This week we dive into a role-played lifestyle coaching session with Lauren Hayes, exploring the rollercoaster of emotions that come with navigating lifestyle choices. From emotional sovereignty to the challenges of lifestyle compromises, Lauren guides us through the complexities of managing feelings like joy, sadness, and jealousy. We discuss the power of “parts work,” drawing parallels to the movie Inside Out, to understand how our inner characters shape our experiences. Lauren’s insights on using “I felt when” statements instead of “you made me feel” offer a fresh perspective on emotional communication, while her recommendation to revisit rules and boundaries before dating separately provides practical tools for smoother transitions. Though this session was a blend of real issues we’ve heard from others, the role-play format kept things light, don’t worry, we’re not actual role-players! 😄 The episode wraps up with a nod to transformative retreats, leaving us eager for more sessions on navigating these emotional transitions.

We also unpack the courage and consideration it takes to confront unhealthy patterns in our lifestyles, spotlighting how the lifestyle has taught us to unlearn deeply ingrained beliefs from religious upbringings and societal programming. Lauren highlights the importance of check-in styles, whether it’s lying in bed together, holding hands, or even taking a break mid-conversation, and how these practices can make or break emotional connections. While the session ended smoother than reality often does, we touch on the raw challenge of defining a bad experience as just that: bad. We even ponder what a Catholic Inside Out character might look like and whether parts work could help us retell our stories with fresh clarity. This episode is packed with thought-provoking moments, practical advice, and a reminder that lifestyle dilemmas require ongoing reflection and boundary-setting to keep the journey fulfilling.

You can find Lauren Hayes at www.swinginglifestlyecoach.com

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In this week's episode, Lauren Hayes, an author, podcast host, and swinging lifestyle coach, joins host G to share her vibrant journey in the swinging and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) world. From her start as a coach to her book For Better or Even Better (cue the drinking game every time G says “book”!), Lauren dishes on spicy moments like a poly friend’s flirtation, navigating “vibes,” and flaky Vegas connections. They also dive into newbie dynamics, the evolution of bedroom talk, and the bold ENM questions she fields on her website.

The conversation gets deep as Lauren discusses swingers falling in love, the poly community’s reactions, and whether love can be controlled. From unexpected bar run-ins to announcing when you’re not playing, Lauren’s stories highlight the humor, heart, and challenges of the lifestyle. The episode wraps with a teaser for next week’s coaching focus, leaving listeners hooked on her candid insights and wild tales.

You can find Lauren Hayes at www.swinginglifestlyecoach.com

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Jayson from That Other Lifestyle Podcast is back, and this episode is a wild ride through the highs and lows of the lifestyle! We dive into the world of newbie hunters, cherry-popping couples, and the frustrations of ghosting, while Jayson dishes on why bold moves like “whipping it out” can tank the vibe. From navigating adult friendships to the art of “reverse dating” and keeping expectations low, we cover the juicy details of what makes the lifestyle tick, with plenty of laughs and real talk along the way.

The conversation gets personal as we explore the challenges of being a single guy in the scene, the importance of testing, and whether post-play meals ease the awkwardness or make it worse. Jayson shares his philosophy on building meaningful connections, why lifestyle friends might feel “lesser,” and how to approach telling family about your choices. Tune in for an unfiltered, fun, and insightful episode that’s perfect for anyone curious about the lifestyle—whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned pro!

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In this episode of Hump Day Quickies, we sit down with Jayson from That Other Lifestyle to explore the wild, wonderful, and sometimes challenging world of swinging. We kick things off with a nod to bananas foster… yes, that decadent dessert somehow sets the stage for a night of adventure??? Jayson shares his journey, starting with why he and his wife opted for a no-swap approach initially and how she eventually took the lead in their explorations. Their first separate room experience was a thrilling milestone, leaving them both feeling good but sparking new questions about navigating the lifestyle.

We dive into the nitty-gritty, from Jayson’s first squirt experience (and the surprise of no warning, should that be a thing?) to the realities of second rounds and the pressure to perform. Jayson gets shares the “bus rule” (a must-hear concept where both partners’ performance is key) and the stop rule, emphasizing the importance of being direct with your boundaries. We also tackle the “must get hard” pressure and the internalization of performance challenges.

The episode touches on the newbie experience and ask “when does a newbie stop being a newbie?” and the sweet realization that thinking of your partner can ground you amidst the chaos. Jayson reflects on the “hoe phase” (or phases!) and the importance of prioritizing your partner, even when the pressure is on. We also discuss whether separate rooms might complicate things for newcomers and how to know when your rules truly matter.

While we don’t deliver direct advice, there’s so much to learn from these stories. We even discuss if sex is really just 10% of the lifestyle! Jayson wraps up by plugging his podcast, That Other Lifestyle. Tune in for laughs, insights, and a few “oh, wow” moments that’ll spice up your midweek!

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We’re back from Naughty N’awlins 2025, spilling the tea on our spicy adventure! We tackled our naughty lists—think elevator blow jobs, strap-on assists, and skipping in the parade. Did G confused Disney guests with kisses and play with new partners. Did Nessa have any bartender makeouts and daytime quickies, but the fun was nonstop?

We dive into swinger support groups for navigating the lifestyle’s highs and lows. Reid Mihalko and Rina Star’s workshops were a game-changer—communication tips and steamy demos we’ll use again. Every Naughty trip is unique; you shape it with your vibe. The real magic? The people—open, kind, and unforgettable. Naughty’s a family, and we can’t wait for 2026!

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In this jam-packed episode diving into Naughty N’awlins day 4, we recap our partner swap sleepover with Nick and Elizabeth that finished off with sweet beignets. We head to the Boot Scooting Rodeo for a bit before a wardrobe change for the infamous day 4 foam party and the Swamp. The rain had us in a bit of a delay, but New Orleans kept us entertained!

When we finally arrived at the foam party, we had a ton of fun including an unforgettable make-out session with another fan. We dive into the chaos of the legendary blow job line. Chris and Blake make a sexy appearance, and we spotlight the ever-awesome staff at The Swamp.

After a fun group dinner, the Mardi Gras party cranked things up before a steamy playroom experience with a Michigan couple turned up the heat even more.

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In this recap of Day 3 at Naughty N’awlins, we  dive into a whirlwind of spicy, emotional, and unforgettable moments. The episode kicks off with a breakdown of Reid’s 3somes, 4somes and moresomes class, where we share a front-row seat to his expert tips on navigating the dynamics of threesomes with confidence and communication.

Things take an emotional turn as Nessa opens up about her unexpected emotional crash, sharing raw insights into the vulnerability that can surface in the lifestyle’s high-energy environment.

The mood lightens with Reid’s Naughty Simon Says, a playful and risqué game that had attendees laughing and pushing boundaries in the best way. The emotional Sexual Freedom Parade steals the spotlight next, with the hosts reflecting on the powerful celebration of self-expression and connection that left everyone buzzing with energy.

Nessa’s recovery from her emotional dip is a focal point, with the hosts exploring how she bounced back.

The episode also covers a relaxed dinner filled with connection and banter, followed by time spent hanging out in the ballroom, where the group soaked in the electric atmosphere. A laid-back pool area chat offered deeper conversations and unexpected bonds, while the night’s indulgence in fried chicken brought a quirky, comfort-food vibe to the evening.

The episode wraps up with the teasing of a partner swap before bed, leaving listeners with a tantalizing glimpse into the group’s chemistry and the perfect cap to an eventful day. Packed with highs, lows, and plenty of naughty fun, this recap captures the essence of Day 3 at Naughty N’awlins.

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In this spicy episode of Hump Day Quickies : Swinger Confessions, we dive into a whirlwind of steamy encounters and vibrant events from day two of Naughty N'awlins 2025. The episode kicks off with tales of Reid’s Rough Sex For Nice Folks class, setting the tone for a wild ride. We discusses our participation in the men's and women's panels, offering insights into the swinger lifestyle.  

Then off to the bar takeover at Bourbon Heat, where the energy was electric.  G gets an opportunity to talk with Jason, from the “That Other Lifestyle” podcast.  The episode takes a responsible turn as Jason introduces G to the owners of STD Hero, who share their eagerness to help our community. Things heat up with vivid recounts of makeout sessions, including a steamy moment with a Canadian wife and a playful birthday wish fulfilled with a fan (and a little something extra for his wife). The chemistry continues as we describe making out with another wife, dancing, and flirty touching with Blake, and a bold flashing moments on a bourbon Street balcony while tossing beads to the crowd below.

The adventure slows briefly for a well-deserved nap before picking back up with dinner and engaging conversations. The group then hops on a bus to Nopsi, where they witness a captivating demo, including a standout demo with Crimson (from the Swinky Life) featuring G and Nick. The night escalates with Elizabeth taking center stage in a sultry scene, delivering a BJ and riding G while Nessa joins in, creating an unforgettable moment.

Back at the Astor, the G shares a tantalizing makeout session with a mystery woman, keeping her identity under wraps. The episode wraps up with new connections made, including meeting Kat and Leo from the "Vanilla Swinger" podcast.  G finishes his incredible night by finally getting to spend a lot of quality time with Pinky from "Three Shades of Grey".

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Naughty N'awlins 2025 kicks off with a bang! A hiccup at the Speed Dating event doesn't derail our fun as we dive into the vibrant energy of this swinger lifestyle convention. We sit down with the owners of Oasis Aqualounge for an exclusive and accidental chat. Two devoted listeners get our help crossing off some spicy and hilarious items from their Naughty Lists. The vibes soar at the Drinkery Bar Takeover, where we mingle with more fans, share steamy kisses, and even check off a Naughty List moment of our own. A captivating dinner with Nick, Elizabeth, Reid, and Rina Star sparks mind-blowing conversations that leave us inspired. The night heats up as we explore the ballroom party and a sultry new speakeasy before slipping into the playrooms. There, Nessa reconnects with her original Plus One Room playmate for a sizzling kiss, and we cap the night with an unforgettable, climactic experience alongside Nick and Elizabeth in the Crystal Room.

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