Ben & Mary return to the sexpartment for the second part of their interview with the help of Elizabeth for the once again absent Nessa.  In this episode, we unpack the emotional complexities of desire, body image, and connection in the lifestyle. From the pressure of preparing for big trips and weight loss goals, to navigating libido shifts, nudity comfort, and playful surprises — we explore how new experiences can challenge our confidence and our relationships. We dive into the highs of New Relationship Energy and the lows of love bombing, question when it’s right to raise red flags, and reflect on the blurry lines between attraction and accountability. Through it all, one truth stands out: for many social swingers, it’s the lasting friendships that matter most — small feet, big shoes, and even bigger hearts.

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In this episode, Mary and Ben share their unconventional journey into the swinging lifestyle, which began with an online meeting before college, a bold move considered taboo at the time. Their story takes a pivotal turn through infidelity, leading to a transformative Vegas adventure that reshaped their relationship and introduced them to the lifestyle. Unlike many couples who enter swinging out of sexual curiosity, their path was sparked by a fragile state of low self-esteem and cheating, creating a competitive dynamic that pushed them to explore non-monogamy. Initially, they focused on adding a female partner rather than another male, navigating the complexities of bi desires as Mary explored experiences to turn on Ben. The couple reflects on the emotional contrast between fantasizing about a partner with someone else and facing the reality, especially given their history of infidelity.

As mostly social swingers, Mary and Ben took eight years to reach their first full swap, carefully choosing the right couple and learning the risks of two inexperienced couples playing together. They delve into the thrill of being desired, the differences in what turns each of them on, and the surprising lack of dramatic fallout in the lifestyle despite frequent encounters. Navigating emotional highs and lows, they emphasize the importance of communication and intentionality. The episode offers a candid, introspective look at how infidelity, self-discovery, and mutual arousal shaped their unique journey, highlighting the trust and connection needed to thrive in the swinging lifestyle.

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In this lively episode, the we dive into the spicy world of Reid, the Sex Geek, who’s bringing nine electrifying classes to Naughty N’awlins. From Rough Sex for Nice Folks to Group Sex and Blow Job Grad Schools, Reid’s lineup has everyone buzzing with excitement. The hosts are particularly hyped for Rough Sex and Threesome Grad School (Elizabeth already snagged tickets!), and they can’t stop raving about Squirt Grad School after Reid’s captivating pitch. Other classes like From Flirting to Fucking promise to push boundaries and spark curiosity.

The conversation takes a playful turn as the hosts discuss highlights like “hand fucking,” “dick helicopter with a strap-on,” and whether Elizabeth will bring her strap-on to the infamous foam party. They also touch on quirky moments, like Nick’s question about “rude words” and Reid’s “black belt” expertise in pleasure. The hosts joke about kidnapping Reid dressed as pirates to ensure he joins the foam party, and they debate skipping it for a cheeky game of Simon Says before the parade. Jealousy even creeps in—they wish they could attend every class to soak up Reid’s wisdom.

The episode wraps with plans for a dinner with Reid, leaving listeners wondering if Elizabeth will indeed bring her strap-on to the foam party. This episode is a tantalizing teaser for Naughty N’awlins, blending humor, curiosity, and a whole lot of naughty fun.

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In this lively episode, Amber and Jason continue to dive into their escapades as the enter the world of ethical non monogamy, blending humor, vulnerability, and candid reflections. Amber steals the show with her vibrant energy, leaping into the spotlight like a superstar at a Super Bowl bash. From jumping into a crowded bed to sparking conversations with funny shirts, she navigates the room with confidence, though she wonders if her center-of-attention tendencies are evolving. Meanwhile, Jason, feeling like a bit of a sidekick, shares his decision to try Trimix to boost his performance, hoping to transform his journey into an epic adventure. However, he opens up about the challenges of performance anxiety, especially with a younger partner, and the guilt of not always keeping up after suggesting play.

The duo recounts a wild night filled with tequila-fueled antics ("tequila makes your pants fall off!"), a memorable "dancing blow job," and a unique "blowjob line" organized with traffic lights and chairs. They explore the pros and cons of a room crawl, the dynamics of pacing themselves with another couple, and the emotional complexities of one partner getting more action than the other. Amber and Jason also reflect on the disconnect between online chemistry and in-person synergy, the importance of giving space to process moments outside of play, and the protocol when one partner can’t participate. Highlights include a "Holly hug," V and a blow job finish, and the revelation that Nancy is a verb! The episode wraps up with a candid discussion about navigating distractions en route to the after-party and whether they’re okay with Jason’s newfound ability to "play more" after his Trimix shot. 

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Get ready for a tantalizing episode as we’re back with some steamy stories and candid insights! Jason and Amber come to the sexpartment to share the thrill of driving past places tied to past rendezvous and sparking “what if” thoughts about the butterfly effect of life-changing years. Whether it’s picking up someone at a bar, choosing the right app for your area, or ripping the band-aid off with a dance floor make-out, we emphasize there’s no one “right way” to navigate this lifestyle—think gas and brake to balance desire and caution. We’ll dish on confidence boosts after kids, playing with different body types and heights, and another trimix guy’s tale. The guilt of not feeling guilty when getting more playing time as well.

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After Amber’s jaw-dropping confession about her fling with Ben, G and Nessa bare all about their own past affairs! G reveals how innocent flirting spiraled into a less than steamy hotel room encounter with his best friend’s wife. Nessa dishes on her secret year-long romance with a co-worker. One got caught red-handed—guess who?—while the other’s partner remains in the dark.

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Drew and Amber return to dig deeper into their episodes "Enough" and "Soup" where Amber is caught cheating with her sexy gym partner "Ben".  When Drew wakes up early, he calls Amber to say good morning.  When Amber doesn't answer, her location shows that she is not where she was expected to be and Amber's cover story quickly unravels as Drew finds a year of sexual messages on Amber's computer.  Is a strong lifestyle relationship able to survive this breach of trust?

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Our first guests of season 5 are Drew & Amber from the Love with a Twist podcast.  The stop in to tell us all about how they got started in the lifestyle.  Drew has a lot of old flings that are eager to get a piece of him and Amber.  A threesome hook up in Vegas, then a random outreach beings them into the lifestyle.  The even share a few of their favorite moments as well!

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Season 5 begins and we start this season a little different.  After 4 years of shining a bright light on the lifestyle, we open up about some of the speed bumps we have faced over during our journey.  How much time should you spend in being active?  What should you push your partner to wear?  When should you share an issue with your partner?  And what happens when friends aren't acting like friends anymore?

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Season 4 comes to a close.  We talk about our accomplishments and a few failures we experienced this past year in the lifestyle.  Then we move out to story time.  First, we share our thoughts and some sexy sounds from our first 4some with Nick & Elizabeth.  Then we share the details of a 12 person orgy.  After having trouble recalling details for this experience, we start recording post play car talks and use that to recall a 6 person orgy during the BDSM event at the club. 

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