Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others

By Anne BlandSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Relationships Sexuality

Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others episodes

May 05, 2023 13: Moving into Tantric Sex – Movement as Arousal Trampoline
Anne Bland discusses the importance of the 6th Tantric sex tool, movement, in your life, and especially, in your sexual life. There is a variety of erotic movements that leads to liberation, connection, and increased life force both within you and with your partner, even if there has been trauma, disconnection, and numbness. Movement is your arousal trampoline! Both external and internal movement... How do you move? Are you aware? What if you changed it? How would it feel? And 'that' is not just about... "humping"! What about grinding, rocking, slow and shallow thrusting - and even staying still?
Anne also shares an ancient Chinese Tantric Tip, a practice called Jade Egg Pleasure for women and pussy-owned bodies, and why pelvic floor health is crucial for enjoyable sex life and brings so much happiness, pleasure, and multiple and varied ways of orgasming. Also, men and penis-owned people can use certain internal movements to control their ejaculation and lengthen their pleasure.
If you are ready to start your own solo sexual play practice by learning these holistic tools, please contact Anne for private or couples coaching.

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2 min
April 28, 2023 12: What is Tantric Touch? Part 2: Penis Massage
Anne Bland and Franziska Amoris continue their ‘fireside sharing’ on the topic of Tantric Touch, including the Pussy and Penis Massages. As Anne says: “Penises don’t get enough right kind of attention.” Healing through touch can help individuals to finish their stress and trauma cycles in a safe way and have more freedom from pain. It can also bring liberation from performance anxiety, give relaxation, help to access love, deep satisfaction, and nourishment.
But when is a touch not okay? Where are the boundaries and how to achieve consent? What might be some of the cultural conditionings and practices about touch in different cultures? And what did you think of Dalai Lama’s “suck my tongue” incident? In this rich episode, there was also a little teaser for future episodes about orgasming. What, for instance, is a male orgasm about? Not ejaculation, argues Anne. Do subscribe and get notifications when the next episode gets released.

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43 min
April 20, 2023 11: What is a Tantric Touch? Part 1: Pussy Massage
In this part 1, you'll learn how to touch in a Tantric way when having a solo or partnered sexual play. In this rich episode, Anne Bland and Franziska Amoris talk about the healing touch of Tantra and how it can help you to (re)connect with your body and get out of your thinking mind. You will also hear how Franziska uses 'non-touch of Tantra', i.e., energetic touch, to get off! What is energetic touch and can you really have an orgasm without touching?
Finally, you will learn in detail what are the most important things to know about Pussy Massage, such as creating safety, how to use complements, the importance of lubrication and boundaries, and the difference between Pussy Massage as a Tantric Practice and foreplay. And did you know that all humans share the same genitalia parts up to 7th week of pregnancy when they just get organised differently? Penis and Pussy are the same genitalia but some parts have developed in a different way... Subscribe to get notified when part 2 of Tantric Touch is alive!

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41 min
April 14, 2023 10: Tantric Sex and the Sound of Orgasm - "I'll have what she's having!"
"I'll have what she's having!" exclaimed a woman at the next table to Meg Ryan when she, as Sally, faked an orgasm 34 years ago in the classic movie "When Harry Met Sally." And why not?! We'd all want a bit of what she was having. Sexual sounding is very much linked to orgasm and that of a woman. Yet, 80% of women say they have faked an orgasm, just like Sally. Based on studies women mainly fake orgasms and pleasure to either make their partners feel good about themselves or to make the intercourse finish quicker... Either way, not a very snapshot of the state of sexual affairs. In this episode Anne Bland shares good news: Tantra doesn't focus on orgasms. By practicing Tantra and mastering the holistic Tantric Sex Tools, such as Sounding, will help you to feel orgasmic states and more pleasure. Especially for men, Sounding can be very liberating and allow them to circulate sexual energy away from the genitalia to allow for more full-bodied pleasures and to last longer.

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26 min
April 07, 2023 09: Why Breathwork is Important for Tantric Sex and Your Daily Life?
Why is breath important to your daily life and to your sex life? Did you know that breathwork can increase pleasure, intimacy, and connection whether solo or partnered play? Or that it can help you to control your arousal, desire, and even the timing of your orgasms? Anne Bland explores what is breathwork, the role of breathwork in Tantra and Tantric Sex, and how incorporating breathwork into your daily life can improve your overall happiness and well-being. As a certified breath coach, she also warns against it sharing what are the contraindications for breathwork.

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29 min
March 30, 2023 08: Asking For a Friend: What Are the Physical Signs of Sexual Arousal?
Would you like to be coached for free by Anne Bland? You can on her podcast! Anne is launching a new coaching-styled episode called "Asking for a Friend." Instead of asking for yourself, you might like to be "asking for a friend" about sex, love and relationships? If you have friends that are too shy, embarrassed, or busy to ask about Tantric Sex themselves, you could do it for them! Just like Amanda who came on the show in this episode and asked for her friends about the physical signs of sexual arousal in female and male bodies; why would someone feel numb, not connected to their body, and not turned on; and finally, if age affects the sexual arousal (the answer to the latter might surpised you!).
If you'd like to ask for a friend - or indeed, for yourself and to be coached! - please apply by emailing to [email protected]. This session is going to be about one question, goal or desire that you bring to the episode which will last for maximum for 30 minutes. You don't have to use your own name and can give a pseudoname. The episode will not be launched as a video, only as an audio episode to protect your privacy and anonyminity.
If you'd like to explore individual or couple's online coaching with Anne Bland please email [email protected].
Please note that Anne Bland is not a medical professional and coaching episodes are meant to be fun, educational, inspiring, and empowering. You always need to consult a medical doctor or a mental health professional if you have any concerns about your health and wellbeing.

Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.
Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching
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Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com
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42 min
March 23, 2023 07: Tantric Sex Tools for Lovers
Tantric Sex as a hobby? Why not!? In Finnish, there is a saying "harrastaa seksiä," to hobby some sex - so why not Tantric Hobby Sex? Anne Bland shares how you can learn holistic Tantric Sex Tools to enhance, spice up and make more intimate and connected love to yourself through self-pleasuring or to your partners. Tantric Sex is good for everyone: Tantra denies and excludes nothing but transforms everything!

Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.
Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching
Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools."
Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast
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25 min
March 18, 2023 06: How My Childhood Impacts My Relationships? Discussion about Attachment Styles
Have you noticed any patterns in your relationships? The way you are attracted to similar types of partners? Or the way you show up as a lover and the way you have sex? Well, it may have lots to do with how you were loved as a child and what models of relationships you had with your parents. Attachement styles can help you to make sense what's going on in your relationships and in the bedroom.
On a personal level, this episode proved to be a bit emotional towards the end for the host Anne Bland (initially the anxious attachement style) and for her guests Angélique Braise (initially the avoidant attachment style) and Amanda Tonna (the disorganised attachement style) because of the realisation how much self-development had already been done to gain the more secured attachement style - where it's okay, not to be okay.

Angélique's website: https:www.angeliquebraise.com
Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.
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1 hr
March 10, 2023 05: Is Female Sexual Arousal Different to Men's?
Only after four episodes YOU, the listeners, have made this podcast trending in sexuality category in three different countries! A big shout-out and thank you to YOU!
In this solo episode Anne Bland lets her Inner Nerd out (again) to explore the science behind female sexual arousal and turn-on and why women's pleasure is different to the men's arousal and turn-on. Interestingly, she claims that what modern science has only recently discovered about human turn-on, classical Tantra taught already thousands of years ago... You might also be curious to know what an earth cars have got to do with human arousal or lack of it!
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Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.
Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching
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29 min
March 03, 2023 04: How To Make My Partner Want Sex with Me?
“Too much of a good thing can be wonderful,” said Mae West, a Hollywood Star. In this episode, Anne Bland invites Franziska Amoris back on this Tantri Sex show and they are joined by Lady Jin to discuss turn-on and arousal - and "how to make my partner want me more" or "to want to have more sex with me" as Anne was asked on her monthly live Q&A on Instagram. Yet, pleasure is so much more than just penetration and intercourse! Relationships, bodies, and things that make us turned on change over time. Curiosity and exploration, being open to new ways to pleasure are called for. The main thing is to become your own best lover first! Do you know what truly turns you on? Or are you tempted to do the same familiar thing when it comes to arousal, pleasure, and sex? In the end, Anne Bland shares Tantric Sex Tips for re-igniting your sex life in a long-term relationship.

Lady Jin's website is: https://theladyjin.com
Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.
Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching
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Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com
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1 hr 10 min

About Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others

From the publisher's feed

Are you curious about Tantra? Maybe you have tried it a few times but are not sure how to make it a conscious practice to bring more happiness, pleasure, and peace into your life. Or maybe you've…

heard some Tantric stories about how Sting can last for hours - and wonder if you could too. Or you might feel that your sex and love life could and should be better, or even Sacred...
This open, honest, explicit, heartfelt, and fun podcast by Anne Bland is for you if you are ready to explore your sensuality, sexuality, and spirituality through Tantra and Tantric Sex. Ancient Tantra teaches that there is a direct link between your sexual energy and your creativity and spirituality. So, are you willing to unleash your full potential through self-awareness, self-mastery, and self-expression and live the life you truly want?
If yes, then join Tantric Sex and Relationship Coach, public speaker, and podcaster Anne Bland, the founder of “Selfishly Happy Revolution,” as she openly and whole-heartedly discusses her own Tantric Journey, shares real-life Tantric stories, and invites others to join her on the podcast. This could include you too! The "Asking for a Friend" episode is an opportunity to get free Tantric Sex or Relationship Coaching from Anne Bland - or you could truly 'ask for a friend.' You can also participate in the show by sending a voice message.
This podcast is part of Anne Bland's Selfishly Happy Revolution, the next sexual revolution that doesn't start from barricades or burning your bras, but from within. Putting that figurative oxygen mask on yourself first before helping others gives you more energy, love, and creativity to share with others. And that oxygen mask is ‘Pleasure’! Pleasure is your birthright, and you deserve and are worthy of feeling good about yourself and your life so that you have the energy to show up in the world the way you want. And most of all, to create the life you want!
Selfishly Happy Revolution is all about creating a movement, a community that celebrates pleasure and is pleasure-positive, demystifying sex and sexuality, and creating happy relationships not just with your partner but also with yourself, your communities, and the world at large. As Anne Bland says: “Happy and pleasure-positive people just don’t start wars.”
"Tantra doesn't judge or exclude anything but it transforms everything" (Osho). Tantra is like inner technology that can be harnessed for your benefit be it healing, personal or spiritual growth, or amazingly juicy, delicious, and succulent life. Tantra is like having pleasure and self-love on tap!
Finally, if you want to learn some Tantric Tips and Pleasurable Treats called Seven Holistic Sex Tools, this show is definitely for you. Anne shares how you can use these ancient Tantric Tools - Intentions, Presence, Focus, Breath, Movement, Sound, and Energy – for self-healing and self-pleasure but also with your partner or lover. They will help you to reclaim your own pleasure to become authentically your True Self and create a World that you want to live in and leave behind for future generations.
Selfishly Happy Tantric Revolution is ALL ABOUT YOU! If you don't feel good about yourself, don't love yourself, don't have any energy, and are at risk of burning out - how can you be there for others? How could you be the leader in the world that you want to be? Or be the world co-creator that you truly are?
Tantra teaches that all is one. It means that once you start healing, growing and becoming the person you truly are, the world around you changes too: what is inside you is also outside you. Pleasure and sexual energy are not well understood in the West and often associated with something shady, dirty, sinful or secretive. Tantra celebrates sex and sexual energy being normal and natural parts of you and the very energy for creation and spiritual enlightenment. It is where humanity meets spirituality. By mastering Tantric tools you can use your body-mind, your "inner technology," to get in touch with your Higher Self, Universe, God/Goddess, Cosmos - or whatever you call the Essence that is bigger than you but still part of you. It's like EVOKING something latent. At the same time, you'll be raising the consciousness of the whole of humanity on Earth which is the key to the survival and thriving of human beings as a race. So by changing yourself, you'll change the world for the better! Enjoy the Tantric journey! What is a better and more fun way to grow and develop yourself than sex and sexual energy? So let's Evoke Tantra and let's Evoke YOU.