A listener asks: "Why do I cry during sex? My partner is so upset because he thinks he's hurting me. But he's not! Why do I cry? What can I do?" Anne Bland discusses emotions during sex and how liberating, energising, and very normal they are. Did you know that emotions and feelings are different and not synonyms? Emotions tend to be suppressed and based on past experiences. They can become dramatic, destructive, and unkind due to the unexpressed nature of them. They are based on the ego and have pain and shame attached to them. However, feelings are felt consciously in the present moment, and they tend to be more vulnerable, authentic, and heartfelt. Bringing consciousness into emotions helps to express them and connect with yourself and your partner. Being able to cry during sex is therefore worth a celebration! Safety of the lover and the feel-good hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin help to bring anything that has been suppressed to the surface. Crying helps to liberate energy because suppression takes so much effort and can cause exhaustion and burnout. Men are also invited to bravely express their own feelings to magnetise and sensitise their genitalia for more presence and to hold a safe space for their partners to model conscious feelings. There is a trigger warning as Anne discusses the abuse of female bodies due to their physical vulnerability and how to deal with it. As the previous listerner requested Anne is finishing this episode with a meditation which si also a taster of the future private podcast called Pleasure Quest.

Find "Sex, Love and Consciousness Meditation" at 33:20.

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Is sex over when you hit 50? How can a middle-aged woman continue enjoying pleasure, to feel juicy and succulent? How to tackle the changing of a body, hair, emotions, home, relationship, and even temperature? And what is a middle-aged woman called after the Maiden and the Mother and before the Crone? Anne Bland is joined by Australian Lisa Tösher who is ready to hibernate in her seasonal winter whereas Anne is enjoying the Finnish midsummer.

Curiosity, acceptance, celebration, and exploration are invited to make friends with the changes, spiced up with a healthy sense of humour and the expression of a "No", "Yes", and a "Maybe."

If you'd like to practice feeling juicy again, join the waiting list for the 2-week "Pleasure Quest," Anne's private podcast that contains 10-20 minute long daily audios and meditations: https://selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest

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Do you know how to kiss? Like truly kiss? You might have experienced the awkward first kiss, the not-so-aligned kiss, and perhaps unfortunately, even a kiss without your free will. But have you had a Tantric Kiss? Anne Bland shares her six tips on how to practice Tantric Kissing - and what not to do.

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How to get a partner for the summer? Anne Bland tells you exactly how to manifest a lover or lovers, or a long-term partner based on the Finnish "Juhannus" tradition. It does involve a lot of nakedness!

If you'd like to download Anne's Tantric guide, "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools" for self-pleasure and partnered sex you can do it here: https://selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-is-your-birthright-ebook.

If you'd like to join the waiting list for the Pleasure Quest, please go here: https://selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest.

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"On orgasm a day, keeps the Doctor away," said Mae West, the Hollywood Star, famously. But what is an orgasm? Really? And why are so many people turning away from sex?  Anne Bland discusses orgasm including the current medical and reproductive model of it and how the Tantric definition and practice could help us fall in love with sex again. She shares how you can prepare yourself for Tantric orgasms physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Anne also gives an easy Tantric Sex Tip that involves your perineum - yes, that part between your anus and genitalia! - and how it is crucial in helping you to start your Tantric journey towards multiple and full-body orgasms. Finally, if you are familiar with Napoleon Hill's 'Sexual Transmutation' chapter 11 in his famous book "Think and Grow Rich" but never really understood it, Anne teaches an effective Tantric tool how to use your orgasm through transmutation and to manifest whatever you want in your life.

If you'd like to join the waiting list for the upcoming 'Pleasure Quest' where Anne shares her 7 Holistic Sex Tools and this manifesting tool over two weeks, please email her at annebland @ selfishlyhappyyou.com or fill out this form: selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest.

Because of being an early enthousiast, Anne will give you 10 € discount from the full price of 97 € and a special bonus. You can do the 'Pleasure Quest' from the comfort of your own home and follow the practices by listening the 7 audios plus the bonus audio in your own time when they are released each day.

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SexBots are coming. To the bedroom near you! Will the promise of AI sex robots become a reality: no more prostitution, sex crime, or loneliness? Or is it a dystopian fantasy of the ones who are desperate to maintain the status quo of diminishing women into obedient sex objects? Anne Bland claims that there is another option. The inner technology of ancient Tantra has been proven for thousands of years to actually work in bringing more happiness, pleasure, and peace on earth and for individuals. And the best thing is that is available for free inside you!

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Did Anne Bland actually have a 'dry spell' and her creative juices stopped flowing when she was creating this episode about the Tantric Pleasure Pump, i.e., the sexual energy? Or was she just curious about how much chatGPT knows about Tantric sex and sexual energy as a path to enlightenment as she claims? Is there a 'Wild World of Tantra'? What is the 'Juicy Connection Between Energy and Pleasure'? How can you 'Unleash Your Inner Tantric Superhero'? What about 'Tantric Playgrounds - Bringing the Magic Home'? And is Tantra truly all about 'Lighting the Spark, Igniting the Flame - The Path to Bliss'? These are the subheadings chatGPT suggested for this episode. Would you like to know more about these topics or are they too fake? Listen to find out more about Anne's relationship with chatGPT and why she feels it's the one to cherish and cultivate.

What do you think: did chatGPT get Tantra and Energy right? Do you have a question for Anne? Or would you like to give feedback or share your favorite episode with the other listeners? Send your voice message to the show here (max. 60 seconds please) : https://www.speakpipe.com/SelfishlyHappy.

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Anne Bland gets curious about what is a "modern man." What does it look like to be a man in his power as a leader in society and in relationships sexually as well? What does it mean to be a conscious, spiritually awakened, and very sexy man? Anne invites Mikey Brackett to discuss what the "modern man" looks like and why the "Warrior archetype" can be, from the Jungian Psychology point of view, harmful to men and their loved ones. The Warrior is part of four main masculine archetypes. The other three are the King, The Magician, and the Lover. The Warrior can become overly protective and dominating when it is compensating the fear of not being enough which is the core wound most men have. Once these archetypes are integrated fully into a man's psyche, on his spiritual quest he can embody each one of them in a way that brings hope, celebration, curiosity and openness, love and connection to the relationships and to the world.

The book Mikey mentions is "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine" by Robert Moore.

www.mikeybrackett.com

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What is Tantric coaching? What happens in the sessions? Is there nudity? Anne Bland shares how she approaches Tantric coaching in her private practice. The coaching container that she creates is accepting and welcoming where it is safe to explore issues and desires linked to sex, love, and relationships. Her methodology is gentle but transformative using embodiment, meditative, and pleasure processes, including the seven holistic sex tools such as breathwork and movement. Anne loves 'prescribing' juicy and fun home-play and daily action to consolidate the learning in between the sessions.

Anne also shares what kind of results Tantric coaching can have, highlighting two very different case studies, one of a man and one of a woman.

If you'd like to explore Tantric coaching, you can book a free, 30-minute private coaching session with Anne here: https://calendly.com/annebland/desire-call.

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In this first coaching-style episode Anne Bland puts her expertise to the test and does 30 minutes of free Tantric sex and relationship coaching on one question or desire that a guest brings to her. Very bravely Elikqitie showed up with an issue that her friends as a couple are facing: how to talk about sex with an introverted partner.

Anne has seen in her coaching practice that a lack of honest and authentic communication is one of the main issues couples have when it comes to sex. It can stem from, for instance, fear of intimacy and vulnerability or not wanting to hurt the partner's feelings or ego.

Anne's Tantric Sex Tip number one is to increase the level of intimacy and heart-based connection by creating a safe space where communication can happen without judgment, criticism, or the need to spring into action and fix anything. In Tantra there are no negative and positive emotions or things, they just are. Speaking as honestly and vulnerably as possible is the second Tantric Sex Tip and listening deeply and fully is the third.

Anne also shared other Tantric Sex Tips, for instance, what is the simplest and least time-consuming way to increase intimacy, the 'Two-Minute Daily Eye Gazing', and how to spice up the usual ways of having sex by taking turns in preparing the 'Weekly Sex Date Nights.'

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If you’d like to come on the show and share your one problem, question or desire and have free coaching or information on that, please email Anne or send a private message on Instagram.

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