You Will Please Me

I've sat across from some of the most 'powerful' people in the world and watched them be completely controlled by something they couldn't even name. This episode is about that gap. Between the 'power' you think you have, and the power you actually do.

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Socials: www.instagram.com/youwillplease_me
More on Eva Oh: www.eva-oh.com

Before the dungeon, there was Afghanistan. The Circus. Meditation. The UN. A search for something true. This is how I found it and why I'm bringing you in.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RLKWj4XsFrQ

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Socials: www.instagram.com/youwillplease_me

More on Eva Oh: www.eva-oh.com

After two years, over a hundred episodes, and a million listens - this is the final episode of the #teakink podcast. What began as a voice on a sofa became something much bigger - a space to think out loud, connect across borders, and be in conversation with those of you who listened, shared, and carried it with you.

'You Will Please Me' is the next chapter - more intentional, and even more intimate. Eva Oh's new podcast is on the horizon - with deeper focus, more solo episodes, and a continued unfolding of power, presence, and becoming.

Thank you for being part of this journey. The exchange isn’t over - it’s only changing shape.

Mistress Wei joins Eva Oh to talk latex in the tropics, sex parties in Singapore, and building a thriving kink career in one of Southeast Asia’s most discreet yet dynamic BDSM scenes. From her first session to public perceptions and regional fetish culture, Wei shares how she’s carved out a space for power, play, and pleasure—with a mask on, of course.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Mistress Wei, a Dominatrix in Singapore

(02:20) - From a Random DM to Shadowing a Session

(05:00) - Latex Fetishists in Humid Singapore

(07:50) - Shibari in Singapore

(08:55) - Kink Population in London vs Singapore

(10:50) - How to Find Sex Parties in Singapore

(13:30) - So Many Achievements Already!

(16:50) - Singapore's Public Perception Relations

(21:40) - Who Attends Singapore's Sex Parties

(24:30) - Bangkok Fetish Ball

(25:00) - Singapore, South East Asia's Biggest Kink Community

(26:00) - Masks, Anonymity and What it's Like Being Recognised

(32:40) - Words of Encouragement from Mistress Wei

Dating a dominant woman isn’t about begging to be used - it’s about learning how to meet power with presence. In this episode of the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh unpacks the messy reality of dating as a Domme, the chaos of app culture, and what actually works when approaching a dominant woman. Supported by Chyrpe - the dating app for femdom and female-led relationships - this is essential listening for anyone navigating femdom dynamics with curiosity, confusion, or just too many emojis.

Chyrpe: www.chyrpe.com/eva_oh

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome to #teakink

(00:28) - Introducing Chyrpe: the dating app for femdom and FLRs

(01:24) - Why dating a dominant woman isn’t about “doing anything you want”

(02:00) - The dating app disaster zone

(04:10) - What dominant women experience on mainstream apps

(05:30) - “I want to be your slave” & other spammy openers

(06:15) - Respect, not performance: what Dommes actually want

(07:30) - The cost of desperation: kink bingo and checkbox culture

(08:50) - Submission isn’t self-erasure

(10:10) - What gets a real response from a Domme?

(11:25) – Red flags vs green flags in femdom dating

(13:00) - Emotional competence > chaotic desperation

(15:10) - Fantasy vs reality: can you meet power with presence?

(16:00) - For submissives: curiosity, calm, consistency

(16:35) - For doms: vetting is sacred

(17:10) - Final word: dominance isn’t something you consume - it’s something you relate to

How I became a Dominatrix, what the job really involves, and the layered challenges we face: stigma, emotional labor, financial exclusion, and more. It’s the behind-the-scenes look at sex work you won’t find on Netflix.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - The Scope of My Job

(01:45) - The Interest in Sex Work

(02:40) - The Intricacies and Evolution of My Work Responsibilities

(04:50) - What a Receptionist Shielded Me From

(09:30) - Why I Do Sex Work Despite the Challenges

(11:05) - Dungeon vs Indie

(11:50) - Navigating Societal Stigma

(12:30) - Marketing and Perceiving Yourself

(14:00) - Navigating Space and Community Challenges

(15:55) - Interpersonal Session Skills

(17:00) - Feeling Safe in My Workplace vs In Public, Workplace Wins

(20:05) - Financial Exclusion and Structural Violence in Banking for Sex Workers

(25:45) - The Power of Resilience, Community and You

(27:43) - My Internship at a Sex Work Organisation

(28:30) - Learning About the Backpage Shutdown Impact on Sex Workers

(30:00) - The Data for Decriminalisation by Amnesty International vs Puritanism

(31:17) - Why I Love My Job

Vanessa Ho, director of Project X Singapore, joins Eva Oh to unpack the legal, medical, and social realities for sex workers in Singapore. They discuss everything from navigating hostile systems and language barriers to launching a powerful anthology written by sex workers themselves. With 14 years on the frontline, Vanessa sheds light on criminalisation, community, and what real progress could look like.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Vanessa, Director of Project X Singapore

(01:25) - How Project X Helps Sex Workers - a lot!

(04:30) - Sex Work Legalities in Singapore

(06:40) - Accessing Health Services Awkwardly as a Sex Worker

(08:58) - Their Book Project - A Singaporean Sex Worker Anthology

(12:40) - What We Have Learned in Our 14 Years around the Sex Industry

(14:50) - Who is Project X?

(15:45) - Singapore's Sex Work Landscape, Throwing OF Creators into Jail

(19:50) - Working with Parliament

(21:40) - Multi-multi-lingual Outreach Services and Woes

(28:33) - The Fight for Legitimacy and Hopes for Singapore

(31:45) - Trafficking, Domestic Workers and Singapore's Villainisation of the Other

From tradie to TikTok to top escort—Will Charmer joins Eva Oh to talk about his path into sex work, the emotional and spiritual layers of male escorting, and how being tethered to family, Taoism, and marriage has helped him navigate it all. They talk cult upbringings, male privilege, aging, and what it really takes to make clients feel safe.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Will Charmer, Male Escort

(01:30) - Will's First Escorting Job, Kismet!

(04:10) - From Tradie to Tik Tok to Escorting

(04:40) - Coming from a Christian Cult

(09:10) - Empowerment through Escorting

(12:25) - Navigating Marriage as an Escort

(14:15) - The Emotional Work of Male Escorting

(17:25) - Having a Young Family as a Tether

(19:50) - Taoism and Navigating Community Carefully

(24:15) - Male Privilege in Escorting

(25:50) - Becoming Australia's Best Male Escort

(28:25) - The Magic and Downsides of Giving Client's a Safer Space

(32:30) - The First Thing You Need to be a Male Escort

(35:40) - The Advantage of Being Married as an Escort

(39:30) - Friends and Family's Response to the Job

(42:00) - How Stay Open, in Aging and the Everyday

Kink isn't just about getting off—though that's valid too. In this episode, I trace how kink first pulled me in and why it continues to matter. We explore kink as a pathway to self-awareness, transformation, and power dynamics that reflect society itself. From emotional breakthroughs to dangerous patterns, kink can open the floodgates—sometimes beautifully, sometimes brutally. A short but potent reflection on what kink offers, demands, and reveals.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - What Can Kink Do?

(01:15) - My Inkling on Kink

(02:15) - Why People Come to Kink

(03:05) - Getting Off and Feeling Understood

(04:37) - Build New Pathways, Good and Bad

(05:20) - Teaching Us About the Range of Who We Can Be

(06:12) - Opening the Floodgates

(07:10) - Kink, Power Dynamics and Revealing Societal Truths

(08:20) - A Recap

Dominatrix Audrey Fatale invites Eva Oh into her playspace for a conversation spanning 15 years of professional domination. They cover burnout, returning with purpose, and what changes as you age in the sex industry. From Audrey’s gear obsession and heavy bondage practice to navigating perimenopause and the politics of cis-het male doms, this episode is a candid look at the shifting seasons of dominance—and the power in pacing yourself.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(01:09) - Meeting Audrey Fatale in her Playspace

(02:42) - 15 Years of Domination, a Burnout and We're Back!

(04:00) - The BDSM House Environment vs Indie

(07:50) - Pacing for Job Satisfaction

(10:00) - Eva and Audrey's Different Focuses

(11:50) - Audrey, the Gear Head

(13:10) - Time, Experience and Stepping into 'Natural' Dominance

(18:00) - The Financial Aspect of Femdom

(19:40) - Different Domination 'Seasons', from Baby Domme to Now

(27:30) - Claustrophobia meets Heavy Bondage Practice

(30:00) - When Eva Bottoms

(33:40) - The Politics of Cis-het Male Doms

(37:50) - Audrey's Europe Plans

(39:10) - Perimenopause, HRT and Self-Advocacy

(49:00) - Aging in the Sex Industry