Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy.

Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex.

Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance.

Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more.

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00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy

4:09 So Diddy is in jail...

6:15 Exhibit A: Diddy is not from Harlem

9:10 How social media is engaging with the Diddy allegations

10:47 Being "freaky" vs being "a r*pist"

12:52 Conflating sex with deviance is a tradition

14:06 The kink spectrum

18:46 Queerness, non-monogamy and Black cultural Christianity

22:53 How a cultural context of control & domination impacts sexual beliefs

27:13 Not the group sex girlies being surprised by consent

35:35 Closeted sexuality is not a pipeline to being a r*pist

38:00 How disregarding whole groups of people allows abuse to persist

41:27 Kendrick's "Not Like Us" and how it frames SA

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Your womanist race-nerd recap of all them post-election vibes, is here!

In this lawd halmurphy of an episode we recap the delusion of the Mike Tyson vs. J*ke Paul fight, what we're gonna do about these yt people, the racism of deflecting to non-white voters, performing voter disappointment on social media, how the ego is might be ruining activism, the 4B movement, self-caring to freedom and mad other sh*t.

Check out Kimberly Foster's breakdown of the 4B movement making its way to the US. Shout out to @pardonmewithp for capturing that fresh post-election rage. And our throwback post-election episode #79 Bigotry Didn't Start Last Tuesday is worth the listen as a time-capsule of what was happening at the time politically, the birth and rebranding of the "women's march" and the frustration a lot of us felt towards Hillary Clinton's campaign.

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0:00 Intro

2:09 Mike Tyson vs Paul fight

5:23 VP Harris Concession speech

7:56 Post-election WTF

16:15 Stop deflecting to non-white voters its eww

21:23 2016 vs 2024 election vibes

24:03 Performative pain for social media

31:28 "Not voting during a genocide" morning afters

35:06 Is your activist ego happy that Tr*mp won

39:57 Is the 4B movement a viable post-election response

50:08 What are we gonna do about yt ppl?

52:00 1:02:00 Can we self-care to freedom?

1:05:02 Is there too much disagreement within the movement?

1:09:24 Can you remove your ego from your activism on social media?

1:15:46 The "Latino" vote

1:18:29 Get in your community!

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If you're a Black feminist, a womanist, a Black radical, a liberationist, a radical liberationist or a womanist race nerd, somebody you know, (somebody you may trust) been talking about not voting. We get to the bottom of what it means to vote or not vote during a genocide, how the desire to be liked manifests itself in liberation movements, and why some of your faves been moving like closeted voters this election cycle.

As a Black femme centric podcast we almost never discuss Tr*mp. Our lives are bigger than what yt mehn be trying to do to us. He is discussed in this episode as a presidential candidate (and a d*mon bc bffr), but this episode is not about how Twump so scawy. It's about liberatory strategy and the role of electoral politics.

Also, Mayor Eric Adams, an NYC rat (make that comma do whatever you need it to), VP Kamala Harris' biracial identity and how we should feel about it, President Obama and his cousin Pookie, and mad other election related ish.

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Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Recording while wearing pants

03:00 Electoral politics... why?

05:13 Mayor Eric Adams and NYC's trash/rat problem

20:30 Mayor David Dinkins would never

21:42 Presidential Election

23:25 Voter apathy

26:21 Voting or nah during a genocide

30:10 Post-election 2016

35:43 What is the strategy for liberatory minded non-voters

47:33 Are you exercising a vibes-only politic

49:42 The cool kids, cliques and being liked in liberation movements

52:00 President Obama, Black men voters & "cousin Pookie"

1:09:43 VP Kamala Harris and Black media's obsession with the silk press

1:15:19 VP Harris bi-racial identity, misogyny/noir & xenophobia

1:19:53 Black voters and the "voting for them just bc they're Black" allegations

1:24:15 Final thoughts on VP Harris

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On episode #309 . . . So, it’s been a long ass minute, but we’re back, well kinda. . . we explain it all in this episode. Still, the womanist race nerds you love, figuring out life in this white supremacist cesspool of a planet. We get into where we have been, how we have been, what kept us away, and what rest means 3 years into a global pandemic. We also dip into an old review we did of the Max documentary Tina vs. her 1993 biopic. The Queen of Rock n Roll passing was heavy, so going back to our discussion of Tina Turner’s life as a Black woman in entertainment, feels good.

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

Episode Timestamps:

Where we been?: 00:48-14:09

What we been doing?: 14:09- 23:23

Throw back Tina Turner clip:23:23-52:24

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This week’s closing clip features the debut trailer for Drapetomaniax: Unshackled History podcast https://www.pod.link/1687096254/episode/83ae8b38a18266a7b75fd2e85069b4b3

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

On this episode… bell hooks, one of the greatest thinkers of our time recently passed away leaving us to explore her legacy and its impact on our intersections of Black womanhood. Our friend and activist Diamond Stylz joins J. this week to discuss Blackademia, the reality tv icon Nene Leakes (it’s important!), and to reflect on Insecure and an era of television that will be referenced for years to come.

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: we fvcking survived 2021, pay Black Transwomen Inc., we bingeing The Witcher, possible awkward C*sby show reference, bell hooks, street feminism, “femininity”, Laverne Cox, “problematic” but “important” questions, Nene Leakes and navigating grief & trauma on the blogs (she in these streets with a new boo all quick!), that Insecure glow up, Diamond is tired of Lawrence’s shit, J. might be lowkey #teamlawrence and ready to fight Nathan, and more about Kelli

Libations: 3:57

Donation Libations: 7:03

Affirmations: 11:25

bell hooks: 12:22

Grieving in public and should we be in Nene’s business?: 45:25

Insecure and last minute ass Lawrence (SPOILERS): 1:02:38 - 1:30:20

Spoiler free Insecure reflections: 1:30:20

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GUEST CO-HOST DIAMOND STYLZ

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Check out bell hooks and Laverne Cox in conversation at The New School: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9oMmZIJijgY

This week’s closing clip features recent ancestor bell hooks on what it means to be feminist. Full video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GpdJUGn0FHE

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with special guest host Diamond Stylz, editorial support from Candice Jones, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo

Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Segment Music by Chad Milner

On this episode… Single and “childless” (there’s gotta be a better term for that) - Why you shouldn’t (or should?) ask people about their parenting status. Then we get litigious about Black hair, and we finally talk about Dave Chappelle

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: talking reckless to Vivica A. Fox, sh!t people ask women with no kids, Medical drawings and white supremacy (for real), spa etiquette, wtf is a legacy exactly, can a triggering question be a good question, Jeffery Thorton and the CROWN act (them lawsuits hit different), a wellness check on Dave Chappelle and mad other ish

Libations: 7:17

Donation Libations: 17:08

Affirmations: 19:32

The politics of being grown and “childless”: 20:28

Moment in Black Hair: 53:54

Dave Chappelle, the not so great Bokeem Woodbine: 1:07:58:00

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Check out Chidiebere Ibe’s medical drawings on instagram https://www.instagram.com/ebereillustrate/

Listen to Marsha’s Plate episode #207 Selective Offenses And Selective Bans https://soundcloud.com/danella-xuc/207-selective-offenses-and-selective-bans

Moment In Black Hair: https://www.cnn.com/2021/12/04/us/black-job-applicant-hair-discrimination-lawsuit/index.html

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Dave Chappelle just out here: https://www.vulture.com/2021/11/dave-chappelle-teen-critics-alma-mater-q-and-a.html

This week’s closing clip features recent ancestor bell hooks https://twitter.com/donovanxramsey/status/1471185375334830080?s=21

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo

Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Segment Music by Chad Milner

On this episode…Season 2 of the series “Love Life” just wrapped on HBO. It’s got us pondering Black Love ™ versus the swirl; covid and the great white awakening of 2020; and Black masculinity, monogamy, love, and sex

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: Shout out to boundaries, and good family time. J. investigates how a really white show turned into an example of representation behind the camera, Black male characters and the “good guy” trope in film and IRL, When Black love ™ gets silly, interracial dating, marriage, divorce, threesomes, code switching and do people even use condoms anymore?

Libations: 3:16

Donation Libations: 9:00

Affirmations: 12:32

What is Love Life: 16:58

The “good guy” trope IRL: 36:51

Interracial marriage: 45:00

Black parents gonna Black parent: 1:00:51

Black Love ™: 1:08:38

A threesome: 1:21:49

Ya’ll Mofos Don’t Use Condoms: 1:25:34

Marcus had that breakup coming: 1:38:30

Kian’s down with O.P.P.: 1:47:35

Love, Covid & White Folks Wildin: 1:55:12

Issa Relationship: 2:01:39

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This week’s closing clip features the recent ancestor Virgil Abloh https://www.instagram.com/tv/CW2uNUlFqgK/?utm_medium=copy_link

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

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On this episode… It’s how to get away with murder. The internet shares their disappointment about the Kyle Rittenhouse acquittal. Should we feel a public sadness? What impact does the killing of white protesters have on allyship? And on a much needed lighter note, fun nerd sh!t and a game changing moment in Black hair

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: Use your PTO, Anime NYC, nerd judgement, Stranger Things, birthdays, Kyle Rittenhouse, white supremacy and the internets reaction, anti-protest laws, synthetic hair’s life cycle and mad other ish

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 3:15

Donation Libations: 14:14

Affirmations: 15:58

Kyle Rittenhouse timeline of events: 18:29

Acquittal and internet reaction: 26:29

A moment in (synthetic) Black hair: 1:12:01

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J. mentions the idea of “lone wolf” terrorism in this ep, but we have a more in depth discussion about domestic terrorism on episode #278 Issa Coup. Conversation starts around minute 18:41 https://soundcloud.com/tea-with-queen-and-j/278-issa-coup

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This week’s closing clip features Gayle King Interviewing Jonathon Majors, for the movie ”The Harder They Fall” https://www.instagram.com/tv/CV_g2NJgb-y/?utm_medium=share_sheet

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Segment Music by Chad Milner

On this episode…What about your friends? When friendships end, what else gets lost? Today we’re talking about love and friendship, and making room for the questions we thought we already had the answers to. Our biggest fears, what happens when we die, and our plans for the zombie apocalypse.

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: Afros & Audio, Are you friends with your parents? Ya’ll watching Love Life? Social fatigue vs. saying yes! Big small talk, embarrassing moments, bad dates, childhood memories, soulmates, love languages and more.

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 3:20

Donation Libations: 10:46

Affirmations: 15:11

Friendship Dynamics & Loss: 15:53

Questions About Life: 24:06

Questions About Love and Zombies: 1:01:25

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This week’s closing clip features Nimco Happy singing her single Isii Nafta (Love You More Than My Life) https://twitter.com/nimcoshappy/status/1453796255742758918?s=21

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Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

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On this episode… Revenge of the Black nerds! Were you othered for being queer or Black or nerdy, or all of that sh!t? Then, why labels may or may not be important to you and if any of that has to do with your privilege

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: Sex toys, daylight savings or takings, Queens (the TV show), velvet, anti-Blackness and othering at the intersections of nerdiness & queerness, demisexuality, Cardi cosplay, labels, belonging, who gets to claim queer, who needs to claim queer, who cares and mad other ish

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 4:57

Donation Libations: 17:08

Affirmations: 20:18

Anti-Blackness and Black nerds: 22:37

Who claims queerness, who gets to say: 55:33

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Listen to J. on Bag Ladiez demisexual roundtable episode: https://soundcloud.com/bgladies/all-baggage-episode-with-akua-j-being-demisexual

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This week’s closing clip features Sylvia Scott featured on Advanced Style Official https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedstyleofficial/video/7027107364427795718

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Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Segment Music by Chad Milner