Talking Confidence with Holly Caplan

Have you ever felt that at every turn in your life, professionally or personally that you are constantly facing little fires? The fire of ending a relationship, the fire of an unplanned financial disaster, and the fire of well, being fired. The question here is, how do you get through them? Especially when you are hit with them repeatedly. Do you give up? Or do you stand the hell up and walk through the fire?

My guest, Liz Horowitz has lived through these little fires. She has done it bravely and confidently and is here to tell her story. It is inspirational and grounding.

This topic is near and dear to my heart, because I experienced it over and over in the workplace and it played a big role in what drove me to write my book, in 2017, titled, Surviving the Dick Clique.

Narcissism is a self-centered personality style characterized as having an excessive interest in one's physical appearance and an excessive preoccupation with one's own needs, often at the expense of others. In this episode we will be hearing psychotherapist, Dr. Leslie Austin, otherwise known by her clients affectionately as the "Lion Tamer". Hear her break down the best ways to recognize a narcissist and better yet, how to deal with them.

Have you ever wanted to ask for a raise? But perhaps you didn’t because you were not sure how to bring up the conversation with your boss or show why you are deserving. Because of this, plenty of us, mostly women, never make the ask. when all along, we just needed the courage and a roadmap to start the conversation

In this episode, Laura Browne, will be providing us with just that. She is going to tell us how to make the “ask” and do it so that you win.

I have faced gender discrimination in the workplace. My experience occurred 10 years ago in a series of small events, they were microaggressions that added up to me feeling minimized, undervalued, and silenced. All knew was that I felt frustrated, but I didn’t know how to fix it or get help to understand it.

I know from experience that I am not alone in what I’m speaking of. I have several friends, clients and colleagues who have experienced the same. So many individuals have experienced discrimination and/or harassment in the workplace, yet they don’t know what to do, or what steps to take to get help.

This is why in this episode, I’m going to be speaking with my friend and trusted advisor, Employment Attorney, Karen Fitzgerald. Karen is going to share with us her insight and tips for those who are experiencing discrimination and harassment in the workplac. Consider today a roadmap for you if you need help and guidance.

In your early twenties, you may have a vision and plan as to how want your life to play out. You know what you will be getting your degree in, what career you want, and where you want to live. You confidently and excitedly envision engaging in your life events as planned. Sounds great right? But, then tragedy hits. A tragedy so unfathomable and unexpected that your plans come to a halt. And after living in the moments of shock from the tragedy, you are tasked with how begin to heal, re-group and re-think your set plans. Do you give yourself time and be gentle with yourself, or do you try to rush back into what felt normal before? How do you find the confidence to pick yourself up so you can just keep moving? There is no formula for this. Recovery from tragedy is personal. Jordan Wilkerson is very familiar with this scenario. She faced a tragedy that changed her trajectory. Yet, over the years, through support, and being open to what life brings her, she has been able to persevere, find her confidence and has landed exactly where she was meant to be.

Sometimes we can feel very alone in our feelings, in our confidence and in our own space. We get stuck in our human minds and think that everything is happening to just us. We go inside of ourselves, as we star in our own movies, taking for granted that there are others in different time zones, countries, and cultures that could be having a similar experience. No matter how far away they are, there is something that brings us together. That is the journey of confidence. Today’s episode is going to break you out of your own movie. It’s going to make you aware of how confidence is impacted on the other side of world, taking into consideration culture, environment and expectations.

Today you will be hearing from my dear friend & client, Tolu Akindunni. Her story is interesting, inspiring and will give you clarity and calm.

Having confidence in the workplace can sometimes feel like a roller coaster. Meaning, you may have days when you wake up and feel like you could conquer the world. You feel like you can take on anything and are confident in your knowledge and skills and that you just really know your shit. Your confidence is at a 10. This could go on for a few weeks or months. Then something may happen like, losing a deal, not getting a promotion, or having a not so positive interaction with a peer or boss. These can all cause a set-back, and your confidence lowers. That excitement you felt waking in the morning weeks before can be reduced to feeling anxiety and second guessing yourself. If you have been here, you are not alone. Our confidence goes through peaks and valleys. It’s human. The key is recognizing it and embracing how to get through it and learn to believe in ourselves despite it all. Hear this episode with Amber Gray. Amber talks about her personal journey through confidence and how she got through her own peaks and valleys.

One of the biggest challenges that I find my clients face is the discomfort they feel once they realize how they have to market their new business in 2022. We are in a world of self -promoting videos, posts, photos, likes and comments. It can be hard enough to find the guts to open your own business, but then the thought of having to do a video about it and then posting it on social for the whole world to see, can feel overwhelming. Most people, adults, find discomfort in thinking about all of the new ways they will have to market themselves. However, getting uncomfortable is key for growth. We have to learn to embrace it, go with it, and feel that awkwardness. In this episode, hear my friend, Rani Alfers tell her personal story of how she found the courage to get uncomfortable and how it helped her get ahead.

Have you ever felt like the story of you has been created by the narrative of those around you based on their perception and even motives? How others view you is based on their judgement of appearance, what you do for a living, or where you went to school. What’s more is that what people think or say about you can direct your future and affect how you think about yourself, and it can begin to feel normal to ascribe to their words and expectations. In this episode, my guest, Judy Hoberman, CEO of Judy Hoberman and Associates and accomplished TEDx speaker, will tell us her story of how she was able to break the cycle and create her own narrative.

Have you ever been haunted by feelings of not being good enough or smart enough, or as if you are not worthy. Like, if you walk into a work meeting, and you instantly assume you are not the smartest person in the room, and that once you speak up, you will be found out? Or, you are offered a promotion at work, but you feel like you don’t deserve it because you don’t think you are good enough… and if you take it, you may tend to beat yourself up and have fear of being found out. If you have had any of these experiences, you have experienced imposter syndrome. My guest in this episode, Annie Greanias, shares her personal story of dealing with imposter syndrome and how she was able to break free from the lies and tell herself the truth.