Deana discusses hers and others experiences with covert (silent) bullying at work, and how it leaves  the victim feeling confused, demeaned, targeted, and like a total failure. 

 If this bullying continues, the end result is  cognitive dissonance and extreme confusion, depression and anxiety in the workplace. 

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Today, Lizzie, Deana, and special guest Tiffany dive into the topic of dating after divorce from the toxic narcissist, and whether they would choose a "Christian" to date this time around?  Also discussed was the church's role in teaching & exemplifying  healthy boundaries, instead of becoming a place where predators thrive and find their next victim.   

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In this powerful episode, Deana and Lizzie dive deep into the "marriage covenant" which can be a beautiful, sacred promise between two people and God.  But when is it NOT a covenant that God has ordained?  Join us as we discuss the complex realities of marriage, shedding light on the often-misunderstood concept of the marriage covenant—especially in the context of emotional and spiritual abuse. They explore how faith can both help and hinder healing, why some stay in toxic relationships, and how to recognize the true signs of love vs. control.

If you’ve ever felt trapped by religious or cultural expectations, or questioned whether staying in a painful marriage is the right thing, this episode offers compassionate insight, real talk, and hope for anyone navigating this difficult path.

Takeaways

• The marriage covenant is often misunderstood.
• Emotional abuse can occur even in seemingly good relationships.
• Staying in an abusive relationship can hinder personal growth.
• True love is demonstrated through consistent kindness and support.
• Many people feel trapped by the idea of the marriage covenant.
• Spiritual advice can sometimes perpetuate unhealthy situations.
• Recognizing the signs of abuse is crucial for healing.
• It's important to seek support from trusted individuals.
• Writing down experiences can provide clarity and perspective.
• Leaving an abusive relationship can lead to a more peaceful life.

Chapters

00:00
Introduction to a Heavy Topic

00:38
Understanding the Marriage Covenant

05:06
The Nature of True Covenant Relationships

11:04
Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships

16:49
The Role of Spirituality in Marriage

22:23
Recognizing Abuse and Seeking Help

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Lizzie and Deana discuss ways to support a friend or family member who is caught in the cycle of abuse.  Spiritual Bypassing is one method that is covered, as it is highly ineffective as a means of comfort, or direction.  

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Jarron shares his story of being molested at age 15 by a trusted church youth leader, and how the church responded to the incident.  

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Enjoy the fun but poignant episode of Happy Hour where we discuss moving past your past, your Ex, and finding the YOU that has been erased or hidden--

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Deana discusses her 26 year marriage to a sexually addicted man and the constant turmoil, shame, and confusion caused by his behavior.   Also, common myths about sexual addictions, and how to know if an addict is willing to change, or if  you're  just a pawn in their game??

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Abigail shares her moving and tragic story of the severe physical abuse she endured at the hands of her husband, finding the courage to leave, face him in court, and watch in horror as he solicits her daughter to testify against her!

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Did you know that a toxic relationship can actually affect your brain?  Stress, anxiety, and the constant uphill battles create a surge in adrenaline. Too much of this hormone (for too long) will overwhelm your brain, causing exhaustion, difficulty thinking, finding the right words,  or remembering ANYTHING.  What can you do to relieve it?

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Picture this;  You gave 40 of the best years of your life to this person, and the harder you tried, the meaner and more disrespectful he became.    He is indifferent, he is cold, and now....he is cheating on you.      This is Tammie's story........

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