T-Time with Tori Totlis

By Tori TotlisSports Golf

T-Time with Tori Totlis episodes

October 01EP198: From the Think Box to the Play Box: Build a Better Golf Game with Lynn Marriott and Pia Nilsson
Lynn Marriott and Pia Nilsson return to T-Time as we revisit how to play better golf without changing your swing. Drawing from Play Your Best Golf Now, they share practical ways to build confidence, manage nerves, and enjoy the game more.
In This Episode:
Simplifying your Think Box and Play Box
Managing balance, tempo, and tension
Resetting when nerves or frustration take over
Building confidence through your post-shot reactions
Recovering from tough rounds and replacing negative self-talk
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About Lynn Marriott and Pia Nilsson:
Lynn and Pia are internationally recognized golf coaches, co-founders of VISION54, and authors of Play Your Best Golf Now and Be a Player. Their coaching helps golfers develop the human skills needed to perform better on the course.
Learn more about VISION54
Explore their Books and Action Guides
Don’t forget to grab your FREE Workbook: Short Game 100!
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Instagram: @lynnpia54
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1 hr 14 min
September 02EP197: College Golf is Changing Fast. Here's What Players Need to Know with Missy Farr-Kaye
Missy Farr-Kaye returns to T-Time to give us an inside look at women’s college golf and how much the landscape has changed since her first appearance in 2024. From the growing influence of the transfer portal and NIL to new eligibility rules and roster decisions, Missy explains what coaches, players, and parents are navigating behind the scenes.
The conversation also goes beyond recruiting. Missy shares how ASU uses statistics and course strategy to develop smarter players, why the U.S. National Development Program is so important, and what it really takes to transition from college golf to the professional level. They also discuss resilience, team culture, personal branding, and why being coachable can make such a difference at every level of the game.
In This Episode:
How the transfer portal is changing women’s college golf
The impact of NIL and the lack of transparency around offers
What recruits should really consider when choosing a college
Why relationships, team culture, and player development matter
How ASU uses statistics to improve course strategy and scoring
Avoiding unforced errors and knowing when to play aggressively
How the U.S. National Development Program supports young golfers
New pathways from collegiate golf to the professional tours
The mindset and resilience needed to succeed as a professional
Why personal branding and social media matter for today’s players
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About Missy Farr-Kaye:
Missy Farr-Kaye is the head coach of Arizona State Women’s Golf and one of the most accomplished figures in collegiate golf. She has helped ASU win NCAA National Championships as a player, assistant coach, and head coach. Throughout her career, Missy has developed elite collegiate and professional players while building a team culture centered on hard work, smart course management, resilience, and having fun along the way.
Listen to Missy’s first appearance on T-Time in Episode 114
Learn more about ASU Women’s Golf
Don’t forget to grab your FREE Workbook: Short Game 100!
Follow Missy:
Instagram: @devilmissy
Follow ASU Women’s Golf
Instagram: @sundevilwgolf
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1 hr 16 min
August 26EP196: T-Time Tournament Series, Best Ball at Sodus Heights Golf Club with Phyllis
We’re back for another Tournament T-Time as Tori and Phyllis take on Sodus Bay Heights Golf Club for an RDGA two-person best ball event. Before the round, Tori gets candid about watching her handicap climb from a +1 to a 7.0 and how her relationship with golf has changed. Instead of constantly chasing improvement and lower scores, she’s learning to put less pressure on herself, enjoy competing, and remember that a handicap doesn’t define who you are as a golfer.
Then it’s time to tee it up! Tori and Phyllis navigate fast greens, beautiful views, and plenty of ham-and-egging as they put together another strong team performance. They break down what worked, what needs improvement, and why playing to your own strengths matters. The duo finishes 3-under gross and 6-under net, taking the win in both divisions and capping off an incredible Rochester tournament run.
In this episode:
Another RDGA two-person best ball tournament
Tori’s changing relationship with her handicap and competitive golf
Learning to enjoy golf without always chasing improvement
Why a rising handicap can mess with your confidence
Phyllis’s approach to her short game and why her sand wedge has become her go-to club
The importance of knowing your own game and playing to your strengths
Their final gross and net results at Sodus Bay
Wrapping up an incredible Rochester tournament run
Tori and Phyllis put together another strong round, but was it enough to finish their Rochester tournament run with another win? You’ll have to listen to find out where they landed on the leaderboard and whether they could make it four for four!
Make sure you download your copy of Short Game 100!
Short Game 100 – Free Digital Practice Guide
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31 min
August 19EP195: (Part Two) A Survival Guide to Nerves, Frustration, and Negativity on the Golf Course with Dr. Joe Parent
We are back with Dr. Joe Parent, bestselling author of Zen Golf, for Part 2 of our conversation about the mental challenges every golfer faces on the course. If you missed Part 1, go back and listen as we cover first tee nerves, pressure putts, intimidating opponents, your inner critic, and what happens when you spend way too much time in your own head.
In Part 2, we’re tackling five more scenarios that can quickly derail a round. From recovering after a blow-up hole and keeping frustration from carrying over, to protecting a great round when you know you’re close to a personal best, Dr. Parent shares practical ways to stay present and keep playing your game.
In this episode:
How to recover mentally after a blow-up hole
Why every hole should be treated as a fresh start
Stopping frustration from boiling over mid-round
Why too many swing thoughts can make things worse
How to stop “protecting” a good round and keep playing your game
Avoiding the urge to make up for a bad hole
Conserving mental energy throughout 18 holes
What to do when you start running out of gas on the back nine
The importance of hydration, nutrition, and preparing for golf as an endurance event
Separating your golf score from your self-worth
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Resources Mentioned
Zen Golf by Dr. Joe Parent
Zen Putting by Dr. Joe Parent
The Best Diet Book Ever by Dr. Joe Parent
Dr. Joe Parent’s books and mental game resources
-Find each of Dr. Parent's books here
-Be sure to get your Free Short Game 100 digital practice guide
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31 min
August 12EP194: (Part One) A Survival Guide to Nerves, Frustration, and Negativity on the Golf Course with Dr. Joe Parent
Every round of golf is filled with moments that can either build your confidence or completely derail it. In Part 1 of this conversation with renowned sports psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Joe Parent, we dive into some of the most common mental challenges golfers face and, more importantly, how to handle them with more confidence, clarity, and enjoyment.
From first tee jitters to intimidating playing partners, Dr. Parent shares simple, practical strategies that can help you quiet the mental noise and get out of your own way. Whether you're competing in tournaments or just trying to enjoy your weekend round a little more, this episode is packed with advice you'll use every time you step onto the course.
In this episode:
Why expectations often get in the way of enjoying your best golf
How to handle first tee nerves and turn adrenaline into confidence
A simple trick for making pressure putts feel easier
How to stop being intimidated by longer hitters and stronger competitors
Quieting your inner critic and replacing negative self-talk
The difference between playing well and simply shooting a good score
Staying mentally engaged during long, slow rounds
Why playing against the golf course—not your opponents—can free up your game
This episode is full of practical mental game strategies that can help golfers of every skill level enjoy the game more, recover faster from mistakes, and play with greater confidence.
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Resources Mentioned
Zen Golf by Dr. Joe Parent
Zen Putting by Dr. Joe Parent
Zen Tennis by Dr. Joe Parent
The Best Diet Book Ever by Dr. Joe Parent
A Walk in the Wood: Meditations on Mindfulness with a Bear Named Pooh by Dr. Joe Parent and Nancy Parent
Find each of Dr. Parent's books here
Free Short Game 100 digital practice guide
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Facebook: @TeamTotlis
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49 min
August 05EP193: From Tiger to Lexi: Golf's Wildest Rules Moments with Christie & Bob Austin
Some golf conversations are worth revisiting, and this is definitely one of them. We're bringing back one of our favorite episodes with legendary rules officials Bob and Christy Smith to breakdown some of the most talked about rules situations in professional golf.
From Tiger Woods and Lexi Thompson to Dustin Johnson, Patrick Reed, and more, Bob andChristy explain what actually happened, why the rulings were made, and how many of those moments helped shape the Rules of Golf we play today.
Whether you're a competitive golfer or just want to avoid costly mistakes during your next round, this episode is full of practical takeaways and fascinating behind the scenes stories.
In this episode:
The real story behind Tiger Woods' 2013 Masters drop and how it changed the Rules ofGolf
What happened with Lexi Thompson and why the "Lexi Rule" exists today
Dustin Johnson's infamous Whistling Straits bunker penalty
Patrick Reed's embedded ball and palm tree controversies
Why viewer call ins are no longer part of rules decisions
Recent rules changes every golfer should know
How to handle rules situations with integrity during competition
What it takes to become a certified Rules Official
If you've ever questioned a ruling, wondered why the rules changed, or wanted a better understanding of how they're applied, this episode is a great place to start.
Resources Mentioned:
USGA Rules of Golf quizzes and educational resources
USGA Rules of Golf app
Local and state golf associations for Rules Official opportunities
Don’t forget to grab your FREE Workbook: Short Game 100!
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59 min
July 29 EP192: Inside the Wimbledon Experience with Girls Gone Golfing
We're recording this episode from the road in England as our group heads to Berkshire for the first round of golf after an unforgettable day at Wimbledon.
From the atmosphere and traditions to celebrity sightings and Princess Kate, we're sharing everything that surprised us about experiencing one of the world's most iconic sporting events in person. Along the way, members of our travel group jump on the mic to talk about what stood out most, how Wimbledon compares to events like The Masters and the Kentucky Derby, and why it's an experience we'll never forget.
We also dive into the little details that don't always make the travel guides, including where to sit, what to wear, dealing with the summer heat, and a few things we'd do differently next time.
If Wimbledon is on your bucket list, this episode is full of honest first impressions and practical tips from people experiencing it for the very first time.
In this episode we cover:
• Our first impressions walking into Wimbledon
• What makes the atmosphere so different from American sporting events
• Celebrity sightings, the Royal Box, and seeing Princess Kate in person
• Comparing Wimbledon to The Masters and the Kentucky Derby
• What surprised us most about the crowds, hospitality, and traditions
• Tips for choosing seats and avoiding the afternoon sun
• Why Berkshire is next on our England golf itinerary
• A few funny stories from the trip, including Phyllis' dream of moving to Scotland
Registration for Desert Classic opens on August 4th!! Join the interest list and register here!!
Don’t forget to grab your FREE Workbook: Short Game 100!
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31 min
July 22 EP191: Tournament T-Time Series: Member Member with my Mom at Oak Hill CC
In this episode of T-Time, I’m taking you straight onto the fairways of the legendary Oak Hill Country Club for a super special Net Best Ball tournament with my mom.
We’re proving that confidence, fun, and competition belong to every woman golfer. We’re breaking down exactly how we tackled Oak Hill’s notorious East Course, overcoming pre-tournament jitters, score predictions, and the real-time strategy that helped us navigate this tricky course.
From navigating the first nine holes to final reflections, I share the highs, lows, and key lessons for tournament rookies and veterans alike.
Plus, don’t forget to grab your FREE Workbook: Short Game 100!
Desert Classic Registration Opens August 4th! Join the Interest List!
About Holly Creek
Holly Creek is a legendary figure in the Rochester, New York real estate market, boasting nearly 40 years of experience as a top-producing agent.
As the CEO and founder of Holly Creek Homes, she has held the title of the #1 Agent in Rochester and Western New York for over 26 consecutive years. Her career is marked by unparalleled success, including being named "Agent of the Year" repeatedly from 1991 through 2024.
Beyond her business acumen, Holly has gained recognition in the women’s golf community. Holly is a natural right-hander who plays left-handed, a unique trait she shares with her daughter, Alix.
Follow Holly
Facebook: Holly Creek Homes.
YouTube: @HollyCreekHomes.
www.hollycreekhomes.com.
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21 min
July 16EP190: Golf Etiquette 101 with Alex Anderson (Part 2)
In Part 2, Tori and Alex dive into the world of tournament golf and all the things no one really teaches you when you first start competing. From scorecards and Golf Genius to rules mishaps and handling nerves, this episode is packed with lessons learned through experience.
The conversation covers how tournament golf differs from casual rounds, why playing in uncomfortable situations can actually make you a better golfer, and the importance of knowing the rules while still remembering that golf is supposed to be fun.
In This Episode:
The biggest differences between casual golf and tournament golf
How to handle first-tee nerves and competitive pressure
Tournament scoring, Golf Genius, and avoiding scorecard mistakes
Stories about rule infractions, provisional balls, and learning the hard way
Pace of play and staying patient during long tournament rounds
Proper etiquette when calling rules on fellow competitors
Why sportsmanship matters, whether you're winning or struggling
Learning to separate your golf score from your self-worth
Creating a positive experience for yourself and your playing partners
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About Alex Anderson
Alex Anderson is the founder of Babes Golf, a women's golf community dedicated to creating welcoming spaces for women to learn, play, and connect through the game of golf.
Check out Babes Golf and their upcoming events
Don’t forget to grab your FREE Workbook: Short Game 100!
Follow Alex
Instagram: @alex_babesgolf
Instagram: @babesgolf
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55 min
July 14EP189: Golf Etiquette 101 with Alex Anderson (Part 1)
This week, Tori welcomes back Alex Anderson, founder of Babes Golf, to discuss all things golf etiquette. Before diving into the topic, Alex shares exciting updates on Babes Golf's expansion across the country, including recent pop-up events in Cape Cod and New York City, upcoming plans for Chicago, and details from their latest Babes Vacation at PGA West.
The conversation then shifts into the unwritten rules of golf and how understanding proper etiquette can make the game more enjoyable for everyone. Tori and Alex cover everything from pace of play and ready golf to respecting other players, caring for the golf course, and navigating common situations that can feel intimidating for newer golfers.
This episode serves as a great resource to share with any woman who is just getting into golf. It is a reminder that everyone starts somewhere, and learning the small details of the game can help build confidence and create a better experience on the course.
In This Episode:
Babes Golf's nationwide growth and community-building efforts
Highlights from the recent La Quinta golf getaway
Pace of play tips and beginner-friendly advice
Common golf etiquette mistakes and how to avoid them
How to be considerate of your playing partners and the golf course
Private club etiquette, tipping, and understanding local golf culture
Tune in next week for Part 2, where Tori and Alex will dive into tournament etiquette and share even more stories and lessons from their golf journeys.
Watch this episode on YouTube
About Alex Anderson
Alex Anderson is the founder of Babes Golf, a women's golf community dedicated to creating welcoming spaces for women to learn, play, and connect through the game of golf.
Check out Babes Golf and their upcoming events
Don’t forget to grab your FREE Workbook: Short Game 100!
Follow Alex
Instagram: @alex_babesgolf
Instagram: @babesgolf
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www.toritotlis.com.
Instagram: @tori_totlis.
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Facebook: @TeamTotlis

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59 min