Swinger University® The Swinger Podcast for Education, Lifestyle and Travel

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00:00 - Start
01:01 - Tip 1: Pace It Out
03:31 - Tip 2: Fears and Expectations
06:17 - Tip 3: Get Uncomfortable
09:05 - Tip 4: Grow and Change
12:40 - Tip 5: Trust
21:34 - Lets talk about cheating...
22:47 - Wrap Up!

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Feeling like the lifestyle doesn’t light you up anymore? You’re not alone—and this episode is for you.

In this powerful conversation, Ed and Phoebe from Swinger University sit down with Kel to talk about what it really means when your desires evolve and swinging starts to feel... different.

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🔥 Whether it’s the same parties, same people, or just a fading thrill, this episode explores how to:

- Recognize when your lifestyle interests shift
- Embrace change without guilt or shame
- Let go of self-judgment and outdated identities
- Rewrite your story and rediscover what truly lights you up

💬 Kel—Certified Adult Chair Coach, Relational Life Therapy Coach, and Enneagram Coach—shares transformative tools to help you reconnect with your authentic self and reignite passion in your relationships.

✨ If you’re feeling stuck, burned out, or like the tribe you once loved doesn’t feel like home anymore, this episode is your invitation to something new.

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Have you ever had a night that changed everything? 🤯 We did. One minute we were a normal couple, listening to a podcast... the next, we were plunging headfirst into a secret swinger party we found on Craigslist! 😳

Join us as we reveal the shocking, raw, and completely unexpected story of how we became swingers. We were nervous, excited, and totally out of our depth at this "Share Your Wife" party with total strangers. Things got WILD. 😱

Curious about the swinging lifestyle? Want to know what it's really like to attend your first swinger event? We're sharing our unfiltered experience, from the initial curiosity to the moment we walked through the door.

But be warned... there was a shocking and violating club entrance requirement we NEVER saw coming. 😨 You won't believe what happened!

Whether you're new to swinging, considering exploring open relationships, or just love a crazy story, you won't want to miss this!

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Are you curious about the swinger lifestyle but don't know where to start? This video is for you! We'll take you on a journey to unlock the secrets of this exciting and often misunderstood world, no experience required. From understanding what happens at parties to navigating the rules and etiquette, we'll cover it all. Whether you're a seasoned explorer or just curious about what goes on behind closed doors, this video will give you the confidence to take the first step into the swinger lifestyle. So, sit back, relax, and let's dive in!

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With the current political climate taking aim at diversity, equity, and inclusion... Is the swinger lifestyle in the crosshairs? Are decisions being made that will affect our community? In this episode of Swinger University, we sit down with Brett Chamberlain, Executive Director at OPEN—a nonprofit dedicated to advocating for polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and legal rights for non-monogamous individuals and families.

Brett shares how OPEN is working to end stigma, change laws, and support non-monogamous communities through workplace advocacy, municipal protections, and visibility efforts. Learn about the challenges facing swingers, polyamorous individuals, and other ethically non-monogamous (ENM) people—and how you can get involved to make a difference.

🔹 Key Topics Covered:
✔️ Legal rights and challenges for non-monogamous relationships
✔️ Workplace discrimination & advocacy efforts
✔️ The importance of visibility and cultural acceptance
✔️ How non-monogamous communities can support each other
✔️ Steps to get involved in legislative change

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Mixers Guide: https://www.open-love.org/mixers-guide
Peer Support:  https://www.open-love.org/peer-support
Survey 2024:  https://www.open-love.org/blog/open-2024-community-survey-report

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You're in the moment—the music is sexy, the lighting is perfect, and your partner is ready. But suddenly… nothing happens. Your mind races, and the pressure builds. Sound familiar? You’re not alone!

In this episode of Swinger University, Ed and Phoebe dive deep into performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction (ED) in the swinging lifestyle. We discuss the psychological and physiological causes of ED, the pressure to perform, and how new situations, alcohol, and sensory overload can contribute.

More importantly, we share real solutions—from mindset shifts and relaxation techniques to pharmaceutical options and lifestyle changes—to help you stay confident and present in the moment. Whether you're new to swinging or a seasoned pro, this episode is packed with practical tips to overcome ED and enhance your playtime experience.

🔹 Why does performance anxiety happen?
🔹 The impact of stress, alcohol, and new experiences
🔹 How to shift your mindset and stay present
🔹 Tips for handling ED gracefully in the moment
🔹 Viagra, Cialis, Trimix, and natural alternatives
🔹 Communication and consent: How to set the stage for success

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In this episode of Swinger University, we sit down with Alex Liu, the writer, director, and star of "A Sexplanation", a groundbreaking documentary that dives into sexual stigma, shame, and the lack of comprehensive sex education. Alex shares his journey from molecular biology to filmmaking, tackling taboos around sex, drugs, and identity. We explore how better conversations about consent, sexuality, and pleasure can reshape our understanding of intimacy. 

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In this eye-opening episode of Swinger University, Phoebe and Ed dive into the surprising connection between alcohol, swinging, and health risks. Explore how the social and uninhibited nature of alcohol impacts swingers, from parties to resorts and cruises, and why it’s everywhere in the lifestyle. Learn about alcohol's lesser-known classification as a carcinogen, its effects on health (like cancer risks and hormone disruptions), and how it can influence consent and decision-making in intimate situations.

 Discover tips for navigating swinger events sober, building confidence, and enhancing experiences without alcohol. Whether you're curious about cutting back or just exploring a healthier lifestyle within swinging, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and actionable advice to keep you informed and empowered.

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In this episode of Swinger University, we take a deep dive into our first full-swap experience and address insightful listener questions about the psychological and emotional dynamics that come with breaking traditional boundaries. From the thrill of connection to the surprising emotions that emerged, we explore how our feelings evolved and the lessons we learned along the way. Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or reflecting on your own journey, this candid discussion will inspire and entertain. Tune in for honest conversations, personal growth, and a touch of humor!

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Navigate New Relationship Energy (NRE) – Without Breaking Your Marriage! | Swinger University

Can New Relationship Energy (NRE) bring excitement and passion to your life, or is it a risky road for your marriage? In this episode, Ed and Phoebe explore the highs and lows of NRE, offering science-backed insights and practical advice to help you enjoy the thrill of new connections without compromising your relationship.

✨ What you'll learn:

• What NRE is and how it impacts your emotions and decisions.
• The hormonal chemistry behind NRE and its addictive allure.
• How to reintroduce novelty and passion into long-term relationships.
• Tips to navigate NRE safely while preserving trust and communication in your marriage.

Discover how swinging can amplify connection, spark curiosity, and keep your relationship thriving—without crossing the line.

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