00:00 Intro & updates

04:57 Who is Deanté Kyle

06:52 Men with podcast mics

12:49 How video podcasting is a call back to an earlier podcast era

15:42 The problem

29:42 Jess Hilarious & The Breakfast Club

31:46 Not every transphobe is a TERF

34:50 Jess Hilarious hates “real women” too

41:17 What’s wrong with birth-centric womanhood

This episode was recorded prior to Deanté Kyle’s use of a derogatory slur (typically used against Mexican Americans) in an instagram comment and does not address that incident. Reference link: https://www.tiktok.com/@cetosdaughter/video/7515458001906568478?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7214922055941899818

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If you wear clothes this is a Black ass history conversation that you need. Let's discuss. Fashion & style friend's Channél Jordan & Diamond Stylz join us for history, theory & context.

While we use the Met Gala as a launching point for a larger conversation on Black style, YOU DO NOT NEED TO CARE ABOUT OR TO HAVE SEEN MET GALA COVERAGE to enjoy this episode.

3:05 Pop-culture & fashion in politically perilous times

7:37 Black Dandyism Definitions & Disappointment

15:33 Met Gala theme habits

18:00 Enslavement & Jim Crow vs. the last 100 years

26:44 The exhibit

29:30 Gender

40:28 Corporatism

42:53 Black contributors and the Pharrell of it all

52:05 Respectability & Class

56:47 Sapeurs

1:00:09 Who Understood the assignment

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Before my solo Sinners review, I sat with actor/comedian Chris Lamberth on The Mundane Festival podcast for a fresh-out-the-theater spoiler filled review, and got to cover a few additional themes that were on my mind.

We get into the Black British actor debate, church-y-ness and a fear of spirit (we're seeing a lot of that fear in some Christian's negative reactions to the film), Mary's 'whiteness' and more. (Note: The film had just come out at the time of this recording, so I confuse Mary and Annie's name a few times)

6:05 Michael B. Jordan THE ACTOR

10:13 The Black British actor debate

24:09 The world building of 1932 Mississippi

25:02 Lie-max vs IMAX

28:11 Family, Community & Connection

31:44 The importance of movie theaters

34:26 Hoodoo, Anti-Blackness & the Church

38:21 white Mary

44:01 "Revenge" and "life" vs. "death"

53:57 Brotherhood beyond death

57:42 Ranking Ryan Coogler films

1:00:58 Ryan Coogler's unique press run

1:07:09 Why some Christians are afraid of Sinners and Beyoncé

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Let's review Ryan Coogler's original film "Sinners"

4:58 The Great Migration

10:33 Sammie's Salvation

12:27 Why Twins?

15:11 IMAX baby!!!!

17:14 Why do we sleep on Michael B. Jordan?

21:22 What does "Good" vs "Evil" mean to you?

27:15 Music and Spirit

33:24 "The best day" of their lives

37:39 Oral s*x in 1932

38:43 Vampires, cults and persuasion

44:58 Let's talk world building

49:27 That Jonathan Majors casting rumor

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Over the past five years, after a lifetime of struggling and a lot of research, I’ve come to the conclusion that I probably have ADHD = Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I’m self-diagnosed, so I invited my medically diagnosed friend Diamond Stylz to discuss all things ADHD and how it impacts our lives.

1:55 Growing up undiagnosed

12:21 What is ADHD?

15:54 Ableism & Stigma

20:18 Symptoms and lowkey hoarding

25:00 Procrastination and executive function/dysfunction

26:55 Diagnoses and medication

33:33 ADHD & depression

36:58 Hormones and ADHD

42:38 Anxiety, depression and environment

49:46 bell hooks and your home

55:59 Getting/hiring help

1:00:11 Love, Limerence & ADHD

1:05:10 Friendship & ADHD

1:10:38 Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

1:14:18 Releasing shame & building community

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Not to bring up old shxt, but I don't like how "the media" glazed over Kendrick Lamar calling out ShxtsNGigs specifically, on 'wacced out murals'. Kendrick is just as sick of the podcast industrial complex as the rest of us and I think that's hilarious. In this episode we talk about Kendrick (because I must) but more importantly we use the men-with-podcast-equipment epidemic as a jumping off point for how to approach trusting men in our community, the potential for betrayal - and how the way we approach both reflects our understandings of oppression, and our individual relationships to power, privilege, and accountability.

00:58 LA fires, California Black Freedom Fund

2:14 Kendrick Lamar is tired of the podcast industrial complex too

5:51 Queen is ok not watching anime

8:37 Were James & Fuhad ever “one of the good ones”

10:56 Is participating in misogyny a choice

13:18 Misogyny sounds cute in a British accent

15:26 Your privilege increases your capacity to harm

17:16 Hyper-focusing on marginalization lets privilege of the hook

19:33 Deifying “nice” men

23:05 Is the disappointment/upset at men like ShxtsNGigs performative

24:53 Are you an agent of oppression?

31:50 Are you in community with people more marginalized than you

36:40 Is your partner's misogyny a reflection of you

Check out the California Black Freedom Fund https://www.pledge.to/BlackLA

For other vetted funds, resources, and events in California check out Philanthropy CA https://www.philanthropyca.org/2025-california-disaster-response

The previous episode referenced is Black American Dollars, Black American Politics, available on patreon, where we discuss the ShxtsNGigs incident and anti-Blackness across the diaspora: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-video-113195050?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

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Music featured in this episode includes "Totter Teeter" by Guustavv https://www.epidemicsound.com/track/4y6tgclvb0/

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy.

Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex.

Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance.

Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more.

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00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy

4:09 So Diddy is in jail...

6:15 Exhibit A: Diddy is not from Harlem

9:10 How social media is engaging with the Diddy allegations

10:47 Being "freaky" vs being "a r*pist"

12:52 Conflating sex with deviance is a tradition

14:06 The kink spectrum

18:46 Queerness, non-monogamy and Black cultural Christianity

22:53 How a cultural context of control & domination impacts sexual beliefs

27:13 Not the group sex girlies being surprised by consent

35:35 Closeted sexuality is not a pipeline to being a r*pist

38:00 How disregarding whole groups of people allows abuse to persist

41:27 Kendrick's "Not Like Us" and how it frames SA

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Your womanist race-nerd recap of all them post-election vibes, is here!

In this lawd halmurphy of an episode we recap the delusion of the Mike Tyson vs. J*ke Paul fight, what we're gonna do about these yt people, the racism of deflecting to non-white voters, performing voter disappointment on social media, how the ego is might be ruining activism, the 4B movement, self-caring to freedom and mad other sh*t.

Check out Kimberly Foster's breakdown of the 4B movement making its way to the US. Shout out to @pardonmewithp for capturing that fresh post-election rage. And our throwback post-election episode #79 Bigotry Didn't Start Last Tuesday is worth the listen as a time-capsule of what was happening at the time politically, the birth and rebranding of the "women's march" and the frustration a lot of us felt towards Hillary Clinton's campaign.

Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/not-post-shoulda-116836973

0:00 Intro

2:09 Mike Tyson vs Paul fight

5:23 VP Harris Concession speech

7:56 Post-election WTF

16:15 Stop deflecting to non-white voters its eww

21:23 2016 vs 2024 election vibes

24:03 Performative pain for social media

31:28 "Not voting during a genocide" morning afters

35:06 Is your activist ego happy that Tr*mp won

39:57 Is the 4B movement a viable post-election response

50:08 What are we gonna do about yt ppl?

52:00 1:02:00 Can we self-care to freedom?

1:05:02 Is there too much disagreement within the movement?

1:09:24 Can you remove your ego from your activism on social media?

1:15:46 The "Latino" vote

1:18:29 Get in your community!

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

If you're a Black feminist, a womanist, a Black radical, a liberationist, a radical liberationist or a womanist race nerd, somebody you know, (somebody you may trust) been talking about not voting. We get to the bottom of what it means to vote or not vote during a genocide, how the desire to be liked manifests itself in liberation movements, and why some of your faves been moving like closeted voters this election cycle.

As a Black femme centric podcast we almost never discuss Tr*mp. Our lives are bigger than what yt mehn be trying to do to us. He is discussed in this episode as a presidential candidate (and a d*mon bc bffr), but this episode is not about how Twump so scawy. It's about liberatory strategy and the role of electoral politics.

Also, Mayor Eric Adams, an NYC rat (make that comma do whatever you need it to), VP Kamala Harris' biracial identity and how we should feel about it, President Obama and his cousin Pookie, and mad other election related ish.

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Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Recording while wearing pants

03:00 Electoral politics... why?

05:13 Mayor Eric Adams and NYC's trash/rat problem

20:30 Mayor David Dinkins would never

21:42 Presidential Election

23:25 Voter apathy

26:21 Voting or nah during a genocide

30:10 Post-election 2016

35:43 What is the strategy for liberatory minded non-voters

47:33 Are you exercising a vibes-only politic

49:42 The cool kids, cliques and being liked in liberation movements

52:00 President Obama, Black men voters & "cousin Pookie"

1:09:43 VP Kamala Harris and Black media's obsession with the silk press

1:15:19 VP Harris bi-racial identity, misogyny/noir & xenophobia

1:19:53 Black voters and the "voting for them just bc they're Black" allegations

1:24:15 Final thoughts on VP Harris

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

On episode #309 . . . So, it’s been a long ass minute, but we’re back, well kinda. . . we explain it all in this episode. Still, the womanist race nerds you love, figuring out life in this white supremacist cesspool of a planet. We get into where we have been, how we have been, what kept us away, and what rest means 3 years into a global pandemic. We also dip into an old review we did of the Max documentary Tina vs. her 1993 biopic. The Queen of Rock n Roll passing was heavy, so going back to our discussion of Tina Turner’s life as a Black woman in entertainment, feels good.

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

Episode Timestamps:

Where we been?: 00:48-14:09

What we been doing?: 14:09- 23:23

Throw back Tina Turner clip:23:23-52:24

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Part 2: https://youtu.be/QUoVoC76GJU

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This week’s closing clip features the debut trailer for Drapetomaniax: Unshackled History podcast https://www.pod.link/1687096254/episode/83ae8b38a18266a7b75fd2e85069b4b3

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius