Coach, CCTP, LMHC, LCADC, CAP, SAC, Certified Mindfulness Coach, Educational Speaker, and #1 Bestselling Author.

Her mission is to help women, men and couples of all ages overcome and heal from past childhood, dating, and relationship trauma to move on to create a life and relationship they are passionate about.

On this Episode:

• Riana shares about her educational background and the opening of her first practice.
• Learn the personal trauma experiences that helped shape Riana.
• Hear the breakdown of a variety of different personality types and forms of trauma.

Key Takeaways:

• “We don't look at failure as failure, we look at it as a lesson." – Riana Milne
• "If you're not growing you're dying." – Tony Robbins

Resources:

https://rianamilne.com/

Sponsor:

Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.

For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/

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