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On this episode… Being twice as good is fvcking exhausting! We lean into Black mediocrity and the freedom to show your ass at work (metaphorically!). We celebrate the joys of sex toys and cannabis. Explore the state-sanctioned mistreatment of Haitian migrants and what’s happening on the Mexican side of the border. Then troll baiting, and J. finds a reason to talk about Blues Clues because that shit was delightful!

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: R. Kelly is finally going to jail, but we want restorative street justice. Affirming rest, abundance and stability. What our parents taught us about working while Black, addressing microaggressions, and the perfect work turn up. #BluesClues25, Michael K. Williams, and does 50 cent have a soul, or friends?

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Sex toys & cannabis: 5:24

Donation Libations: 20:06

Affirmations: 24:54

Black Mediocrity: 26:16

Pay Black Women, Pay Black People 57:16

What's happening on the Mexican side of the Del Rio Bridge? 1:00:32

Blues Clues haters 1:17:01

50 Cent and harmful clickbait media 1:27:28

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NEWS THAT’S NOT NEWS:

In Mexico, Some Haitians Find a Helping Hand

https://www.usnews.com/news/world/articles/2021-09-26/in-mexico-some-haitians-find-a-helping-hand

Haitian migrants to be offered residency, permits by Mexico https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/politics/2021/09/25/mexico-offer-haitian-migrants-residency-work-permits-del-rio/5866435001/

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This week’s closing clip features Micheal K Williams in the HBO short, Typecast https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RpST8KE3vSI

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones and social media support from Jo Caraballo

Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Segment Music by Chad Milner

On this episode… We’re back! We talk about the value of Black ass rest, navigating body image, pandemic fatigue, and mad other sh!t

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: It’s been a minute! Who is you Chiron!? We reintroduce ourselves. J. considers forgiveness, fatphobia’s in the air, what pandemic are YOU having cuz…, a lil vaccination talk, friendship & isolation, and fighting the pandemic (not like metaphorically, we want to physically fight the pandemic, and his hoe ass friends)

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 3:58

Donation Libations: 17:12

Affirmations: 16:50

Who are we tho?: 20:53

Where we been tho? 28:33

Is it still a pandemic?: 1:01:38

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This week’s closing clip features Jadakiss at the Lox vz Dipset battle https://twitter.com/r0bato/status/1422759790959382529?s=12

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones and social media support from Jo Caraballo

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Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

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On this episode… We talk about our favorite mental health socialist Black lesbian homies over at QueerWOC the podcast and share one of our favorite episodes! Who is Queer WOC, what are the dynamics on the show, why should you listen? Enjoy this listener's guide to Queer WOC the podcast!

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop culture over tea. Drink up!

#QueerWOC, the community podcast for all things Queer Women of Color community and healing. Hosted by Money and Nikeeta, two Black Queer Troublemakers, this biweekly insurgent audio syllabus that unites, ignites, and excites the queer women of color community. QueerWOC is a space for queer women and folks of color rooted in reimagining healing, organizing, and community.

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Queen and J. love QueerWOC: 1:27

QueerWOC Money & Nikeeta: 18:40

Trish Millines-Dziko is changing tech: 27:38

Mental Moment with Dr. Money (she a doctor for real): 37:13

What to do when you can’t afford therapy: 44:45

A political word on Karen Lewis & labor unions: 57:50

Dating and relationship renegotiating: 1:21:12

Curved chronicle, QueerWOC dating woes & wins: 1:50:09

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On this episode… We talk about two of our favorite fellow Bronx friends, the queer Afro Latinx lead podcast Bag Ladiez and share one of our favorite episodes! Who are Bag Ladiez, what are the dynamics on the show, why should you listen? Enjoy this listener's guide to Bag Ladiez!

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop culture over tea. Drink up!

Bag Ladiez is a podcast about BAGGAGE: yours, mine, and ours. Through the podcast, their goal is to help each other and their listeners by pushing themselves to be vulnerable about the way that the world affects them and their ability to live their truest, most authentic lives.

We’re sharing a Bag Ladiez All Baggage All the Time episode, where they assemble the BBB Demi Squad! Akua from Inner Hoe Uprising and J. from Tea with Queen and J join Bag Ladiez to talk about demisexuality ( Estephanie also identifies as demisexual!), their journeys figuring out the label, the misconceptions, and what it means to them to navigate this part of their identity as Black women! Hope you enjoy!

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Queen and J. love Bag Ladiez: 0:44

Bag Ladiez & Demisexuality: 20:18

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On this episode… We talk about our favorite hoes and creators of the queer Black feminist centered sex, love and dating podcast Inner Hoe Uprising! Our friend Diamond Stylz joins J. to discuss our love for Inner Hoe Uprising (IHU), the value in telling listeners your business, our thoughts on sex parties, a lil IHU history, the hosts, and why you should listen! Enjoy this listener's guide to Inner Hoe Uprising!

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop culture over tea. Drink up!

Inner Hoe Uprising is A smart & funny podcast about sex, love, and dating from 4 Black feminist 20 somethings living in NYC

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Diamond and J. love Inner Hoe Uprising: 1:39

The value in telling your business: 6:37

Who are the hoes?: 11:47

Do you sex party?: 14:03

Our favorite IHU eps: 16:45

Hoe show dynamics: 27:24

IHU episode Fifty, Fine and Fvcking: 35:37

INNER HOE UPRISING, FIFTY, FINE AND FVCKING EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Our guest Melissa aka Melahoe joins us to talk all things sex, love, and dating as a Black woman a part of generation X

Points of discussion include: Adoption, Ancestry (dot) com, secret families, fibroids, reproductive health, forced & coerced sterilizations of black women, medical mistreatment of young black girls, bodily autonomy, contraceptives, dating as a teen parent in the 80s, 90s dating for black women, AIDs epidemic, marital sex issues, infidelity, single motherhood, tying your tubes, paternalistic gynecologist, sexual exploration and your agency post 50, kinky communities, 50-year-old fuckboys, having the talk with you kids, words of wisdom from gen X to millennials.

CONTENT WARNING(S)

To skip a a conversation surrounding suicide avoid this section of the episode: 1:24:26 - 1:25:29

SUICIDE PREVENTION RESOURCES

If you are in suicidal crisis or emotional distress, use the contact info below to get help:

United States: Contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (the Lifeline) at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Crisis workers are available 24 hours a day. Calls are free and confidential.

Other countries & regions: To find a crisis center in your area, go to the International Association for Suicide Prevention website: findahelpline.com/i/iasp

How to help someone you know:

suicidepreventionlifeline.org/help-someone-else/

www.befrienders.org/helping-a-friend

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Check out these episodes of the Inner Hoe Uprising also:

Sex, Romance, & Disability: https://soundcloud.com/innerhoeuprising/sex-romance-disability

Decolonizing Marriage (w/ Danny & Cleo): https://soundcloud.com/innerhoeuprising/decolonizing-marriage-w-danny-cleo

Herpes Isn't The End of The World: https://soundcloud.com/innerhoeuprising/herpes-isnt-the-end-of-the-world

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On this episode… We talk about three of our favorite Black trans media makers, the creators of Marsha’s Plate podcast and share one of our favorite episodes! What is Marsha’s Plate, what are the dynamics on the show, why should you listen to it? Enjoy this listeners guide to Marsha’s Plate!

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop culture over tea. Drink up!

Marsha's Plate is a weekly podcast that archives and centers the trans-inclusive feminist culture.

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Queen and J. love Marsha’s Plate: 0:58

Diamond, Mia & Zee catch up: 13:30

Intersex: 20:27

Cis-men are exhausting: 37:43

Janet Mock politics & power: 1:06:15

Black and trans and the family function: 1:40:57

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On this episode… People are returning to work! As the country re-opens, what does it mean for Black people to return to the office? Working remote was cute, but could working in person mean anti-Blackness and antagonism up close?

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop culture over tea. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: Happy pride to our queer sibs and nibs! Doja Cat is a talented yikes! Breaks and vacations are dope so we’re taking one, we’ll be back in August! Working remote vs. returning to the office and why identity plays a role. What the data says about who’s excited to return and who isn't, is work culture actually just racism? Has remote work served as an equalizer? Do we even have to go back to the office? How to care for ourselves as many of us transition to in-person work, and more!

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 5:43

Donation Libations: 12:26

Affirmations: 15:24

Black to the office, stats and identity: 16:38

Remote work, safety and harassment: 28:39

We got feelings about this office shit: 48:08

Prepping your headspace for officespace: 1:03:00

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Return to work? Some women of color aren’t ready: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/06/23/us/return-to-office-anxiety.html

Office Culture So Unwelcoming: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/black-workers-prefer-remote-work-racist-office_l_60c8f805e4b0f7e7ccf59fa1

Workplace Harrassment in the age of remote work: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/06/08/us/workplace-harassment-remote-work.html

This week’s closing clip features a compilation inspired by @who_she_naje telling us all to go lay down https://www.instagram.com/p/CQpQOuBgDz6/?utm_medium=share_sheet

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones and social media support from Jo Caraballo

Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Segment Music by Chad Milner

On this episode… Yo, what the fvck is Juneteenth! We talk about what federal recognition means for a traditionally Black holiday, who should celebrate and who shouldn’t, and the OG Opal Lee!

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop culture over tea. Drink up!

This week’s hot list: Beach trips, new projects, and a lil‘ sunburn. Libating listeners cause ya’ll the best, celebrating Juneteenth as kids in NYC, the federal holiday Opal Lee asked for, anti-Black domestic terrorism, Juneteenth & critical race theory. Mississippi and Arizona really tried it! Who can celebrate and profit from Juneteenth and who can’t? Black people around the country have been acknowledging Juneteenth for mad long, but it’s also okay if it’s new to you. And, once again, beach trips!

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 3:15

Go to the Beach!: 7:25

Donation Libations: 17:00

Affirmations: 19:49

Juneteenth!: 20:53

Celebrate it? Love it? 23:23

Junteenth & George Floyd: 28:08

The OG Opal Lee: 36:27

The politics of federal holidays: 49:00

Who celebrates, who profits… now what? 1:10:00

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Learn more about Opal Lee at https://www.opalswalk2dc.com/

Opal Lee leads a walk for unity https://www.star-telegram.com/news/politics-government/article243442951.html

Declaration of Juneteenth Holiday Sparks Scramble in States https://apnews.com/article/joe-biden-lifestyle-holidays-juneteenth-government-and-politics-ec80922fe8963eab04e8c8e97cab4861

Join Queen on twitter spaces discussing colorism and dismantling that system. https://twitter.com/i/spaces/1ZkJzemOXbrGv

PREVIOUS EPISODES REFERENCING JUNETEENTH

#110 Whatchu Not Gone Do Is https://soundcloud.com/tea-with-queen-and-j/110-whatchu-not-gone-do-is

#112 Bebe's Kids Deserve to Live Too

Parody commercials by @lil_nisisin on tiktok & another video creator https://www.instagram.com/p/CQTWR26BYdy/?utm_medium=copy_link

This week’s closing clip features Queen letting you know it’s on sight if you mess with Ms. Opal!

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones and social media support from Jo Caraballo

Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Segment Music by Chad Milner

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop-culture over tea. Drink up!

On this episode… Washington Heights is Black as fvck, and somehow the film In The Heights is not. Black Latinx folks stay getting erased! We talk about how that erasure affects all Black people, why it’s important for white folks of all ethnicities to acknowledge their whiteness, and how to avoid playing yourself as a person of privilege.

This week’s hot list: Respect the swag surf, rest, family time and covid free-ness, we saw that In The Heights drama from the door ( spoiler free convo)! Afro-latinx erasure, white passing vs. white, colorism Jon M. Chu, Lin-Manuel Miranda, a lil Hamilton colorism, Anthony Ramos. Indigenous people reclaiming sacred land (for a fee), Passamaquoddy Territory, Pay Black Women, Pay Black People, that fresh new “first Black person to do blank”, a lil nuance goes a long way, and mad other ish!

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 2:56

Donation Libations 14:28:

Affirmations: 18:03

In The Heights of colorism: 20:51

Reclaiming Indigenous land: 1:07:03

Pay Black Women, Pay Black People: 1:16:00

The first Black this, the first Black that: 1:19:55

A lil Twitter misunderstanding:

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Help Aziza Murphy pay her rent after loss of income due to stalker incident: https://www.gofundme.com/f/aziza-murphy-legal-and-rent?utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link_all&utm_source=customer

Aziza’s original twitter thread (content warning for stalking, abuse, and video evidence of stalker trespassing): https://twitter.com/CuredByTheBLood/status/1401914279713034249

NOTES AND EXTRA TEA

Listen to one of our throwback episodes on colorism #234 Light Skinned Audacity https://soundcloud.com/tea-with-queen-and-j/234-light-skinned-audacity

We reference twitter accounts @bad_dominicana https://twitter.com/bad_dominicana & @InADash https://twitter.com/InADash during our conversation about In The Heights

More on The Passamaquoddy Territory: https://medium.com/illumination/the-passamaquoddy-people-get-their-sacred-island-back-e123f763e544

Original Cater 2 U twitter thread: https://twitter.com/TheBaddestMitch/status/1401043536594808837

This week’s closing clip features Gina Torres and other Black Latinx actors discussing their experience with Afro-latinx erasure in hollywood. Video/audio credit mun2.tv via @theafrolatindiaspora on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CQJLLztHCK3/?utm_medium=copy_link

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones and social media support from Jo Caraballo

Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop-culture over tea. Drink up!

On this episode… Black people got hobbies! But should every hobby turn into income? Do we even really know what a hobby is? If you don’t make a living wage, should you have a hobby? Are we for real about to explore hobbies this whole episode? Yep!

This week’s hot list: A poppin, health summer, rest and family time. All things Black people and hobbies! Childhood hobbies, the history of hobbies & leisure amongst Black Americans, monetizing your hobby, how to talk to your friends about their hobby (yes, we’re serious lol), hobbies & capitalism, who deserves fun and leisure, tweet streets, and mad other sh!t

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

Libations: 3:15

Donation Libations: 13:32

Affirmations: 16:38

Why we talking about hobbies: 17:53

A Black twitter drama: 41:50

Black hobby history: 1:05:10

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NOTES AND EXTRA TEA

Listen to Queen talk about her new flower hobby at minute 16:58 of episode #293 Kissing Dogs In The Mouth https://soundcloud.com/tea-with-queen-and-j/293-kissing-dogs-in-the-mouth

More history on Black Americans and leisure: https://www.encyclopedia.com/humanities/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/african-american-leisure-lifestyles

This week’s closing clip features Katt Williams take on “cancel culture” from The Joe Budden Podcast: https://twitter.com/naacpyoungboy/status/1400941136336805888?s=21

This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones and social media support from Jo Caraballo

Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women.

Opening song by Ohene Cornelius