How I became a Dominatrix, what the job really involves, and the layered challenges we face: stigma, emotional labor, financial exclusion, and more. It’s the behind-the-scenes look at sex work you won’t find on Netflix.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - The Scope of My Job

(01:45) - The Interest in Sex Work

(02:40) - The Intricacies and Evolution of My Work Responsibilities

(04:50) - What a Receptionist Shielded Me From

(09:30) - Why I Do Sex Work Despite the Challenges

(11:05) - Dungeon vs Indie

(11:50) - Navigating Societal Stigma

(12:30) - Marketing and Perceiving Yourself

(14:00) - Navigating Space and Community Challenges

(15:55) - Interpersonal Session Skills

(17:00) - Feeling Safe in My Workplace vs In Public, Workplace Wins

(20:05) - Financial Exclusion and Structural Violence in Banking for Sex Workers

(25:45) - The Power of Resilience, Community and You

(27:43) - My Internship at a Sex Work Organisation

(28:30) - Learning About the Backpage Shutdown Impact on Sex Workers

(30:00) - The Data for Decriminalisation by Amnesty International vs Puritanism

(31:17) - Why I Love My Job

Vanessa Ho, director of Project X Singapore, joins Eva Oh to unpack the legal, medical, and social realities for sex workers in Singapore. They discuss everything from navigating hostile systems and language barriers to launching a powerful anthology written by sex workers themselves. With 14 years on the frontline, Vanessa sheds light on criminalisation, community, and what real progress could look like.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Vanessa, Director of Project X Singapore

(01:25) - How Project X Helps Sex Workers - a lot!

(04:30) - Sex Work Legalities in Singapore

(06:40) - Accessing Health Services Awkwardly as a Sex Worker

(08:58) - Their Book Project - A Singaporean Sex Worker Anthology

(12:40) - What We Have Learned in Our 14 Years around the Sex Industry

(14:50) - Who is Project X?

(15:45) - Singapore's Sex Work Landscape, Throwing OF Creators into Jail

(19:50) - Working with Parliament

(21:40) - Multi-multi-lingual Outreach Services and Woes

(28:33) - The Fight for Legitimacy and Hopes for Singapore

(31:45) - Trafficking, Domestic Workers and Singapore's Villainisation of the Other

From tradie to TikTok to top escort—Will Charmer joins Eva Oh to talk about his path into sex work, the emotional and spiritual layers of male escorting, and how being tethered to family, Taoism, and marriage has helped him navigate it all. They talk cult upbringings, male privilege, aging, and what it really takes to make clients feel safe.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Will Charmer, Male Escort

(01:30) - Will's First Escorting Job, Kismet!

(04:10) - From Tradie to Tik Tok to Escorting

(04:40) - Coming from a Christian Cult

(09:10) - Empowerment through Escorting

(12:25) - Navigating Marriage as an Escort

(14:15) - The Emotional Work of Male Escorting

(17:25) - Having a Young Family as a Tether

(19:50) - Taoism and Navigating Community Carefully

(24:15) - Male Privilege in Escorting

(25:50) - Becoming Australia's Best Male Escort

(28:25) - The Magic and Downsides of Giving Client's a Safer Space

(32:30) - The First Thing You Need to be a Male Escort

(35:40) - The Advantage of Being Married as an Escort

(39:30) - Friends and Family's Response to the Job

(42:00) - How Stay Open, in Aging and the Everyday

Kink isn't just about getting off—though that's valid too. In this episode, I trace how kink first pulled me in and why it continues to matter. We explore kink as a pathway to self-awareness, transformation, and power dynamics that reflect society itself. From emotional breakthroughs to dangerous patterns, kink can open the floodgates—sometimes beautifully, sometimes brutally. A short but potent reflection on what kink offers, demands, and reveals.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - What Can Kink Do?

(01:15) - My Inkling on Kink

(02:15) - Why People Come to Kink

(03:05) - Getting Off and Feeling Understood

(04:37) - Build New Pathways, Good and Bad

(05:20) - Teaching Us About the Range of Who We Can Be

(06:12) - Opening the Floodgates

(07:10) - Kink, Power Dynamics and Revealing Societal Truths

(08:20) - A Recap

Dominatrix Audrey Fatale invites Eva Oh into her playspace for a conversation spanning 15 years of professional domination. They cover burnout, returning with purpose, and what changes as you age in the sex industry. From Audrey’s gear obsession and heavy bondage practice to navigating perimenopause and the politics of cis-het male doms, this episode is a candid look at the shifting seasons of dominance—and the power in pacing yourself.

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Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(01:09) - Meeting Audrey Fatale in her Playspace

(02:42) - 15 Years of Domination, a Burnout and We're Back!

(04:00) - The BDSM House Environment vs Indie

(07:50) - Pacing for Job Satisfaction

(10:00) - Eva and Audrey's Different Focuses

(11:50) - Audrey, the Gear Head

(13:10) - Time, Experience and Stepping into 'Natural' Dominance

(18:00) - The Financial Aspect of Femdom

(19:40) - Different Domination 'Seasons', from Baby Domme to Now

(27:30) - Claustrophobia meets Heavy Bondage Practice

(30:00) - When Eva Bottoms

(33:40) - The Politics of Cis-het Male Doms

(37:50) - Audrey's Europe Plans

(39:10) - Perimenopause, HRT and Self-Advocacy

(49:00) - Aging in the Sex Industry

Before Eva Oh entered the scene, Mistress Tahlia was already a seasoned presence at Salon Kitty’s. Eva reconnects with her Senior Mistress to swap stories of hazing rituals, house hierarchy, and the raw intensity of Australia’s most infamous BDSM establishment. From her days at the "Den of Inequity" to the rise of pegging and the economics of erotic labor, Tahlia shares how sex work became her site of power, politics, and transformation.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Becoming Mistress Tahlia(02:55) - Sex Work as a Vehicle for Radicalisation(03:30) - Discovering BDSM(07:30) - Stepping into Power and Salon Kitty's(10:40) - The Den of Inequity(15:00) - Our Different Experiences of Salon Kitty's(19:40) - Hazing Amongst Mistresses(23:30) - Changing of the Guard(25:30) - House vs Independent Work(27:10) - Salon Kitty's Changes and Reunions(29:40) - Becoming Magical Beasts(33:15) - The Accounting Fantasy Role Play(36:00) - Tahlia's First Impressions of Eva at Salon Kitty's(38:25) - Hierarchy at the House(41:50) - The Whorearchy of Erotic Sessions(44:35) - The Emergence of Pegging and the Findom Fallout(49:10) - Online vs Real-time Work(50:35) - Intimate Job Satisfaction(51:10) - Tahlia's English Corporal Punishment Plans(54:30) - Tahlia's Number One Tip

Is marriage the pinnacle of success—or just more unpaid labor dressed up in paperwork? In this final Sex Work VS miniseries episode, I get personal about my own marriages and question what we’re really chasing when we romanticize commitment. Sex work gave me the distance to see it differently: the self-absorbed oxytocin highs, the cultural expectations, and the silent costs of being a “good partner.” If you’ve ever second-guessed the path laid out for you, this one’s for you.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Sex Work VS Marriage

(02:05) - Paperwork and More Unpaid Labour

(03:10) - My Marriages

(04:20) - Unpack Marriage as a Measure of Success

(08:20) - Sex Work Has Given Me Freedom from the Cycle

(11:08) - The Miniseries Recap: Self-absorbed Oxytocin Rides VS Regretting a Life

(14:20) - Thank You Sex Work!

What’s the difference between being paid for your emotional labor and giving it away for free? In this episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my approach to relationships. From unreciprocated efforts with cis-het men to the gratitude that comes with being paid, I reflect love, and raising my standards. We’ll talk about oxytocin, one-sided coaching, the myth of romantic stability—and why financial independence feels far more secure. This isn’t about giving up on intimacy. It’s about knowing your worth, and deciding who (or what) deserves your time.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Sex Work VS Relationships

(01:05) - The 'Natural' Progression, Dating to Relationship?

(02:15) - What I Would Need from a Relationship

(03:40) - The Societal Expectation of Having a Relationship

(07:10) - Being Taken for Granted

(09:10) - The Advantage of Paid VS Unpaid Emotional and Sexual Labour

(10:30) - One-sided Efforts when Engaging with Cis-het Men

(13:25) - Improving My Standards, Does it Help or Hinder

(15:40) - Getting Paid for the Usual Coaching of Men

(16:40) - The Exchange of Money Encourages Gratitude

(20:40) - Honing the Art of Relating and the Benefits of Getting Paid for It

(23:15) - Relationship Stability is not a Given, your Financial Independence can be

(24:50) - Do I Want to Spend My Life on Unworthy Pursuits and People?

(25:50) - Falling in Love as a Skill Learned through Sex Work

(26:55) - Friendships with Sex Workers as the Gold Standard

(27:45) - The Need for Reciprocation

(28:55) - What Cis-het Men Could Offer if Not My Gold Standard, Money and Connections

Dating apps. New relationship energy. Getting paid for your time. In this first episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my expectations of dating, romance, and emotional labor. From valuing my time to filtering partners like my client applicants, I unpack why I still date—and what I refuse to give away for free.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Sex Work VS Dating

(01:20) - A Changed Dating (App) Landscape, but Similar Motivations?

(02:50) - The Emotional Benefits of Both

(04:50) - How Getting Paid Taught Me About My Value and Gave Me Choice

(06:30) - Why I Still Date (for free); Entertainment and Aesthetic

(08:42) - How I Keep Dating Relevant in a Frivolous Culture

(11:05) - My Dating Application Process

(13:55) - The Disadvantage of Unpaid Dating Labour

(15:15) - Oxytocin, New Relationship Energy and Infatuation

(17:00) - The 'Neatness' of Getting Paid

(17:40) - Wasting My Resource and Being Valued

(20:00) - A Cis-Het Lens Focus, for now

Welcome to a new miniseries exploring what sex work has taught me about dating, relationships, and marriage. I'm calling it Sex Work VS... Can you guess which is in the lead? Stay tuned.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - A New Miniseries on Sex Work vs Dating, Relationships and Marriage

(01:30) - Sex Work Has Taught Me the Pros and Cons